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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

We always see posts on here from single guys asking why they don't get replies.

Yesterday we had a guy wink us. We said thanks.

He said he wanted to know if there was any chance of meeting.

We have a clear profile. Very clear.

We were simply being polite and replying for a change.

For the life of us we cannot figure out how being polite becomes 'We will change our choices just for you"

We were asked where we are as he regularly comes by the Midlands and would love to meet up. Why? We clearly say no single guys.

The guy, you know who you are. But there are LOADS like you.

And guys wonder why couples don't reply??

You really don't know??

Do lots of other people get this shit???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We ended up having to block single guys… which is really sad because there are lots that are lovely and we’d like to chat to… but it got overwhelming and some can be quite rude and nasty…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We find.. most see a picture and instantly send a message without reading our profile.. We get loads of messages directed straight to her..yet it clearly states on our profile, she never comes on here..because she has no interest in the admin side of swinging she leave all that to me.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

We have single guys blocked too.

The amount of messages that just don’t match our needs and wants is overwhelming at times. Much easier to block and find then ourselves. No one will ever change what someone is looking for.

Beard x

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

The shame is?

Why can't they just read and respect profiles.

Nothing wrong in making polite conversation, but they never leave it as that do they?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rightly or wrongly, I’m guessing that a lot of chaps would make the assumption that there was interest if they got a message response from a wink. Your options are to either not respond to the wink and block that person to prevent any more interaction, or block men entirely. There will always be those that skip to the pictures and press send message without thinking.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Tbh had this in the past, so I'd just ignore now to save this type of assumption.

Same when they send a compliment, if you reply, it inevitably ends up with them asking about meets etc.

On our couple account, we don't meet men,it's couples only, so we have them blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hope this isn’t going to turn into a pile-on for single men?

Some single men (and some couples for that matter) don’t read profiles and message regardless. I’ve learnt after a few months here to be VERY clear in my profile what I’m looking for. And what I’m not after and thus won’t reply to certain messages. I still get them of course, but I feel a lot better about not replying. It’s just the numbers. Lots of single men are absolutely fine and respectful.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s not just single guys, couples & females don’t read profiles either. You learn to skim, ignore and delete rather than replying, for an easier life.

My filters have been down two weeks now and I can’t wait to put them back up again and back to blissful inbox.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"Rightly or wrongly, I’m guessing that a lot of chaps would make the assumption that there was interest if they got a message response from a wink. Your options are to either not respond to the wink and block that person to prevent any more interaction, or block men entirely. There will always be those that skip to the pictures and press send message without thinking. "

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"I hope this isn’t going to turn into a pile-on for single men?

We are sure it will just be the truth, not a pile-on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hope this isn’t going to turn into a pile-on for single men?

We are sure it will just be the truth, not a pile-on."

And yet you’ve just said “are they all stupid?” - that seems unnecessarily combative.

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By *AYENCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Rather than get yourselves all unnecessarily wound up, just learn from the experience and in future, ignore winks, it's easy really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get a fair bit of mail from single guys.

I find it extremely easy to delete it unless it’s a forum friend or something interesting that inspires me to reply.

But not in a ghey way obviously.

The end.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like to think I read bios and be respectful in my messages. Rarely attatch a photo unless requested in profile. Still get ignored more than replied.

I'd rather be told they're not interested than simply dismissed.

I get that most couples, women will be inundated with messages but, still... its nice to be nice!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here?? "

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ?

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By *ydialovelaceTV/TS over a year ago

Devon

I have single men blocked as I don’t wish to meet them. That was simple.

However I get a large number of messages from couples that haven’t read my profile, should we vilify them too? They turn abusive pretty quick.

I am no way condoning rude or abusive messages, but they aren’t exclusively the preserve of single men.

I think most single men would prefer it if the people that did not meet them, blocked them. If you do wish to meet them, like I wish to meet couples, then unfortunately we have to accept a few bad apples when it comes to rejection.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ? "

Why would they wink? We don't like winks or single men. We can only assume they are stupid.

Or are they simply rude and arrogant thinking they can ignore what we say?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s seems that in this case, that if you find yourself getting bent out of shape because of it, just block the men.

Problem has now gone away.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ?

Why would they wink? We don't like winks or single men. We can only assume they are stupid.

Or are they simply rude and arrogant thinking they can ignore what we say?"

Are they really doing any harm in sending a wink ?

If you don’t like winks then why do you look and respond to them ?

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"It’s seems that in this case, that if you find yourself getting bent out of shape because of it, just block the men.

Problem has now gone away. "

Ah but that would be too easy much easier to come on here and give out about men than use the tools provided by the site that help your fab journey.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s seems that in this case, that if you find yourself getting bent out of shape because of it, just block the men.

Problem has now gone away. "

If they are getting this bent out of shape over receiving an internet wink on an anonymous sex site where they display naked pictures of themselves then I don’t think the problem is that simple to fix.

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By *lenderfoxMan over a year ago

Leeds

I'd suggest messaging someone who winks when you're not interested is sending mixed signals

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By *r SensualMan over a year ago

London

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ?

Why would they wink? We don't like winks or single men. We can only assume they are stupid.

Or are they simply rude and arrogant thinking they can ignore what we say?"

Not going to lie, these comments regarding men being stupid are just downright nasty and uncalled for. If you don’t like winks or single men messaging you, just put your filters up so none of us can message you, there’s a very simple solution to the problem. You can’t fault a man for replying to a message that you sent first off the back his wink.

If you block us, then not only can we not message but cannot send winks either.

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By *ydialovelaceTV/TS over a year ago

Devon

OP if you don’t like winks or messages from single guys, you could have used the site tools to block messages (which also blocks winks) from single men.

These tools have been created for your benefit, choosing not to use them, and then complaining you receive unwanted attention seems a little, how did you say………

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By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

It just makes it harder for us to meet if I get told thanx but no thanx I just us the block button so I don’t bother them again it’s simple

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman over a year ago

WSM

A wink doesn’t really require a response unless you are interested. I state I ignore winks yet still get many a day. I feel no guilt ignoring them. Messages however I try to reply unless they have obviously not read my profile, that is on them! There are many single men who are polite, read the profile and for whatever reason I’m not interested…. I will reply to those as I think it must be pretty deflating when they’ve done all they have been asked and get deleted. I never get hassle off those ones.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

And the award for todays having a pop at single guys goes to...

Easy solution suggestion

Block those genders you have no interest in contacting you. Saves any grief replying or not.

But wait comes the reply why should we we state it on our profile?

You can hope everyone alters their behaviour or you can control the controllables.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hopefully you'll reflect upon the experience and not send mixed messages in future

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Not sure why you’d reply to a wink…If we winked someone and they then sent a message of thanks, we’d see it as an invitation that there is some interest there.

Ignore winks from people you aren’t interested in and block single guys - saves you all the hassle.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

We respect everyone's opinions.

Of course, we are also entitiled to ours.

Are manners too much to ask for on this site??

Maybe it is.

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By *lenderfoxMan over a year ago

Leeds

"We respect everyone's opinions.

Of course, we are also entitiled to ours.

Are manners too much to ask for on this site??

Maybe it is.

Manners as in calling half the site stupid?

