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Verifications - how many is too many?
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By *ackdaw52 OP Man
over a year ago
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I've was talking to a couple on here for a while and things were going well, but then Mr claimed I'd misled them and that "the wife would go spare" if she saw how many verifications I had.
I've got 15 verifications. Some of those are from social meets and some are duplicates from repeat meets.
But I don't think 11 sexual partners is particularly excessive by Fab standards.
And this was a couple who insisted on experienced partners.
This feeds into another thread a few days ago by a woman who was put off by otherwise 'super hot' men who have sex videos/pictures on their profiles.
It seems like a bit of a Fab paradox; people want their partners to be experienced and desirable yet simultaneously very exclusive and virginal.
Thoughts? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people are nuts, no such thing as too many or not enough! Some people veri for a cup of coffee, others won't veri even if been a raging affair, they are just there to provide additional info. |
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I don't think that there is such a thing as too many.
It shows that they definitely meet.
The couple profile has quite a few, but it doesn't reflect the number of people we've met 
If being promiscuous puts people off, this might not be the right site for them. |
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Dont lose sleep over it. If anyone thinks that verifications equal how many sexual partners someone has had they are very silly.
And if someone judges you on it... dont worry about it. Its them not you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Verifications prove one thing and one thing only.. their a real functioning human that shows up to meets. We all have different experiences with people and their sexual history is none of our business. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont lose sleep over it. If anyone thinks that verifications equal how many sexual partners someone has had they are very silly.
And if someone judges you on it... dont worry about it. Its them not you"
oh just realized who you are! Will need to sort a veri |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've was talking to a couple on here for a while and things were going well, but then Mr claimed I'd misled them and that "the wife would go spare" if she saw how many verifications I had.
I've got 15 verifications. Some of those are from social meets and some are duplicates from repeat meets.
But I don't think 11 sexual partners is particularly excessive by Fab standards.
And this was a couple who insisted on experienced partners.
This feeds into another thread a few days ago by a woman who was put off by otherwise 'super hot' men who have sex videos/pictures on their profiles.
It seems like a bit of a Fab paradox; people want their partners to be experienced and desirable yet simultaneously very exclusive and virginal.
Thoughts?"
Or they want to meet discreet, private, respectful people. It's not necessarily about being virginal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s no such thing op
There’s no difference if I have been banged off 3 guys than there is to have been banged off 300
At the end off the day as long as people are single or in a open relationship then it shouldn’t matter
If you have a problem with it then it’s your problem
same gose with dateing and such
I couldn’t care if they had sex with 2-3 guys or 3 million
I hadn’t them in a closed realship so they were free to do as they like
I don’t think any different off them well emmm that’s a lie ok
I would injoy the fact that they had so meny and Injoyed them selfs ha ha
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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30,785.
That's too many. Unless they've had a profile for over a year 
Honestly OP, it isn't something that is quantifiable, because like everything else it depends entirely on the judgement of the person or people reading the profile.
I upset a guy earlier today by telling him I wasn't meeting for sexy times and haven't done in a while, because apparently my veris tell a different story  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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However many the other person feels comfortable with.
Yes of course it's a site that facilitates people meeting for sex but we all do things differently, that's part of what makes it so enjoyable - finding those who are compatible with you.
I don't agree with slut shaming but I do think that people aren't compatible with others. And that's fine. We all use different ways of assessing whether or not we'd want to meet someone. |
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"I think they've changed their mind about meeting you and used the amount of veris as an excuse."
Good point! Lots of people do that ! Not judging them tho, don’t get me wrong. They might find it easier to refuse someone in a nice way . Even me as a single male i find it hard to tell someone “sorry! Not my type” sometimes just because they might seem very nice and I don’t want them to take my refusal as an offence  |
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None of us are penguins opppps i mean nuns haha it doesn't bother me really. If you vibe with someone and like them well go with the flow! But that doesn't necessarily mean you shag everyone you meet anyway and who cares if you did.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest I kinda get off thinking about the person with high veri I don’t have any as of yet but I met a lady on here with about 100 and that was an experience I couldn’t forget I thought my stamina was great, she lead me down a path I can’t return. She knew exactly what she was doing and by the time we had to check out I was half dead |
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Just proves someone is real. I only show social ones. I could have 300 other veris or 1 other one, nobody would know. I’m personally not a fan of them so I don’t ask for them either. All they tell me is if someone is genuine. |
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By *ackdaw52 OP Man
over a year ago
Chesterfield |
"I’d like to know what people that say you have too many will do when they get to that number. Do they just quit swinging? 
