Half way through our 10 day holiday and I need a rant space lol
Just to get it out of the way.... Yes I love her, yes she's my mum. Yes I do cherish time together with her but sometimes she is annoying!
So here goes!
She never makes a decision, ever. Everytime I ask what she wants to do I get 'I'm easy' or 'not bothered' and it's annoying. Even when it came to booking this holiday she left it all to me (mainly because she felt it was her fault for the cruise being cancelled so I kind of get that)
Good thing about this is it has made me realises how annoying I must be when I do it to other people. I will learn to be more decisive.
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"She doesn't flush the loo after a wee and it's gross.
Fair enough in your own house when you're on your own but not in a shared bathroom!  "
No no no, I hate if "it's yellow let to mellow", get rid of it! |
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"She doesn't flush the loo after a wee and it's gross.
Fair enough in your own house when you're on your own but not in a shared bathroom! "
Haha my dad flushes half way through a stand up wee to mask the noise and I’m left with a diluted wee bowl because he’s fired off too early  (Vomit) |
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"She doesn't flush the loo after a wee and it's gross.
Fair enough in your own house when you're on your own but not in a shared bathroom!
Haha my dad flushes half way through a stand up wee to mask the noise and I’m left with a diluted wee bowl because he’s fired off too early (Vomit)"
That sounds grim on all fronts tbh. |
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My mum is 82 and not only does she chew gum she blows bubbles with it. The other day I caught her pulling it out her mouth and wrapping it round her finger. She also keeps her mobile down her bra so even if she gets a text in M&S she will dig deep down to get it. |
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aw bless ya!
as somebody who is a terrible people pleaser I am the worst at saying "it's up to you" when it comes to choosing anything.
My mothers annoying thing was always wanting to go to Bingo, when I hated it.
I expect my kids will say my annoying thing is insisting on chatting with them during the morning sometimes when they are up late the night before playing on line games...  they sleep late when they can so if I want them I have to wake them up! |
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"She doesn't flush the loo after a wee and it's gross.
Fair enough in your own house when you're on your own but not in a shared bathroom!
Haha my dad flushes half way through a stand up wee to mask the noise and I’m left with a diluted wee bowl because he’s fired off too early (Vomit)
That sounds grim on all fronts tbh. "
It is the worst. |
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"aw bless ya!
as somebody who is a terrible people pleaser I am the worst at saying "it's up to you" when it comes to choosing anything.
My mothers annoying thing was always wanting to go to Bingo, when I hated it.
I expect my kids will say my annoying thing is insisting on chatting with them during the morning sometimes when they are up late the night before playing on line games... they sleep late when they can so if I want them I have to wake them up!"
Oh! That's another one! She's a morning person and I'm not. As soon as I have opened my eyes it's 20 bloody questions |
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Join the club, mine's got mixed dementia, and athrites in both knees leaving her virtually wheelchair bound, and half the time thinks that I am her cousin who has been dead for years. I don't mind giving her old lobby a wash down, but getting a handful of shit while I'm at can be a bit testing. Arguing when I give her medication that nurses have done when nurses haven't been near here. Then telling me she's starving, and so I get her something, and when I put it down in front of her, she tells me that she has eaten all day. That's not to mention the imaginary people that she has a damn good row with, but I wouldn't let a hair on her head come to harm, and haven't got a problem with my wings clipped for a bit. |
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"aw bless ya!
as somebody who is a terrible people pleaser I am the worst at saying "it's up to you" when it comes to choosing anything.
My mothers annoying thing was always wanting to go to Bingo, when I hated it.
I expect my kids will say my annoying thing is insisting on chatting with them during the morning sometimes when they are up late the night before playing on line games... they sleep late when they can so if I want them I have to wake them up!
Oh! That's another one! She's a morning person and I'm not. As soon as I have opened my eyes it's 20 bloody questions "
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"aw bless ya!
as somebody who is a terrible people pleaser I am the worst at saying "it's up to you" when it comes to choosing anything.
My mothers annoying thing was always wanting to go to Bingo, when I hated it.
I expect my kids will say my annoying thing is insisting on chatting with them during the morning sometimes when they are up late the night before playing on line games... they sleep late when they can so if I want them I have to wake them up!
Oh! That's another one! She's a morning person and I'm not. As soon as I have opened my eyes it's 20 bloody questions "
What sort of questions?...how does she ask them?...do you try to answer any? . what's for breakfast on your holiday anyway? where are you going tomorrow?  |
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I suggested something to my mum for her lunch the other day. She agreed and literally with her next breath said
"I don't know what I'm going to have for lunch"
I suggested the same thing again and she replied
"On I can't eat that!"
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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago
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Yer allowed to rant...
We lost my Dad in jan... actually, we didnae lose him.. we know he just died....
Mum was about as much use as a snowball in hell..everything fell on me as the child who didn't move to New Zealand
She's still in denial to this day...
I'm still dealing with the stuff and her on top of it... I adore her, but I get it xxx |
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"Yer allowed to rant...