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"Not sure why you’d reply to a wink…If we winked someone and they then sent a message of thanks, we’d see it as an invitation that there is some interest there.

Ignore winks from people you aren’t interested in and block single guys - saves you all the hassle.

K "

So saying thanks is an expression of interest?

We were just thinking it was being polite.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We’re not all that bad, I would have a Conversation with you someone 1st not just jump in and ask for a meet, feel that’s kinda rude, you have to be on the same wavelength and these things take time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or am I wrong in saying that ???

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By *iddlesticksMan over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Manners maketh the person the say.

For the record, it wasn’t me, I was at home watching Emmerdale, you can ask my nan as she was making our tea, we had Frey Bentos Steak and Kidney pie and mash.

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ?

Why would they wink? We don't like winks or single men. We can only assume they are stupid.

Or are they simply rude and arrogant thinking they can ignore what we say?"

I’ve been here ten years. I very rarely send a message to anyone (half a dozen a year, if that). I always aim to read the profile fully, and only message if I get a strong feeling it will go down well.

Even then, there’s been occasions when l’ve sent something and gone “oh, bugger, I forget they said A, B or C”. It happens - probably because we all rush around far too fast these days and are Fabbing on our short breaks at work to relieve stress

I totally get single guys can be a pain - I have friends who’ve shown me the messages. I don’t think it rudeness or arrogance often, more being swept away by the wonders of Fab that are tantalisingly out of reach. More excitement and not thinking clearly and slowly, I guess.

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By *d4fun73Man over a year ago

Shipley

So here we are again slagging off single guys! The guy got a wink probably the only one he's had!

Attitude of couples lately has got worse they seem to think the swinging scene is just for them!

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"We respect everyone's opinions.

Of course, we are also entitiled to ours.

Are manners too much to ask for on this site??

Maybe it is.

Manners as in calling half the site stupid?"

Yeah but don't ya know.. manners don't apply to single guys.

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By *ak4uMan over a year ago

chelmsford

"We ended up having to block single guys… which is really sad because there are lots that are lovely and we’d like to chat to… but it got overwhelming and some can be quite rude and nasty…

Shame, your pics are amazing....

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Not sure why you’d reply to a wink…If we winked someone and they then sent a message of thanks, we’d see it as an invitation that there is some interest there.

Ignore winks from people you aren’t interested in and block single guys - saves you all the hassle.

So saying thanks is an expression of interest?

We were just thinking it was being polite."

It’s a response. A wink is an expression of interest - you responded and not in a negative way. So you’ve invited further contact.

If someone winked you in a pub and you didn’t fancy them would you go over and thank them?

No, same rules apply here.

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

You say no, they hear change my mind.

Same happens for me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not sure why you’d reply to a wink…If we winked someone and they then sent a message of thanks, we’d see it as an invitation that there is some interest there.

Ignore winks from people you aren’t interested in and block single guys - saves you all the hassle.

So saying thanks is an expression of interest?

We were just thinking it was being polite.

It’s a response. A wink is an expression of interest - you responded and not in a negative way. So you’ve invited further contact.

If someone winked you in a pub and you didn’t fancy them would you go over and thank them?

No, same rules apply here.

I think a lot of the problems on this site (and probably life in general) is that we all have slightly different ideas about what certain behaviors and even words mean. If we all took the time to think about why someone is behaving differently to how we feel they should and tried to understand that they my see what we have said and done in a different way to what we intended then there would likely be less annoyance at others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe you should put what you don't want, at the top of your profile or even put "No Single Men" in your title. It will be the first thing they'll see. Then you might not get so many messages from them. Just a suggestion OP x

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

"I'd suggest messaging someone who winks when you're not interested is sending mixed signals"

I have to agree with this

If you aren't interested in meeting the winker, ignore them. If you message they think they are in with a chance, and then because you have mailed them they can now bypass the no single male message filter in the future.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The site provides the options to block single men from contacting. Much easier to ignore a wink than to message and send out mixed signals.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A lot of heated threads this morning. There a shortage of wheetabix or something?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A lot of heated threads this morning. There a shortage of wheetabix or something? "
no but there is a shortage of Walker’s crisps!

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"The site provides the options to block single men from contacting. Much easier to ignore a wink than to message and send out mixed signals."

This is a thing.

Why would a thank you send mixed signals? Our profile sends any clear signals anyone needs.

We had a really nice guy compliment our photo, and accepted our thanks for just what it was.

We apologise. Not all men are stupid and rude. Just a lot of them.

The guy five minutes ago is why we leave channels open to chat.

Why can't everyone show the same manners?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can honestly say 100% i read ever profile before deciding to message.

Im not interested in males and make it clear on my profile yet i still occasionally get messages from males asking if i want a Bj, I don't reply and they get blocked straight away.

And i reckon its only the males do this, I can't see females having the same mindset.

Annoying yes but thats why the block feature is there.

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Maybe you should put what you don't want, at the top of your profile or even put "No Single Men" in your title. It will be the first thing they'll see. Then you might not get so many messages from them. Just a suggestion OP x"

I have single men only... Still get messages from married and attached men... lol

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"The site provides the options to block single men from contacting. Much easier to ignore a wink than to message and send out mixed signals.

This is a thing.

Why would a thank you send mixed signals? Our profile sends any clear signals anyone needs.

We had a really nice guy compliment our photo, and accepted our thanks for just what it was.

We apologise. Not all men are stupid and rude. Just a lot of them.

The guy five minutes ago is why we leave channels open to chat.

Why can't everyone show the same manners?"

I've actually found the majority of men are polite and respectful on here.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

"The site provides the options to block single men from contacting. Much easier to ignore a wink than to message and send out mixed signals.

This is a thing.

Why would a thank you send mixed signals? Our profile sends any clear signals anyone needs.

We had a really nice guy compliment our photo, and accepted our thanks for just what it was.

We apologise. Not all men are stupid and rude. Just a lot of them.

The guy five minutes ago is why we leave channels open to chat.

Why can't everyone show the same manners?

I've actually found the majority of men are polite and respectful on here. "

Agree with this, the majority that message me and I turn them down are often polite afterwards. Even the straight ones who haven’t read my profile either.

I don’t respond to winks from people I’m not interested in meeting, if I did, I’d expect they would think I was interested in them.

Thanks from a well crafted message then I’d understand, but from a wink, why bother ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The site provides the options to block single men from contacting. Much easier to ignore a wink than to message and send out mixed signals.

This is a thing.

Why would a thank you send mixed signals? Our profile sends any clear signals anyone needs.

We had a really nice guy compliment our photo, and accepted our thanks for just what it was.

We apologise. Not all men are stupid and rude. Just a lot of them.

The guy five minutes ago is why we leave channels open to chat.

Why can't everyone show the same manners?"

A quote from Beyond Purity a few replies above.

“It’s a response. A wink is an expression of interest - you responded and not in a negative way. So you’ve invited further contact.”

It would have been different in my opinion if you had thanked him and told him that you weren’t interested.

Regardless of what it says on your profile, you’ve messaged him off a wink and left it open. I’m just playing devils advocate but he doesn’t know if he’s an exception. He could have read your profile and chanced it or he might not have.

