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over a year ago
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Years ago my good friend who now lives in Australia although she was living in Newquay at the time. She asked me to message her boyfriend on Facebook and talk until I arranged meeting up and him agreeing.
I just done it cos she was my friend and she asked me to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t suppose it’s any worse than hiring a PI.
I think it is though. A PI is just watching and reporting back. A honey trap is usually stunning and is there to tempt. "
Either way, the end result is probably gonna be the same!
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"As in hiring an escort to tempt the husband? In what way? To prove that he’d be cheating? I’m confused??  "
Basically hiring someone to come on to him/her and tempt him and report back as to whether anything happened x |
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"I don’t suppose it’s any worse than hiring a PI.
I think it is though. A PI is just watching and reporting back. A honey trap is usually stunning and is there to tempt. "
I think a PI finds out if they are cheating
This finds out if they would.
How many “loyal” guys are loyal because they can’t be arsed to try pull? How many “loyal” guys would jump if it was laid in their lap? |
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"I don’t suppose it’s any worse than hiring a PI.
I think it is though. A PI is just watching and reporting back. A honey trap is usually stunning and is there to tempt.
I think a PI finds out if they are cheating
This finds out if they would.
How many “loyal” guys are loyal because they can’t be arsed to try pull? How many “loyal” guys would jump if it was laid in their lap? "
But how many would have it literally laid in their lap by someone who’s likely to be perfectly stunning in real life? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t suppose it’s any worse than hiring a PI.
I think it is though. A PI is just watching and reporting back. A honey trap is usually stunning and is there to tempt.
I think a PI finds out if they are cheating
This finds out if they would.
How many “loyal” guys are loyal because they can’t be arsed to try pull? How many “loyal” guys would jump if it was laid in their lap? "
This is definitely the question  |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"In the sense of hiring someone to tempt a partner/husband etc.
Fair enough or unfair?
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If nothing happens on that occasion theres still a lack of trust, its proving nothing other than they didn't do anything at that point in time, the other person still has or had suspicions, how do you eestablish the trust.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As in hiring an escort to tempt the husband? In what way? To prove that he’d be cheating? I’m confused??
Basically hiring someone to come on to him/her and tempt him and report back as to whether anything happened x"
Oh right, psycho bitch behaviour …
My younger sisters used to involve friends or create fake accounts to try chat their bfs on social media to see if they’d bite and flirt back… I used to tell them off as I mean… what’s the point
Either you trust the guy or don’t. And if you don’t , break up already!!!! |
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"In the sense of hiring someone to tempt a partner/husband etc.
Fair enough or unfair?
If nothing happens on that occasion theres still a lack of trust, its proving nothing other than they didn't do anything at that point in time, the other person still has or had suspicions, how do you eestablish the trust.
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This is what I think. If you’re that far down the line to do something like this then surely the relationship is on its last legs anyway, without trust. |
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"As in hiring an escort to tempt the husband? In what way? To prove that he’d be cheating? I’m confused??
Basically hiring someone to come on to him/her and tempt him and report back as to whether anything happened x
Oh right, psycho bitch behaviour …
My younger sisters used to involve friends or create fake accounts to try chat their bfs on social media to see if they’d bite and flirt back… I used to tell them off as I mean… what’s the point
Either you trust the guy or don’t. And if you don’t , break up already!!!!"
Exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thing is, they may have no intentions to stray or cheat until tempted by someone to the point they give in.
Like an opportunist thief, had no intention of stealing anything until they saw the handbag left in the front seat of a car……… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can you imagine the irony if an average but loyal bloke was hit on by a stunning honeycatcher, and thought ‘if this is what I can pull, I’m leaving the wife!’ |
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"I don’t suppose it’s any worse than hiring a PI.
I think it is though. A PI is just watching and reporting back. A honey trap is usually stunning and is there to tempt.
I think a PI finds out if they are cheating
This finds out if they would.
How many “loyal” guys are loyal because they can’t be arsed to try pull? How many “loyal” guys would jump if it was laid in their lap?
