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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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Are you a tidy inboxer? Do you do your fabmin on the regular?
Or do you, like me, hide in the forum and ignore the box at the top that tells you there are people wanting to chat?
I'm so bad at it. I'll go through short phases of actually looking to see if there are messages from people I'm conversing with, but then I'll ignore it for days or even weeks.
(If we are in the middle of a conversation btw.... feel free to nag)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My inbox, I delete all but those messages from people I’m possibly going to meet.
My outbox is empty so that I have no need to cry myself to sleep when reading the word “deleted” |
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I’m shit at it. I keep my filters tight but then open for a game, get bombed, can’t deal with it, that pushes down messages from actual friends, so then i miss them and I get agitated and don’t look.. and repeat. I need to keep filtered up really  |
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You do what you like! No one owns you or entitled. I don't delete so i remember conversations, Especially if you get lots of messages and can't keep track of some! Only ones I'll delete are the creepy or rude weirdo ones. Haha   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a stuck one, so it constantly tells us there’s a message when the Mail box is empty, drives the mr nuts! "
Have you deleted all messages in incoming and outgoing? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It depends. Most of the time my filters are tight so I don't get an avalanche of messages - I don't see much point in that because I'd end up bulk deleting and missing out on interesting ones. If I've been lax in filtering because of a game I'll just work through them.
Sometimes I have people/conversations I'm very much keen to have and not respond to others. It sounds awful but I have to be in the headspace to talk to people. Different people. I tend to set aside fabmin time if it has built up a bit. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My inbox, I delete all but those messages from people I’m possibly going to meet.
My outbox is empty so that I have no need to cry myself to sleep when reading the word “deleted”"
That's sensible fabmin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My inbox, I delete all but those messages from people I’m possibly going to meet.
My outbox is empty so that I have no need to cry myself to sleep when reading the word “deleted”
That's sensible fabmin"
It doesn’t take long to clear out the tumble |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I’m shit at it. I keep my filters tight but then open for a game, get bombed, can’t deal with it, that pushes down messages from actual friends, so then i miss them and I get agitated and don’t look.. and repeat. I need to keep filtered up really "
This is what I do!!
Except the getting bombed. I'm talking maybe 5 random messages a day..... I just can't face it sometimes. |
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"I’m shit at it. I keep my filters tight but then open for a game, get bombed, can’t deal with it, that pushes down messages from actual friends, so then i miss them and I get agitated and don’t look.. and repeat. I need to keep filtered up really
This is what I do!!
Except the getting bombed. I'm talking maybe 5 random messages a day..... I just can't face it sometimes."
Eurghh mines out of control at the mo because I’m just not in the headspace to communicate. Makes me feel bad!! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"You do what you like! No one owns you or entitled. I don't delete so i remember conversations, Especially if you get lots of messages and can't keep track of some! Only ones I'll delete are the creepy or rude weirdo ones. Haha "
I don't delete any I have responded to, except sometimes by accident. I hate that deleting a message is so damn easy to do accidentally though.
I just feel guilty sometimes for abandoning a conversation after a few messages when I was actually enjoying it, but can't deal with it right then, and then get all anxious about picking it up again so don't, have a panic, and come back to hide in the crowd!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve just deleted loads, and now I feel bad
You have weird ones though.....
I have today! How can people not understand my joke 
Hope ur OK hun xx"
Wait, you can see me? |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I like to read and reply or delete as soon as I can. Rarely do I leave them to amass x "
I don't exactly have a busy box.... and I don't quite get why sometimes it feels like too much pressure. I'm weird xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve just deleted loads, and now I feel bad
You have weird ones though.....
I have today! How can people not understand my joke
Hope ur OK hun xx
Wait, you can see me?"
Dr Ross did a good job  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My inbox isn't so busy that I can't tidy it when I'm online
Neither is mine, but I just don't like to go in it."
You always replied to any message I sent |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"No one messages us to it's pretty tidy haha "
Very few people message me!
But there is at least one person on this thread that I've abandoned mid conversation..... and there's guilt setting in about it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve just deleted loads, and now I feel bad
You have weird ones though.....
I have today! How can people not understand my joke
Hope ur OK hun xx
Wait, you can see me?"