I think the mixed signal is that you have sent a message to someone that you have no interest in.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Perhaps we should have checkboxes with warnings/advice, before messages may be sent. You'd have to agree to the profile terms and conditions, including penalties

before sending.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow who would have imagined it would turn into a pile-on about single men.

Some people on the site are rude. Some people don’t read profiles. Lots of people are actually very nice and do read profiles. It takes a while to figure out how to use the site to enjoy it - fiddling with profile, filters and settings. Worth doing IMO.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps we should have checkboxes with warnings/advice, before messages may be sent. You'd have to agree to the profile terms and conditions, including penalties

before sending. "

There are warnings. If I try to send a message to someone who doesn’t want to meet women there’s a large warning. If you try to send a message to someone who hasn’t replied t your first message - also a warning.

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"Not sure why you’d reply to a wink…If we winked someone and they then sent a message of thanks, we’d see it as an invitation that there is some interest there.

Ignore winks from people you aren’t interested in and block single guys - saves you all the hassle.

So saying thanks is an expression of interest?

We were just thinking it was being polite.

It’s a response. A wink is an expression of interest - you responded and not in a negative way. So you’ve invited further contact.

If someone winked you in a pub and you didn’t fancy them would you go over and thank them?

No, same rules apply here.

Mr"

Absolutely

I had a major moment with this years after joining. I Fab quite a lot of photos - I do photography, so it’s partly that, but also just if they are a turn on.

To me it meant “that’s a photo I like”, nothing more. Years later, I realised that some people saw it as another way of registering interest, and were sometimes not happy about that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why would you even message someone to say thanks for sending you a wink? A wink is to gauge interest without the person having to send a message. By messaging them you’re suggesting that you want to start a conversation. If I was the dude that winked I’d say why you fucking messaging me then if you don’t want to start some sort of convo.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I was having a similar conversation yesterday. It’s very easy to become disillusioned with those that ignore profiles and are chancing things.

It’s the ones that you don’t hear from, the respectful ones that read, that follow preferences and accept distance or wants. The ones that you don’t hear from are ‘the good ones’.

It’s easy to dismiss guys as pestering and annoying but it’s in the silence that the music is found

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By *inkyeroticaCouple over a year ago

Ampthill

We are not looking for single guys, and state so clearly on our profile.

We don’t get many messages from single guys, but we get a few. One, quite recently acknowledged that while our profile stated we were not looking for single guys, perhaps he was the exception? Guess what, he wasn’t. Another, who sent a very detailed and polite message, admitted when asked the he was “trying his luck”. In most cases, single guys who send unsolicited messages trying to meet are blocked without reply.

Our experience suggests those single guys who message either haven’t read our profile, or have narcissistic tendencies and believe they are so exceptional that the rules and preferences don’t apply to them.

What people operating with that mindset don’t get is this: if you don’t accept our boundaries before a meet, how likely are you to accept them during a meet?

We have not blocked single guys from messaging us, as we don’t want to cut off social discourse such as forum activity.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was having a similar conversation yesterday. It’s very easy to become disillusioned with those that ignore profiles and are chancing things.

It’s the ones that you don’t hear from, the respectful ones that read, that follow preferences and accept distance or wants. The ones that you don’t hear from are ‘the good ones’.

It’s easy to dismiss guys as pestering and annoying but it’s in the silence that the music is found"

Can someone suck this guys dick please. Well said.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"Why would you even message someone to say thanks for sending you a wink? A wink is to gauge interest without the person having to send a message. By messaging them you’re suggesting that you want to start a conversation. If I was the dude that winked I’d say why you fucking messaging me then if you don’t want to start some sort of convo. "

If you were the gent winking us we could politely ask can't you fucking read??

Our profile clearly says no winks.

If a single guys wants to just say hi, then no worries.

But just read the fucking profile and respect it.

We felt the need to reply at the swearing level that the comment was made!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have single men only... Still get messages from married and attached men... lol"

Chancers! Lol x

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By *uboCouple over a year ago

East kilbride

"We always see posts on here from single guys asking why they don't get replies.

Yesterday we had a guy wink us. We said thanks.

He said he wanted to know if there was any chance of meeting.

We have a clear profile. Very clear.

We were simply being polite and replying for a change.

For the life of us we cannot figure out how being polite becomes 'We will change our choices just for you"

We were asked where we are as he regularly comes by the Midlands and would love to meet up. Why? We clearly say no single guys.

The guy, you know who you are. But there are LOADS like you.

And guys wonder why couples don't reply??

You really don't know??

Do lots of other people get this shit???"

It is quite common lol

First line of our profile is constantly ignored or not read. Either way we just delete. Not going to waste our time by replying

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By *otMe66Man over a year ago

Terra Firma

If you were the gent winking us we could politely ask can't you fucking read??

Our profile clearly says no winks.

If a single guys wants to just say hi, then no worries.

But just read the fucking profile and respect it.

We felt the need to reply at the swearing level that the comment was made!!"

You said you don't like single men, they are all stupid. No sorry, "not all but a lot are" but it is okay for them to message hi.

You said you don't want winks, no winks! Yet you replied to one. What has got your back up, is it because you didn't follow your own guidelines?

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By *orace 500Man over a year ago

ballincollig

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

If you were the gent winking us we could politely ask can't you fucking read??

Our profile clearly says no winks.

If a single guys wants to just say hi, then no worries.

But just read the fucking profile and respect it.

We felt the need to reply at the swearing level that the comment was made!!

You said you don't like single men, they are all stupid. No sorry, "not all but a lot are" but it is okay for them to message hi.

You said you don't want winks, no winks! Yet you replied to one. What has got your back up, is it because you didn't follow your own guidelines?

Strange. We don't like winks, we don't send them. Where do we not follow our own guidelines?

Are you half asleep??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Way to much moaning from single guys about not getting meets. Oh and from couples and females about the way single guys act.

Just blank idiotic behaviour as I thought this was about seeking fun friendship and laughs not wasting your time on idiots.

Live love laugh together and create amazing memories

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By *ollybirdWoman over a year ago

east Cork

Got a message from a gent yesterday. Last line was along the lines of if you don’t think we’d be a match and no need to reply best of luck on fab.

2 hours from same gent I get a message that said ‘fuck you’

Charming

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By *otMe66Man over a year ago

Terra Firma

If you were the gent winking us we could politely ask can't you fucking read??

Our profile clearly says no winks.

If a single guys wants to just say hi, then no worries.

But just read the fucking profile and respect it.

We felt the need to reply at the swearing level that the comment was made!!

You said you don't like single men, they are all stupid. No sorry, "not all but a lot are" but it is okay for them to message hi.

You said you don't want winks, no winks! Yet you replied to one. What has got your back up, is it because you didn't follow your own guidelines?

Strange. We don't like winks, we don't send them. Where do we not follow our own guidelines?

Are you half asleep??"

It seems you are the one that might be half asleep... Your original message states that you received a wink from single guy, you sent a reply to single guy. You don't like his reply and you need to let the world know you don't like it, even though you did everything you say you don't want or like. If I was the guy that messaged you and I read this, I would be thanking my lucky stars nothing came of that message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you were the gent winking us we could politely ask can't you fucking read??

