How soon into messaging with somebody where there’s attraction on here do you realise it’s a lost cause?
Sometimes we feel a little quick on the draw but one or two messages is usually enough to decide it’s not going anywhere and we make a polite exit.
Just wondering if Fab has tuned our radar to perfection or made us overly cautious!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When it feels like effort talking to them I guess. I can usually tell by the conversation which way it's going to go. If you lose interest before meeting, there's not much point continuing for me. |
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over a year ago
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"It's so wonderful to be messaging where it just flows. With others it's like pulling teeth. "
This for sure !
Some people message and there is just nothing there - I don’t like to be rude and not reply to people but I really struggle finding anything at all to say back ……
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over a year ago
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Of all the things people find the most awkward to say, it’s the ‘sorry, not for me’ type of farewell message. Is it because folk fear a bucket load of abuse for doing so? |
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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago
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"Of all the things people find the most awkward to say, it’s the ‘sorry, not for me’ type of farewell message. Is it because folk fear a bucket load of abuse for doing so? "
I think that, and some people just don't like imparting bad news, even anonymously on a site like this. People are generally good natured. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How soon into messaging with somebody where there’s attraction on here do you realise it’s a lost cause?
Sometimes we feel a little quick on the draw but one or two messages is usually enough to decide it’s not going anywhere and we make a polite exit.
Just wondering if Fab has tuned our radar to perfection or made us overly cautious!
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Just out of curiosity how can you tail after just two messages |
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"Of all the things people find the most awkward to say, it’s the ‘sorry, not for me’ type of farewell message. Is it because folk fear a bucket load of abuse for doing so? "
If the person is quite nice and polite I just feel crap saying it. But I've learned from feedback here that men would prefer I bring it to an end quickly if I'm not into them. Some guys do get unpleasant about it or argue with me.  |
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Think you can tell from a couple of messages in. The tone of the message and how engaging they are. Whether they are asking questions back. The length of time between messages.
If there was interest, people will look for your message and respond quickly.
If it feels like you are pulling teeth then there’s little point in carrying on…
K
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So everyone bases it solely on message content? I get people can say completely inappropriate things that don't warrant a response but not everyone can shine in such a two dimensional environment.
Anyway op, I'm staggeringly efficient at this, sometimes I can manage to do it 3 days before they even message me. It's great, I don't get bothered by any messages.
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"So everyone bases it solely on message content? I get people can say completely inappropriate things that don't warrant a response but not everyone can shine in such a two dimensional environment.
Anyway op, I'm staggeringly efficient at this, sometimes I can manage to do it 3 days before they even message me. It's great, I don't get bothered by any messages.
Oh? Wait a minute "
No just not messages. The status, comments on the forum, profile. It all helps build a picture of what someone is like when I receive a cold message from them.
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