But how many would have it literally laid in their lap by someone who’s likely to be perfectly stunning in real life? "
Not many at all, which is why I think it gets answers quick.
Is he loyal for you? Or is he loyal because he can’t get anyone else? Are they different? Does it matter?
Hard to tell. Like I said I feel morally it’s fucked up to trick someone, but we can’t deny that if you want an answer, this is a quick way to get it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An old colleague of mine years ago asked if I had any girlfriends who would engage in this kind of thing with her partner. I told her straight that I thought this quite extreme thing to do and wanted no part. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can you imagine the irony if an average but loyal bloke was hit on by a stunning honeycatcher, and thought ‘if this is what I can pull, I’m leaving the wife!’"
*trombone plays in the background* |
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If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
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"Can you imagine the irony if an average but loyal bloke was hit on by a stunning honeycatcher, and thought ‘if this is what I can pull, I’m leaving the wife!’"
Can you imagine the irony of him denying it, finding out then leaving his wife for such a horrible act?
It’s fucked all around, kinda makes me think of a dog. We can all train a dog not to jump on the dinner table and steal food. But if you put a steak on the floor and leave the room, is the dog entirely to blame? |
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't agree with it, however, I can understand why some people would choose to go down that route. Especially if they're being gaslighted/emotionally abused and want solid proof they're not going crazy. I do think it signals the end of a relationship if that's something being considered but it probably is the end anyway if you get to that point. If that makes sense. |
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
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I agree. I wonder if people do it to test loyalty. I imagine they probably do. |
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"Years ago my good friend who now lives in Australia although she was living in Newquay at the time. She asked me to message her boyfriend on Facebook and talk until I arranged meeting up and him agreeing.
I just done it cos she was my friend and she asked me to. "
definitely a professional SHIT stirrer!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
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But also I think, even if they don’t the truth and lie about whatever, if there’s no trust then it’s pointless and might as well just break up.
I know it isn’t always easy but with no trust, that relationship is doomed |
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
I agree. I wonder if people do it to test loyalty. I imagine they probably do. "
I think those that do this already have their own insecurities and no matter what a partner says / does won’t stop those paranoid feelings |
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
I agree. I wonder if people do it to test loyalty. I imagine they probably do.
I think those that do this already have their own insecurities and no matter what a partner says / does won’t stop those paranoid feelings"
Yes I think you need to be very insecure to do this. |
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By *an4funMan
over a year ago
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
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What if you ask the question and they give you the answer you the answer they know you want to hear?
I don't agree with honey trap btw. I wouldn't want a partner who tests me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't agree with it, however, I can understand why some people would choose to go down that route. Especially if they're being gaslighted/emotionally abused and want solid proof they're not going crazy. I do think it signals the end of a relationship if that's something being considered but it probably is the end anyway if you get to that point. If that makes sense. "
I’ve been that bitch in my younger years , but then it was finding another reason in my mind to leave…. When I should have just left
I promised myself not to go down that rabbit hole EVER EVER EVER again
So now I don’t go through phones or personal computers, or do those shitty tricks to catch them out . It is a horrible way of living |
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
But also I think, even if they don’t the truth and lie about whatever, if there’s no trust then it’s pointless and might as well just break up.
I know it isn’t always easy but with no trust, that relationship is doomed "
Agree trust is important, but it could be a one sided unjustified feeling and the other has given them no reason to distrust them. That is a problem for them to sort out within themselves.
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By *ovebjsMan
over a year ago
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If a woman was going to do that it’s only a matter of time before they split anyway as either she would still always be wondering and if he found out the. The trust would have been destroyed
I for one would not stick around |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuck’n horrible thought. Imagine how bad a relationship it is to try that. 
Agree. I think it’s disgusting. Just wondered what others thought. "
They pass with flying colours, (ie, they say no to the trap)
How does the other spouse now feel? Do they tell them? ‘Hey’ I absolutely have no trust in you’… horrible. It’s a car crash ready to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As in hiring an escort to tempt the husband? In what way? To prove that he’d be cheating? I’m confused??