Our profile clearly says no winks.

If a single guys wants to just say hi, then no worries.

But just read the fucking profile and respect it.

We felt the need to reply at the swearing level that the comment was made!!"

My comment still stands. Just seems to me like you wanted everyone to say yeah all single men are stupid but refuse to acknowledge that you sending a message to him was what prompted him to message you. As far as he was concerned he was done after sending the wink.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

If you were the gent winking us we could politely ask can't you fucking read??

Our profile clearly says no winks.

If a single guys wants to just say hi, then no worries.

But just read the fucking profile and respect it.

We felt the need to reply at the swearing level that the comment was made!!

You said you don't like single men, they are all stupid. No sorry, "not all but a lot are" but it is okay for them to message hi.

You said you don't want winks, no winks! Yet you replied to one. What has got your back up, is it because you didn't follow your own guidelines?

Strange. We don't like winks, we don't send them. Where do we not follow our own guidelines?

Are you half asleep??

That's great.

Thank your lucky stars all you want.

But it doesn’t take away from the original fact.

Respect our profile.

Honestly? We don't give a shit what single guys think of us.

Read the profile. Common manners.

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By *adyBugsWoman over a year ago

cognito

To be fair to the guy if you sent him a message on the back of a wink I can understand why he’d think you might have changed your mind about single guys.

A lot of profiles say they don’t meet single guys but then have strings of verifications from single men.

Maybe avoid future hassle by not reacting to winks or friend requests of single men.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

If you were the gent winking us we could politely ask can't you fucking read??

Our profile clearly says no winks.

If a single guys wants to just say hi, then no worries.

But just read the fucking profile and respect it.

We felt the need to reply at the swearing level that the comment was made!!

But we politely and clearly ask that people don't send winks.

Why not respect that? Or doesn't manners and respect mean anything on here??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP: Am I being unreasonable?

Everyone: Yes

OP: You’re all wrong....

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"To be fair to the guy if you sent him a message on the back of a wink I can understand why he’d think you might have changed your mind about single guys.

A lot of profiles say they don’t meet single guys but then have strings of verifications from single men.

Maybe avoid future hassle by not reacting to winks or friend requests of single men. "

We think that you are obviously right.

As we originally said, single men moan when they get ignored, yet any faint comment makes them think they have a chance of free sex.

Fuck them. We will join the ignorant crew. Ignore them.

Then they moan that no one replies. ....

Sad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Could it be that the man in question sent a wink and then read your profile? Thought shit better not disturb them cos they don’t want single men, I’m not gonna hear anything back because they specifically don’t want single men. But then you message him, he thinks oh maybe I’m an exception to their rule otherwise why would they take the time to message me when their profile specifically states they don’t want single men.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"OP: Am I being unreasonable?

Everyone: Yes

OP: You’re all wrong....

Everyone?

Does that mean that the people who actually have agreed with us don't count??

Expecting manners and respect are wrong now??

Crazy world hey!

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By *otMe66Man over a year ago

Terra Firma

If you were the gent winking us we could politely ask can't you fucking read??

Our profile clearly says no winks.

If a single guys wants to just say hi, then no worries.

But just read the fucking profile and respect it.

We felt the need to reply at the swearing level that the comment was made!!

You said you don't like single men, they are all stupid. No sorry, "not all but a lot are" but it is okay for them to message hi.

You said you don't want winks, no winks! Yet you replied to one. What has got your back up, is it because you didn't follow your own guidelines?

Strange. We don't like winks, we don't send them. Where do we not follow our own guidelines?

Are you half asleep??

That's great.

Thank your lucky stars all you want.

But it doesn’t take away from the original fact.

Respect our profile.

Honestly? We don't give a shit what single guys think of us.

Read the profile. Common manners."

the original fact is you responded to a wink from a single guy with a message, all of which you dislike.

You might not care what single guys think of you, but when you put your mixed messages out on a forum with anger, it is not just single guys that are forming an opinion of you.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"Could it be that the man in question sent a wink and then read your profile? Thought shit better not disturb them cos they don’t want single men, I’m not gonna hear anything back because they specifically don’t want single men. But then you message him, he thinks oh maybe I’m an exception to their rule otherwise why would they take the time to message me when their profile specifically states they don’t want single men. "

Could possibly be Annie.

But good manners would be to read the profile first.

Or would it??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Could possibly be Annie.

But good manners would be to read the profile first.

Or would it??"

Have a quick skim of my profile text and see if it implies in any way that I’m looking to meet or chat to anyone. Doesn’t stop the messages though but I do just ignore everyone apart from one or two super handsome guys that I explain I may want to meet them after Xmas is over. I have exceptions even to my own rules.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

If you were the gent winking us we could politely ask can't you fucking read??

Our profile clearly says no winks.

If a single guys wants to just say hi, then no worries.

But just read the fucking profile and respect it.

We felt the need to reply at the swearing level that the comment was made!!

You said you don't like single men, they are all stupid. No sorry, "not all but a lot are" but it is okay for them to message hi.

You said you don't want winks, no winks! Yet you replied to one. What has got your back up, is it because you didn't follow your own guidelines?

Strange. We don't like winks, we don't send them. Where do we not follow our own guidelines?

Are you half asleep??

That's great.

Thank your lucky stars all you want.

But it doesn’t take away from the original fact.

Respect our profile.

Honestly? We don't give a shit what single guys think of us.

Read the profile. Common manners.

the original fact is you responded to a wink from a single guy with a message, all of which you dislike.

You might not care what single guys think of you, but when you put your mixed messages out on a forum with anger, it is not just single guys that are forming an opinion of you. "

This is not in anger?

But honestly? ?

If people form an opinion of us because we ask for good behaviour then we would rather they didn't bother us anyone.

Funny thing though, loads have agreed in private.

So now we have more likeminded friends with likeminded manners.

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By *ockosaurusMan over a year ago

Warwick

Could possibly be Annie.

But good manners would be to read the profile first.

Or would it??"

Reading a profile is polite.

Responding to a message is polite.

He couldn't win.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

This post has certainly been an education.

It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

The general consensus seems to be just ignore it. Yet should it happen?

We are regulars at one of the best clibs in the UK. Obviously they attract a different level of people, who respect the choices of others.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

Could possibly be Annie.

But good manners would be to read the profile first.

Or would it??

Reading a profile is polite.

Responding to a message is polite.

He couldn't win. "

Round in circles.

Reading a profile is polite.

Respecting the clear choices in that same profile is good manners.

There wasn't anything to win.

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

If you were the gent winking us we could politely ask can't you fucking read??

Our profile clearly says no winks.

If a single guys wants to just say hi, then no worries.

But just read the fucking profile and respect it.

We felt the need to reply at the swearing level that the comment was made!!

But we politely and clearly ask that people don't send winks.

Why not respect that? Or doesn't manners and respect mean anything on here??

To be honest talking about manners and respect and speaking the way you do about men shows a complete lack of the aforementioned qualities.in yourselves.

And ye responded to a wink when you could have just ignored it.It doesn't even make any sense to respond to one if he wasn't what ye were looking for or ye don't like winks. Trying to take the higher ground when ye instigated the whole thing by responding to a wink is ridiculous.

