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over a year ago
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"Without knowing what the dilemma is.
How do we know what the answer to give?
So it’s pretty much, either do it or don’t.  "
I am in a stale sex relationship so I fantasise about fucking my ex all the time, even wank over pics of her is that bad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Without knowing what the dilemma is.
How do we know what the answer to give?
So it’s pretty much, either do it or don’t.
I am in a stale sex relationship so I fantasise about fucking my ex all the time, even wank over pics of her is that bad "
It’s not bad to fantasise, or wank over her, but have you talked to your current partner about your sex life? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Without knowing what the dilemma is.
How do we know what the answer to give?
So it’s pretty much, either do it or don’t.
I am in a stale sex relationship so I fantasise about fucking my ex all the time, even wank over pics of her is that bad
It’s not bad to fantasise, or wank over her, but have you talked to your current partner about your sex life?"
No |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you think your sex life is stale, remember, you are part of that problem, if not THE problem
Talk, open up
Wanking over your ex is just a byproduct of your situation
You could change that, even if that change means one of you walking away
Life is too short to be unhappy long term |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you think your sex life is stale, remember, you are part of that problem, if not THE problem
Talk, open up
Wanking over your ex is just a byproduct of your situation
You could change that, even if that change means one of you walking away
Life is too short to be unhappy long term"
Oh am constantly trying it on, just get the same old story (tired) and not walking away I love her deeply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you think your sex life is stale, remember, you are part of that problem, if not THE problem
Talk, open up
Wanking over your ex is just a byproduct of your situation
You could change that, even if that change means one of you walking away
Life is too short to be unhappy long term
Oh am constantly trying it on, just get the same old story (tired) and not walking away I love her deeply "
If you loved her as deeply as you say, you would open up, tell her how you feel - and hope that she does the same
Trying it on is not opening up |
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"If you think your sex life is stale, remember, you are part of that problem, if not THE problem
Talk, open up
Wanking over your ex is just a byproduct of your situation
You could change that, even if that change means one of you walking away
Life is too short to be unhappy long term
Oh am constantly trying it on, just get the same old story (tired) and not walking away I love her deeply "
'Trying it on' isn't the way to find out what the problem is between you BOTH. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Oh am constantly trying it on, just get the same old story (tired) and not walking away I love her deeply "
So whats your dilemma?
You don’t want to walk away, so you want permission to cheat on her from strangers?
How long have you been with her as you claim to have been here before? Did you cheat on her then, or who ever you were with, and if so did that answer your dilemma? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In order to have a happy relationship there has to be good communication.
Open chats about everything.
I'm pretty sure that if things aren't going well in the bedroom they aren't going well in the livingroom either.
Perhaps instead of "trying it on" you should show her some affection in other ways and you should most definitely talk to her.
Love is wonderful but love alone isn't enough, it takes effort still |
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"Without knowing what the dilemma is.
How do we know what the answer to give?
So it’s pretty much, either do it or don’t.
I am in a stale sex relationship so I fantasise about fucking my ex all the time, even wank over pics of her is that bad "
I think you should just do it. Go for her. Get really d*unk
And I mean really d*unk. Bombed
Then write her an essay, and send it
And if she accuses you of being d*unk, lie. |
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I am in a stale sex relationship so I fantasise about fucking my ex all the time, even wank over pics of her is that bad "
I know it is November and cold outside but the time honoured cure has always been...
Take a cold shower! |
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"If you think your sex life is stale, remember, you are part of that problem, if not THE problem
Talk, open up
Wanking over your ex is just a byproduct of your situation
You could change that, even if that change means one of you walking away
Life is too short to be unhappy long term
Oh am constantly trying it on, just get the same old story (tired) and not walking away I love her deeply "
Maybe she's tired of your lack orlf respect you say you love her deeply yet your on here cheating on her .... |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Do what you want.
If sharing your life with someone can’t convince you to treat them with respect, then my words definitely won’t.
