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Local fwb - am I asking too much?
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "
I don't think it's that difficult to get and I do think a lot of blokes want the same thing. The problem is getting that message through can be really difficult particularly when you are getting bombarded with messages no doubt. |
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "
A fuck AND a cuddle? Might as well ask them to lasso the moon down for you too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's because people view FWB as a situ where one could get feelings quite often. Hence the 'this ain't tinder' comments you see on here.
Or because they'll feel tied in to a regular thing when they worry their freedom will be affected, they worry they'll upset the FWB if they aren't free to meet too and it'll become more complicated.
In short it comes with a level of commitment.
Local says more for as and when meets being more likely so that also creates an impression that it'll be more of an infringement on their day to life.
FWB can also come with the worry of jealousy or possessiveness or a need to be exclusive which some will struggle with.
So no it's not easy to find.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely the fab holy grail..
Have made some great connections on here but they all live miles away..
To have someone local(who I fancy) that I could see weekly would be ideal.
Much harder to find than I ever expected.  |
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"Definitely the fab holy grail..
Have made some great connections on here but they all live miles away..
To have someone local(who I fancy) that I could see weekly would be ideal.
Much harder to find than I ever expected. "
Exactly this. I have friends I meet every now and then if I/we travel which is great but someone local and regular would be perfect! X |
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"It's because people view FWB as a situ where one could get feelings quite often. Hence the 'this ain't tinder' comments you see on here.
Or because they'll feel tied in to a regular thing when they worry their freedom will be affected, they worry they'll upset the FWB if they aren't free to meet too and it'll become more complicated.
In short it comes with a level of commitment.
Local says more for as and when meets being more likely so that also creates an impression that it'll be more of an infringement on their day to life.
FWB can also come with the worry of jealousy or possessiveness or a need to be exclusive which some will struggle with.
So no it's not easy to find.
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I've had alot of guys expect to be exclusive if it's fwb. Definitely not what I'm looking for. |
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "
I wouldn’t want one local. I’m not likely to find my calibre of FWB in my area. I have been really lucky in finding more than one but both live a distance away which suits the cause perfectly. I’m not in their pocket, they’re not in mine.
Change the pressure point from from FWB to just seeking a meeting and date … one may lead to the other! You never know
Hope you find someone nice lovely. You so deserve it xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "
That’s Fab for you, but with luck, perseverance and a good dickhead radar the impossible happens for some |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I totally get this OP. I did have someone to fuck and cuddle a while back. It seems to be more difficult now, probably because of the pandemic but we live in hope it will happen again one day x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t even want the cuddle. Just want to be able to fuck someone on a regular basis, who is local. Ideally we both wfh so can sneak in those afternoon fucks too - save me getting the vibrator out! |
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible
A fuck AND a cuddle? Might as well ask them to lasso the moon down for you too "
Oooh “lasso the moon down”
Have you been watching “A Wonderful Life”
Anyone who watches that film and can quote from it has to be a fab person in my book !  |
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "
It is hard finding that these days, but I always preferred doing rhe awkward chat up bit online and rhen you get straight to the chats about likes, dislikes, and flirting (my favourite bit) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking for the same, but as someone else has said, the bar appears to be set high for guys on here; add to that the shear volume of single males profiles, I imagine makes it easy for possible good matches to be lost in the tsunami of replies whenever a single woman or couple states they are looking.
I think it is more and more just based on luck as to whether a profile gets viewed, and then whether it matches requirements. |
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "
If that’s all you want I’m sure there’s 1000s of guys that would fuck and cuddle you regularly
Is that all you want? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "
Yes it's a struggle, I'm the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "
Same here, maybe one day….. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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I don't know why it's so hard. I've had several and at one time. If you get along with someone or would meet them again, then you've likely already met a fwb. If you have met and slept with someone, then they have in some way met part of your tick list, so why not meet again?
If you meet again and they are still as good say sexually, persona, outlook, possibly interests why not meet them again? From that 'booty call' there is the potential to develop into fwb. If everyone is on the same page you can still have meets, though explore or chill with someone you get along with outside of a relationship. |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "
This. Also sometimes I think people’s idea of regular is way off mine…once every three years isn’t what I consider regular Neville no matter how busy your life is  |
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Always interests me ......
Why do people bring up old threads ?
So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....
I'm curious |
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By *m389Man
over a year ago
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"Always interests me ......
Why do people bring up old threads ?
So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....
I'm curious"
Thread necromancer can be fun |
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible
This. Also sometimes I think people’s idea of regular is way off mine…once every three years isn’t what I consider regular Neville no matter how busy your life is "
Oh gosh. Neville needs to be dumped! |
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"Always interests me ......
Why do people bring up old threads ?
So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....
I'm curious"
People are often told search the forums when they bring up subjects that are discussed a lot. Could be that reason x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had one or two in the past but nothing that has ever wowed me.....until recently. My current FWB is amazing and I'm so glad I got on top of my nerves to follow it through 
Stick with it OP, you won't regret it  |
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"I've had one or two in the past but nothing that has ever wowed me.....until recently. My current FWB is amazing and I'm so glad I got on top of my nerves to follow it through
Stick with it OP, you won't regret it "
How could anything as beautiful as you be nervous |
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"Always interests me ......
Why do people bring up old threads ?
So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....
I'm curious
People are often told search the forums when they bring up subjects that are discussed a lot. Could be that reason x"
Could be. I such a cynic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had one or two in the past but nothing that has ever wowed me.....until recently. My current FWB is amazing and I'm so glad I got on top of my nerves to follow it through
Stick with it OP, you won't regret it
How could anything as beautiful as you be nervous "
Thank you |
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"Always interests me ......
Why do people bring up old threads ?
So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....
I'm curious"
It’s only 8 weeks old… hardly “old” lol maybe if it had been dragged up from over a year ago I’d agree with ya… |
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"Always interests me ......
Why do people bring up old threads ?
So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....
I'm curious
It’s only 8 weeks old… hardly “old” lol maybe if it had been dragged up from over a year ago I’d agree with ya…"
Old in thread terms not dog years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ll second this!!
"Definitely the fab holy grail..
Have made some great connections on here but they all live miles away..
To have someone local(who I fancy) that I could see weekly would be ideal.
Much harder to find than I ever expected. "
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I guess like most of us I'd love to make this connection, local is good but distance no drama.
Its one of those things that others seem achieve with ease but the truth is a relationship on any level is so hard to find... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "
I’ve always used Fab to find exactly that but it’s been much harder the last few years.
So many guys say they want that but many of them are lying and just use it as a sales pitch so they can f and go when it suits them. |
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By *not123Couple
over a year ago
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"It's because people view FWB as a situ where one could get feelings quite often. Hence the 'this ain't tinder' comments you see on here.
Or because they'll feel tied in to a regular thing when they worry their freedom will be affected, they worry they'll upset the FWB if they aren't free to meet too and it'll become more complicated.
In short it comes with a level of commitment.
Local says more for as and when meets being more likely so that also creates an impression that it'll be more of an infringement on their day to life.
FWB can also come with the worry of jealousy or possessiveness or a need to be exclusive which some will struggle with.
So no it's not easy to find.
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I agree with what your saying we are fwb we are suppose to be exclusive purely as its sometimesca struggle to meet yes dangers are you get feelings but I had feeling for him 30 yrs ago n yes a but of jealousy /insecurity after meeting single female n them chatting privately |
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