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By *adyBugsWoman over a year ago

cognito

"To be fair to the guy if you sent him a message on the back of a wink I can understand why he’d think you might have changed your mind about single guys.

A lot of profiles say they don’t meet single guys but then have strings of verifications from single men.

Maybe avoid future hassle by not reacting to winks or friend requests of single men.

We think that you are obviously right.

As we originally said, single men moan when they get ignored, yet any faint comment makes them think they have a chance of free sex.

Fuck them. We will join the ignorant crew. Ignore them.

Then they moan that no one replies. ....

Sad."

You guys sound really very bitter about this simple misunderstanding.

Maybe you should take a moment and get a cuppa and relax. Then move on from the whole situation with a happier heart.

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Covent Garden

"It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here."

•

Then why don't you lead by example?

I've just read your profile and you've publicly named and insulted a Fabber by calling 'him' a "Twat" on your Status Update!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

•

Then why don't you lead by example?

I've just read your profile and you've publicly named and insulted a Fabber by calling 'him' a "Twat" on your Status Update!

But, Nero, they’re members of one of the best clubs, you know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I kinda don't get why you would reply to a wink... like someone who send your profile a wink isn't thinking christ I'd love a good political debate with these guys.

Ya he should know and respect your preferences But on the flip side I've often been approached by couples who state "no single males" so it happens every which way.

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By *ockosaurusMan over a year ago

Warwick

Could possibly be Annie.

But good manners would be to read the profile first.

Or would it??

Reading a profile is polite.

Responding to a message is polite.

He couldn't win.

Round in circles.

Reading a profile is polite.

Respecting the clear choices in that same profile is good manners.

There wasn't anything to win."

But your opening post says you replied because it's polite.

So he could have either been impolite by not replying to you, or impolite by not reading or ignoring your profile and replying.

So either way, he would have been impolite.

The only ways this situation could have been avoided was for you to not respond, for you to have responded with a better comment ("Thanks, but just letting you know we're not interested in single men"), or for you to just not let it get to you.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

Could possibly be Annie.

But good manners would be to read the profile first.

Or would it??

Reading a profile is polite.

Responding to a message is polite.

He couldn't win.

Round in circles.

Reading a profile is polite.

Respecting the clear choices in that same profile is good manners.

There wasn't anything to win.

But your opening post says you replied because it's polite.

So he could have either been impolite by not replying to you, or impolite by not reading or ignoring your profile and replying.

So either way, he would have been impolite.

No offence, but just to say the same thing again.

The polite thing would have been for the single guy to respect our profile and not wink.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

•

Then why don't you lead by example?

I've just read your profile and you've publicly named and insulted a Fabber by calling 'him' a "Twat" on your Status Update!

And your response to this comment? I notice you’ve deleted it now.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

•

Then why don't you lead by example?

I've just read your profile and you've publicly named and insulted a Fabber by calling 'him' a "Twat" on your Status Update!

But, Nero, they’re members of one of the best clubs, you know. "

Yes because he repeatedly tols us to fuck off then blocked us.

Going back to the club thing, behaviour that wouldn't last seconds over there.

But let's be honest. On here you don't have to face the consequences of rude behaviour, do you??

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

•

Then why don't you lead by example?

I've just read your profile and you've publicly named and insulted a Fabber by calling 'him' a "Twat" on your Status Update!

And your response to this comment? I notice you’ve deleted it now.

We didn't delete it. Admin chose it not to be acceptable.

Fair enough.

The chap is still what he is.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"To be fair to the guy if you sent him a message on the back of a wink I can understand why he’d think you might have changed your mind about single guys.

A lot of profiles say they don’t meet single guys but then have strings of verifications from single men.

Maybe avoid future hassle by not reacting to winks or friend requests of single men.

We think that you are obviously right.

As we originally said, single men moan when they get ignored, yet any faint comment makes them think they have a chance of free sex.

Fuck them. We will join the ignorant crew. Ignore them.

Then they moan that no one replies. ....

Sad.

You guys sound really very bitter about this simple misunderstanding.

Maybe you should take a moment and get a cuppa and relax. Then move on from the whole situation with a happier heart. "

Bitter, no.

Just disappointed at all the sad acceptance of bad behaviour on here.

How do you misunderstand a profile that is clear.

Oh yes, either don't read it, or just ignore it.

Like we said, sad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never helps when some peeps don’t spend time to read profile before contact.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Could possibly be Annie.

But good manners would be to read the profile first.

Or would it??

Reading a profile is polite.

Responding to a message is polite.

He couldn't win.

Round in circles.

Reading a profile is polite.

Respecting the clear choices in that same profile is good manners.

There wasn't anything to win.

But your opening post says you replied because it's polite.

So he could have either been impolite by not replying to you, or impolite by not reading or ignoring your profile and replying.

So either way, he would have been impolite.

No offence, but just to say the same thing again.

The polite thing would have been for the single guy to respect our profile and not wink.

As much as we all wish everyone catered to our exact desires on this site, its just not realistic your not special here. A wink is so harmless and definetly doesn't need a reply. A lot have people pointed this out to you. Just take it as a mistake and move on.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

Could possibly be Annie.

But good manners would be to read the profile first.

Or would it??

Reading a profile is polite.

Responding to a message is polite.

He couldn't win.

Round in circles.

Reading a profile is polite.

Respecting the clear choices in that same profile is good manners.

There wasn't anything to win.

But your opening post says you replied because it's polite.

So he could have either been impolite by not replying to you, or impolite by not reading or ignoring your profile and replying.

So either way, he would have been impolite.

No offence, but just to say the same thing again.

The polite thing would have been for the single guy to respect our profile and not wink.

But do you not see what people are saying, if you don’t like winks (even worse single men) then why respond with a message, which anyone might see as an opening of conversation. Best course of action is just to ignore winks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest 95% of single guys on here think that a swingers site is a gateway to oversexed, amoral, loose women that will drop their knickers for any troll that comes along.

None of them seem to understand or even want to take advice. So many couples just don't bother and block them.

It's shame for the genuine guys out there who do understand and know how to communicate civil way in order to meet others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

•

Then why don't you lead by example?

I've just read your profile and you've publicly named and insulted a Fabber by calling 'him' a "Twat" on your Status Update!

And your response to this comment? I notice you’ve deleted it now.

We didn't delete it. Admin chose it not to be acceptable.

Fair enough.

The chap is still what he is."

If he was abusive then report him. But that wasn’t in your OP. And tbh you’ve taken the wrong approach to gain any sympathy when you’ve complained at length at being winked at.

He is still what he is and you’ve shown yourself too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be honest 95% of single guys on here think that a swingers site is a gateway to oversexed, amoral, loose women that will drop their knickers for any troll that comes along.

None of them seem to understand or even want to take advice. So many couples just don't bother and block them.

It's shame for the genuine guys out there who do understand and know how to communicate civil way in order to meet others.

It's not a shame for genuine guys.

It actually lowers the bar and expectation. I only have to act half normal to pass as sane here.

Block and ignore is 100% the right thing to do.

That didn't happen here though which is half the problem

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By *orace 500Man over a year ago

ballincollig

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

•

Then why don't you lead by example?