Basically hiring someone to come on to him/her and tempt him and report back as to whether anything happened x
Oh right, psycho bitch behaviour …
My younger sisters used to involve friends or create fake accounts to try chat their bfs on social media to see if they’d bite and flirt back… I used to tell them off as I mean… what’s the point
Either you trust the guy or don’t. And if you don’t , break up already!!!!"
totally! this - you miss out on the good stuff while focusing on the bad  |
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"I don't agree with it, however, I can understand why some people would choose to go down that route. Especially if they're being gaslighted/emotionally abused and want solid proof they're not going crazy. I do think it signals the end of a relationship if that's something being considered but it probably is the end anyway if you get to that point. If that makes sense.
I’ve been that bitch in my younger years , but then it was finding another reason in my mind to leave…. When I should have just left
I promised myself not to go down that rabbit hole EVER EVER EVER again
So now I don’t go through phones or personal computers, or do those shitty tricks to catch them out . It is a horrible way of living "
I wouldn’t but if it was a long term partner I’d look at other ways to find out if I suspected. The phone would probably be one of them if I’m honest. I’d probably say my phones not working can I use yours and see the reaction! |
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
What if you ask the question and they give you the answer you the answer they know you want to hear?
I don't agree with honey trap btw. I wouldn't want a partner who tests me"
If you’ve been with someone long enough you should know them well enough to know when they are lying, spinning you a line. The liars normally get caught out by their own stories, change of habits and alike. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't agree with it, however, I can understand why some people would choose to go down that route. Especially if they're being gaslighted/emotionally abused and want solid proof they're not going crazy. I do think it signals the end of a relationship if that's something being considered but it probably is the end anyway if you get to that point. If that makes sense.
I’ve been that bitch in my younger years , but then it was finding another reason in my mind to leave…. When I should have just left
I promised myself not to go down that rabbit hole EVER EVER EVER again
So now I don’t go through phones or personal computers, or do those shitty tricks to catch them out . It is a horrible way of living
I wouldn’t but if it was a long term partner I’d look at other ways to find out if I suspected. The phone would probably be one of them if I’m honest. I’d probably say my phones not working can I use yours and see the reaction!"
It left me scarred cos I was suspicious about an ex bf and I’d go through his phone to try catch him out. Eventually my suspicions turned out to be true, but I gone insane in the process!!
never done that again to any of my following ex boyfriends and I broke up with the others for other reasons.
Again tho, I vowed never to go down that hole again to chase truth… so if it’s okay, I’ll try talk about it, if I’m not convinced then I’ll follow my instinct and break up. I need to keep my sanity as I’m already pretty insane and don’t need more of that.
Also, I turned into this horrible thing back then, and I swear I don’t want to see that side ever again… |
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By *an4funMan
over a year ago
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
What if you ask the question and they give you the answer you the answer they know you want to hear?
I don't agree with honey trap btw. I wouldn't want a partner who tests me
If you’ve been with someone long enough you should know them well enough to know when they are lying, spinning you a line. The liars normally get caught out by their own stories, change of habits and alike. "
Should? Not everyone has that capacity. What about if you haven't been with someone long enough or aren't able to work out if they are lying for whatever reason.
I am not in favour of honey trap but I think just asking someone a question and expecting to get an honest answer every time is naive |
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
What if you ask the question and they give you the answer you the answer they know you want to hear?
I don't agree with honey trap btw. I wouldn't want a partner who tests me
If you’ve been with someone long enough you should know them well enough to know when they are lying, spinning you a line. The liars normally get caught out by their own stories, change of habits and alike.
Should? Not everyone has that capacity. What about if you haven't been with someone long enough or aren't able to work out if they are lying for whatever reason.
I am not in favour of honey trap but I think just asking someone a question and expecting to get an honest answer every time is naive"
But why play tricks ?