Fuck whoever you want, just don’t be surprised when your life falls apart as a result of your choices |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you think your sex life is stale, remember, you are part of that problem, if not THE problem
Talk, open up
Wanking over your ex is just a byproduct of your situation
You could change that, even if that change means one of you walking away
Life is too short to be unhappy long term"
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you think your sex life is stale, remember, you are part of that problem, if not THE problem
Talk, open up
Wanking over your ex is just a byproduct of your situation
You could change that, even if that change means one of you walking away
Life is too short to be unhappy long term
Oh am constantly trying it on, just get the same old story (tired) and not walking away I love her deeply "
Get rid. What use is she if she won't fuck you? Get back with your ex. |
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Without further information, it's difficult to advise.
However, I'm not interested in sex when I'm tired either.
How much real effort do you (both) put into the relationship?
Do you spend quality time together?
Do you both work? If so, do you share household chores and childcare?
Does she have health problems?
Could it be early menopause?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Without knowing what the dilemma is.
How do we know what the answer to give?
So it’s pretty much, either do it or don’t.
I am in a stale sex relationship so I fantasise about fucking my ex all the time, even wank over pics of her is that bad
I think you should just do it. Go for her. Get really d*unk
And I mean really d*unk. Bombed
Then write her an essay, and send it
And if she accuses you of being d*unk, lie. "
Send that to who? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To reply to a few of you, we don’t have health problems, we both share household chores and child care, she’s on maternity leave and am working full time, we spend quality time with each other all the time I just don’t know where the spark has gone in the bedroom as we used to be at it like rabbits and I have an extremely high sex drive and she doesn’t basically |
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"To reply to a few of you, we don’t have health problems, we both share household chores and child care, she’s on maternity leave and am working full time, we spend quality time with each other all the time I just don’t know where the spark has gone in the bedroom as we used to be at it like rabbits and I have an extremely high sex drive and she doesn’t basically "
So you have a young baby?
If so she's probably knackered mate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To reply to a few of you, we don’t have health problems, we both share household chores and child care, she’s on maternity leave and am working full time, we spend quality time with each other all the time I just don’t know where the spark has gone in the bedroom as we used to be at it like rabbits and I have an extremely high sex drive and she doesn’t basically
So you have a young baby?
If so she's probably knackered mate"
Probs but can’t help it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To reply to a few of you, we don’t have health problems, we both share household chores and child care, she’s on maternity leave and am working full time, we spend quality time with each other all the time I just don’t know where the spark has gone in the bedroom as we used to be at it like rabbits and I have an extremely high sex drive and she doesn’t basically
So you have a young baby?
If so she's probably knackered mate
Probs but can’t help it "
Well carry on wanking and concentrate on making a nice little family must try harder good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To reply to a few of you, we don’t have health problems, we both share household chores and child care, she’s on maternity leave and am working full time, we spend quality time with each other all the time I just don’t know where the spark has gone in the bedroom as we used to be at it like rabbits and I have an extremely high sex drive and she doesn’t basically
So you have a young baby?
If so she's probably knackered mate
Probs but can’t help it "
Im all for sympathy until someone says their wife/girlfriend has just had a baby and then doesnt want sex anymore. I get a bit stabby after that. |
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"To reply to a few of you, we don’t have health problems, we both share household chores and child care, she’s on maternity leave and am working full time, we spend quality time with each other all the time I just don’t know where the spark has gone in the bedroom as we used to be at it like rabbits and I have an extremely high sex drive and she doesn’t basically
So you have a young baby?
If so she's probably knackered mate
Probs but can’t help it
Im all for sympathy until someone says their wife/girlfriend has just had a baby and then doesnt want sex anymore. I get a bit stabby after that. "
She’s not only just had her |
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over a year ago
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"I do love these threads, reminds me how happy I am to be single. 
Bet it’s so much easier at times "
What not having your partner cheat on you because you're knackered from having a baby? Yeah it is a shit thing to experience. |
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over a year ago
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"I do love these threads, reminds me how happy I am to be single.
Bet it’s so much easier at times
What not having your partner cheat on you because you're knackered from having a baby? Yeah it is a shit thing to experience. "
I haven’t actually done it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do love these threads, reminds me how happy I am to be single.