I've just read your profile and you've publicly named and insulted a Fabber by calling 'him' a "Twat" on your Status Update!

And your response to this comment? I notice you’ve deleted it now.

We didn't delete it. Admin chose it not to be acceptable.

Fair enough.

The chap is still what he is.

If he was abusive then report him. But that wasn’t in your OP. And tbh you’ve taken the wrong approach to gain any sympathy when you’ve complained at length at being winked at.

He is still what he is and you’ve shown yourself too. "

Honestly? We aren't looking for sympathy on here. We learnt a long time ago that the people on the Forum are capable of arguing black is white.

But the people who have already contacted us?

Well it was worth it just for that.

Quite simply, we have made some new friends today, and put people off who we don't want to be friends with.

Win win.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We also always see threads or posts justifying why single profiles don’t get replies….

In fairness op, your right. People will fancy their chances and try anyway, who knows? They may think they will catch you off guard or ‘in the mood’ or something. Just ignore and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We always see posts on here from single guys asking why they don't get replies.

Yesterday we had a guy wink us. We said thanks.

He said he wanted to know if there was any chance of meeting.

We have a clear profile. Very clear.

We were simply being polite and replying for a change.

For the life of us we cannot figure out how being polite becomes 'We will change our choices just for you"

We were asked where we are as he regularly comes by the Midlands and would love to meet up. Why? We clearly say no single guys.

The guy, you know who you are. But there are LOADS like you.

And guys wonder why couples don't reply??

You really don't know??

Do lots of other people get this shit???"

Few tips one if a single man winks at you and your not looking for single men don't reply.

Two and here's the big one if your going to kick off in here about him asking questions after you answer his wink then set your filter to block single men winking and messaging you.

By the look of things you don't have a clue how the site works or what your doing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Blimey. The chips have been well and truly pissed on here. I’d maybe just take a step back and calm your beans OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not a shame for genuine guys.

It actually lowers the bar and expectation. I only have to act half normal to pass as sane here. "

Our bar and expectations remain where they these are never lowered.... lol

define sane or normal?

no lets not go there

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By *orace 500Man over a year ago

ballincollig

"This post has certainly been an education.

It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

The general consensus seems to be just ignore it. Yet should it happen?

We are regulars at one of the best clibs in the UK. Obviously they attract a different level of people, who respect the choices of others. "
I often wonder how far up ones own arse can one get ones head.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not a shame for genuine guys.

It actually lowers the bar and expectation. I only have to act half normal to pass as sane here.

Our bar and expectations remain where they these are never lowered.... lol

define sane or normal?

no lets not go there

Ah ffs I had my wall charts and thumbtacs at the ready....

Seriously though I've never found the actions of (I'd argue the 95% figure) the bad apples impacted how people treat me. If anything as I said it's easier to stand put from those people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This post has certainly been an education.

It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

The general consensus seems to be just ignore it. Yet should it happen?

We are regulars at one of the best clibs in the UK. Obviously they attract a different level of people, who respect the choices of others. "

Your both pushing 60 and not photo verified is it a bingo club

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This post has certainly been an education.

It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

The general consensus seems to be just ignore it. Yet should it happen?

We are regulars at one of the best clibs in the UK. Obviously they attract a different level of people, who respect the choices of others.

Your both pushing 60 and not photo verified is it a bingo club

What a line.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"We find.. most see a picture and instantly send a message without reading our profile..

We get loads of messages directed straight to her..yet it clearly states on our profile..."

This.

So many fail to bother to read the writing to find out what couples are looking for,

just see the pics and want, and mindlessly message

then get offended and nasty when not getting a yes, ok

block and delete, every time.

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By *inkyeroticaCouple over a year ago

Ampthill

Within the past hour we have had a wink and friend request from a single guy. Our profile states, clearly, we are not looking for single guys. It also states unsolicited friend requests without prior conversation are not accepted. We also make it clear we are not 420 friendly and those who are would be better served looking elsewhere. This guy failed on all three counts.

Did we send a message to him explaining this? No, because if her cared to read the profile he’d know he was wasting his time. So either he didn’t read or thinks he is the exception to the rule. So, we block.

Does that help at all OP?

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By *agerMorganMan over a year ago

Canvey Island

This is the reason why I’ve stopped messaging altogether now and just drop into the forums now & then.

The amount of complaints people post about single guys just not reading, or heeding, to what’s being put in profiles is severely off putting and not wanting to get lumped in with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Did I read correctly, that he winked you and as a result you messaged him?

That's where the confusion lies.

A wink is just to draw attention to ones profile, if you're not interested, ignore.

Opening up a conversation could easily suggest you may be willing to go against what your profile states.

There are many here stating on their profile they're not seeking single guys, in order to avoid so many messages, where in reality they send the first message to any they do have interest in.

There's the confusion, your message came across as a conversation starter rather than a thank you to a wink, as that's far more rare

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"This is the reason why I’ve stopped messaging altogether now and just drop into the forums now & then.

The amount of complaints people post about single guys just not reading, or heeding, to what’s being put in profiles is severely off putting and not wanting to get lumped in with them.

Wise move.

Good behaviour pays off.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"This post has certainly been an education.

It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

The general consensus seems to be just ignore it. Yet should it happen?

We are regulars at one of the best clibs in the UK. Obviously they attract a different level of people, who respect the choices of others.

Your both pushing 60 and not photo verified is it a bingo club

Funny.

It is Xtasia, the best club in the UK.

Most people on here can get the bollocks photo verification, that is easy.

But being verified by the owners of a club like Xtasia??

We know which one we would find most funny if we had to!!

Enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you do not want/rate winks why even look at them in the first place let alone respond, then get yourself in a right tizzy over it, doesn't sit with the laid back description in your profile.

Stick to your club, perhaps less angst for you.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"This post has certainly been an education.

It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

The general consensus seems to be just ignore it. Yet should it happen?

We are regulars at one of the best clibs in the UK. Obviously they attract a different level of people, who respect the choices of others.

Your both pushing 60 and not photo verified is it a bingo club

Aahh yes, we get it now.

The username. He is a great joker.

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By *otMe66Man over a year ago

Terra Firma

"This is the reason why I’ve stopped messaging altogether now and just drop into the forums now & then.

The amount of complaints people post about single guys just not reading, or heeding, to what’s being put in profiles is severely off putting and not wanting to get lumped in with them.

Wise move.

Good behaviour pays off."

I'm not sure if your responses are a lack self awareness, or if you have a way of communicating that projects your illusory superiority.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"This is the reason why I’ve stopped messaging altogether now and just drop into the forums now & then.

The amount of complaints people post about single guys just not reading, or heeding, to what’s being put in profiles is severely off putting and not wanting to get lumped in with them.

Wise move.

Good behaviour pays off.

I'm not sure if your responses are a lack self awareness, or if you have a way of communicating that projects your illusory superiority.

Superiority?

Nope. We are what we are.

But if someone feels inferior we cannot help that.

Most entertaining afternoon!

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By *otMe66Man over a year ago

Terra Firma

"This is the reason why I’ve stopped messaging altogether now and just drop into the forums now & then.

The amount of complaints people post about single guys just not reading, or heeding, to what’s being put in profiles is severely off putting and not wanting to get lumped in with them.