I don’t condone those things to try catch out someone. Whether it’s a man or a woman, also it spoils whatever joyful time left out of that relationship.
Id rather live in my own bubble and if I get them stomach sensations of something is off, then I’ll see how to act.
Also if there was a side that was right, I think you’d automatically lose that by engaging in this behaviour of tricking ur other one this way.
So it’s like okay he’s behaved like a cheating cunt, but also that’s the same for me … |
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
What if you ask the question and they give you the answer you the answer they know you want to hear?
I don't agree with honey trap btw. I wouldn't want a partner who tests me
If you’ve been with someone long enough you should know them well enough to know when they are lying, spinning you a line. The liars normally get caught out by their own stories, change of habits and alike.
Should? Not everyone has that capacity. What about if you haven't been with someone long enough or aren't able to work out if they are lying for whatever reason.
I am not in favour of honey trap but I think just asking someone a question and expecting to get an honest answer every time is naive"
If you haven’t been with someone long and you already feel the need to ask that question, then maybe they aren’t right for you or you are already feeling you can’t trust them.
You see it as naive I see it as building trust. Communication and honesty is important for me and if they can’t do that, then there is no point. You get caught in a lie you are gone. |
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Diabolical behaviour, testing partners loyalty by dangling carrots (or vag in this case) 
Just because he cheats doesn't mean he would cheat with just anyone so it makes no sense, I'd rather PI him if I needed answers to those questions |
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"I don’t suppose it’s any worse than hiring a PI.
I think it is though. A PI is just watching and reporting back. A honey trap is usually stunning and is there to tempt.
I think a PI finds out if they are cheating
This finds out if they would.
How many “loyal” guys are loyal because they can’t be arsed to try pull? How many “loyal” guys would jump if it was laid in their lap?
But how many would have it literally laid in their lap by someone who’s likely to be perfectly stunning in real life? "
Lol this is what I was thinking , as a ‘guy’
I do wonder if I’m alone being as I’m not the narcissistic twat we all get painted as if any female came on to me out of the blue , my first assumption would be; are you high!? |
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By *an4funMan
over a year ago
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"If you have your suspicions then be a grown up and ask the question.
If you have no suspicions and just deciding to test their loyalty, see if they would be tempted, then don’t be surprised if you don’t get the result you were hoping for.
What if you ask the question and they give you the answer you the answer they know you want to hear?
I don't agree with honey trap btw. I wouldn't want a partner who tests me
If you’ve been with someone long enough you should know them well enough to know when they are lying, spinning you a line. The liars normally get caught out by their own stories, change of habits and alike.
Should? Not everyone has that capacity. What about if you haven't been with someone long enough or aren't able to work out if they are lying for whatever reason.
I am not in favour of honey trap but I think just asking someone a question and expecting to get an honest answer every time is naive
But why play tricks ?
I don’t condone those things to try catch out someone. Whether it’s a man or a woman, also it spoils whatever joyful time left out of that relationship.
Id rather live in my own bubble and if I get them stomach sensations of something is off, then I’ll see how to act.
Also if there was a side that was right, I think you’d automatically lose that by engaging in this behaviour of tricking ur other one this way.
So it’s like okay he’s behaved like a cheating cunt, but also that’s the same for me … "
But some people do play tricks and some are very convincing. That's my point. "Being a grown up and ask them directly" isn't always going to work. |
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"I don’t suppose it’s any worse than hiring a PI.
I think it is though. A PI is just watching and reporting back. A honey trap is usually stunning and is there to tempt.
I think a PI finds out if they are cheating
This finds out if they would.
How many “loyal” guys are loyal because they can’t be arsed to try pull? How many “loyal” guys would jump if it was laid in their lap?
But how many would have it literally laid in their lap by someone who’s likely to be perfectly stunning in real life?
Lol this is what I was thinking , as a ‘guy’
I do wonder if I’m alone being as I’m not the narcissistic twat we all get painted as if any female came on to me out of the blue , my first assumption would be; are you high!?"