Bet it’s so much easier at times
What not having your partner cheat on you because you're knackered from having a baby? Yeah it is a shit thing to experience.
I haven’t actually done it "
Well done you. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I do love these threads, reminds me how happy I am to be single.
Bet it’s so much easier at times
What not having your partner cheat on you because you're knackered from having a baby? Yeah it is a shit thing to experience.
I haven’t actually done it "
Apart from your veri says otherwise… |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I do love these threads, reminds me how happy I am to be single.
Bet it’s so much easier at times
What not having your partner cheat on you because you're knackered from having a baby? Yeah it is a shit thing to experience.
I haven’t actually done it
Apart from your veri says otherwise… "
And yes, I read it earlier. Hiding it now doesn’t change things  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To reply to a few of you, we don’t have health problems, we both share household chores and child care, she’s on maternity leave and am working full time, we spend quality time with each other all the time I just don’t know where the spark has gone in the bedroom as we used to be at it like rabbits and I have an extremely high sex drive and she doesn’t basically
So you have a young baby?
If so she's probably knackered mate
Probs but can’t help it
Im all for sympathy until someone says their wife/girlfriend has just had a baby and then doesnt want sex anymore. I get a bit stabby after that.
She’s not only just had her "
If she is still on maternity leave it hasnt been that long. It makes me sad. Makes me sad that people cant wait for someone they love. |
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"To reply to a few of you, we don’t have health problems, we both share household chores and child care, she’s on maternity leave and am working full time, we spend quality time with each other all the time I just don’t know where the spark has gone in the bedroom as we used to be at it like rabbits and I have an extremely high sex drive and she doesn’t basically
So you have a young baby?
If so she's probably knackered mate
Probs but can’t help it
Im all for sympathy until someone says their wife/girlfriend has just had a baby and then doesnt want sex anymore. I get a bit stabby after that.
She’s not only just had her
If she is still on maternity leave it hasnt been that long. It makes me sad. Makes me sad that people cant wait for someone they love. "
I'm now incredibly sorry for the poor woman who is stuck at home with a baby, who has a father seemingly more interested in getting his end away.
OP, if you genuinely love your partner and child, cheating and beung on here is not appropriate. Be patient and be there for them. If sex is more important than them, you need to let her know that, so she can decide whether to allow you to get it elsewhere or to kick you out. |
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If she's on maternity leave then unless you adopted she's physically carried a baby and given birth during the last year.
Her body has been through some massive changes. She's going to have got physically bigger, her hormones have gone wild and her priorities have changed.
You say you share childcare. Do you both wake up in the night? Does she ever get a full night's sleep? Does she ever get time away? Does she see her friends much for non child related fun or is she permanently in mum-mode?
Talking helps so you both know what you want. But don't expect her to jump straight back to being a sex kitten.
Just give her what she wants and needs. Snuggles to stay physically close and some rest. But don't put any pressure on her to do things she may not be ready for just yet.
I would urge you not to have an affair, but that's your prerogative. I'd suggest you stick to self pleasure and bide your time. Babies grow up and parents get their lives back eventually  |
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over a year ago
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"This is a piss take at this stage right?
Sadly, I suspect not.
Domestic abuse also increases during and after pregnancy 
Some men are just shit."
Oioi who rattled your cage bit harsh isn't it   |
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"If she's on maternity leave then unless you adopted she's physically carried a baby and given birth during the last year.
Her body has been through some massive changes. She's going to have got physically bigger, her hormones have gone wild and her priorities have changed.
You say you share childcare. Do you both wake up in the night? Does she ever get a full night's sleep? Does she ever get time away? Does she see her friends much for non child related fun or is she permanently in mum-mode?
Talking helps so you both know what you want. But don't expect her to jump straight back to being a sex kitten.
Just give her what she wants and needs. Snuggles to stay physically close and some rest. But don't put any pressure on her to do things she may not be ready for just yet.
I would urge you not to have an affair, but that's your prerogative. I'd suggest you stick to self pleasure and bide your time. Babies grow up and parents get their lives back eventually "
Thank you so much for this advice  |
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"This is a piss take at this stage right?