We lost my Dad in jan... actually, we didnae lose him.. we know he just died....
Mum was about as much use as a snowball in hell..everything fell on me as the child who didn't move to New Zealand
She's still in denial to this day...
I'm still dealing with the stuff and her on top of it... I adore her, but I get it xxx"
Awww I'm sorry to hear about your dad x
My mum was the same after her mum and dad died. She just didn't want to deal with anything and got hung up on the smallest details. I guess it's part of the grieving process but it's hard when it means you have to organise everything and can't grieve yourself x |
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"Evie, plan the next two days in advance and send her an itinerary that includes quiet time in the morning.
Let's see how 'I'm easy' she is.
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Haha i'll try.
Even when we have plans we have to re plan the plans 15 times! |
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Oh vent away OP..
I had to live with my folks for 6months whilst undergoing renovations..
My Mum at one point insisted that she should know my whereabouts & whom I was visiting when I went away on a (fab) child free weekend. Actually said she needed to know because if something happened to me & a policeman turned up at the door she would have to say she didn’t know where I had been going or who I was meeting and that would be embarrassing!
I had to politely point out that non of my 44 year old friends texted their parents every time they went out/away to let them know the full details and that most policeman would not be shocked that 60 something parents did not know the every move of their adult children! |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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Have your rant, rant every day, then give her a cuddle, hold her hand and tell her how much you love her.
I miss my chats with my mum in the garden on summer evenings.
I say chats, but most of the time we sat, drinking tea, listening to the blackbird on the chimney singing his little heart out.
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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago
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"Yer allowed to rant...
We lost my Dad in jan... actually, we didnae lose him.. we know he just died....
Mum was about as much use as a snowball in hell..everything fell on me as the child who didn't move to New Zealand
She's still in denial to this day...
I'm still dealing with the stuff and her on top of it... I adore her, but I get it xxx
Awww I'm sorry to hear about your dad x
My mum was the same after her mum and dad died. She just didn't want to deal with anything and got hung up on the smallest details. I guess it's part of the grieving process but it's hard when it means you have to organise everything and can't grieve yourself x "
She's still nae use... but my sister moved home... am off the hook now!  |
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I rant all the time about my mum. She's got worse as she's got older. I won't go into details but it's so bad that I dread her calling me. It's been like this for years and she's just so difficult. I'm so glad for Fab as I couldn't put this up on Facebook  |
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"Aw I know this isn't what you want to hear but I think she sounds lovely ! I'll go on holiday with her next time and you can have my mum! "
No chance. Next holiday is out cruise that we should be on now lol I will make sure I plug 4 pairs of headphones so I can just drown her out when she annoys me lol |
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"I rant all the time about my mum. She's got worse as she's got older. I won't go into details but it's so bad that I dread her calling me. It's been like this for years and she's just so difficult. I'm so glad for Fab as I couldn't put this up on Facebook "
This is the very reason for this thread lol sometimes we just need a safe space x |
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"I rant all the time about my mum. She's got worse as she's got older. I won't go into details but it's so bad that I dread her calling me. It's been like this for years and she's just so difficult. I'm so glad for Fab as I couldn't put this up on Facebook
This is the very reason for this thread lol sometimes we just need a safe space x "
Oh we definitely do and thank you for highlighting this x |
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We're back folks!
How can I tell her it makes Mr want to vomit when she calls me baby or baby girl?! Something about it bring my mum calling me those things gives me the creeps.
She always used to call me dolly. I've no idea why it changed to baby girl  I don't mind dolly. |
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"We're back folks!
How can I tell her it makes Mr want to vomit when she calls me baby or baby girl?! Something about it bring my mum calling me those things gives me the creeps.
She always used to call me dolly. I've no idea why it changed to baby girl I don't mind dolly. "
Oh dear I don't think you can. Maybe just scream "STOP CALLING ME THAT"
I thought of something today when I was driving back from my parents. If I arrange for their supermarket delivery at between 11 and 12 say, they will both start saying that its obviously not going to turn up ten minutes before it's actually due  |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
Oh Evie. Stay strong
I went to a dementia group yesterday morning and then I took my mum shopping afterwards.... there was very little difference between the 2 
I'm glad you take the time to be her daughter/friend, many can't hack it x
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"Oh Evie. Stay strong
I went to a dementia group yesterday morning and then I took my mum shopping afterwards.... there was very little difference between the 2
I'm glad you take the time to be her daughter/friend, many can't hack it x
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Oh lord! I feel your pain. Yesterday we told my mum that dad was going out today. She must have asked when he was going four times in the five minutes after we told her. It takes immense patience to just answer normally and to not say "remember". |
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My girls and I moved back with my mam about a year ago and it's mainly great. I get childcare, she gets company and the kids are close to their friends and at an age where they can go out to play.
However... I do need to bite my tongue a bit sometimes. I'm a wanderer, I'll pop to the shop then remember I need to do xy and z so before I know it I've been out all day. My mother is frantic at this point even though I'm nearly 40. She's got worse with age I think, I felt more independent when I lived here as a teenager.