I remember being out at a club when I was younger and this girl just kinda picked me and laid it on a plate and I just kinda ran away scared.
She probably felt awfully rejected and all my mates saw and laughed and asked what happened.
It happens so rarely my brain just short fused and fight or flight kicked in.
Thank god I didn’t pick fight |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the sense of hiring someone to tempt a partner/husband etc.
Fair enough or unfair?
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The fact someone feels the need to do this says it all really doesn’t it? What ever the outcome would you want to be with someone who distrusted your enough to do this or wanted to test you?? |
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"In the sense of hiring someone to tempt a partner/husband etc.
Fair enough or unfair?
The fact someone feels the need to do this says it all really doesn’t it? What ever the outcome would you want to be with someone who distrusted your enough to do this or wanted to test you??"
Absolutely not! |
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Sometimes there is suspicious behaviour involved if either partner changes their behaviour suddenly working late out with their long lost mates Sometimes their is a lot of money involved people paranoid about divorce having to share their loot with their ex wife partner same applies to women they want to find out if their partner is loyal or will they fuck anything if they can get away with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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An ex of mine tried texting me from a different number pretending to be her friend saying she fancied me and took my number from my gf phone and was asking me to meet up with her. |
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In Law there is a term - Agent Provocateur. If, say, the police use an agent provocateur to induce someone to break the law the "criminal" can use the defence of "entrapment".
So if a wife uses another woman to seduce her husband to prove he is unfaithful and then offers that as proof in the divorce court it will not be viewed positively. |
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"An ex of mine tried texting me from a different number pretending to be her friend saying she fancied me and took my number from my gf phone and was asking me to meet up with her."
Wow what did you do? |
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"In Law there is a term - Agent Provocateur. If, say, the police use an agent provocateur to induce someone to break the law the "criminal" can use the defence of "entrapment".
So if a wife uses another woman to seduce her husband to prove he is unfaithful and then offers that as proof in the divorce court it will not be viewed positively. "
Yeah honeytraps/pots aren’t just used in the way we are talking about. They’re used for all sorts. To obtain information etc. |
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"I don't agree with it, however, I can understand why some people would choose to go down that route. Especially if they're being gaslighted/emotionally abused and want solid proof they're not going crazy. I do think it signals the end of a relationship if that's something
being considered but it probably is the end anyway if you get to that point. If that makes sense. "
Agree x |
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"An ex of mine tried texting me from a different number pretending to be her friend saying she fancied me and took my number from my gf phone and was asking me to meet up with her.
Wow what did you do?"
I text her on her real number telling her she had a shit mate and that I was going to wind up her friend. After a few messages I caught her out and she had beg her me not to leave her. She kept making all these excuses about how most guys cheat given the chance and wanted to see if I could be a cheater. |
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"An ex of mine tried texting me from a different number pretending to be her friend saying she fancied me and took my number from my gf phone and was asking me to meet up with her.
Wow what did you do?
I text her on her real number telling her she had a shit mate and that I was going to wind up her friend. After a few messages I caught her out and she had beg her me not to leave her. She kept making all these excuses about how most guys cheat given the chance and wanted to see if I could be a cheater. "
Blimey. Did you end the relationship? |
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"An ex of mine tried texting me from a different number pretending to be her friend saying she fancied me and took my number from my gf phone and was asking me to meet up with her.
Wow what did you do?
I text her on her real number telling her she had a shit mate and that I was going to wind up her friend. After a few messages I caught her out and she had beg her me not to leave her. She kept making all these excuses about how most guys cheat given the chance and wanted to see if I could be a cheater.
Blimey. Did you end the relationship?"
No... I married her and had 4 kids! |
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"An ex of mine tried texting me from a different number pretending to be her friend saying she fancied me and took my number from my gf phone and was asking me to meet up with her.
Wow what did you do?
I text her on her real number telling her she had a shit mate and that I was going to wind up her friend. After a few messages I caught her out and she had beg her me not to leave her. She kept making all these excuses about how most guys cheat given the chance and wanted to see if I could be a cheater.
