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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
This is a question that I’ve been asking myself a fair amount recently, not specifically regarding life but in regards to fab in general terms.
My response up until now has been something asking to a gallic shrug and idunno!
As an aid to my thought processes and because I clearly can’t work it out for myself, I thought I’d open the question up to the floor. So dear fabbers; what do you want? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I wanted and what I found have been completely 2 different things
So in answer to your question what I want from fab is exactly what I have know. Some who has become such a part of my life, someone I adore, that I can’t see my life any other way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd like the absolute perfect women to fall graciously into our inbox where it feels like we have known each other forever and know exactly what we all went and when we all want it.
I can't see that happening though, and right now I don't have the time to search (so really, I'm twiddling my thumbs waiting for it to happen).
I've made some great friends though so I'm more than happy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To meet people who'll broaden my horizons... Socially and sexually.
I'm a very experienced person and the more I experience/learn, the more I want to experience/learn.
I feel like there's a lot to uncover on here, in many aspects of life. |
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To do exactly what it does now...keep me mildly entertained whilst I'm bored, allow me to be nosy and people watch, and look up clubs/parties to attend. I'm not currently here for meets (although Cillian, if you're on here, that last bit doesn't apply to you  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An alternative to normal discussions, you dont find fabs topics of discussion on facebook, so it helps to add a little spice to the online social realm.
As far as meeting ppl goes, share some experiences with the right ppl, if we find each other that is, i know im pretry niche so i dont expect to be drowning in vaginal juices. I do feel it is a place to improve my chances of finding someone quite unique though regarding my own kinks and fantasies. I doubt ill find someone outside of fab willing to draw blood during a night of bondage and inflicting pain through various means |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
Honestly, I don't know.
I've lost my mojo. Lost my flirt mostly and haven't been looking for anything or anyone for a while.
But since I stopped looking, I've found some incredible people, who are important in my life and who I've come to care about very much. They seem reasonably fond of me too for the most part which is nice 
I guess fab for me now is the forum, a bit like a virtual pub, where we can gather and chat, occasionally get gussied up and get some attention (post pictures), flirt, laugh and put the world to rights. As opposed to a private chat which is akin to popping round to someone's house for coffee.
And it's nice to get the occasional admiring look or comment from someone else in this virtual pub. It is a real confidence boost if that happens, but stings a little if you've made the effort to get all fancy and it doesn't happen.
Sorry, I kind of babbled. I should have stuck to my original answer.... the "I dunno" and the shrug  |
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"I’d like to fancy someone who fancies me back, and doesn’t need to fancy everyone else, and to have great sex with no stress. 
This! I swear you’re my much kinkier twin  "
That proper made me chuckle |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I’d like to fancy someone who fancies me back, and doesn’t need to fancy everyone else, and to have great sex with no stress.
This! I swear you’re my much kinkier twin
That proper made me chuckle "
Oh jesus.... wtf does that make me?  |
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No set needs from fab, just enjoying the social side, the laughter and the people I meet.
I find it easier not to have a need / want from life, I prefer to just go with the flow and see what happens naturally whilst enjoying life along the way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be happy
To be vulnerable without fear of judgement
To be loved and love the people around me
To be accepted for what I am
Man you made me go deep on a Monday!  |
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A fwb which my interpretation is someone can do stuff with go out etc lots of sex go to clubs meet others to swing but with out the conventional relationship! Dont think it's very easy to find tbh x |
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"I’d like to fancy someone who fancies me back, and doesn’t need to fancy everyone else, and to have great sex with no stress.
This! I swear you’re my much kinkier twin
That proper made me chuckle
Oh jesus.... wtf does that make me? "
Posh innit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I want the familiarity of the jolly people of the forum and the knowledge you want to roll around and get rude with a few of them but never will, and you can stay in that flirty happy phase forever and not ruin anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh god, I know what I want from Fab. I crave a passionate meet, kissing (I've forgotten what that feels like),to be wanted and lusted after. However it's not going to happen which is so frustrating  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would love nothing more than to meet my partner in crime and explore the scene together. One can only dream and in the mean time I will take great sex  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah-ah-ahem……just clearing my throat before I destroy any remaining chances I had.
I want no strings and no complexity. I’m busy and have more on my plate on a daily basis than many I know. I can’t deal with a swinging ‘Mount Everest’ on top of it. Maybe I’ll meet any one particular person/people once…maybe it will be many times…..just take it as it comes and I expect no different in return.
I struggle with the constant social aspect demanded here. I’m not unsociable, not by any stretch of the imagination; I’m nice to anyone I meet. Get me onto the right topic and I may talk your ears off!
But a social butterfly, I am not. I don’t live for get-togethers or parties; I’m generally neutral about them, slightly leaning towards ‘no thanks’ if anything. I like the Forums here as I can dip in and out.
I asked about Birmingham socials a while back, because I’d resigned myself to it being necessary to get anywhere but being completely honest, it’s not really ‘me’. I’d rather a quick-ish initial chat/meet to check if we click and then move things on, which is why clubs appeal slightly more.
It’s hard to put that in a profile without making it massive and subsequently ignored because ‘TL;DR’.
So…there it is. I’ll be on the sofa, outcast by own actions. |
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By *nnCeeWoman
over a year ago
East of Eden, West of Hell |
I came with no expectations...
Well actually, I came with the expectation of not being messaged and being laughed off the site. I didn't get that. It was overwhelming, to begin with.
Once I got rid of the 'fresh meat fools', I found one chap.i am happy to say is now a FWB.
I'd still be interested in meeting others.
