FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Why do they do it?
Why do they do it?
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like  fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then. "
I feel the same, but knowing people sleep with others and it's a swinging site why does it even bother us? Isn't it weird? I'd watch porn, I'd see people in clubs and not be phased but an action shot on a fab profile and I'm put off.... Makes no sense at all does it? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then.
I feel the same, but knowing people sleep with others and it's a swinging site why does it even bother us? Isn't it weird? I'd watch porn, I'd see people in clubs and not be phased but an action shot on a fab profile and I'm put off.... Makes no sense at all does it? "
I'd be worried about the consent side of things. Does that woman know she's being displayed on his profile? Could that happen to the next person they meet?
LvM  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Men think it impresses women. How little they know. Lol.  "
Ummm some women like those videos...
Shock horror some are even in them.
It's almost like not all women are the same.
Or people for that matter considering its not just mens profiles |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then.
I feel the same, but knowing people sleep with others and it's a swinging site why does it even bother us? Isn't it weird? I'd watch porn, I'd see people in clubs and not be phased but an action shot on a fab profile and I'm put off.... Makes no sense at all does it?
I'd be worried about the consent side of things. Does that woman know she's being displayed on his profile? Could that happen to the next person they meet?
LvM "
This person was on their veri’s and they both had the same vid on each of their profiles so obviously a mutual consent thing in this particular case. That’s something I think of as well hence why I did a little digging. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then. "
I feel the same way when I see pictures of women with guy stuff all over their face or ther profile is a mid bang collection. Most guys on here just want some good chat and a decent night out too. Some of the stuff I've seen on this site has mentally scarred me haha. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I don't like pics of them fucking other women.
Nothing to do with jealousy .. just that 'he' seems to think that this woman - naked - whether full frontal or from the rear ..... turns me on ....
No she doesn't. And neither does the watch on the only part of you I can see...... maybe occassionally a glimpse of shaft on the way in ....
A vid would be worse.... all her jiggly bits and moaning ..... not my idea of sex |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
I’ll stick my neck out here and say it puts off more single women than it appeals to.
For reasons I can’t even explain. Obviously people have sex with other people I just don’t know what it is about seeing someone I potentially would have had sex with in action vids with other women. It just puts me completely off. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I’ll stick my neck out here and say it puts off more single women than it appeals to.
For reasons I can’t even explain. Obviously people have sex with other people I just don’t know what it is about seeing someone I potentially would have had sex with in action vids with other women. It just puts me completely off. "
See above. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then.
I feel the same way when I see pictures of women with guy stuff all over their face or ther profile is a mid bang collection. Most guys on here just want some good chat and a decent night out too. Some of the stuff I've seen on this site has mentally scarred me haha."
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I find it strange that people can actually upload that stuff since it can't be proven they had permission"
If it dont show faces of other participant's? I don't get the faces of others and I make it clear I'm taking the vids to share x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I find it strange that people can actually upload that stuff since it can't be proven they had permission
If it dont show faces of other participant's? I don't get the faces of others and I make it clear I'm taking the vids to share x"
The face part is kind of irrelevant.. but once they know they are being taken to share on what ever platform your sharing them on your good |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I’ll stick my neck out here and say it puts off more single women than it appeals to.
For reasons I can’t even explain. Obviously people have sex with other people I just don’t know what it is about seeing someone I potentially would have had sex with in action vids with other women. It just puts me completely off. "
I totally agree with you.
Puts me off too.
Also off putting profile names. Yes that is a no thank you too. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I find it strange that people can actually upload that stuff since it can't be proven they had permission
If it dont show faces of other participant's? I don't get the faces of others and I make it clear I'm taking the vids to share x"
Because hearsay is not something that stands up in court.
PornHub amateur stuff got shut down for this very reason. You can't know they have their permission to share or even had their permission to record in the first place.
And for that very reason I don't think people should be allowed to post that unless it's a couple and it only feature said couple. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It’s always been an instant turn off for me. I know that I’m not the only one that they would of had sex with but I’m also not some kind of trophy to be displayed.
For me these kind of pics are also egotistical and that really isn’t my kind of person |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I find it strange that people can actually upload that stuff since it can't be proven they had permission
If it dont show faces of other participant's? I don't get the faces of others and I make it clear I'm taking the vids to share x
Because hearsay is not something that stands up in court.
PornHub amateur stuff got shut down for this very reason. You can't know they have their permission to share or even had their permission to record in the first place.
And for that very reason I don't think people should be allowed to post that unless it's a couple and it only feature said couple."
Glad it's not down to u then!  x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Anyone would think it's a swinging website  "
Sarcasm arrrf arrf !
Swinging must mean something I guess. Maybe it doesn't mean - Here is one of some bird I fucked on me mates couch. I'm the one taking the pic. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *iren4uWoman
over a year ago
jersey channel islands |
"I’ll stick my neck out here and say it puts off more single women than it appeals to.
For reasons I can’t even explain. Obviously people have sex with other people I just don’t know what it is about seeing someone I potentially would have had sex with in action vids with other women. It just puts me completely off.
I totally agree with you.
Puts me off too.
Also off putting profile names. Yes that is a no thank you too. "
As a woman this also puts me off..I know they have sex with others and that doesn't bother me in the slightest but dont need to see it. It doesn't impress. Have had guys sent me pics of this nature direct to me and makes me distrust them immediately if we were to take pics together would he send to some other girl..so big no from me I just move on |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I think its a bit lazy when its more of the woman than the man but the idea itself doesnt put me off. Id quite like to put some videos up of me having sex, almost as a bit of a show. Its just a bit of exhibitionism I guess. Nice to have somewhere to put them. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If any pics or vids have been taken during a meet, I have always said it is for the lady to have and use at her discretion. If they wish to post / use that is their prerogative.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I mean we are kinda on fab so I guess most women wouldn’t be put off about it
I don’t mind vids or pics but …
I have to say sometimes verifications do that for me… |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I find it strange that people can actually upload that stuff since it can't be proven they had permission"
Do they need permission? If the guy took the video and it’s on his phone/device then surely he owns it? If the lady can’t be identified then no harm done. Also if it’s on his interests that he likes taking videos or pictures then you can guess where it’s going to end up…. Just hope it doesn’t end up on X-Ham |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Sometimes it really turns me off, especially if it's on a wonky camera phone with closeups...and a pair of worn trainers in the background..
However,if its tastefully done and looks quite arty, ie, the room has been decorated in a certain way, the lighting is good, almost so that you can feel how it might feel in that room, then yeah, it could turn me on |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Ah, the issues of viewing or reading something you can’t unsee or read…. 
It’s a curse unfortunately, but, can you ignore it, or simply sweep it to one side and focus on all the good stuff maybe? That’s up to you.
But I’ve ignored lots of people because of some shitty little thing that had nothing to do with me, who knows? In the future it may not even matter and we have a blast together.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *an4funMan
over a year ago
london |
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then.
