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over a year ago
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Do any women like "vanilla" guys (I think this is the correct term) when it comes to men or is it a turn off, do we come across as being too bland in the bedroom? |
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"Do any women like "vanilla" guys (I think this is the correct term) when it comes to men or is it a turn off, do we come across as being too bland in the bedroom? "
Vanilla how? |
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One persons kink is another’s vanilla so there is a place for everyone, it’s just a matter of finding the right connection
As others have said when you build trust things can become more kinky if that’s what both want and if not as long as your both having fun carry on 
Can’t beat a good missionary session  |
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"One persons kink is another’s vanilla so there is a place for everyone, it’s just a matter of finding the right connection
As others have said when you build trust things can become more kinky if that’s what both want and if not as long as your both having fun carry on
Can’t beat a good missionary session "
This is exactly my view
Some people would see themselves as non-vanilla just because they are on a site like fab.
I would say my idea of vanilla definitely includes things others would find kinky |
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"One persons kink is another’s vanilla so there is a place for everyone, it’s just a matter of finding the right connection
As others have said when you build trust things can become more kinky if that’s what both want and if not as long as your both having fun carry on
Can’t beat a good missionary session
This is exactly my view
Some people would see themselves as non-vanilla just because they are on a site like fab.
I would say my idea of vanilla definitely includes things others would find kinky "
I’m probably quite vanilla but then when I meet someone regular or in a relationship we try new things so…. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Vanilla each and every time, have not got the time or attention span for that other stuff....
Cuddle, play, luck suck and fuck...cuddle, rinse and repeat. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the feedback! Very encouraging responses, interesting points about vanilla connections for building trust etc. I'm most likely always going to be vanilla but would be open to learning things within reason that keep a lady happy if she were to show me the ropes. There's hope yet I feel   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Vanilla has different meanings to different people. If I'm vanilla because I won't shit on someone's chest then I'm cool with that.
It's more about starting tame and pushing boundaries the more you get comfortable with someone. It takes a while to find out what makes each other tick so go with the person, not the 'kink'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Vanilla has different meanings to different people. If I'm vanilla because I won't shit on someone's chest then I'm cool with that.
It's more about starting tame and pushing boundaries the more you get comfortable with someone. It takes a while to find out what makes each other tick so go with the person, not the 'kink'."
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Vanilla with an open mind if perfectly fine by me. As long as someone is willing to push a few boundaries.
Vanilla sex is rife in the real world, we could have it in abundance. 
Saying that most of my filthy sex has been with people away from fab  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Vanilla has different meanings to different people. If I'm vanilla because I won't shit on someone's chest then I'm cool with that.
It's more about starting tame and pushing boundaries the more you get comfortable with someone. It takes a while to find out what makes each other tick so go with the person, not the 'kink'."
Yeah the toilet stuff is a huge no no haha.
Vanilla for me personally when describing myself is kissing (loads of it), kissing a lady in special places, playful sex in the intimate sense, kissing/biting around the neck area and body but again very gradual. Candle lit massage. I'm more of a slow burner when it comes to sex, tantric etc. By the book but passionate and connective. Some relaxing music too. I'm very inexperienced in the kink sense. I'd be fully relying on a lady for learning and direction which could be off putting for her I feel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve slept with more guys off fab than on fab and some of the filthiest fucks have been guys not on fab. "
Fully 110% agreed.
All my experiences of people and Fun sex pleasures have been .via House parties,invites,raves , and Holistic natural ways of bumping into others.useing Life skills of Communication,eye contact full body language of Expression where others esp opposite sex's can feel the real true version of whom you & they really are. And base their choice of like and dislike then. At free will.
The INTERNET Has Killed that and will affect everybody's mental state now and in years to come.
Make wise choices.. for the future and longterm. Not from what others on here assume of what they think they know of you, or based from your pic's..
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally I've never met anyone with the sole intention of it being vanilla. Sometimes it is, sometimes things get a little kinkier. Nearly all of it is good though. |
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"Do any women like "vanilla" guys (I think this is the correct term) when it comes to men or is it a turn off, do we come across as being too bland in the bedroom? "
Do whatever feels comfortable for you OP, just stay open minded. I consider myself to be closer to vanilla than spice but jeez, I have certainly enjoyed learning new things over the last few weeks via a very horny and patient young lady |
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