Blimey. Did you end the relationship?
No... I married her and had 4 kids!"
Oh |
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"An ex of mine tried texting me from a different number pretending to be her friend saying she fancied me and took my number from my gf phone and was asking me to meet up with her.
Wow what did you do?
I text her on her real number telling her she had a shit mate and that I was going to wind up her friend. After a few messages I caught her out and she had beg her me not to leave her. She kept making all these excuses about how most guys cheat given the chance and wanted to see if I could be a cheater. "
I really hate that kind of thing although it probably says more about her insecurities than anything else. It must be very difficult to live with that kind of (unfounded) doubt all the time. |
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"The other day I got home and someone had left a brand new porsche on my drive and posted the keys through my letter box... I wasn't in the slightest suspicious. "
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"An ex of mine tried texting me from a different number pretending to be her friend saying she fancied me and took my number from my gf phone and was asking me to meet up with her.
Wow what did you do?
I text her on her real number telling her she had a shit mate and that I was going to wind up her friend. After a few messages I caught her out and she had beg her me not to leave her. She kept making all these excuses about how most guys cheat given the chance and wanted to see if I could be a cheater.
Blimey. Did you end the relationship?
No... I married her and had 4 kids!
Oh "
Technically I did end the relationship, but that was 16 years later and for completely different reasons. |
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"Morally it seems wrong but I guess from a practical standpoint there’s no better way to get the answer you’d need from that "
No! A guy may not have any temptation in front of him and so may not stray. If you actively put temptation in front of him he may behave differently and it may become a self-fulfilling prophecy. |
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By *toobguyMan
over a year ago
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If a partner sets this up, but all advances are rejected and loyalty is proven, does that mean they will live happily ever after?
No. If your suspicious enough to do it, you will never trust someone fully and the relationship is doomed to failure. |
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"If a partner sets this up, but all advances are rejected and loyalty is proven, does that mean they will live happily ever after?
No. If your suspicious enough to do it, you will never trust someone fully and the relationship is doomed to failure."
Yeah I think you're right. Is one incidence of loyalty going to be enough? |
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One of many nails in the coffin of my first marriage was him telling me he'd been testing me to see if I'd be loyal after a particularly obnoxious and transparent set of lies had come out of his mouth over a period of weeks.
I can't begin to say firstly how insulting that is, secondly what a despicable move it is and thirdly how desperate it made him look. |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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"Years ago my good friend who now lives in Australia although she was living in Newquay at the time. She asked me to message her boyfriend on Facebook and talk until I arranged meeting up and him agreeing.
I just done it cos she was my friend and she asked me to. "
Did he bite? Or was he loyal? |
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"Can you imagine the irony if an average but loyal bloke was hit on by a stunning honeycatcher, and thought ‘if this is what I can pull, I’m leaving the wife!’"
Ha ha ha, now that's a plot for a Hollywood comedy.
If it's too good an offer there's something wrong. If somethings wrong don't reply, don't say a word, smile, turn on your heel and walk away. |
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To be fair, when people have trust issues, they’ve usually had cause to turn out like that. So I can empathise with their situation. It may not be the fault of the person they’re having honeytrapped, but some emotional scarring forever remains. |
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"An ex of mine tried texting me from a different number pretending to be her friend saying she fancied me and took my number from my gf phone and was asking me to meet up with her.
Wow what did you do?
I text her on her real number telling her she had a shit mate and that I was going to wind up her friend. After a few messages I caught her out and she had beg her me not to leave her. She kept making all these excuses about how most guys cheat given the chance and wanted to see if I could be a cheater.
Blimey. Did you end the relationship?
No... I married her and had 4 kids!"
I am dying |
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"To be fair, when people have trust issues, they’ve usually had cause to turn out like that. So I can empathise with their situation. It may not be the fault of the person they’re having honeytrapped, but some emotional scarring forever remains."