I feel the same way when I see pictures of women with guy stuff all over their face or ther profile is a mid bang collection. Most guys on here just want some good chat and a decent night out too. Some of the stuff I've seen on this site has mentally scarred me haha."
Do most guys want that? You'd have to know everyone of them to be sure of that |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I find it strange that people can actually upload that stuff since it can't be proven they had permission
Do they need permission? If the guy took the video and it’s on his phone/device then surely he owns it? If the lady can’t be identified then no harm done. Also if it’s on his interests that he likes taking videos or pictures then you can guess where it’s going to end up…. Just hope it doesn’t end up on X-Ham"
Mine did and other sites vids taken from here which although annoying as they my content! But at end of day once it's uploaded it can go anywhere! I did get some taken down from the site u mention I would never have known they were even there till people from here told me they saw them other places x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I must admit it doesn't really bother me. If I'm getting on well chatting with someone and they have a few pics or videos of them fucking I'll just ask them about it. It's their choice to put up those images just as it's my choice not to.
To be honest I've watched some videos future meets have sent me and they've been hot af! The fact it's another person in the video isn't relevant, it's him, his actions his noises I'm interested in! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then.
I feel the same way when I see pictures of women with guy stuff all over their face or ther profile is a mid bang collection. Most guys on here just want some good chat and a decent night out too. Some of the stuff I've seen on this site has mentally scarred me haha."
Maybe you should consider Mumsnet! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
Photo rules say something along the lines of other people shouldn't be identifiable. Faces blurred tattoos obscured etc
Lots of profiles of all demographics have pictures videos including others .
If they put you off, hit the back button and keep on searching. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then.
I feel the same way when I see pictures of women with guy stuff all over their face or ther profile is a mid bang collection. Most guys on here just want some good chat and a decent night out too. Some of the stuff I've seen on this site has mentally scarred me haha."
Women with cum (guy stuff...) on their faces has mentally scarred you??!! Probably best not to spend too much time looking at some on the videos on here then   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
The human psyche is a strange ole bugger.
For me, having a dude in my pics with me would mean he means something to me, or the time that we spent together did (or even it's that I REALLY like the photo)
However, we don't always apply the same logic to other people and a lot of that will depend on experiences we've had or patterns we've observed in others.
I could try to apply my "She must mean something to him" logic and the downside in my head is thinking that I'd be sidelined for someone he thought more of.
That the time they spent meant something to him, I'd be wondering if time spent with me would compare or would he be thinking "I'd have rather been with her but this one had to do"
Or even that he just really liked the pic, "oh right, so the person doesn't matter to him then, it's all for show?"
I put that down to spending so many years second guessing and being lied to that everything had a hidden bloody motive and not what it seemed.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"You learn something new everyday. The idea that people would hate seeing potential partners have sex on a swinging site is quite bizarre to me but each to there own."
Likewise I agree, but of course Women are from fucking Venus so never any chance of understanding there logic. The ones that enjoy seeing it are what I’m looking for anyway so happy days |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"You learn something new everyday. The idea that people would hate seeing potential partners have sex on a swinging site is quite bizarre to me but each to there own.
Likewise I agree, but of course Women are from fucking Venus so never any chance of understanding there logic. The ones that enjoy seeing it are what I’m looking for anyway so happy days "
Aye, wouldn't be interested in someone who's turned of by people having sex on a swingers site so horses for courses. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"You learn something new everyday. The idea that people would hate seeing potential partners have sex on a swinging site is quite bizarre to me but each to there own.
Likewise I agree, but of course Women are from fucking Venus so never any chance of understanding there logic. The ones that enjoy seeing it are what I’m looking for anyway so happy days "
Don't get me wrong I've been well chuffed with wank videos or whatnot when I've been the inspiration, when I hear my own name, I dunno, maybe I'm too needy and like to feel some importance almost, like there's something special about ME and why he wants to bone me, not just that I have a fanny |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I find it strange that people can actually upload that stuff since it can't be proven they had permission
If it dont show faces of other participant's? I don't get the faces of others and I make it clear I'm taking the vids to share x
Because hearsay is not something that stands up in court.
PornHub amateur stuff got shut down for this very reason. You can't know they have their permission to share or even had their permission to record in the first place.
And for that very reason I don't think people should be allowed to post that unless it's a couple and it only feature said couple."
It's vile and indiscreet. Possibly also illegal under revenge porn laws.
Great for knowing who they are so I can avoid them. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Imagine this was fabhistoricalrecreationsociety.com. If we only had photos of ourselves dressed as Roundheads, without others dressed as cavaliers, we would look like a daft sausage dressed up like a strange one in a field on our own.
Swinging is a social activity, showing photos of yourself indulging in that with other members of society is okay by me….. but then again, I don’t tend to want the people that meet me to suddenly demand I am the most important thing in their life…. It’s swinging not mating for life (for me any way)
Edited for correction |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I find it strange that people can actually upload that stuff since it can't be proven they had permission
If it dont show faces of other participant's? I don't get the faces of others and I make it clear I'm taking the vids to share x
Because hearsay is not something that stands up in court.
PornHub amateur stuff got shut down for this very reason. You can't know they have their permission to share or even had their permission to record in the first place.
And for that very reason I don't think people should be allowed to post that unless it's a couple and it only feature said couple.
It's vile and indiscreet. Possibly also illegal under revenge porn laws.
Great for knowing who they are so I can avoid them. "
There is a post above where the op explains that she looked at veris and found that the lady in the video also posted that video on her profile. So it’s neither vile, nor indiscreet, let alone illegal. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"You learn something new everyday. The idea that people would hate seeing potential partners have sex on a swinging site is quite bizarre to me but each to there own.
Likewise I agree, but of course Women are from fucking Venus so never any chance of understanding there logic. The ones that enjoy seeing it are what I’m looking for anyway so happy days
Aye, wouldn't be interested in someone who's turned of by people having sex on a swingers site so horses for courses. "
It’s more the reasons behind it. Like how do they know if a session is gonna be good video material? They’d have to set up the recording device first and then get down to it. Just seems like it’s not organic, a show and not genuine enjoyment. Most of the action videos I’ve seen on single guys profiles it’s the woman that’s putting the shift in, she’s the vocal one and you don’t hear a peep off the guy (probably cos he knows he’s recording). I feel like if this is his best ‘work’ he’s showcasing he’s not for me. I like a guy I’m with to sound like a cow is being slaughtered.
Also there’s the fact that he must hold this woman in high regard to want videos of her, if she seems better in any single way than me, more skilled, more vocal than me (I’m quite a breath holder when I’m having sex) I don’t tend to make pornesque type sounds.
I’d feel like I wouldn’t satisfy him. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then.
I feel the same way when I see pictures of women with guy stuff all over their face or ther profile is a mid bang collection. Most guys on here just want some good chat and a decent night out too. Some of the stuff I've seen on this site has mentally scarred me haha.
