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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This might seem a little odd but thought I'd post as my situation appears to be a little different to most.
I'm a bit confused by my gf and receiving blowjobs. Don't get me wrong I love them but she doesn't like it but insists on doing them. I keep trying to tell her she doesn't have to but she still does and I feel guilty evertime. She hates cum so I'm very conscious entire time and I'm probably not enjoying as much as should be which I then feel guilty for as I feel I'm doing her a disservice by not enjoying to the fullest. She doesn't even like it on fingers, skin or anywhere.
I'm a bit confused about which way to turn on it as don't want to offend her.
I can live without it happily for her but wondering if should maybe just leave it alone and let her have all the say on the matter. She knows how I feel about it and her which I guess is all that truely matters. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Use condoms to avoid cum issues and you can enjoy it without worrying about needing to stop.
Otherwise talk to her about your concerns. Open communication is the bedrock of a strong relationship. |
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Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ? |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?"
That's where my head went too |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
That's where my head went too "
And mine. Maybe she's been told he's on here so trying to keep him happy and at home rather then him being with someone else. |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
That's where my head went too
And mine. Maybe she's been told he's on here so trying to keep him happy and at home rather then him being with someone else. "
Same
She’s worried you’ll go elsewhere and possibly lose you. |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
That's where my head went too "
I have very little experience sexually (1 prior partner for 17yrs) and we have a few issues in that department and I'm here looking to learn more to hopefully improve our relationship. She likes things a lot more forceful than my nature is capable of, as she says I can't stop being a nice guy and if I tried it's all wièrd x |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
That's where my head went too
I have very little experience sexually (1 prior partner for 17yrs) and we have a few issues in that department and I'm here looking to learn more to hopefully improve our relationship. She likes things a lot more forceful than my nature is capable of, as she says I can't stop being a nice guy and if I tried it's all wièrd x"
So does she know you're here or not? Coz I'm telling you right here right now, if the answer is no, the only impact it will have on your relationship is doom.
Experience means jack shit, honesty and integrity is what matters. |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
That's where my head went too
I have very little experience sexually (1 prior partner for 17yrs) and we have a few issues in that department and I'm here looking to learn more to hopefully improve our relationship. She likes things a lot more forceful than my nature is capable of, as she says I can't stop being a nice guy and if I tried it's all wièrd x"
But if you know what she likes, and you feel your nature can't give her that, I don't get what messing about on here will do for her ? The worst scenario being that you might lose her if she finds out ? |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
That's where my head went too
I have very little experience sexually (1 prior partner for 17yrs) and we have a few issues in that department and I'm here looking to learn more to hopefully improve our relationship. She likes things a lot more forceful than my nature is capable of, as she says I can't stop being a nice guy and if I tried it's all wièrd x"
Does she know? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word she only knows how to fuck
That's where my head went too
I have very little experience sexually (1 prior partner for 17yrs) and we have a few issues in that department and I'm here looking to learn more to hopefully improve our relationship. She likes things a lot more forceful than my nature is capable of, as she says I can't stop being a nice guy and if I tried it's all wièrd x
So does she know you're here or not? Coz I'm telling you right here right now, if the answer is no, the only impact it will have on your relationship is doom.
Experience means jack shit, honesty and integrity is what matters."
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word she only knows how to fuck
That's where my head went too
I have very little experience sexually (1 prior partner for 17yrs) and we have a few issues in that department and I'm here looking to learn more to hopefully improve our relationship. She likes things a lot more forceful than my nature is capable of, as she says I can't stop being a nice guy and if I tried it's all wièrd x
So does she know you're here or not? Coz I'm telling you right here right now, if the answer is no, the only impact it will have on your relationship is doom.
Experience means jack shit, honesty and integrity is what matters."
Opps sorry my reply got stuck inside your original message.
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word for it she only knows how to fuck. |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word she only knows how to fuck
That's where my head went too
I have very little experience sexually (1 prior partner for 17yrs) and we have a few issues in that department and I'm here looking to learn more to hopefully improve our relationship. She likes things a lot more forceful than my nature is capable of, as she says I can't stop being a nice guy and if I tried it's all wièrd x
So does she know you're here or not? Coz I'm telling you right here right now, if the answer is no, the only impact it will have on your relationship is doom.