My god. I’ve just read your status. It’s properly tickled me for some reason |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"We have a stuck one, so it constantly tells us there’s a message when the Mail box is empty, drives the mr nuts! "
I had that for ages on my old profile! Someone said mail admin about it, but I never did. Maybe worth a go? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get anxious when there is yellow. I also get anxious about replying to new messages. So it’s a constant state of flux. So wish messages could be marked a different colour for people I want to chat with. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"It depends. Most of the time my filters are tight so I don't get an avalanche of messages - I don't see much point in that because I'd end up bulk deleting and missing out on interesting ones. If I've been lax in filtering because of a game I'll just work through them.
Sometimes I have people/conversations I'm very much keen to have and not respond to others. It sounds awful but I have to be in the headspace to talk to people. Different people. I tend to set aside fabmin time if it has built up a bit."
There are people I'm more keen to respond to, but sometimes I don't have the headspace for even that |
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"Responses tend to be 3-5 business days on average. If I can’t reply straight away, I’ll read them, mark them as unread until I can"
Oh can you read them and put them on unread? I didn't realise jesus that would be handy. How do you do that? Haha |
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"Never anything waiting in mine Posh 
That's cos you're efficient DC"
I’m used to keeping my work inbox tidy so it works the same here. If they limited the number of messages it might make everyone more efficient |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ya... its a real time consumer.... 
I'm sensing sarcasm.....  "
The spiralling pit of self-loathing peoples busy inboxes send me down emoji isn't supplied by fab it was the next best thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Responses tend to be 3-5 business days on average. If I can’t reply straight away, I’ll read them, mark them as unread until I can Oh can you read them and put them on unread? I didn't realise jesus that would be handy. How do you do that? Haha "
There’s a button “mark unread”. |
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"I’ve just deleted loads, and now I feel bad
You have weird ones though.....
I have today! How can people not understand my joke
Hope ur OK hun xx
Wait, you can see me?
My god. I’ve just read your status. It’s properly tickled me for some reason"
It did me too |
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"Responses tend to be 3-5 business days on average. If I can’t reply straight away, I’ll read them, mark them as unread until I can Oh can you read them and put them on unread? I didn't realise jesus that would be handy. How do you do that? Haha
There’s a button “mark unread”."
I know how to delete on the thread bit! I wasn't sure what the unread bit meant ah thank you. Blonde moment Haha x |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Rarely have more than 1 message in there and that's an ongoing conversation..
So, no, I have a very tidy inbox "
Do you keep on top of the conversation? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly, I'm awful at it. I only get a few messages but because I want to give quality messages back (they can end up quite long) I can take a while to get back to people. I don't know how women and couples manage  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you a tidy inboxer? Do you do your fabmin on the regular?
Or do you, like me, hide in the forum and ignore the box at the top that tells you there are people wanting to chat?
I'm so bad at it. I'll go through short phases of actually looking to see if there are messages from people I'm conversing with, but then I'll ignore it for days or even weeks.
(If we are in the middle of a conversation btw.... feel free to nag) "
I dunno where were up to in our convo. I don’t look to see if my messages are read, I just respond if actually see a message before it gets pushed to another page  |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"My inbox, I delete all but those messages from people I’m possibly going to meet.
My outbox is empty so that I have no need to cry myself to sleep when reading the word “deleted”
That's sensible fabmin
It doesn’t take long to clear out the tumble "
It wouldn't take long to deal with mine.... but I'd have to think of actual answers to things like "how are you" that don't sound really depressing.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Responses tend to be 3-5 business days on average. If I can’t reply straight away, I’ll read them, mark them as unread until I can"
You're efficient too Hants! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ya... its a real time consumer....
I'm sensing sarcasm.....
The spiralling pit of self-loathing peoples busy inboxes send me down emoji isn't supplied by fab it was the next best thing "
It’s numbers. Logistics. Not many women. Loads of men. Receiving more messages doesn’t mean more value. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I’m shit at it. I keep my filters tight but then open for a game, get bombed, can’t deal with it, that pushes down messages from actual friends, so then i miss them and I get agitated and don’t look.. and repeat. I need to keep filtered up really
This is what I do!!
Except the getting bombed. I'm talking maybe 5 random messages a day..... I just can't face it sometimes.
Eurghh mines out of control at the mo because I’m just not in the headspace to communicate. Makes me feel bad!! "
Exactly!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ya... its a real time consumer....
I'm sensing sarcasm.....