Do most guys want that? You'd have to know everyone of them to be sure of that"
Most normal guys then. Lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"You learn something new everyday. The idea that people would hate seeing potential partners have sex on a swinging site is quite bizarre to me but each to there own.
Likewise I agree, but of course Women are from fucking Venus so never any chance of understanding there logic. The ones that enjoy seeing it are what I’m looking for anyway so happy days
Aye, wouldn't be interested in someone who's turned of by people having sex on a swingers site so horses for courses.
It’s more the reasons behind it. Like how do they know if a session is gonna be good video material? They’d have to set up the recording device first and then get down to it. Just seems like it’s not organic, a show and not genuine enjoyment. Most of the action videos I’ve seen on single guys profiles it’s the woman that’s putting the shift in, she’s the vocal one and you don’t hear a peep off the guy (probably cos he knows he’s recording). I feel like if this is his best ‘work’ he’s showcasing he’s not for me. I like a guy I’m with to sound like a cow is being slaughtered.
Also there’s the fact that he must hold this woman in high regard to want videos of her, if she seems better in any single way than me, more skilled, more vocal than me (I’m quite a breath holder when I’m having sex) I don’t tend to make pornesque type sounds.
I’d feel like I wouldn’t satisfy him. "
Overthinking everything again OP. I have a number of female friends that love taking pics and doing videos with me. There doesn’t always have to be some unscrupulous agenda behind everything. It’s called having fun |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I’ll stick my neck out here and say it puts off more single women than it appeals to.
For reasons I can’t even explain. Obviously people have sex with other people I just don’t know what it is about seeing someone I potentially would have had sex with in action vids with other women. It just puts me completely off. "
Couldn't agree more, as a single woman. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"You learn something new everyday. The idea that people would hate seeing potential partners have sex on a swinging site is quite bizarre to me but each to there own.
Likewise I agree, but of course Women are from fucking Venus so never any chance of understanding there logic. The ones that enjoy seeing it are what I’m looking for anyway so happy days
Aye, wouldn't be interested in someone who's turned of by people having sex on a swingers site so horses for courses. "
Why? It’s no reflection on the women themselves. I don’t like seeing it either, but it doesn’t reflect badly on me, it’s just my preference. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then.
I feel the same way when I see pictures of women with guy stuff all over their face or ther profile is a mid bang collection. Most guys on here just want some good chat and a decent night out too. Some of the stuff I've seen on this site has mentally scarred me haha.
Do most guys want that? You'd have to know everyone of them to be sure of that
Most normal guys then. Lol"
Really? Guys that want more than a chat and a night out via a swingers site are not normal?!
Bunch of weirdos then the guys I've met on here! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"You learn something new everyday. The idea that people would hate seeing potential partners have sex on a swinging site is quite bizarre to me but each to there own.
Likewise I agree, but of course Women are from fucking Venus so never any chance of understanding there logic. The ones that enjoy seeing it are what I’m looking for anyway so happy days
Aye, wouldn't be interested in someone who's turned of by people having sex on a swingers site so horses for courses.
It’s more the reasons behind it. Like how do they know if a session is gonna be good video material? They’d have to set up the recording device first and then get down to it. Just seems like it’s not organic, a show and not genuine enjoyment. Most of the action videos I’ve seen on single guys profiles it’s the woman that’s putting the shift in, she’s the vocal one and you don’t hear a peep off the guy (probably cos he knows he’s recording). I feel like if this is his best ‘work’ he’s showcasing he’s not for me. I like a guy I’m with to sound like a cow is being slaughtered.
Also there’s the fact that he must hold this woman in high regard to want videos of her, if she seems better in any single way than me, more skilled, more vocal than me (I’m quite a breath holder when I’m having sex) I don’t tend to make pornesque type sounds.
I’d feel like I wouldn’t satisfy him. "
Ok..lm all for some " quite " sex if you're ever interested , you can hold your breath all you want , no complaints from me   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"The worst is when they have another woman in their profile pic!! (different for couples of course)."
Or when you think it's a couple profile due to all the women's pics and it's actually a single male profile. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I find it strange that people can actually upload that stuff since it can't be proven they had permission
If it dont show faces of other participant's? I don't get the faces of others and I make it clear I'm taking the vids to share x
Because hearsay is not something that stands up in court.
PornHub amateur stuff got shut down for this very reason. You can't know they have their permission to share or even had their permission to record in the first place.
And for that very reason I don't think people should be allowed to post that unless it's a couple and it only feature said couple.
It's vile and indiscreet. Possibly also illegal under revenge porn laws.
Great for knowing who they are so I can avoid them.
There is a post above where the op explains that she looked at veris and found that the lady in the video also posted that video on her profile. So it’s neither vile, nor indiscreet, let alone illegal. "
x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then.
I feel the same way when I see pictures of women with guy stuff all over their face or ther profile is a mid bang collection. Most guys on here just want some good chat and a decent night out too. Some of the stuff I've seen on this site has mentally scarred me haha.
Do most guys want that? You'd have to know everyone of them to be sure of that
Most normal guys then. Lol
Really? Guys that want more than a chat and a night out via a swingers site are not normal?!
Bunch of weirdos then the guys I've met on here! "
You said it lol... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I find it strange that people can actually upload that stuff since it can't be proven they had permission
If it dont show faces of other participant's? I don't get the faces of others and I make it clear I'm taking the vids to share x
Because hearsay is not something that stands up in court.
PornHub amateur stuff got shut down for this very reason. You can't know they have their permission to share or even had their permission to record in the first place.
And for that very reason I don't think people should be allowed to post that unless it's a couple and it only feature said couple.
It's vile and indiscreet. Possibly also illegal under revenge porn laws.
Great for knowing who they are so I can avoid them.
There is a post above where the op explains that she looked at veris and found that the lady in the video also posted that video on her profile. So it’s neither vile, nor indiscreet, let alone illegal. "
Try reading the post I replied to. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I find it strange that people can actually upload that stuff since it can't be proven they had permission
If it dont show faces of other participant's? I don't get the faces of others and I make it clear I'm taking the vids to share x
Because hearsay is not something that stands up in court.
PornHub amateur stuff got shut down for this very reason. You can't know they have their permission to share or even had their permission to record in the first place.
And for that very reason I don't think people should be allowed to post that unless it's a couple and it only feature said couple.
It's vile and indiscreet. Possibly also illegal under revenge porn laws.
Great for knowing who they are so I can avoid them.
There is a post above where the op explains that she looked at veris and found that the lady in the video also posted that video on her profile. So it’s neither vile, nor indiscreet, let alone illegal.
Try reading the post I replied to. "
I did. You replied to a post suggesting action pic/video should be forbidden unless it’s a couple’s profile because of foul play suspicions. I’m simply pointing out that there isn’t always foul play as shown through the example which triggered this thread. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"You learn something new everyday. The idea that people would hate seeing potential partners have sex on a swinging site is quite bizarre to me but each to there own.