She's also convinced one of those people off the internet is going to murder me |
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"My girls and I moved back with my mam about a year ago and it's mainly great. I get childcare, she gets company and the kids are close to their friends and at an age where they can go out to play.
However... I do need to bite my tongue a bit sometimes. I'm a wanderer, I'll pop to the shop then remember I need to do xy and z so before I know it I've been out all day. My mother is frantic at this point even though I'm nearly 40. She's got worse with age I think, I felt more independent when I lived here as a teenager.
She's also convinced one of those people off the internet is going to murder me "
I constantly have to remind my mum that I am 41 years old and can decide what I want to do day to day.
I kind of want one of those tacky hair braids while on holiday and she seriously tried to tell me I couldn't..... So now I'm gonna get 4! I think it would look cool as I have quite funky hair |
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"My girls and I moved back with my mam about a year ago and it's mainly great. I get childcare, she gets company and the kids are close to their friends and at an age where they can go out to play.
However... I do need to bite my tongue a bit sometimes. I'm a wanderer, I'll pop to the shop then remember I need to do xy and z so before I know it I've been out all day. My mother is frantic at this point even though I'm nearly 40. She's got worse with age I think, I felt more independent when I lived here as a teenager.
She's also convinced one of those people off the internet is going to murder me
I constantly have to remind my mum that I am 41 years old and can decide what I want to do day to day.
I kind of want one of those tacky hair braids while on holiday and she seriously tried to tell me I couldn't..... So now I'm gonna get 4! I think it would look cool as I have quite funky hair "
about your mum. Get the hair braids, you live but once.
My dad tried to tell me off yesterday, I reminded him that I'm 65, have brought up two children and paid a mortgage. |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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"My girls and I moved back with my mam about a year ago and it's mainly great. I get childcare, she gets company and the kids are close to their friends and at an age where they can go out to play.
However... I do need to bite my tongue a bit sometimes. I'm a wanderer, I'll pop to the shop then remember I need to do xy and z so before I know it I've been out all day. My mother is frantic at this point even though I'm nearly 40. She's got worse with age I think, I felt more independent when I lived here as a teenager.
She's also convinced one of those people off the internet is going to murder me
I constantly have to remind my mum that I am 41 years old and can decide what I want to do day to day.
I kind of want one of those tacky hair braids while on holiday and she seriously tried to tell me I couldn't..... So now I'm gonna get 4! I think it would look cool as I have quite funky hair
about your mum. Get the hair braids, you live but once.
My dad tried to tell me off yesterday, I reminded him that I'm 65, have brought up two children and paid a mortgage. "
My dad always tells me to behave when we say good by. But the glint in his eye says he knows that's unlikely |
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By *rixieMeWoman
over a year ago
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Rant away mum’s are sooo annoying but it doesn’t stop us loving them.
Mines 87 and still wants to be in control of everything but she physically can’t. I know it’s fear of getting old and not being capable but sometimes I wish she’d just accept the help rather than it being a constant battle. She’s always thinks she’s right, constantly corrects me even when she’s wrong to the point I don’t want to engage in conversation with her.
We were going to buy a place together, so we could have equal space but she flatly refused anything we looked at. So I moved in with her. I had to sell/give away all my furniture/house possessions and get a storage unit for the few items I really wanted to keep because she wouldn’t make space for anything of mine.
I now spend most of my time in my bedroom which is the only place I have anything of mine. I feel like I’ve reverted back to that sulky teenager full of resentment.
I used to do a lot of cooking. Spend hours preparing delicious home made food. She’d eat it once and then when I’d ask if she’d like it again say no. It’s soul destroying. Now we just get prepared food from M&S or Waitrose, at least I know she’ll eat that.
I could go on and on about everything that winds me up about her, but she’s my mum and I do love her. |
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"Went to John Lewis today to replace her ancient telly.... slightly embarrassing in the coffee shop licking the crumbs off the paper that came wrapped round the chocolate muffin.. "
bless her heart |
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"Rant away mum’s are sooo annoying but it doesn’t stop us loving them.
Mines 87 and still wants to be in control of everything but she physically can’t. I know it’s fear of getting old and not being capable but sometimes I wish she’d just accept the help rather than it being a constant battle. She’s always thinks she’s right, constantly corrects me even when she’s wrong to the point I don’t want to engage in conversation with her.
We were going to buy a place together, so we could have equal space but she flatly refused anything we looked at. So I moved in with her. I had to sell/give away all my furniture/house possessions and get a storage unit for the few items I really wanted to keep because she wouldn’t make space for anything of mine.
I now spend most of my time in my bedroom which is the only place I have anything of mine. I feel like I’ve reverted back to that sulky teenager full of resentment.
I used to do a lot of cooking. Spend hours preparing delicious home made food. She’d eat it once and then when I’d ask if she’d like it again say no. It’s soul destroying. Now we just get prepared food from M&S or Waitrose, at least I know she’ll eat that.
I could go on and on about everything that winds me up about her, but she’s my mum and I do love her."
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