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Ha ha, yeah!
I bet he's a HR manager - must have 5 years experience to do an entry level job!  |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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There is no such thing as too many verifications after all the longer somebody is on Fab if they a moderately successful and part take in the many different events then you are bound to accumulate verifications. If you really wanted you could turn of the verification summary and only show one or two verifications and they would be none the wiser.
Sounds to me like somebody got cold feet and was looking for a way out. |
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I don’t display mine at all now, even new ones. Some people seem to bust a gut to see who you’ve met! Like the ones who say they don’t display but fall over themselves in the rush to make it known they’ve met someone …. Who the hell cares!
I think for most, they are a memory of a good time  |
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No upper limit for me, I am here for enrichment of my sexual life, not to find a mono virginal husband, if he has lots of veris then he is obviously very popular and skilled and that makes him attractive to me |
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We know people with hundreds and there some of the best people here with no doubt but what do you do if somebody you meet me at Club says hi fourfiveseconds and verifies you have to verify them back it's kind of an unwritten law. |
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"I've was talking to a couple on here for a while and things were going well, but then Mr claimed I'd misled them and that "the wife would go spare" if she saw how many verifications I had.
I've got 15 verifications. Some of those are from social meets and some are duplicates from repeat meets.
But I don't think 11 sexual partners is particularly excessive by Fab standards.
And this was a couple who insisted on experienced partners.
This feeds into another thread a few days ago by a woman who was put off by otherwise 'super hot' men who have sex videos/pictures on their profiles.
It seems like a bit of a Fab paradox; people want their partners to be experienced and desirable yet simultaneously very exclusive and virginal.
Thoughts?"
Too many is 355 - which apparently is the number I’ve got according to my summary.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have quite a few but this is over a period of time and mostly (apart from about three) are all social meets.
I'm more put off by graphic verifications tbh.
We aren't looking for experienced swingers by any means as still new to the sexual side lol
Danish x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maximum 4 published/ visible veris.
why? "
I prefer private people. 3,000 hidden veris - fine.
There's life outside Fab. Verification number means nothing.
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"Maximum 4 published/ visible veris.
why?
I prefer private people. 3,000 hidden veris - fine.
There's life outside Fab. Verification number means nothing.
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no verification numbers don't but we all use the site differently. I have not got all mine on show. Some are too graphic for instance. But it doesnt bother me if someone has 1 or a thousand verifications |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maximum 4 published/ visible veris.
why?
I prefer private people. 3,000 hidden veris - fine.
There's life outside Fab. Verification number means nothing.
no verification numbers don't but we all use the site differently. I have not got all mine on show. Some are too graphic for instance. But it doesnt bother me if someone has 1 or a thousand verifications "
It bothers me. |
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"Maximum 4 published/ visible veris.
why?
I prefer private people. 3,000 hidden veris - fine.
There's life outside Fab. Verification number means nothing.
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What is the max amount of veris you can have on here? |
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"Maximum 4 published/ visible veris.
why?
I prefer private people. 3,000 hidden veris - fine.
There's life outside Fab. Verification number means nothing.
What is the max amount of veris you can have on here?"
not sure. My old profile had a lot , and I've seen profiles with over 3000 verifications |
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I used to have several veris before I left the site and then rejoined a few years ago. Leaving wasn’t a smart move as, especially for a guy, veris are an essential prerequisite to be accepted for a meet. Having none is a major problem but I cannot see how anyone can have too many. For me, the more sexual partners a woman had had the more I’m interested - it means she’s experienced and really loves doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maximum 4 published/ visible veris.
why?
I prefer private people. 3,000 hidden veris - fine.
There's life outside Fab. Verification number means nothing.
no verification numbers don't but we all use the site differently. I have not got all mine on show. Some are too graphic for instance. But it doesnt bother me if someone has 1 or a thousand verifications
It bothers me. "
Can you explain why?