The spiralling pit of self-loathing peoples busy inboxes send me down emoji isn't supplied by fab it was the next best thing
It’s numbers. Logistics. Not many women. Loads of men. Receiving more messages doesn’t mean more value. "
Sorry that was still sarcasm.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I try and keep mine tidy.
I don't really chat to many, so it's a less taxing existence than some I suspect. "
I don't chat to many people, I really don't have an excuse I guess. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I get anxious when there is yellow. I also get anxious about replying to new messages. So it’s a constant state of flux. So wish messages could be marked a different colour for people I want to chat with. "
So do I.... would be so much easier to deal with! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Never anything waiting in mine Posh
That's cos you're efficient DC
I’m used to keeping my work inbox tidy so it works the same here. If they limited the number of messages it might make everyone more efficient "
That would just make me panic more |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Ya... its a real time consumer....
I'm sensing sarcasm.....
The spiralling pit of self-loathing peoples busy inboxes send me down emoji isn't supplied by fab it was the next best thing "
Well if they do that one before the drool one I'll be well upset! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Honestly, I'm awful at it. I only get a few messages but because I want to give quality messages back (they can end up quite long) I can take a while to get back to people. I don't know how women and couples manage "
You do give quality. Always....
I try but it ends up as babble (if I manage to reply) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ya... its a real time consumer....
I'm sensing sarcasm.....
The spiralling pit of self-loathing peoples busy inboxes send me down emoji isn't supplied by fab it was the next best thing
It’s numbers. Logistics. Not many women. Loads of men. Receiving more messages doesn’t mean more value.
Sorry that was still sarcasm...."
No. It wasn’t. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Are you a tidy inboxer? Do you do your fabmin on the regular?
Or do you, like me, hide in the forum and ignore the box at the top that tells you there are people wanting to chat?
I'm so bad at it. I'll go through short phases of actually looking to see if there are messages from people I'm conversing with, but then I'll ignore it for days or even weeks.
(If we are in the middle of a conversation btw.... feel free to nag)
I dunno where were up to in our convo. I don’t look to see if my messages are read, I just respond if actually see a message before it gets pushed to another page "
I'm pretty sure you were telling me how much you adore me. Obvs |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I can't possibly keep up with it all, it's overwhelming being such a object of desire to the masses 
Explains why you never have time for me any more 
I always have time for you "
Oh PD..... you're a charmer
FAF?
(Oops.... that wasn't a pm, was it? My bad ) |
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"I get anxious when there is yellow. I also get anxious about replying to new messages. So it’s a constant state of flux. So wish messages could be marked a different colour for people I want to chat with. "
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That actually isn't a bad idea. However the Fab Suggestions Box is as much use as tits on a fish. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"We don't receive many messages so I usually read and reply as soon as I see them. Mr reads them all too."
I'm so much better at it off fab!
And now trying to remember what embarrassing things I may have said that I didn't realise himself would be reading |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I get anxious when there is yellow. I also get anxious about replying to new messages. So it’s a constant state of flux. So wish messages could be marked a different colour for people I want to chat with.
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That actually isn't a bad idea. However the Fab Suggestions Box is as much use as tits on a fish."
Fish have tits? Do they get them out on a Tuesday as well? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ya... its a real time consumer....
I'm sensing sarcasm.....
The spiralling pit of self-loathing peoples busy inboxes send me down emoji isn't supplied by fab it was the next best thing
It’s numbers. Logistics. Not many women. Loads of men. Receiving more messages doesn’t mean more value.
Sorry that was still sarcasm....
No. It wasn’t. "
Ummm do you want me to spiral into a pit of self-loathing then? |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I did wonder what happened to the msg I sent you Posh..... "
You bugger!!
I checked! You've never messaged me! Not ever ever ever (according to fab anyway) |
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"We have a stuck one, so it constantly tells us there’s a message when the Mail box is empty, drives the mr nuts!
Have you deleted all messages in incoming and outgoing?"
Yep… lol - it’s driving him crazy and I’m quite enjoying it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm bad. One day I'll feel super chatty and dying to make plans so reply to loads of people, then I can't keep up with the replies. Plus I don't look at it much at night as my eyes get tired by then and I can just about manage some badly typed forum replies but not proper conversations! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm bad. One day I'll feel super chatty and dying to make plans so reply to loads of people, then I can't keep up with the replies. Plus I don't look at it much at night as my eyes get tired by then and I can just about manage some badly typed forum replies but not proper conversations! "
This too! Brain farts are more acceptable on the forum than in the middle of a conversation.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I did wonder what happened to the msg I sent you Posh.....