Likewise I agree, but of course Women are from fucking Venus so never any chance of understanding there logic. The ones that enjoy seeing it are what I’m looking for anyway so happy days
Aye, wouldn't be interested in someone who's turned of by people having sex on a swingers site so horses for courses.
It’s more the reasons behind it. Like how do they know if a session is gonna be good video material? They’d have to set up the recording device first and then get down to it. Just seems like it’s not organic, a show and not genuine enjoyment. Most of the action videos I’ve seen on single guys profiles it’s the woman that’s putting the shift in, she’s the vocal one and you don’t hear a peep off the guy (probably cos he knows he’s recording). I feel like if this is his best ‘work’ he’s showcasing he’s not for me. I like a guy I’m with to sound like a cow is being slaughtered.
Also there’s the fact that he must hold this woman in high regard to want videos of her, if she seems better in any single way than me, more skilled, more vocal than me (I’m quite a breath holder when I’m having sex) I don’t tend to make pornesque type sounds.
I’d feel like I wouldn’t satisfy him. "
I think that plays a huge part, the comparison thing. It's not always necessarily insecurity about ourselves, but whether they will recognise our value almost. It is for me anyhow.
I really do think it stems from childhood "not being good enough" |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I know I’m being a bit naive now, but I’m just as put off at seeing a seemingly appealing woman has got (let’s say) ten veris from intimate meets in person over the last couple of weeks.
But I just carry on scrolling.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Personally I don't mind seeing people have fun together, we know it's happened before we set eyes on them unless they're a virgin. They're comfortable to film it and share with those that want to see, if it's off putting to see then just don't click on their videos just in case |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
I’ve said it many times about various topics on here whether is ‘hates a cock pic’ ‘that pics to graphic’ blah blah…it’s your profile and your prerogative as to what you display, granted there’s questions around whether the male or female posting has permission from the other party to post however if you agree to recording yourself with someone I would say you always run a risk of it being displayed somewhere, it’s all down to trusting who you do this with, communication and respect.
If I see something on a profile I don’t like I just move along, there will be things on mine that’s not everyone’s cup of tea, so be it.
There’s thousands of people on here, different strokes for different folks, a little less judgment would probably go a long way, after all this is predominantly a site for the supposed sexually liberated
Just because someone has a pic/video or two with someone else does that ultimately mean there no longer attractive? or is it a question of drawing a comparison between you and the person in said video, perhaps more of a reflection on how you would measure up or how different you look to them…there’s many ways of looking at this topic I’d say the best one would be not to judge and move along
Just my take on it  xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I’ve said it many times about various topics on here whether is ‘hates a cock pic’ ‘that pics to graphic’ blah blah…it’s your profile and your prerogative as to what you display, granted there’s questions around whether the male or female posting has permission from the other party to post however if you agree to recording yourself with someone I would say you always run a risk of it being displayed somewhere, it’s all down to trusting who you do this with, communication and respect.
If I see something on a profile I don’t like I just move along, there will be things on mine that’s not everyone’s cup of tea, so be it.
There’s thousands of people on here, different strokes for different folks, a little less judgment would probably go a long way, after all this is predominantly a site for the supposed sexually liberated
Just because someone has a pic/video or two with someone else does that ultimately mean there no longer attractive? or is it a question of drawing a comparison between you and the person in said video, perhaps more of a reflection on how you would measure up or how different you look to them…there’s many ways of looking at this topic I’d say the best one would be not to judge and move along
Just my take on it xx"
Well said. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I’ve said it many times about various topics on here whether is ‘hates a cock pic’ ‘that pics to graphic’ blah blah…it’s your profile and your prerogative as to what you display, granted there’s questions around whether the male or female posting has permission from the other party to post however if you agree to recording yourself with someone I would say you always run a risk of it being displayed somewhere, it’s all down to trusting who you do this with, communication and respect.
If I see something on a profile I don’t like I just move along, there will be things on mine that’s not everyone’s cup of tea, so be it.
There’s thousands of people on here, different strokes for different folks, a little less judgment would probably go a long way, after all this is predominantly a site for the supposed sexually liberated
Just because someone has a pic/video or two with someone else does that ultimately mean there no longer attractive? or is it a question of drawing a comparison between you and the person in said video, perhaps more of a reflection on how you would measure up or how different you look to them…there’s many ways of looking at this topic I’d say the best one would be not to judge and move along
Just my take on it xx"
Well said, there's way too much judging on here considering it's meant to be fun |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now. "
I'd not want to talk to someone who would change their profile just to keep talking to me either tbh |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now. "
I think a lot of men genuinely don't get what appeals to more women than not. They just like showing off their willies whether they're wrapped in another woman or not. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then. "
it wouldn't bother me in the slightest x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now.
I'd not want to talk to someone who would change their profile just to keep talking to me either tbh"
Exactly this. Perhaps there are guys out there who don't give a fuck what some women on a forum think most women want. In fact I know there are guys like that. Thank god! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now.
I'd not want to talk to someone who would change their profile just to keep talking to me either tbh
Exactly this. Perhaps there are guys out there who don't give a fuck what some women on a forum think most women want. In fact I know there are guys like that. Thank god!"
Do you ever have anything positive to say to anyone or do you just slink around on here waiting to spread negativity? Also where’s you’re husband these days? He fancied the fuck out of me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now.
I'd not want to talk to someone who would change their profile just to keep talking to me either tbh
Exactly this. Perhaps there are guys out there who don't give a fuck what some women on a forum think most women want. In fact I know there are guys like that. Thank god!
Do you ever have anything positive to say to anyone or do you just slink around on here waiting to spread negativity? Also where’s you’re husband these days? He fancied the fuck out of me. "
wow. Big yikes there. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now.
I'd not want to talk to someone who would change their profile just to keep talking to me either tbh
Exactly this. Perhaps there are guys out there who don't give a fuck what some women on a forum think most women want. In fact I know there are guys like that. Thank god!"
Well said. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now.
I'd not want to talk to someone who would change their profile just to keep talking to me either tbh
Exactly this. Perhaps there are guys out there who don't give a fuck what some women on a forum think most women want. In fact I know there are guys like that. Thank god!
Do you ever have anything positive to say to anyone or do you just slink around on here waiting to spread negativity? Also where’s you’re husband these days? He fancied the fuck out of me. "
Oh I'm sorry. Slagging off others profile choices is a positive thing now. I'll tell him you're missing him. Which one were you?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now. "
He's just made himself look desperate to please you now by doing that which really isn't good.
I wasn't saying you were judging him for it, if it's not for you then that's your choice |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now.
I'd not want to talk to someone who would change their profile just to keep talking to me either tbh
Exactly this. Perhaps there are guys out there who don't give a fuck what some women on a forum think most women want. In fact I know there are guys like that. Thank god!