I have seen this too but I've also seen that some people who are untrustworthy themselves assume everyone else will be the same and try to catch them out first. |
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"To be fair, when people have trust issues, they’ve usually had cause to turn out like that. So I can empathise with their situation. It may not be the fault of the person they’re having honeytrapped, but some emotional scarring forever remains.
I have seen this too but I've also seen that some people who are untrustworthy themselves assume everyone else will be the same and try to catch them out first. "
Aaaah, thanks for the perspective. I genuinely hadn’t even thought of that x |
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Pointless.
What do I do if the person I am trying to trap refuses an offer ??
Assume it's because he's moral?
Assume it's because he loves me ?
Assume he just doesn't fancy the other person ?
What if he's just got a terrible case of the shites and has to go home OR is just tired Or already has a dose.......
Tells you nothing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think its unfair.
Just ask them.
If the trust isn't there, you are kidding yourself anyway.
I do understand why people find it hard to trust, believe me! |
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"If you are in a relationship and you don’t trust your partner, you are not in a relationship
It must be awful whether the mistrust is warranted or not"
The ability to form a meaningful relationship is based on mutual trust. It is a fundamental building block. If you don’t have trust. You don’t have a relationship, you have something else |
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"If you are in a relationship and you don’t trust your partner, you are not in a relationship
It must be awful whether the mistrust is warranted or not
The ability to form a meaningful relationship is based on mutual trust. It is a fundamental building block. If you don’t have trust. You don’t have a relationship, you have something else"
Is there another word for it?
I agree that you don't have a good or happy relationship though. |
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I wouldn't do it but I get why people do. I'm not sure what it achieves though. I think no matter what the outcome is you're still not going to be satisfied. If you end up resorting to something like that then your relationship is well and truly damaged. |
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Part of me thinks that it is wrong because without trust there's not a relationship, having said that if something has happened in the past and they want to make sure it's not happening again because the have suspicions and they want to put mind at ease then I guess it's a sure way to find out.
I've always been loyal so it's not something I really need to ever worry about |
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"Imagine being the man who resists and passes the test, and finding out your wife/partner had set it up! Think the partner would be an ex-partner tbh"
Exactly! Whatever the outcome it’s never going to end nicely! |
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The problem with honey trap is of course that the wife/ partner is actually trying to get her man to cheat
Also to what level is she saying is cheating
Flirting
Kissing or more?
I suspect the bait would be a sexy tempting woman not an unappealing woman
So I suppose this can only have a bad outcome
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"Does it matter what they look like, or if they are handed it on a plate? A cheat is a cheat. "
Lol
Your profile reads straight not liking for single guys men 30 to 55
What’s the story? |
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"The problem with honey trap is of course that the wife/ partner is actually trying to get her man to cheat
Also to what level is she saying is cheating
Flirting
Kissing or more?
I suspect the bait would be a sexy tempting woman not an unappealing woman
So I suppose this can only have a bad outcome
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If the person is a cheat then yes, someone in a relationship should be able to resist no matter how attractive the trap is |
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"Imagine being the man who resists and passes the test, and finding out your wife/partner had set it up! Think the partner would be an ex-partner tbh
Exactly! Whatever the outcome it’s never going to end nicely!"
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"It’s a most abhorrent way to trap someone! Even worse if it’s being ‘arranged’ as a proclivity to seek a divorce …. That really would be lowest if the low "
Oh wow yeah never thought of that. Just so they can state adultery! |
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"It’s a most abhorrent way to trap someone! Even worse if it’s being ‘arranged’ as a proclivity to seek a divorce …. That really would be lowest if the low
Oh wow yeah never thought of that. Just so they can state adultery!"
Exactly! |
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I can understand why some do use them.i have a great friend who used one a few yrs back he'd met a nice lady but was a lot younger things were moving quickly and friends kept saying she's after is money he's a multi millionaire never been married got a son from are teenage yrs so grown up running one of his business anyway he hired a guy in London see how she would react well she told him to do one when she told my friend about it he confest to knowing about it things never moved on after that. |
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