You bugger!!
I checked! You've never messaged me! Not ever ever ever (according to fab anyway)
I'm waiting for the right moment "
It'll happen Ash. It'll happen! |
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"Honestly, I'm awful at it. I only get a few messages but because I want to give quality messages back (they can end up quite long) I can take a while to get back to people. I don't know how women and couples manage
You do give quality. Always....
I try but it ends up as babble (if I manage to reply)"
Awww thank you, that's my worry too! I have so much to say I need to be careful not to send an essay |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ya... its a real time consumer....
I'm sensing sarcasm.....
The spiralling pit of self-loathing peoples busy inboxes send me down emoji isn't supplied by fab it was the next best thing
It’s numbers. Logistics. Not many women. Loads of men. Receiving more messages doesn’t mean more value.
Sorry that was still sarcasm....
No. It wasn’t.
Ummm do you want me to spiral into a pit of self-loathing then?"
No. I was simply saying that receiving few messages as a man shouldn’t send you spiralling into that pit. Because your value isn’t based on how many messages you receive. Nor is mine. |
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"I get anxious when there is yellow. I also get anxious about replying to new messages. So it’s a constant state of flux. So wish messages could be marked a different colour for people I want to chat with.
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That actually isn't a bad idea. However the Fab Suggestions Box is as much use as tits on a fish.
Fish have tits? Do they get them out on a Tuesday as well?"
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Yes, and most have the mammary of a Goldfish! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I get really peed off if I send a message and it gets left unread when people show as online. If someone cant be arsed to read them or reply I just delete them and move on, im not wasting my time. I like to keep the inbox and friends list small and tidy. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Honestly, I'm awful at it. I only get a few messages but because I want to give quality messages back (they can end up quite long) I can take a while to get back to people. I don't know how women and couples manage
You do give quality. Always....
I try but it ends up as babble (if I manage to reply)
Awww thank you, that's my worry too! I have so much to say I need to be careful not to send an essay "
I like to think of them as pearls of wisdom. Just long strings of pearls. Kinda like a pearl necklace of wisdom.
That got weird fast. See.... I babble. |
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I’m the inbox gate keeper…C designated it to me once she closed her single account and we opened this one
I’ve now seen every cock imaginable…C can now sleep at night and I’m wide awake worrying about getting attacked by big mushroom heads 
I keep the inbox tidy…only Fabmin is C needing to check if she fancies a guy…she seems to think I should decide that too now
Basically C only replies if she thinks you are hot or can be bothered
K |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I get anxious when there is yellow. I also get anxious about replying to new messages. So it’s a constant state of flux. So wish messages could be marked a different colour for people I want to chat with.
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That actually isn't a bad idea. However the Fab Suggestions Box is as much use as tits on a fish.
Fish have tits? Do they get them out on a Tuesday as well?
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Yes, and most have the mammary of a Goldfish! "
I cho*ed on my coffee at that |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I get really peed off if I send a message and it gets left unread when people show as online. If someone cant be arsed to read them or reply I just delete them and move on, im not wasting my time. I like to keep the inbox and friends list small and tidy. "
That's fair enough.
I hate that I've probably made people feel I can't be bothered. I do try and tell people I'm just a bit crap.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m the inbox gate keeper…C designated it to me once she closed her single account and we opened this one
I’ve now seen every cock imaginable…C can now sleep at night and I’m wide awake worrying about getting attacked by big mushroom heads
I keep the inbox tidy…only Fabmin is C needing to check if she fancies a guy…she seems to think I should decide that too now
Basically C only replies if she thinks you are hot or can be bothered
K"
I've always said C is a sensible lady.... and I feel for your brain K. You're a good man taking on the strain.
Plus.... I'm really excited now because unless you totally lied to me..... C once replied to me! She could be bothered! Go me!
I'm worryingly excited about that.... |
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"We don't receive many messages so I usually read and reply as soon as I see them. Mr reads them all too.
I'm so much better at it off fab!
And now trying to remember what embarrassing things I may have said that I didn't realise himself would be reading "
he doesn't read messages away from here,don't worry |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Tidy inbox but some things need discussing so get marked unread again and answered when we're ready. "
I wish I had that as an excuse. I'm just rubbish. |
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"Fish have tits? Do they get them out on a Tuesday as well?