Do you ever have anything positive to say to anyone or do you just slink around on here waiting to spread negativity? Also where’s you’re husband these days? He fancied the fuck out of me.
Oh I'm sorry. Slagging off others profile choices is a positive thing now. I'll tell him you're missing him. Which one were you?
"
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now.
I'd not want to talk to someone who would change their profile just to keep talking to me either tbh
Exactly this. Perhaps there are guys out there who don't give a fuck what some women on a forum think most women want. In fact I know there are guys like that. Thank god!
Do you ever have anything positive to say to anyone or do you just slink around on here waiting to spread negativity? Also where’s you’re husband these days? He fancied the fuck out of me.
wow. Big yikes there. "
I can honestly say that Scarlett can take it, she’s made of harder stuff. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Me, I've not a clue what the answer is...
I don't try to second guess others motives. But seeing a cock
hanging out of a woman does kill any interest I might have... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I don't particularly like seeing women in a single guy's profile. By all means, do what you want when you have sex but do you have to plaster it all over your profile? There's too many of it and not enough of what the guy actually looks like, body shots of him. I find this very off putting x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now.
I'd not want to talk to someone who would change their profile just to keep talking to me either tbh
Exactly this. Perhaps there are guys out there who don't give a fuck what some women on a forum think most women want. In fact I know there are guys like that. Thank god!"
Absolutely. Isn’t it best that people present themselves the way they want in their profile?
We should all feel free to be true to ourselves without feeling judged. The reader who doesn’t like your profile can move on.
And to build your profile based on what you think people may like is not only a lost cause (you can’t please everybody) but it’s also deceptive and it can only lead to trouble when you’re true nature comes to the surface later.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
Forum Mod O o O oo |
"I know I’m being a bit naive now, but I’m just as put off at seeing a seemingly appealing woman has got (let’s say) ten veris from intimate meets in person over the last couple of weeks.
But I just carry on scrolling.
"
I think that's more you could be stuck in the 70's more than naive |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
To be fair we like to see a good video. It's part of the sales pitch. A guy having sex is not off putting, but a terrible video of a guy having sex is (granted It's subjective).
It's something I experience as a single guy on the scene that for many women the fact they're not the only women your having sex with is a bit of an elephant in the room. Although to be fair I never seen the need to talk about other sexual partners unless they brought the subject up first. Personally I find that the very image of a guy on here having sex being instantly off putting to some illogical. However I totally get this is quite a normal way to feel from my previous experience of others.
Mr |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *an4funMan
over a year ago
london |
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now.
I'd not want to talk to someone who would change their profile just to keep talking to me either tbh
Exactly this. Perhaps there are guys out there who don't give a fuck what some women on a forum think most women want. In fact I know there are guys like that. Thank god!
Do you ever have anything positive to say to anyone or do you just slink around on here waiting to spread negativity? Also where’s you’re husband these days? He fancied the fuck out of me. "
So low |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now.
I'd not want to talk to someone who would change their profile just to keep talking to me either tbh
Exactly this. Perhaps there are guys out there who don't give a fuck what some women on a forum think most women want. In fact I know there are guys like that. Thank god!
Absolutely. Isn’t it best that people present themselves the way they want in their profile?
We should all feel free to be true to ourselves without feeling judged. The reader who doesn’t like your profile can move on.
And to build your profile based on what you think people may like is not only a lost cause (you can’t please everybody) but it’s also deceptive and it can only lead to trouble when you’re true nature comes to the surface later.
"
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"So basically the guy has missed out because you didn’t like an aspect of his persona? "
He hasn’t missed out on anything also it’s my prerogative if I choose not to meet guys that display trophy videos. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So basically the guy has missed out because you didn’t like an aspect of his persona?
He hasn’t missed out on anything also it’s my prerogative if I choose not to meet guys that display trophy videos. "
See it as a lucky escape that you won't meet him now. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then. "
I live for this!! When they ask why apparently I’m ‘to sensitive’ ……I’m absolutely not! But I can’t unsee what I’ve seen and you’re right….it’s the BIGGEST turn off!!!! x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So basically the guy has missed out because you didn’t like an aspect of his persona?
He hasn’t missed out on anything also it’s my prerogative if I choose not to meet guys that display trophy videos. "
Of course it’s your decision to like or not like things. None of us get everything right, so I personally try and keep an open mind. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I know I’m being a bit naive now, but I’m just as put off at seeing a seemingly appealing woman has got (let’s say) ten veris from intimate meets in person over the last couple of weeks.
But I just carry on scrolling.
I think that's more you could be stuck in the 70's more than naive"
What does that even mean? I’d not find a guy who is fucking his way through the site appealing either. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then.
I feel the same, but knowing people sleep with others and it's a swinging site why does it even bother us? Isn't it weird? I'd watch porn, I'd see people in clubs and not be phased but an action shot on a fab profile and I'm put off.... Makes no sense at all does it? "
As tens of thousands of men scramble to delete their action shots.... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"It not judging it’s general wondering why guys have these sort of pics and videos when they know it puts off more women than it appeals to. I said I have no interest in speaking to him anymore cos the videos have put me off and he said he’d delete them but it’s too late now.
I think a lot of men genuinely don't get what appeals to more women than not. They just like showing off their willies whether they're wrapped in another woman or not."
What appeals to women men will not get from these sorts of threads. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
An absolute beauty sent me a message when I’d been on here about a month. Gorgeous body, lovely face - the lot.
The problem for me was, his profile shot was an action shot of his bare dick entering a rather overgrown pussy doggy style and on the arse was a gigantic yellow headed zit. It was all I could see. It really ruined it for me. He then went on to say it was an ex and she wasn’t on here and didn’t even know he’d used the photo?!!!! Goodbye! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Two people meet from a swingers site after making a connection.
Two people agree to have a bit of fun and capture the whole thing on camera for some extra fun.
They both decide they like the photos and videos and decide to share them on their profiles to attract other likeminded swingers.
They enjoy what they have done and had a good time doing it.
Where is the problem?
Were they to know somebody would take the hump because they had sex with each other before anyone else could claim them?
It all seems a bit sad that people can't have a bit of fun without being berated and judged. Especially on a site aimed at sex |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I like to see men I'm into fuck other women.
I have to have a vested interest in them and want to be the woman in the videos.
It doesn't do anything for me if it's a stranger with a close up video of him banging away from behind and I can see more of her than him.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I know I’m being a bit naive now, but I’m just as put off at seeing a seemingly appealing woman has got (let’s say) ten veris from intimate meets in person over the last couple of weeks.
But I just carry on scrolling.
I think that's more you could be stuck in the 70's more than naive
What does that even mean? I’d not find a guy who is fucking his way through the site appealing either."
Seems like a fair bit of slut shaming to me. Definitely 70s vibes if you ask me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I know I’m being a bit naive now, but I’m just as put off at seeing a seemingly appealing woman has got (let’s say) ten veris from intimate meets in person over the last couple of weeks.