Experience means jack shit, honesty and integrity is what matters.
Opps sorry my reply got stuck inside your original message.
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word for it she only knows how to fuck."
Why don't you tenderly and with patience help her learn what "making love" is?
Please don't tell me you're on here for her benefit, that insults my intelligence. |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word she only knows how to fuck
That's where my head went too
I have very little experience sexually (1 prior partner for 17yrs) and we have a few issues in that department and I'm here looking to learn more to hopefully improve our relationship. She likes things a lot more forceful than my nature is capable of, as she says I can't stop being a nice guy and if I tried it's all wièrd x
So does she know you're here or not? Coz I'm telling you right here right now, if the answer is no, the only impact it will have on your relationship is doom.
Experience means jack shit, honesty and integrity is what matters.
Opps sorry my reply got stuck inside your original message.
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word for it she only knows how to fuck."
She 'thinks' you are on here for hook ups. I'm truly lost. You say you are on here for the overall benefit of learning new things to help your sex life with her, but you haven't actually told her that ? |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word she only knows how to fuck
That's where my head went too
I have very little experience sexually (1 prior partner for 17yrs) and we have a few issues in that department and I'm here looking to learn more to hopefully improve our relationship. She likes things a lot more forceful than my nature is capable of, as she says I can't stop being a nice guy and if I tried it's all wièrd x
So does she know you're here or not? Coz I'm telling you right here right now, if the answer is no, the only impact it will have on your relationship is doom.
Experience means jack shit, honesty and integrity is what matters.
Opps sorry my reply got stuck inside your original message.
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word for it she only knows how to fuck."
Has she had a look at the site?
I'm glad she knows you're here, it's cruel otherwise. Sounds to me like she's a pleaser, and perhaps doesn't value herself due to past experiences.
My advice would be, if you love her, show it. Do what you can to make her feel loved and secure. Sounds as though security is something she's lacked in the past. |
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over a year ago
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word she only knows how to fuck
That's where my head went too
I have very little experience sexually (1 prior partner for 17yrs) and we have a few issues in that department and I'm here looking to learn more to hopefully improve our relationship. She likes things a lot more forceful than my nature is capable of, as she says I can't stop being a nice guy and if I tried it's all wièrd x
So does she know you're here or not? Coz I'm telling you right here right now, if the answer is no, the only impact it will have on your relationship is doom.
Experience means jack shit, honesty and integrity is what matters.
Opps sorry my reply got stuck inside your original message.
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word for it she only knows how to fuck.
Why don't you tenderly and with patience help her learn what "making love" is?
Please don't tell me you're on here for her benefit, that insults my intelligence."
That's what I've been doing for a year now with small steps. Not saying I'm on here for her benefit, I'm here for mine as well. I have issues with few things that I have asked about in the chat rooms with some interesting results. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word she only knows how to fuck
That's where my head went too
I have very little experience sexually (1 prior partner for 17yrs) and we have a few issues in that department and I'm here looking to learn more to hopefully improve our relationship. She likes things a lot more forceful than my nature is capable of, as she says I can't stop being a nice guy and if I tried it's all wièrd x
So does she know you're here or not? Coz I'm telling you right here right now, if the answer is no, the only impact it will have on your relationship is doom.
Experience means jack shit, honesty and integrity is what matters.
Opps sorry my reply got stuck inside your original message.
Yes, she knows I'm on here but I'm certain she thinks it's to hook up rather than just make a few friends who might have similar thoughts and views on somethings. She views me same way as all her ex's have treated her and she finds it hard not to. Same with sex, I think. She doesn't really know how to make love for a better word for it she only knows how to fuck.
Has she had a look at the site?
I'm glad she knows you're here, it's cruel otherwise. Sounds to me like she's a pleaser, and perhaps doesn't value herself due to past experiences.