We've got a fair few but as Danish said previously most are social so what is it that puts you off about a lot of veris?
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Doesn’t bother me how many. Not always a sign they’ve shagged everyone. I’ve verified just for a coffee meet.
I don’t display mine fully as a few people have gone through and messaged my female friend via my account one guy used it as a way to send abuse to me via her also i don’t think I particularly like having my performance ‘reviewed’ for all to see |
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"I must admit it puts me off when a guy has too many, esp if they're all displayed but I can't explain why. 20 is plenty x"
I think you’re being a bit hypocritical there. You have 4 all from the same month!! |
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We used to help organise a camping swinging weekend, and over 100 people would attend, many of whom would verify us...however, the number of people we played with at those events over an 8 year period could be counted on one hand. Same with social meets, some organised socials we could end up with half a dozen or more veries, and not play with anyone.
I guess what I'm saying is, the number of veries someone has doesnt necessarily indicate how many people they have had sex with.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must admit it puts me off when a guy has too many, esp if they're all displayed but I can't explain why. 20 is plenty x
I think you’re being a bit hypocritical there. You have 4 all from the same month!! "
That's nothing hun, I can have 4 in a day sometimes they just don't veri I feel the same about people with too many pics, feels narcissistic, showing off and leaves nothing to the imagination. Let's face it the verifications are a bit like reading product reviews which although helpful is a bit much in itself! |
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"I must admit it puts me off when a guy has too many, esp if they're all displayed but I can't explain why. 20 is plenty x
I think you’re being a bit hypocritical there. You have 4 all from the same month!! "
I winked you and messaged you ... no reply |
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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago
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It’s all nonsense anyway as regardless of how many verifications someone has here , for all you know they’ve asked 40 not to leave a verification, shagged 30 tinder dates, 20 at a club and 3 from the local pub. So it’s never going to be an accurate reflection of someone’s sexual partners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maximum 4 published/ visible veris.
why?
I prefer private people. 3,000 hidden veris - fine.
There's life outside Fab. Verification number means nothing.
What is the max amount of veris you can have on here?"
I don't know. I remember Gloswingers used to delete their profile and start a new one when they got to 1,000. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maximum 4 published/ visible veris.
why?
I prefer private people. 3,000 hidden veris - fine.
There's life outside Fab. Verification number means nothing.
no verification numbers don't but we all use the site differently. I have not got all mine on show. Some are too graphic for instance. But it doesnt bother me if someone has 1 or a thousand verifications
It bothers me.
Can you explain why?
We've got a fair few but as Danish said previously most are social so what is it that puts you off about a lot of veris?
Doughnut "
Privacy.
I don't know why people defend themselves by saying some are social. It's a swinging site where people have sex and/ or friendships.
I find it incredibly odd- much like Facebook where people have visible Friends lists. No privacy. |
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By *ackdaw52 OP Man
over a year ago
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Well I think social ones are important because they show you can converse and make an evening of it, which is important to a lot of people.
It also shows that you can meet without expectation and take rejection gracefully! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I think social ones are important because they show you can converse and make an evening of it, which is important to a lot of people.
It also shows that you can meet without expectation and take rejection gracefully!"
How on earth do people cope with meeting people in real life?! |
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I don't really care how many verifications someone has and if mine have put someone off me then that feels like I've dodged a somewhat judgemental bullet.
I am very nosy so if I'm going to message someone I'll have a look through their verifications to see if they have a particular type of person they go for, but I don't give a damn if they have one verification or one thousand. |
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"I've was talking to a couple on here for a while and things were going well, but then Mr claimed I'd misled them and that "the wife would go spare" if she saw how many verifications I had.
I've got 15 verifications. Some of those are from social meets and some are duplicates from repeat meets.
But I don't think 11 sexual partners is particularly excessive by Fab standards.
And this was a couple who insisted on experienced partners.
This feeds into another thread a few days ago by a woman who was put off by otherwise 'super hot' men who have sex videos/pictures on their profiles.
It seems like a bit of a Fab paradox; people want their partners to be experienced and desirable yet simultaneously very exclusive and virginal.
Thoughts?"