But I just carry on scrolling.
I think that's more you could be stuck in the 70's more than naive
What does that even mean? I’d not find a guy who is fucking his way through the site appealing either.
Seems like a fair bit of slut shaming to me. Definitely 70s vibes if you ask me."
Maybe not shaming, just thinking someone who is into that kind of thing isn't for them.
I don't want to meet men who don't care who they are having sex with and focus on the sex, not the person.
As the saying goes, it's my preference. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I know I’m being a bit naive now, but I’m just as put off at seeing a seemingly appealing woman has got (let’s say) ten veris from intimate meets in person over the last couple of weeks.
But I just carry on scrolling.
I think that's more you could be stuck in the 70's more than naive
What does that even mean? I’d not find a guy who is fucking his way through the site appealing either.
Seems like a fair bit of slut shaming to me. Definitely 70s vibes if you ask me."
I see now. I could have worded it better. Someone who is sleeping with a lot of people in a short space of time isn’t for me. And I would not be for them, I imagine. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I know I’m being a bit naive now, but I’m just as put off at seeing a seemingly appealing woman has got (let’s say) ten veris from intimate meets in person over the last couple of weeks.
But I just carry on scrolling.
I think that's more you could be stuck in the 70's more than naive
What does that even mean? I’d not find a guy who is fucking his way through the site appealing either.
Seems like a fair bit of slut shaming to me. Definitely 70s vibes if you ask me."
So the OP isn't shaming single men for having sex with people on a swingers site?
Double standards and judgemental springs to mind. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Not in the slightest but for me, I tend to block rather than delete simply because I was once the woman who did not agree to photos being posted online, sent to his friends or to have photos taken in the first place. I do not want to be associated with any man that could put me in that position again |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"No action shots on mine with other women. The one pic I don't like on a woman's profile is spunk dribbling out of her pussy! Or loads of pussy shots. I want to see the woman. "
And that's your preference. It isn't shaming anyone is it.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Two people meet from a swingers site after making a connection.
Two people agree to have a bit of fun and capture the whole thing on camera for some extra fun.
They both decide they like the photos and videos and decide to share them on their profiles to attract other likeminded swingers.
They enjoy what they have done and had a good time doing it.
Where is the problem?
Were they to know somebody would take the hump because they had sex with each other before anyone else could claim them?
It all seems a bit sad that people can't have a bit of fun without being berated and judged. Especially on a site aimed at sex "
I guess there’s ways of saying it’s a preference without berating or shaming. I’m not monogamous but I don’t share pics and videos of me with others and I don’t want to see them either on here. I can see it is a little illogical. I guess I have been treated as a piece of meat on Fab at times and that’s what profiles with that kind of content make me feel like. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"No action shots on mine with other women. The one pic I don't like on a woman's profile is spunk dribbling out of her pussy! Or loads of pussy shots. I want to see the woman.
And that's your preference. It isn't shaming anyone is it.
"
No its not my preference. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Two people meet from a swingers site after making a connection.
Two people agree to have a bit of fun and capture the whole thing on camera for some extra fun.
They both decide they like the photos and videos and decide to share them on their profiles to attract other likeminded swingers.
They enjoy what they have done and had a good time doing it.
Where is the problem?
Were they to know somebody would take the hump because they had sex with each other before anyone else could claim them?
It all seems a bit sad that people can't have a bit of fun without being berated and judged. Especially on a site aimed at sex
I guess there’s ways of saying it’s a preference without berating or shaming. I’m not monogamous but I don’t share pics and videos of me with others and I don’t want to see them either on here. I can see it is a little illogical. I guess I have been treated as a piece of meat on Fab at times and that’s what profiles with that kind of content make me feel like. "
It isn't illogical. I like eating but I don't enjoy videos of other people eating. Just because it's a sex site doesn't mean we have to have it rammed down our throats (pun intended ).
There's nothing shameful about showing videos-unless you're showing someone without their consent- but it isn't everyone's cup of tea to see them.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It’s an instant no……it’s not slut shaming, it’s not shaming anyone like many of you are saying….it’s a swingers site yes…..you have sex, well done! Do I want to see it? No……biggest turn off on a profile. That is MY preference. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Fabswingers.
The clue is in the name.
A site aimed at swingers, for swingers to meet and have sex. Some show what they get up to, some don't. That is at the users discretion and option offered by the site. Exhibitionists, voyeurs and alternative lifestyles make up the site. Without the galleries and profiles with photos and videos, or the chatrooms where people broadcsst their sexuality and shenanigans, the site wouldn't exist.
If this kind of lifestyle isn't for you, then maybe you're in the wrong place.
Live and let live.
Less judgement, more friendliness and fun |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I know the answer already but I’m just a little disappointed.
See a profile of a super hot guy but then they have action videos of them with another bird and it’s like fuck sake. Why? It’s just completely off putting.
I KNOW people can have what they want on their own profiles, I know this. It’s just frustrating because it kills any desire I had for that person and I can’t get it back then. "
I’ve often thought the same tbh.
None of that on my profile if you care to take alook! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Fabswingers.
The clue is in the name.
A site aimed at swingers, for swingers to meet and have sex. Some show what they get up to, some don't. That is at the users discretion and option offered by the site. Exhibitionists, voyeurs and alternative lifestyles make up the site. Without the galleries and profiles with photos and videos, or the chatrooms where people broadcsst their sexuality and shenanigans, the site wouldn't exist.
If this kind of lifestyle isn't for you, then maybe you're in the wrong place.
Live and let live.
Less judgement, more friendliness and fun "
You’re still missing the point….
The lifestyle is for anyone who wants it, that’s not for you to decide….the man who preached about casting judgement
Also, with that in mind, we can have any preferences we want, and no one is asking you to agree. I’m on the same page as the OP. It’s an instant delete….that is what I chose to do. That is my preference. That is my living, how I chose. It’s not for you to say it’s wrong. If the OP doesn’t like it then that’s up to her….if you do that’s up to you. She’s not wrong to post. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
Forum Mod O o O oo |
"I know I’m being a bit naive now, but I’m just as put off at seeing a seemingly appealing woman has got (let’s say) ten veris from intimate meets in person over the last couple of weeks.
But I just carry on scrolling.
I think that's more you could be stuck in the 70's more than naive
What does that even mean? I’d not find a guy who is fucking his way through the site appealing either.
Seems like a fair bit of slut shaming to me. Definitely 70s vibes if you ask me.
So the OP isn't shaming single men for having sex with people on a swingers site?
Double standards and judgemental springs to mind."
I would say they were two totally different things.
One is saying a pic would put them off, the other is saying they would be put off with women having multiple partners |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Fabswingers.
The clue is in the name.
A site aimed at swingers, for swingers to meet and have sex. Some show what they get up to, some don't. That is at the users discretion and option offered by the site. Exhibitionists, voyeurs and alternative lifestyles make up the site. Without the galleries and profiles with photos and videos, or the chatrooms where people broadcsst their sexuality and shenanigans, the site wouldn't exist.