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Yes, and most have the mammary of a Goldfish!
I cho*ed on my coffee at that"
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The old ones are the best. I'm an antiquarian-pescatarian. |
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"I get really peed off if I send a message and it gets left unread when people show as online. If someone cant be arsed to read them or reply I just delete them and move on, im not wasting my time. I like to keep the inbox and friends list small and tidy. "
But if people are online they might be there just to chat to a particular person or join in on the forum? I don’t always want to tackle my inbox. |
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"I can't possibly keep up with it all, it's overwhelming being such a object of desire to the masses
Explains why you never have time for me any more
I always have time for you
Oh PD..... you're a charmer
FAF?
(Oops.... that wasn't a pm, was it? My bad )"
It's ok, I'm not that shy  |
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"I’m the inbox gate keeper…C designated it to me once she closed her single account and we opened this one
I’ve now seen every cock imaginable…C can now sleep at night and I’m wide awake worrying about getting attacked by big mushroom heads
I keep the inbox tidy…only Fabmin is C needing to check if she fancies a guy…she seems to think I should decide that too now
Basically C only replies if she thinks you are hot or can be bothered
K
I've always said C is a sensible lady.... and I feel for your brain K. You're a good man taking on the strain.
Plus.... I'm really excited now because unless you totally lied to me..... C once replied to me! She could be bothered! Go me!
I'm worryingly excited about that...."
She did indeed message you - she’ll message for special people…
She’ll go in fits and bursts…she’s sent a few tonight but left the ones I wanted her to reply to - keeping my inbox messy!
Now messy box and mushroom cocks are going to keep me awake
K |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I admit sometimes messages are replied too slowly. I spent time on the here so the inbox gets neglected sometimes but I always catch up. "
Do you get the guilting feeling when you don't as well? |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Fish have tits? Do they get them out on a Tuesday as well?
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Yes, and most have the mammary of a Goldfish!
I cho*ed on my coffee at that
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The old ones are the best. I'm an antiquarian-pescatarian."
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I regret not taking better control of this when I first joined!
I might do a full inbox cull."
It is the way forward.....
They auto delete after a couple months I think.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I get really peed off if I send a message and it gets left unread when people show as online. If someone cant be arsed to read them or reply I just delete them and move on, im not wasting my time. I like to keep the inbox and friends list small and tidy.
But if people are online they might be there just to chat to a particular person or join in on the forum? I don’t always want to tackle my inbox. "
Exactly! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I can't possibly keep up with it all, it's overwhelming being such a object of desire to the masses
Explains why you never have time for me any more
I always have time for you
Oh PD..... you're a charmer
FAF?
(Oops.... that wasn't a pm, was it? My bad )
It's ok, I'm not that shy "
Awesome.
So.... FAF? |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I’m the inbox gate keeper…C designated it to me once she closed her single account and we opened this one
I’ve now seen every cock imaginable…C can now sleep at night and I’m wide awake worrying about getting attacked by big mushroom heads
I keep the inbox tidy…only Fabmin is C needing to check if she fancies a guy…she seems to think I should decide that too now
Basically C only replies if she thinks you are hot or can be bothered
K
I've always said C is a sensible lady.... and I feel for your brain K. You're a good man taking on the strain.
Plus.... I'm really excited now because unless you totally lied to me..... C once replied to me! She could be bothered! Go me!
I'm worryingly excited about that....
She did indeed message you - she’ll message for special people…
She’ll go in fits and bursts…she’s sent a few tonight but left the ones I wanted her to reply to - keeping my inbox messy!
Now messy box and mushroom cocks are going to keep me awake
K"
Strange fact..... similar things have kept me awake recently. Leas mushrooms though 
I'm totally dining out on that "special people" comment btw |
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"Are you a tidy inboxer? Do you do your fabmin on the regular?
Or do you, like me, hide in the forum and ignore the box at the top that tells you there are people wanting to chat?
I'm so bad at it. I'll go through short phases of actually looking to see if there are messages from people I'm conversing with, but then I'll ignore it for days or even weeks.
(If we are in the middle of a conversation btw.... feel free to nag)
I dunno where were up to in our convo. I don’t look to see if my messages are read, I just respond if actually see a message before it gets pushed to another page
I'm pretty sure you were telling me how much you adore me. Obvs "
That’s probably why you got bored. You must get that a lot |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Yeah… this question is not really aimed at single guys
When I had a couples profile we used to either do it together or video chat and go through messages. I hate seeing loads of notifications on stuff, it bothers me, so I tend to respond or react when I see them.