My advice would be, if you love her, show it. Do what you can to make her feel loved and secure. Sounds as though security is something she's lacked in the past."
I totally agree with your thoughts there. That is part of reason I'm here rather than talking directly to here straight away as don't wish to knock her confidence in anyway. Somethings I need more knowledge about before I raise it with here to see if anything I can do rather than ask her to or not to do especially if it something she physically can't control. |
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If you can't have a truthful and grown up conversation with her about sex then should you really be having sex with her? If you actually love each other, on any level you should trust each other enough to be able to talk... And develop a good sexual relationship too... Without anyone/thing else being involved |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?"
I'm puzzled by this response, a lot of us, including me have partners we live, please and we are on here? Does that belittle the relationship in your eyes? For me it's a testament to it. To your love and understanding, to your communication. We can't always play out or fantasies with our partners, yet we encourage them to fulfil them because we want them to be truly happy... no? |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
I'm puzzled by this response, a lot of us, including me have partners we live, please and we are on here? Does that belittle the relationship in your eyes? For me it's a testament to it. To your love and understanding, to your communication. We can't always play out or fantasies with our partners, yet we encourage them to fulfil them because we want them to be truly happy... no? "
Because the ones who's partners know they're here are massively in the minority. Its those people who are belittling their own relationships. Sad but true.  |
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"Genuinely curious why you are on here ? You have a girlfriend you care about, an active sex life of which she tries her best to please you. Does she perhaps sense you are looking elsewhere and trying her hardest to keep you interested ?
I'm puzzled by this response, a lot of us, including me have partners we live, please and we are on here? Does that belittle the relationship in your eyes? For me it's a testament to it. To your love and understanding, to your communication. We can't always play out or fantasies with our partners, yet we encourage them to fulfil them because we want them to be truly happy... no? "
In his original post, it did not reflect his reason for being on here as being for love and understanding of his girlfriend. |
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Because the ones who's partners know they're here are massively in the minority. Its those people who are belittling their own relationships. Sad but true. "
Ah, I see what you're saying there and completely agree. If they're not in a relationship strong enough to embrace this and lie to their partners about being on these sites then that's completely different. Unfair to all involved.
I thought it was him being on here and in a relationship in general that was the issue, my bad |
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Because the ones who's partners know they're here are massively in the minority. Its those people who are belittling their own relationships. Sad but true.
Ah, I see what you're saying there and completely agree. If they're not in a relationship strong enough to embrace this and lie to their partners about being on these sites then that's completely different. Unfair to all involved.
I thought it was him being on here and in a relationship in general that was the issue, my bad "
And my reply questioning why he was on here, was very clear in that I was questioning him specifically, not 'all partnered men'. |
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In his original post, it did not reflect his reason for being on here as being for love and understanding of his girlfriend. "
The way you worded your comment made it sound as though you were questioning why anyone in a relationship would be on here, I was puzzled by it... maybe I picked it up wrong though. |
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Because the ones who's partners know they're here are massively in the minority. Its those people who are belittling their own relationships. Sad but true.
Ah, I see what you're saying there and completely agree. If they're not in a relationship strong enough to embrace this and lie to their partners about being on these sites then that's completely different. Unfair to all involved.
I thought it was him being on here and in a relationship in general that was the issue, my bad "
There was a corker the other day. A geezer having a moan that his Mrs was tired all the time and that's why he was here coz she wasn't wanting sex.
Turns out she was on maternity leave! I shit you not, she's recently had her body ripped to pieces giving birth to his child and he was on here, behind her back looking for sex coz she was too tired. |
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In his original post, it did not reflect his reason for being on here as being for love and understanding of his girlfriend.
The way you worded your comment made it sound as though you were questioning why anyone in a relationship would be on here, I was puzzled by it... maybe I picked it up wrong though. "
My comment was very clearly worded in reference to his girlfriend and their situation, and questioned if by him being on her 'could' be impacting on her confidence. |
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In his original post, it did not reflect his reason for being on here as being for love and understanding of his girlfriend.