If this kind of lifestyle isn't for you, then maybe you're in the wrong place.
Live and let live.
Less judgement, more friendliness and fun "
Aren’t you judging people who don’t like to see it? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Fabswingers.
The clue is in the name.
A site aimed at swingers, for swingers to meet and have sex. Some show what they get up to, some don't. That is at the users discretion and option offered by the site. Exhibitionists, voyeurs and alternative lifestyles make up the site. Without the galleries and profiles with photos and videos, or the chatrooms where people broadcsst their sexuality and shenanigans, the site wouldn't exist.
If this kind of lifestyle isn't for you, then maybe you're in the wrong place.
Live and let live.
Less judgement, more friendliness and fun
Aren’t you judging people who don’t like to see it?"
Exactly this x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I think we're all entitled to our personal preferences and dislikes, and I don't know how one can argue against another for something that simply doesn't appeal to them.
I have some instant dislikes, too, as most of you probably will. It's what makes us individuals |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
Forum Mod O o O oo |
"
If this kind of lifestyle isn't for you, then maybe you're in the wrong place.
Live and let live.
"
Having a preference for how a profile looks doesn't equate to the lifestyle isn't for the person
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Fabswingers.
The clue is in the name.
A site aimed at swingers, for swingers to meet and have sex. Some show what they get up to, some don't. That is at the users discretion and option offered by the site. Exhibitionists, voyeurs and alternative lifestyles make up the site. Without the galleries and profiles with photos and videos, or the chatrooms where people broadcsst their sexuality and shenanigans, the site wouldn't exist.
If this kind of lifestyle isn't for you, then maybe you're in the wrong place.
Live and let live.
Less judgement, more friendliness and fun "
I’m allowed to say that pictures and videos of guys shagging past conquests turns me off wanting to ever meet them. Doesn’t mean I’m not allowed on the site and it isn’t your place to tell me that I shouldn’t be here.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Two people meet from a swingers site after making a connection.
Two people agree to have a bit of fun and capture the whole thing on camera for some extra fun.
They both decide they like the photos and videos and decide to share them on their profiles to attract other likeminded swingers.
They enjoy what they have done and had a good time doing it.
Where is the problem?
Were they to know somebody would take the hump because they had sex with each other before anyone else could claim them?
It all seems a bit sad that people can't have a bit of fun without being berated and judged. Especially on a site aimed at sex
I guess there’s ways of saying it’s a preference without berating or shaming. I’m not monogamous but I don’t share pics and videos of me with others and I don’t want to see them either on here. I can see it is a little illogical. I guess I have been treated as a piece of meat on Fab at times and that’s what profiles with that kind of content make me feel like.
It isn't illogical. I like eating but I don't enjoy videos of other people eating. Just because it's a sex site doesn't mean we have to have it rammed down our throats (pun intended ).
There's nothing shameful about showing videos-unless you're showing someone without their consent- but it isn't everyone's cup of tea to see them.
"
100% it’s clear a few ladies have had some bad experiences of pics and videos being taken but also it is wrong to assume that any single profile that has photos containing an other has not got there consent . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Fabswingers.
The clue is in the name.
A site aimed at swingers, for swingers to meet and have sex. Some show what they get up to, some don't. That is at the users discretion and option offered by the site. Exhibitionists, voyeurs and alternative lifestyles make up the site. Without the galleries and profiles with photos and videos, or the chatrooms where people broadcsst their sexuality and shenanigans, the site wouldn't exist.
If this kind of lifestyle isn't for you, then maybe you're in the wrong place.
Live and let live.
Less judgement, more friendliness and fun
I’m allowed to say that pictures and videos of guys shagging past conquests turns me off wanting to ever meet them. Doesn’t mean I’m not allowed on the site and it isn’t your place to tell me that I shouldn’t be here.
"
The comment I made was to everyone, not just you.
You have every tight to post your oppinions, just the same as I or anyone else.
The beauty of Fab is that people share. They share, thoughts, comments, photos and videos, as well as oppinions.
But there has to be some equilibrium to balance all the above.
There has to be more positivity than negativity with letting people use the site as they wish, without being slated for it.
If something isn't to a persons taste, then there isn't a need to comment in a negative way.
There is the option to move on and not let it bother anyone.
Happy days, no hassle, no harm done |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Fabswingers.
The clue is in the name.
A site aimed at swingers, for swingers to meet and have sex. Some show what they get up to, some don't. That is at the users discretion and option offered by the site. Exhibitionists, voyeurs and alternative lifestyles make up the site. Without the galleries and profiles with photos and videos, or the chatrooms where people broadcsst their sexuality and shenanigans, the site wouldn't exist.
If this kind of lifestyle isn't for you, then maybe you're in the wrong place.
Live and let live.
Less judgement, more friendliness and fun
I’m allowed to say that pictures and videos of guys shagging past conquests turns me off wanting to ever meet them. Doesn’t mean I’m not allowed on the site and it isn’t your place to tell me that I shouldn’t be here.
The comment I made was to everyone, not just you.
You have every tight to post your oppinions, just the same as I or anyone else.
The beauty of Fab is that people share. They share, thoughts, comments, photos and videos, as well as oppinions.
But there has to be some equilibrium to balance all the above.
There has to be more positivity than negativity with letting people use the site as they wish, without being slated for it.
If something isn't to a persons taste, then there isn't a need to comment in a negative way.
There is the option to move on and not let it bother anyone.
Happy days, no hassle, no harm done "
I don’t think giving an opinion is slating. What would be the point of a forum otherwise. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Fabswingers.
The clue is in the name.
A site aimed at swingers, for swingers to meet and have sex. Some show what they get up to, some don't. That is at the users discretion and option offered by the site. Exhibitionists, voyeurs and alternative lifestyles make up the site. Without the galleries and profiles with photos and videos, or the chatrooms where people broadcsst their sexuality and shenanigans, the site wouldn't exist.
If this kind of lifestyle isn't for you, then maybe you're in the wrong place.
Live and let live.
Less judgement, more friendliness and fun
I’m allowed to say that pictures and videos of guys shagging past conquests turns me off wanting to ever meet them. Doesn’t mean I’m not allowed on the site and it isn’t your place to tell me that I shouldn’t be here.
The comment I made was to everyone, not just you.
You have every tight to post your oppinions, just the same as I or anyone else.
The beauty of Fab is that people share. They share, thoughts, comments, photos and videos, as well as oppinions.
But there has to be some equilibrium to balance all the above.
There has to be more positivity than negativity with letting people use the site as they wish, without being slated for it.
If something isn't to a persons taste, then there isn't a need to comment in a negative way.
There is the option to move on and not let it bother anyone.