This has the negative effect of appearing that I’m desperate to respond or chat. I should probably work on that! |
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over a year ago
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"I logged on yesterday to find I had TWO unread messages! Took me ages to sort out...
Did you do it though?
Yes, I diligently reply to every message sent, as should everybody! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like to keep my unread messages at 0.
Hate notifications or alerts (I've turned them all off on my phone apart from messages from my husband).
Sometimes it takes a little while to get through especially with thread games but it's much quieter now that I'm not a newbie. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I rarely delete messages so I can see if I’ve spoke to the person/s before.
My inbox is actually looking quite good at the moment.
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A guy happy with his inbox! Yay! |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I logged on yesterday to find I had TWO unread messages! Took me ages to sort out...
Did you do it though?
Yes, I diligently reply to every message sent, as should everybody! (Joke)"
I'm backing away from that one.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Are you a tidy inboxer? Do you do your fabmin on the regular?
Or do you, like me, hide in the forum and ignore the box at the top that tells you there are people wanting to chat?
I'm so bad at it. I'll go through short phases of actually looking to see if there are messages from people I'm conversing with, but then I'll ignore it for days or even weeks.
(If we are in the middle of a conversation btw.... feel free to nag)
I dunno where were up to in our convo. I don’t look to see if my messages are read, I just respond if actually see a message before it gets pushed to another page
I'm pretty sure you were telling me how much you adore me. Obvs
That’s probably why you got bored. You must get that a lot "
Maybe once before....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My most interesting conversations are in the DM. They are much more in depth and meaningful. I just smash the forums and treat it for what I get from it, a little amusement from some friendly people.
Hopeful those friendly people don’t drift off as strangers and we find ourselves exchanging DM’s.
Don’t ignore you fabmin, that’s wgeee people want to really chat |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Our inbox is very tidy but then it helps that we don't get inundated with messages so it makes it very easy to control."
I'm starting to think I'm just a bit bad at fabmin.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Yeah… this question is not really aimed at single guys
When I had a couples profile we used to either do it together or video chat and go through messages. I hate seeing loads of notifications on stuff, it bothers me, so I tend to respond or react when I see them.
This has the negative effect of appearing that I’m desperate to respond or chat. I should probably work on that! "
This probably isn't the most inclusive thread I've ever done.... thanks for pointing that out Tea
I'm very efficient off fab, the notifications drive me nuts else. It's just here.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I like to keep my unread messages at 0.
Hate notifications or alerts (I've turned them all off on my phone apart from messages from my husband).
Sometimes it takes a little while to get through especially with thread games but it's much quieter now that I'm not a newbie."
So..... you've succeeded in doing what I haven't in a way shorter time! Dammit!
I actually have to woman up here and accept that if you with all your gorgeousness and hundreds of messages can be neat and tidy and efficient, I with my few messages a day should be better at it, don't I. |
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"Are you a tidy inboxer? Do you do your fabmin on the regular?
Or do you, like me, hide in the forum and ignore the box at the top that tells you there are people wanting to chat?
I'm so bad at it. I'll go through short phases of actually looking to see if there are messages from people I'm conversing with, but then I'll ignore it for days or even weeks.
(If we are in the middle of a conversation btw.... feel free to nag) "
You are not alone, and it does work. I give up after a week.. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My most interesting conversations are in the DM. They are much more in depth and meaningful. I just smash the forums and treat it for what I get from it, a little amusement from some friendly people.
Hopeful those friendly people don’t drift off as strangers and we find ourselves exchanging DM’s.
Don’t ignore you fabmin, that’s wgeee people want to really chat "
The in depth and meaningful is the terrifying part though. They're the conversations where you actually have to answer the question "how are you" accurately. Because the person cares. That's hard. |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m tidy keep addressed and clean in work and here my default so yes will check reply if appropriate and delete or save "
I'm always clean!
Just my mind and inbox that aren't.... |
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"I like to keep my unread messages at 0.
Hate notifications or alerts (I've turned them all off on my phone apart from messages from my husband).
Sometimes it takes a little while to get through especially with thread games but it's much quieter now that I'm not a newbie.
So..... you've succeeded in doing what I haven't in a way shorter time! Dammit!