The way you worded your comment made it sound as though you were questioning why anyone in a relationship would be on here, I was puzzled by it... maybe I picked it up wrong though. "
To be fair, I've been caught up in the whole "anyone on here in a relationship is an arsehole" thing. Abused on fab for being a swinger  . |
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Because the ones who's partners know they're here are massively in the minority. Its those people who are belittling their own relationships. Sad but true.
Ah, I see what you're saying there and completely agree. If they're not in a relationship strong enough to embrace this and lie to their partners about being on these sites then that's completely different. Unfair to all involved.
I thought it was him being on here and in a relationship in general that was the issue, my bad
There was a corker the other day. A geezer having a moan that his Mrs was tired all the time and that's why he was here coz she wasn't wanting sex.
Turns out she was on maternity leave! I shit you not, she's recently had her body ripped to pieces giving birth to his child and he was on here, behind her back looking for sex coz she was too tired. "
I'm sure that is the kind of experiences of many on here, certainly when their partners are not aware but that's not the situation here. I possibly didn't make myself fully clear in the original post that I posted the question because I love my girlfriend and wondered people's thoughts on the topic and if anyone had experience of it before which might help. |
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In his original post, it did not reflect his reason for being on here as being for love and understanding of his girlfriend.
The way you worded your comment made it sound as though you were questioning why anyone in a relationship would be on here, I was puzzled by it... maybe I picked it up wrong though.
To be fair, I've been caught up in the whole "anyone on here in a relationship is an arsehole" thing. Abused on fab for being a swinger . "
In that respect I'm kind of puzzled, I've never been into the swinging scene as such but I kind of assumed most on here were hopefully in honest open relationships but also kind of wierd bring abused on a site where the abuse your receiving is actually in the Web site address. |
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In his original post, it did not reflect his reason for being on here as being for love and understanding of his girlfriend.
The way you worded your comment made it sound as though you were questioning why anyone in a relationship would be on here, I was puzzled by it... maybe I picked it up wrong though.
To be fair, I've been caught up in the whole "anyone on here in a relationship is an arsehole" thing. Abused on fab for being a swinger .
In that respect I'm kind of puzzled, I've never been into the swinging scene as such but I kind of assumed most on here were hopefully in honest open relationships but also kind of wierd bring abused on a site where the abuse your receiving is actually in the Web site address."
More lying cheats on this site than in government |
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There was a corker the other day. A geezer having a moan that his Mrs was tired all the time and that's why he was here coz she wasn't wanting sex.
Turns out she was on maternity leave! I shit you not, she's recently had her body ripped to pieces giving birth to his child and he was on here, behind her back looking for sex coz she was too tired. "
You're shitting me?? Guessing he didn't last long haha |
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In his original post, it did not reflect his reason for being on here as being for love and understanding of his girlfriend.
The way you worded your comment made it sound as though you were questioning why anyone in a relationship would be on here, I was puzzled by it... maybe I picked it up wrong though.
To be fair, I've been caught up in the whole "anyone on here in a relationship is an arsehole" thing. Abused on fab for being a swinger .
In that respect I'm kind of puzzled, I've never been into the swinging scene as such but I kind of assumed most on here were hopefully in honest open relationships but also kind of wierd bring abused on a site where the abuse your receiving is actually in the Web site address."
I've never had an issue in clubs. Only ever on here. Usually by people who loudly proclaim how they're not a swinger. Which is fine, people use this site for all sorts of reasons and I have no issues with that. However it is a bit shitty to come onto a sie made for swingers and abuse swingers for... swinging  . |
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I've never had an issue in clubs. Only ever on here. Usually by people who loudly proclaim how they're not a swinger. Which is fine, people use this site for all sorts of reasons and I have no issues with that. However it is a bit shitty to come onto a sie made for swingers and abuse swingers for... swinging . "
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I've never had an issue in clubs. Only ever on here. Usually by people who loudly proclaim how they're not a swinger. Which is fine, people use this site for all sorts of reasons and I have no issues with that. However it is a bit shitty to come onto a sie made for swingers and abuse swingers for... swinging .
Tried to reply privately but, pesky filters.
Yes, to everything you said "
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