Happy days, no hassle, no harm done
I don’t think giving an opinion is slating. What would be the point of a forum otherwise. "
Nora exactly…….what I’ve learnt from fab though, is if you agree, it’s a valid opinion. If you don’t it’s slating…….x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Just catching up on comments.
Nobody is wrong in their statements.
Everyone has differing opinions on the subject and they have every right to voice them.
Everyone has a right to display or not to display what they want on their profiles.
Everyone is judging and weighing up the pro's and cons of the subject, its human nature to do so, its how we make our decisions by judging.
Some agree, some disagree with the post.
There is no right or wrong answer to any of it, just opinions, which can be read in a positive or negative way, depending what mood or train of thought the person reading it is in.
That's the way of life on the forums.
A good debate shows more about a person than a photo or a video.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Fabswingers.
The clue is in the name.
A site aimed at swingers, for swingers to meet and have sex. Some show what they get up to, some don't. That is at the users discretion and option offered by the site. Exhibitionists, voyeurs and alternative lifestyles make up the site. Without the galleries and profiles with photos and videos, or the chatrooms where people broadcsst their sexuality and shenanigans, the site wouldn't exist.
If this kind of lifestyle isn't for you, then maybe you're in the wrong place.
Live and let live.
Less judgement, more friendliness and fun "
Very well put! Defo live and let live in all aspects if this site x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I’m totally the same. Action shots on a single person’s profile is off putting to me also. But I don’t mind on a couples profile. Silly maybe but it’s just the way some of us feel. There is also the concern of the consent of the other person for sure |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *anae21Woman
over a year ago
Nearer than you think |
I agree with Annie.
My main concern is permission. If I meet a guy with that sort of photo/video content, how can I be sure I won't end up as a 'prop' on his profile?
I delete, and tell them why.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I think people read too much into people's intentions with video/ pics ect . You are assuming that they are showing off or permission when it could be both parties are exited by the fact its in the public domain but not completely out for the world to see .another reason a man's profile will be pulled apart by some and liked by others . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I agree with Annie.
My main concern is permission. If I meet a guy with that sort of photo/video content, how can I be sure I won't end up as a 'prop' on his profile?
I delete, and tell them why.
"
This. Permission has always been a red flag for me. Yes, I'm sure many single accounts - male AND female - have permission to show other folk in videos/photos. But let's not pretend it's 100%. Plenty of examples in the news, etc of folk (usually women) who have discovered themselves on adult sites without their permission.
I just like to err on the side of caution & will ask about such photos, if I find them. But mostly, I'll just scroll on by. As is my prerogative. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago
Visiting Blackpool |
"I agree with Annie.
My main concern is permission. If I meet a guy with that sort of photo/video content, how can I be sure I won't end up as a 'prop' on his profile?
I delete, and tell them why.
This. Permission has always been a red flag for me. Yes, I'm sure many single accounts - male AND female - have permission to show other folk in videos/photos. But let's not pretend it's 100%. Plenty of examples in the news, etc of folk (usually women) who have discovered themselves on adult sites without their permission.
I just like to err on the side of caution & will ask about such photos, if I find them. But mostly, I'll just scroll on by. As is my prerogative. "
We only assume permission has been given if they have a verification off the other person in the photos. It looks like there's hundreds of pics on here who are Ex's or Escorts who have no idea their pics are on a swinging site. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I agree with Annie.
My main concern is permission. If I meet a guy with that sort of photo/video content, how can I be sure I won't end up as a 'prop' on his profile?
I delete, and tell them why.
This. Permission has always been a red flag for me. Yes, I'm sure many single accounts - male AND female - have permission to show other folk in videos/photos. But let's not pretend it's 100%. Plenty of examples in the news, etc of folk (usually women) who have discovered themselves on adult sites without their permission.
I just like to err on the side of caution & will ask about such photos, if I find them. But mostly, I'll just scroll on by. As is my prerogative.
We only assume permission has been given if they have a verification off the other person in the photos. It looks like there's hundreds of pics on here who are Ex's or Escorts who have no idea their pics are on a swinging site."
There will always be people who show no respect to other people in this regard. The number of hot wife/ stag vixen/ Cuckhold couples displaying pics and videos of the other guy ( some most likely without consent) on there profiles is just as prevalent. Can we add those into the debate? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don't like pics of them fucking other women.
Nothing to do with jealousy .. just that 'he' seems to think that this woman - naked - whether full frontal or from the rear ..... turns me on ....
No she doesn't. And neither does the watch on the only part of you I can see...... maybe occassionally a glimpse of shaft on the way in ....
A vid would be worse.... all her jiggly bits and moaning ..... not my idea of sex "
As I often am, totally with you |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I agree with Annie.
My main concern is permission. If I meet a guy with that sort of photo/video content, how can I be sure I won't end up as a 'prop' on his profile?
I delete, and tell them why.
This. Permission has always been a red flag for me. Yes, I'm sure many single accounts - male AND female - have permission to show other folk in videos/photos. But let's not pretend it's 100%. Plenty of examples in the news, etc of folk (usually women) who have discovered themselves on adult sites without their permission.
I just like to err on the side of caution & will ask about such photos, if I find them. But mostly, I'll just scroll on by. As is my prerogative.
We only assume permission has been given if they have a verification off the other person in the photos. It looks like there's hundreds of pics on here who are Ex's or Escorts who have no idea their pics are on a swinging site.
There will always be people who show no respect to other people in this regard. The number of hot wife/ stag vixen/ Cuckhold couples displaying pics and videos of the other guy ( some most likely without consent) on there profiles is just as prevalent. Can we add those into the debate? "
I'd agree with that. Consent should be sought from anyone shown in photos or videos on fab profiles. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I agree with Annie.
My main concern is permission. If I meet a guy with that sort of photo/video content, how can I be sure I won't end up as a 'prop' on his profile?
I delete, and tell them why.
This. Permission has always been a red flag for me. Yes, I'm sure many single accounts - male AND female - have permission to show other folk in videos/photos. But let's not pretend it's 100%. Plenty of examples in the news, etc of folk (usually women) who have discovered themselves on adult sites without their permission.
I just like to err on the side of caution & will ask about such photos, if I find them. But mostly, I'll just scroll on by. As is my prerogative.
We only assume permission has been given if they have a verification off the other person in the photos. It looks like there's hundreds of pics on here who are Ex's or Escorts who have no idea their pics are on a swinging site.
There will always be people who show no respect to other people in this regard. The number of hot wife/ stag vixen/ Cuckhold couples displaying pics and videos of the other guy ( some most likely without consent) on there profiles is just as prevalent. Can we add those into the debate? "
I mentioned both male AND female accounts in my response, as I would find it an issue with both. Though I only tend to look at single male accounts.
Not singling out single men at all. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Umph nobody is into porn anymore and watching others have sex....
Not arsed what they have on show, up to them.
It'll be nice to see some lingerie wearing ladies in them sometimes, rather than completely naked - just a little request there, if I may |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
We all like different things 