Wise move.

Good behaviour pays off.

I'm not sure if your responses are a lack self awareness, or if you have a way of communicating that projects your illusory superiority.

Superiority?

Nope. We are what we are.

But if someone feels inferior we cannot help that.

Most entertaining afternoon!"

Illusory superiority...You missed off a key word which is at least consistent.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"This is the reason why I’ve stopped messaging altogether now and just drop into the forums now & then.

The amount of complaints people post about single guys just not reading, or heeding, to what’s being put in profiles is severely off putting and not wanting to get lumped in with them.

Wise move.

Good behaviour pays off.

I'm not sure if your responses are a lack self awareness, or if you have a way of communicating that projects your illusory superiority.

Superiority?

Nope. We are what we are.

But if someone feels inferior we cannot help that.

Most entertaining afternoon!

Illusory superiority...You missed off a key word which is at least consistent. "

We understand. Like we said, very entertaining. Getting better by the minute!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This post has certainly been an education.

It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

The general consensus seems to be just ignore it. Yet should it happen?

We are regulars at one of the best clibs in the UK. Obviously they attract a different level of people, who respect the choices of others.

Your both pushing 60 and not photo verified is it a bingo club

Funny.

It is Xtasia, the best club in the UK.

Most people on here can get the bollocks photo verification, that is easy.

But being verified by the owners of a club like Xtasia??

We know which one we would find most funny if we had to!!

Enjoy."

Am sure thay will be very happy with the advertising your giving them on this thread.

And all clubs hand out verifications it's the hot couples only private party's that most look at as bragging rights

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just messaged the club your bragging about sure they will be interested in reading this thread and one of my list of places I might go thanks for letting me know the sort of people that go there.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"Just messaged the club your bragging about sure they will be interested in reading this thread and one of my list of places I might go thanks for letting me know the sort of people that go there.

Good for you!!

Superstar. See you there.

And your next joke??

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"Just messaged the club your bragging about sure they will be interested in reading this thread and one of my list of places I might go thanks for letting me know the sort of people that go there.

You called our club a bingo club.

Who has the loud mouth hey??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just messaged the club your bragging about sure they will be interested in reading this thread and one of my list of places I might go thanks for letting me know the sort of people that go there.

Good for you!!

Superstar. See you there.

And your next joke??"

It's not a joke single men are most clubs cash cow and even some couples will be put off by some of the things you have said

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Meanwhile in other news..

The topic of people(not just single guys) not reading profiles has been covered soo9oooooooooo many times before.

Always ends up with two general positions.

1. They should read and accept whats stated.

P.S. The folk posting on the forum aren't the people that don't read or respect the wishes.

2. site provides tools that we and you can cchoose to use or not.

I choose to use the tools makes things easier.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"This post has certainly been an education.

It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

The general consensus seems to be just ignore it. Yet should it happen?

We are regulars at one of the best clibs in the UK. Obviously they attract a different level of people, who respect the choices of others.

Your both pushing 60 and not photo verified is it a bingo club

Funny.

It is Xtasia, the best club in the UK.

Most people on here can get the bollocks photo verification, that is easy.

But being verified by the owners of a club like Xtasia??

We know which one we would find most funny if we had to!!

Enjoy."

Can you confirm you've been to every club in the UK, or is Xtasia the "best in the UK" because it happens to be on your doorstep?

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"This post has certainly been an education.

It is surprising just how many people think that bad manners are acceptable on here.

The general consensus seems to be just ignore it. Yet should it happen?

We are regulars at one of the best clibs in the UK. Obviously they attract a different level of people, who respect the choices of others.

Your both pushing 60 and not photo verified is it a bingo club

Funny.

It is Xtasia, the best club in the UK.

Most people on here can get the bollocks photo verification, that is easy.

But being verified by the owners of a club like Xtasia??

We know which one we would find most funny if we had to!!

Enjoy.

Can you confirm you've been to every club in the UK, or is Xtasia the "best in the UK" because it happens to be on your doorstep?"

What an intelligent comment.

The reviews speak for themselves.

Take a read.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ?

Why would they wink? We don't like winks or single men. We can only assume they are stupid.

Or are they simply rude and arrogant thinking they can ignore what we say?"

And yet stupidly, you chose to message rather than ignore.

Then bring it to the forum like it was a big deal.

Are you New to the internet and/or social media platforms?

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ?

Why would they wink? We don't like winks or single men. We can only assume they are stupid.

Or are they simply rude and arrogant thinking they can ignore what we say?

And yet stupidly, you chose to message rather than ignore.

Then bring it to the forum like it was a big deal.

Are you New to the internet and/or social media platforms?"

Yes. Brand new.

Manners aren't new though, are they?

Even from couples it seems...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just messaged the club your bragging about sure they will be interested in reading this thread and one of my list of places I might go thanks for letting me know the sort of people that go there.

Phone that was off my list of places might go

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By *orace 500Man over a year ago

ballincollig

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ?

Why would they wink? We don't like winks or single men. We can only assume they are stupid.

Or are they simply rude and arrogant thinking they can ignore what we say?

And yet stupidly, you chose to message rather than ignore.

Then bring it to the forum like it was a big deal.

Are you New to the internet and/or social media platforms?

Yes. Brand new.

Manners aren't new though, are they?

Even from couples it seems..."
How dare they question such a refined mannerly couple. Shame on them all. Tut tut.

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By *hunkymonkey81Man over a year ago

Sheffield

Single guy code

Dont push things ppl will get in touch after reading profiles

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ?

Why would they wink? We don't like winks or single men. We can only assume they are stupid.

Or are they simply rude and arrogant thinking they can ignore what we say?

And yet stupidly, you chose to message rather than ignore.

Then bring it to the forum like it was a big deal.

Are you New to the internet and/or social media platforms?

Yes. Brand new.

Manners aren't new though, are they?

Even from couples it seems... How dare they question such a refined mannerly couple. Shame on them all. Tut tut."

Honestly?

We don't give a shit.

Just makes sure that our block list gets bigger and bigger.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How would he know what you were looking for, or not? You know he didn't read your profile... Even when they say, I loved your profile, I know it was never even skimmed... Photos, is how you spell photos... There is no f in it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ?

Why would they wink? We don't like winks or single men. We can only assume they are stupid.

Or are they simply rude and arrogant thinking they can ignore what we say?

And yet stupidly, you chose to message rather than ignore.

Then bring it to the forum like it was a big deal.

Are you New to the internet and/or social media platforms?

Yes. Brand new.

Manners aren't new though, are they?

Even from couples it seems... How dare they question such a refined mannerly couple. Shame on them all. Tut tut.

Honestly?

We don't give a shit.

Just makes sure that our block list gets bigger and bigger."

If I were you would just stop your not putting the club your so proud of in a good light and being rude to single men is one thing on here but rude to couples.

Your not privet messaging the whole of fab can read this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ?

Why would they wink? We don't like winks or single men. We can only assume they are stupid.

Or are they simply rude and arrogant thinking they can ignore what we say?

And yet stupidly, you chose to message rather than ignore.

Then bring it to the forum like it was a big deal.

Are you New to the internet and/or social media platforms?

Yes. Brand new.

Manners aren't new though, are they?