I’ve had people say “Sorry, you’re too active for me”, based on my verifications. Curiously, this year, when I’m not getting any new meets, there seems less interest in my profile because I’m not posting new veris…….?
Who knows? Do what suits you |
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By *ackdaw52 OP Man
over a year ago
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But this isn't an isolated incident.
I've read profiles that say 'no more than 10 veris' or similar.
Which seems bizarre to me considering what this site is for.
There are women on here who I really, really fancy who often post sex pics/videos but I don't think any less of them for it.
I if want them it stands to reason that other people would, too.
I'm envious that someone else is getting the blowjob, not me. But that's the way it is! Ha ha |
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"Dont lose sleep over it. If anyone thinks that verifications equal how many sexual partners someone has had they are very silly.
And if someone judges you on it... dont worry about it. Its them not you"
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"We often see tons of verification from same social, so you can get 20 veris in one night if you said hello to 20 folks. "
Exactly.
About 95% of mine are social meets. Speaking of socials, apologies to all those who went to the STP who are waiting for veris. It's a bit hectic for me at the moment. Y'all will get them at the end of next week. Xxx |
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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago
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"I've was talking to a couple on here for a while and things were going well, but then Mr claimed I'd misled them and that "the wife would go spare" if she saw how many verifications I had.
I've got 15 verifications. Some of those are from social meets and some are duplicates from repeat meets.
But I don't think 11 sexual partners is particularly excessive by Fab standards.
And this was a couple who insisted on experienced partners.
This feeds into another thread a few days ago by a woman who was put off by otherwise 'super hot' men who have sex videos/pictures on their profiles.
It seems like a bit of a Fab paradox; people want their partners to be experienced and desirable yet simultaneously very exclusive and virginal.
Thoughts?"
What did he mean by you misled them? |
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By *ackdaw52 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've was talking to a couple on here for a while and things were going well, but then Mr claimed I'd misled them and that "the wife would go spare" if she saw how many verifications I had.
What did he mean by you misled them?"
Well apparently I wasn't 'honest' about the number of people I've met...although I didn't change my verification settings since I started talking to them.
And it didn't say on their profile that it might be a problem.
And it never occurred to me it might be a problem tbh! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How many is too many? That’s anyone’s opinion.
Look, it’s not how many people you have had sex with that would put me off you (you could teach me a few things) . It’s not your lack of experience either (that’s cute ) it’s the fact that some people are full of hypocrisy that bothers me.
*there is much more that would make me say no, but I’ll keep it simple for now
You are right op, there are odd things that people say or do that raise an eyebrow. But I am sure by posting your thread you have already learned something from that exchange with the couple you mentioned. Keep on being you
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"We often see tons of verification from same social, so you can get 20 veris in one night if you said hello to 20 folks.
Exactly.
About 95% of mine are social meets. Speaking of socials, apologies to all those who went to the STP who are waiting for veris. It's a bit hectic for me at the moment. Y'all will get them at the end of next week. Xxx"
Tbh we are more interested in verifications which indicates there has been some play, that tells us a lot more, you can usually build a better picture than social meet verification. |
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A few months ago a couple wouldn’t meet me because I wouldn’t share a video of me having sex with someone, despite me saying if I had the other persons permission i would. Even if it was doggy, I wouldn’t send a video without the others consent and I think the majority on fab would expect the same.
I guess it separates those who are serious to those who aren’t? Perhaps it was there excuse to pull out of the conversation as it had gone too far for them? |
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"I don’t think it matters. A profile can say they have met 1 person from fab but that doesn’t mean they haven’t shagged hundreds off site."
Too right, we would rather go with too many than too few verifications |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been here 3 months, got 7 Veris from 6 Accounts and 6 are "Social" Veris.. Not had anyone say "you've got too many" yet! "
You've got too many for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see a lot of local women get profiles and build up 5 or 6 verifications and then delete account and open a new one. See the same ones do it again and again. They always say I'm new too haha Each to their own I guess |
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I think the only veris on here should be people you have actually met ... At least that says that you are genuine and do meet and says a little about you and what other people thought.... seen in chat room or cam that doesnt confirm anything Thats why i dont do cam fun i prepare to meet people and what will be Will be |
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