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Once it’s gone it’s gone.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have you ever had the hots for someone and then you lose the feeling and you don’t fancy them anymore? Can you describe what it was that makes you say, yes yes yes…but actually no?
And did you ever stop fancying someone and then that hunger for them strike up again stronger than before?
It’s a more complicated question that I have but you get the point right?  
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Yeah quite often! I think it's because I don't get to meet that often so the initial feeling of lust starts to dwindle. Then I might happen to see them at a social or something and boom! Hits me right there!
I'm strangely much more reserved with my lustful advances if this happens, almost anxious sometimes! |
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Racks brain… the only person I stoped fancying was my ex husband and no regrets, I’ve never doubted that decision or fancied him again..
The only other ones I can think of were not a lack of fancy, but a reaction to behaviour, where there was still attraction but a lack of compatability in other areas.
So for me the fancying has never come back. It’s died or had to be shelved.. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't ever revisit the lust for someone once it's gone. It's normally because of lack of compatibility, respect or being a bit bored with them in general. You can't really reignite a spark, at least I don't think so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah but there’s usually feelings involved as well. I’ve had guys be on my radar for years but then one day I’ve looked at them and got the zing! I see them in a different way, potential for a relationship. That’s when my own energy makes them more special, possibility and hope puts them on a pedestal and amplifies their attractiveness and also blinds me to red flags. They’ve all fucked me about in the past, devises they didn’t want anything to do with me which has hurt me deeply but then I move on.
Weeks, months even a year later with one guy, they come back and expect you to still feel the same way about them but by then it’s too late.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had situations where the level of active fancying (why am I using this word so much today, its literally lost all meaning) have fluctuated.
But that is usually down to time and external influences etc...
If I have fully stopped fancying someone it's gone.
And alot of the time I cannot imagine why I ever fancied they in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think once I’ve stopped fancying them that’s it.. I don’t/can’t go back or reignite that initial spark lust.
Usually I’ve stopped fancying them because some of their actions/personality traits have turned me off.
At that point the Fanny has dried up and no amount of lube/charm is going to resurrect it. |
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I believe the word is infatuation.
Unfortunately age and experience quells this for me and not that I don’t feel it for someone, sometimes I do, but the reality is I can’t actually be bothered.
But never say never. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Once you get the ick, you don't want that dick.
Haha. Nicely put.
Any catchy phrase for the men to use? "
Once you get fussy, you don't want that pussy. |
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"Once you get the ick, you don't want that dick.
Haha. Nicely put.
Any catchy phrase for the men to use?
Once you get fussy, you don't want that pussy."
Once you lose the twinge.. you don’t want that…  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Once you get the ick, you don't want that dick.
Haha. Nicely put.
Any catchy phrase for the men to use?
Once you get fussy, you don't want that pussy.
Once you lose the twinge.. you don’t want that… "
MINGE 
Once you get blunt, you don't want that cunt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once in my no category then your in it for life
Or in less you get me d*unk then I am anyones for the night
But other than that there’s no way out off the no category |
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There was an extremely attractive guy at my place of work. He became very unattractive when his propensity to behave like a small child in order to get women to do work he didn't want to became obvious. He'd put this pathetic face on and say "but I don't know how".
Some women fell for it too. |
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Happens to us all i guess. You can find someone attractive, but their personality isn't quite as attractive! Especially if you are very observant like me. Though you can overthink and be wrong at times  haha |
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"Once it goes to a No there’s no going back, usually something in their personality that triggers the change so it will always be there."
This 
It only takes one thing to turn you off and not be able to go back there, no matter how much you used to like him |
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