Even from couples it seems..."

I take it you're posting your replies with your eyes closed?

You are coming across very rude, to say the least.

The hypocrisy you express is embarrassing.

To be straight, it seems to me you messaged a guy that winked you to look for an argument.

May I suggest you delete that you're a laid back couple, because the one posting certainly isn't.

Though that's evident in your profile.

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By *inkyeroticaCouple over a year ago

Ampthill

"Just makes sure that our block list gets bigger and bigger."

Just yours?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is great entertainment. How long can it keep going?

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Hmmmmm….. so what have I learnt in this thread…

A) filters….. the site provides them… how about using them?

B) men…. Bad… but some men show they are different by running over other men in the big old bus!

C) all people think they are the exception… except they aren’t! Men when looking for couples, couples when looking for women,

D) whole bunch of Totum pole politics going on here

Did I miss much…..

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"Just makes sure that our block list gets bigger and bigger.

Just yours?"

We don't care about anyone else's.

Whoever choses to block us would be doing us a favour.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just makes sure that our block list gets bigger and bigger.

Just yours?

We don't care about anyone else's.

Whoever choses to block us would be doing us a favour."

More like they are doing themselves a favour and avoiding a very unsavoury couple!

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Covent Garden

"This is great entertainment. How long can it keep going? "

•

It depends upon the size of your popcorn container.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This goes both ways tho we are only looking for single guys in our age range, yet we get alot of messages off older couples insisting we meet them so they can "show us the ropes" safe to say they go to our block list.

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"Just makes sure that our block list gets bigger and bigger.

Just yours?

We don't care about anyone else's.

Whoever choses to block us would be doing us a favour.

More like they are doing themselves a favour and avoiding a very unsavoury couple! "

Unsavoury? The feeling is totally mutual.

Loving this by the minute!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is great entertainment. How long can it keep going?

•

It depends upon the size of your popcorn container.

Will there be a part 2

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

He probably thought that maybe you might be interested after getting a reply from the wink, he might have read your profile but thought he would try anyway as it's just a wink.

I've met people that say they won't meet smokers, even had a relationship with someone that said they won't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m quite childish

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

"I like to think I read bios and be respectful in my messages. Rarely attatch a photo unless requested in profile. Still get ignored more than replied.

I'd rather be told they're not interested than simply dismissed.

I get that most couples, women will be inundated with messages but, still... its nice to be nice! "

Yes of course we should all be nice all of the time

However, if every day you received unwanted messages from gay/bi men (which you clearly aren't interested in) how many weeks/months/years would you keep replying politely to them? The problem here is that females and couples suffer from this issue far more than guys do. They also have a lot more choice. That explains the relative expressions of tolerance.

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Covent Garden

"This is great entertainment. How long can it keep going?

•

It depends upon the size of your popcorn container.

Will there be a part 2

•

Mate, it's going to be a trilogy - "Lord of the anal-Rings".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP did you start this simply to have a row with people?

Thank you for all the contributors who have offered their support to the single guys.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I like to think I read bios and be respectful in my messages. Rarely attatch a photo unless requested in profile. Still get ignored more than replied.

I'd rather be told they're not interested than simply dismissed.

I get that most couples, women will be inundated with messages but, still... its nice to be nice!

Yes of course we should all be nice all of the time

I like to think I am a problem solver….

So if you want to filter people…

and the site gives you the option to filter people…

How about using the filter to filter the people you want to filter…..

I know…. Mind…. Blown!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let’s all wink at them.

Join me in winking.

If they self combust then it was meli’s idea first.

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Let’s all wink at them.

Join me in winking.

If they self combust then it was meli’s idea first."

•

I don't think Melí has the eloquence to be so vituperative.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simple question. Are they all stupid??

That is a ridiculous assumption.

There is a 'NO' in the profile. If this was a club and face to face, a guy behaving like this would be thrown out.

If it was in a pub, and someone wouldn't take no for an answer, then it could well end up nasty.

Is it because they can hide behind a screen here??

Any need for that first line ?

It is an assumption yes, rightly or wrongly, but you opened the line of communication by responding to a wink. If they are not what you are looking for why would you do that ? "

No interested for what ever reason. Don not communicate.

I just keep deleting and Blocking,it's so far easier.

People have no time for some,treat them the very same way.

The Ocean is very vast. Keep swimming.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Let’s all wink at them.

Join me in winking.

If they self combust then it was meli’s idea first.

•

I don't think Melí has the eloquence to be so vituperative.

*for the purpose of the thread I have a blank expression*

Google’s…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Let’s all wink at them.

Join me in winking.

If they self combust then it was meli’s idea first.

•

I don't think Melí has the eloquence to be so vituperative.

*for the purpose of the thread I have a blank expression*

Google’s…"

vituperative-‘bitter and abusive.’

Hey… I’m just being mischievous.

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

So am I getting this right....

Guy winks...

You reply to guy who winked to say thanks for wink, even though you don't like said winks and guy is not what you're looking for.....

Getting all antsy because guy gets peeved because you messaged but not interested?....

I clearly state no friends requests without talking first, but I'm not gonna engage in a conversation to say thanks for the friends request to someone I'm not interested in as I'm then contradicting myself by engaging in conversation

and confusion ensues....

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By *pandda OP Couple over a year ago

West Mids

"Let’s all wink at them.

Join me in winking.

If they self combust then it was meli’s idea first."

We won’t self combust.

But every winker is just surely yet another wanker who rudely ignores profiles.

Like the rhyming words!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I mean I read people's profiles and sometimes just have chats with people but if I am interested I just send a wink to see if there is mutual interest or if they are open to chat maybe I am to polite lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Let’s all wink at them.

Join me in winking.

If they self combust then it was meli’s idea first.

We won’t self combust.

But every winker is just surely yet another wanker who rudely ignores profiles.

Like the rhyming words!! "

I’m knocking one out as we speak.

I still haven’t read your profile though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There might be a workable strategy here.....

I hate single women and I hate winks.....

Now just a matter of waiting...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I mean guys like me the genuine guys who read profiles and do everything the profile asks for in a message. We still do not get a reply so it is a lose lose situation for us single guys as we all get tarred with the same brush.

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By *tasiaCouple over a year ago

West Bromwich

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There might be a workable strategy here.....

I hate single women and I hate winks.....

Now just a matter of waiting..."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh celebrities

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"There might be a workable strategy here.....

I hate single women and I hate winks.....

Now just a matter of waiting..."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So am I getting this right....

Guy winks...

You reply to guy who winked to say thanks for wink, even though you don't like said winks and guy is not what you're looking for.....

Getting all antsy because guy gets peeved because you messaged but not interested?....

and confusion ensues...."

And I don’t think you’d start a thread to have a go at single men as the OP has!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aghhhhhhhh winks, no winks, conversation, no conversation, don’t friend me, friend me!!! First world problems lol

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"So am I getting this right....

Guy winks...

You reply to guy who winked to say thanks for wink, even though you don't like said winks and guy is not what you're looking for.....

Getting all antsy because guy gets peeved because you messaged but not interested?....

and confusion ensues....

And I don’t think you’d start a thread to have a go at single men as the OP has! "

bingo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Final word.

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