Sadly, I suspect not.
Domestic abuse also increases during and after pregnancy
Some men are just shit.
Oioi who rattled your cage bit harsh isn't it "
Truth can be hard to accept.
Fortunately, there's lots of decent men. |
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"This is a piss take at this stage right?
Sadly, I suspect not.
Domestic abuse also increases during and after pregnancy
Some men are just shit.
Oioi who rattled your cage bit harsh isn't it
Truth can be hard to accept.
Fortunately, there's lots of decent men."
Excuse me! I hope you aren't having a pop at me? |
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So does she know you are on here? If not then that is a betrayal, a fantasy is one thing but this is different. Try talking to her and asking what you can do to help her, looking after young children is not easy. |
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"This is a piss take at this stage right?
Sadly, I suspect not.
Domestic abuse also increases during and after pregnancy
Some men are just shit.
Oioi who rattled your cage bit harsh isn't it
Truth can be hard to accept.
Fortunately, there's lots of decent men.
Excuse me! I hope you aren't having a pop at me?"
Eh?
You feeling a bit sensitive today?
I'm not "having a pop" at anyone. |
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"This is a piss take at this stage right?
Sadly, I suspect not.
Domestic abuse also increases during and after pregnancy
Some men are just shit.
Oioi who rattled your cage bit harsh isn't it
Truth can be hard to accept.
Fortunately, there's lots of decent men.
Excuse me! I hope you aren't having a pop at me?
Eh?
You feeling a bit sensitive today?
I'm not "having a pop" at anyone."
No just full of cold.
But thanks for the reply |
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"So does she know you are on here? If not then that is a betrayal, a fantasy is one thing but this is different. Try talking to her and asking what you can do to help her, looking after young children is not easy."
I agree.
I had 6 months off work and felt that I lost my identity.
I wasn't Anita anymore, I was just mum... it can really mess with your mental health.
The pandemic has made being a new mother even more stressful, with so many services still not running as they did pre-covid. |
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"This is a piss take at this stage right?
Sadly, I suspect not.
Domestic abuse also increases during and after pregnancy
Some men are just shit.
Oioi who rattled your cage bit harsh isn't it
Truth can be hard to accept.
Fortunately, there's lots of decent men.
Excuse me! I hope you aren't having a pop at me?
Eh?
You feeling a bit sensitive today?
I'm not "having a pop" at anyone.
No just full of cold.
But thanks for the reply "
Hope you soon feel better
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"This is a piss take at this stage right?
Sadly, I suspect not.
Domestic abuse also increases during and after pregnancy
Some men are just shit.
Oioi who rattled your cage bit harsh isn't it
Truth can be hard to accept.
Fortunately, there's lots of decent men.
Excuse me! I hope you aren't having a pop at me?
Eh?
You feeling a bit sensitive today?
I'm not "having a pop" at anyone.
No just full of cold.
But thanks for the reply
Hope you soon feel better
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Op it’s your responsibility to respect the women your with, she is worth more to you than for you to cheat on her, sex drys up in most relationships but adding a spark can make it better. Try talking to her but importantly LISTEN to her, Ask yourself when was the last time you ran her a bath to relax in, looked after the kids and arranged for her to go out and escape motherhood for a short period of time, when was the last time you both had a little you time, all these small gestures have a big impact on relationships…she is worth a lot more to you than a quick shag….go and get her a nice bunch of flowers and a little card saying how much she means to you etc…  |
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"To reply to a few of you, we don’t have health problems, we both share household chores and child care, she’s on maternity leave and am working full time, we spend quality time with each other all the time I just don’t know where the spark has gone in the bedroom as we used to be at it like rabbits and I have an extremely high sex drive and she doesn’t basically
So you have a young baby?
If so she's probably knackered mate
Probs but can’t help it
Im all for sympathy until someone says their wife/girlfriend has just had a baby and then doesnt want sex anymore. I get a bit stabby after that.
She’s not only just had her "
Definitely get rid. She's off work, home all day but not shagging you senseless? Bloody joke that, she's taking the piss.
Hope she finds someone decent who will look after her. |
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