What I don't want is what I had this weekend... a chap I met last weekend who seemed really great, but called me, d*unk, on Saturday evening and freaked me the hell out! |
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A mature couple within a 50 mile radius of Leicester whom we both fancy, the feeling is reciprocated, and are happy to meet at a club to see if we get on in person without endless messaging. That's what we want from Fab.
Frank |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a question that I’ve been asking myself a fair amount recently, not specifically regarding life but in regards to fab in general terms.
My response up until now has been something asking to a gallic shrug and idunno!
As an aid to my thought processes and because I clearly can’t work it out for myself, I thought I’d open the question up to the floor. So dear fabbers; what do you want? "
I think it evolves doesn't it? the longer you're on fab the more you see and learn, and about yourself.
I first joined as I just wanted sex without a relationship.
And now I'm in one.
Now I'd like another playmate and several experiences I haven't had... And may never do. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't.
But for the whole entirety of my fab time I've wanted to explore and let my more deviant not so vanilla side loose. And I have, and there's still more to go.
So rather than saying what I want as such, I'd say I'm just here to see where this sexual exploration takes me.
Why have a plan or want when you can just be excited by the unknown? |
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I'd like regularish overnight stays with someone who finds me sexy and funny and with whom I can chat and have gloriously horny sexual encounters without needing to be monogamous or aiming for a relationship.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've pretty much got what I want right now. A very small selection of friends who I can meet now and then and have great sex with. Nothing in this life is static or finite and i know that those I meet now won't be around forever...so always open to new sexy friends. More of the same with a different twist  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really like sex.
I've always liked to have multiple different partners but am now happy with that fact rather than feeling guilty or ashamed.
I would love a fwb. Sort of a boyfriend but more friend I guess.
I have a busy life and a complicated living arrangement so being single is easier but it would be nice to have a little more than a fuck and go.
Otherwise happy to chat and forum it and fuck when and who I can. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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For things to continue how they are right now. I'm happy; I've got some great friends, platonic and otherwise and I'm happy with conversations and other things.
The MLS to be a lot of fun, that's a want. Can't think of anything else really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would just like to meet good people who like me for me and we enjoy each others company. People who I can explore this lifestyle with be it friends, playmate and know knows maybe something more if the chance arises. Would be nice to get to know people both near and further away so can experience the whole scene/community.
As long as everyone has fun and good experiences thats what matters. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
OP, I've been asking myself the same.
I'm doing things that make me feel uncomfortable to try and find out. I need to find my purpose. I lost it somewhere or used it up.
I haven't put myself on a dating site yet, I'm not a masochist, but I am considering it. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I’d like to fancy someone who fancies me back, and doesn’t need to fancy everyone else, and to have great sex with no stress.
This! I swear you’re my much kinkier twin
That proper made me chuckle
Oh jesus.... wtf does that make me?
Posh innit. "
Proper Posh innit  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A friend with benefits, to be intimate with, have sensual fun.
A sub to worship and serve me.
And to be content.
You should relocate north
You should relocate South "
Compromise, meet at mine
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really don’t know.
I can’t meet due to my situation but not sure I want to put myself back out there and become vulnerable again anyway, but I do miss the excitement, the feeling, the desire and that high you get after really good sex with someone your really into. I guess I miss being wanted and loved. |
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Do you mean from FabLife or just Life, OP?
FabLife - dunno and not really too concerned at present.
Actual Life - our house to be mended and lovely, our son to be happy and know what HE wants to do, a couple of holidays a year and a new custom built day chair plus a basketball chair and a racing chair.
I think that's it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I haven't a fucking scooby.
Obviously I want something from here or I'd be gone but I have no clue what it is.
Maybe it's as simple as familiarity coz I sure as shit don't want anyone to touch me "
Kinda what she said, but in a males voice…..and I do want someone to touch me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What I wanted and what I found have been completely 2 different things
So in answer to your question what I want from fab is exactly what I have know. Some who has become such a part of my life, someone I adore, that I can’t see my life any other way. "
Same here. Such a great feeling, isn't it? |
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Fab social parties, I miss my party life and am enjoying getting to know people I will be meeting at the socials
Sex wise I am now missing a relatively local regular fwb/fb, but that is a search I shall start next year |
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I'll tell you what I want, what I really really want.
I really really really wanna zigga zig aaah!
Or, to Continue on my not too shabby journey of exploration and adventure with amazing people.
And to not keep losing my knickers in club dark rooms! Now that would be ace! |
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Hi op. Well I know like me you’ve been on and off for years and had some good and bad experiences - so I sincerely hope that you find what you want when you’ve worked out what it is. X
As for me - outside fab I know - but I need a job so I can afford more of the socials and road trips that I love so much.
After realising during Lockdown 1 that I definitely don’t want a ‘proper’ relationship, I reconnected with an old fab party acquaintance this July and we’ve met many times since - both alone and at parties. I love that - it gives me the continuity/reliability I enjoy and the feeling that at least one person I fuck really cares about me - which is kinda nice. - though to be fair I have a couple of other far more occasional lovers who I know are very fond of me too!
As I like very regular sex and that’s still not happening (I see my regular a couple of times a month - he’s great company and an amazing shag - but what can I say - I’m a greedy fecker! ) I’m looking for a couple more lovely fwb’s to complete the picture. At the moment I’m talking to a few lovely chaps who may fit the bill. When I find those (if I do) then I’ll just use fab for the forums and club/social information.
From a friendship/social viewpoint fab still works fantastically well for me - some I just meet up with at clubs and parties - some I see outside that environment - some are now my best friends.  Whilst they’re all around I honestly couldn’t imagine ever leaving here.
So yeah - other than the job thing I’m in a great place!  |
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