I actually have to woman up here and accept that if you with all your gorgeousness and hundreds of messages can be neat and tidy and efficient, I with my few messages a day should be better at it, don't I."
I'd ignore them if I could but I just love talking to you so much posh |
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"Are you a tidy inboxer? Do you do your fabmin on the regular?
Or do you, like me, hide in the forum and ignore the box at the top that tells you there are people wanting to chat?
I'm so bad at it. I'll go through short phases of actually looking to see if there are messages from people I'm conversing with, but then I'll ignore it for days or even weeks.
(If we are in the middle of a conversation btw.... feel free to nag) "
It’s very easy to keep a quiet inbox a tidy inbox |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Are you a tidy inboxer? Do you do your fabmin on the regular?
Or do you, like me, hide in the forum and ignore the box at the top that tells you there are people wanting to chat?
I'm so bad at it. I'll go through short phases of actually looking to see if there are messages from people I'm conversing with, but then I'll ignore it for days or even weeks.
(If we are in the middle of a conversation btw.... feel free to nag)
You are not alone, and it does work. I give up after a week.. "
A week? That's a bit short.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I like to keep my unread messages at 0.
Hate notifications or alerts (I've turned them all off on my phone apart from messages from my husband).
Sometimes it takes a little while to get through especially with thread games but it's much quieter now that I'm not a newbie.
So..... you've succeeded in doing what I haven't in a way shorter time! Dammit!
I actually have to woman up here and accept that if you with all your gorgeousness and hundreds of messages can be neat and tidy and efficient, I with my few messages a day should be better at it, don't I.
I'd ignore them if I could but I just love talking to you so much posh "
Awwwww..... back atcha Mrs A
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"Are you a tidy inboxer? Do you do your fabmin on the regular?
Or do you, like me, hide in the forum and ignore the box at the top that tells you there are people wanting to chat?
I'm so bad at it. I'll go through short phases of actually looking to see if there are messages from people I'm conversing with, but then I'll ignore it for days or even weeks.
(If we are in the middle of a conversation btw.... feel free to nag)
You are not alone, and it does work. I give up after a week..
A week? That's a bit short...."
It's a lifetime on fab... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Are you a tidy inboxer? Do you do your fabmin on the regular?
Or do you, like me, hide in the forum and ignore the box at the top that tells you there are people wanting to chat?
I'm so bad at it. I'll go through short phases of actually looking to see if there are messages from people I'm conversing with, but then I'll ignore it for days or even weeks.
(If we are in the middle of a conversation btw.... feel free to nag)
It’s very easy to keep a quiet inbox a tidy inbox "
Seriously..... my inbox is quiet! I'm just a slacker.... |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Yes but my looking for is turned off with filters on so its much easier to manage
It's not the quantity I have an issue with......
Ahhhhhh "
It's a scary place C |
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By *otSoPosh OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I had nearly 200 unread messages but the other day I did a friend list tidy, deleted friend requests and winks, hid my profile and then hit bulk delete on all my messages in a fit of pique!"
I have a fit of pique every now and then.....
Still neglect the inbox.... |
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"Rarely have more than 1 message in there and that's an ongoing conversation..
So, no, I have a very tidy inbox "
Still got the same messaging conversation going and nothing else, so it's all good and tidy still lol |
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"I rarely delete messages so I can see if I’ve spoke to the person/s before.
My inbox is actually looking quite good at the moment.
A guy happy with his inbox! Yay!"
Definitely!
One conversation has moved outside the box yesterday to WhatsApp and I’m meeting her next week!
She’s a babe to!!  |
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"One conversation has moved outside the box yesterday to WhatsApp and I’m meeting her next week!
She’s a babe to!! "
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This is a seminal moment for you. We require a blow-by-blow report on how it went.
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I've been keeping up with it lately, but sometimes I just can't be arsed. Depends entirely on my mood.
If the "can't be arsed" phase goes on for a while I will block all messages from everyone or occasionally hide my profile, saves having messages pile up.
Luckily I don't get millions of messages anyway, so I'm never in the position of having literally thousands unread. |
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"One conversation has moved outside the box yesterday to WhatsApp and I’m meeting her next week!
She’s a babe to!!
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This is a seminal moment for you. We require a blow-by-blow report on how it went.
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I will report back next week!
Pretty chuffed tbf, she’s stunning! |
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