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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?

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By *asmeenTV/TS  over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I have friends like you

My response

What

Human

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?"

Not quite as bad as 'I'm not a racist but..."

Mine are: 'Let me be clear....". "The fact is..."

"As I've said....". All often used by politicians when asked questions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I have friends like you

My response

What

Human "

Oh god yes. Annoyingly I've had friends like that

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By *asmeenTV/TS  over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I have friends like you

My response

What

Human

Oh god yes. Annoyingly I've had friends like that "

X yet they want to come round mine for meals

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex

No words make me want to punch people's teeth out but if someone says "I'm proud to say I call a spade a spade" or "I speak the truth offend or please" I know it's going to be followed by completely uneccessary and potentially hurtful observations about my appearance, personality or personal possessions and they have truth and opinion confused.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No words make me want to punch people's teeth out but if someone says "I'm proud to say I call a spade a spade" or "I speak the truth offend or please" I know it's going to be followed by completely uneccessary and potentially hurtful observations about my appearance, personality or personal possessions and they have truth and opinion confused."

I am what I am take me or leave me -left…

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Not quite as bad as 'I'm not a racist but..."

Mine are: 'Let me be clear....". "The fact is..."

"As I've said....". All often used by politicians when asked questions. "

Let me be clear on this point. The fact is, if someone says these things before they say something, they are desperate to assert whatever authority they have at the start because know they'd lose the argument otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Not exactly a slapping offence but people who start a statement with "Basically,.." and then proceed to give a long form explanation of a thing.

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By *ocothumpaMan  over a year ago

quite close to you


"No words make me want to punch people's teeth out but if someone says "I'm proud to say I call a spade a spade" or "I speak the truth offend or please" I know it's going to be followed by completely uneccessary and potentially hurtful observations about my appearance, personality or personal possessions and they have truth and opinion confused."

People who say that are usually the type of people who are the easily offended with the truth

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By *andyfloss2000Woman  over a year ago

ashford

One that boiled my piss my ex used to say I'm not racist one on my good friends is black! He was one of biggest racist/bigots I've ever known x

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Not exactly a slapping offence but people who start a statement with "Basically,.." and then proceed to give a long form explanation of a thing."

Oh! And people who say "Do you know what I mean" after everything they say when what they mean is completely obvious. Do you know what I mean?

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No. I just think it says more about the speaker. Data is useful

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By *dquestCouple  over a year ago

Peterborough

Needless to say...

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By *tephTV67TV/TS  over a year ago

Cheshire

The youth of today or claiming they’re snowflakes or woke etc…

Anyone decrying the younger generation. It was done to us when we were teenagers and I always wanted to ensure I didn’t do the same.

Younger generation than mine fought in Iraq and Afghanistan, student debt, housing ladder, gig economy, online bullying etc..

All shit I didn’t have to go through (my stint in the Army worst posting was Northern Ireland)

So anyone slagging off the young.

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The youth of today or claiming they’re snowflakes or woke etc…

Anyone decrying the younger generation. It was done to us when we were teenagers and I always wanted to ensure I didn’t do the same.

Younger generation than mine fought in Iraq and Afghanistan, student debt, housing ladder, gig economy, online bullying etc..

All shit I didn’t have to go through (my stint in the Army worst posting was Northern Ireland)

So anyone slagging off the young. "

I find the woke and snowflake thing hilarious

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Not another talking head!

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By *ack688Man  over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

As the saying goes, you can ignore anything in a sentence before the word ‘but’

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By *ed VoluptaWoman  over a year ago

Wirral.

I don't mean to be rude, but.....

Or

I completely agree with you. However....

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By *ack688Man  over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Also, after any particularly virulent and offensive remark, ‘I’m just having a laugh, it’s not my fault you can’t take a joke’ as said by every narcissistic, abusive bully the world over. Sadly, I see that type of comment in the forum far too often, especially aimed at women standing up for themselves.

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By *ce WingerMan  over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Oh! And people who say "Do you know what I mean" after everything they say when what they mean is completely obvious. Do you know what I mean?"

My mate does that, as well as "You know what I'm saying", and "You get me. It gets a bit tiresome after a while

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Also, after any particularly virulent and offensive remark, ‘I’m just having a laugh, it’s not my fault you can’t take a joke’ as said by every narcissistic, abusive bully the world over. Sadly, I see that type of comment in the forum far too often, especially aimed at women standing up for themselves. "

Mmhm.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple  over a year ago

Maidstone

‘No offence, but....’ followed by something intentionally offensive.

People who say ‘right’ or ‘like’ after every sentence also irritate me.

And ‘shall I be honest?’... who has ever replied with ‘no, please lie to me’?! Other than Judge Rinder.

Lou x

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?"

Instantly want to punch someone's teeth out.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple  over a year ago

Lincoln

There a good comic on this, Google "the racist butt"

LvM

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By *inkylipsWoman  over a year ago

Debauchery


"Not exactly a slapping offence but people who start a statement with "Basically,.." and then proceed to give a long form explanation of a thing."

I think I maybe guilty of this

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS  over a year ago

Carlisle

They are usually racist when they say that. Absolute scummy people

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By *ooBulMan  over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

I'm not criticising but.....

Fuck off! You're going to tear me a new arse-hole ya lying git.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple  over a year ago

Lincoln

I know you're not meeting men, but...

K

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Not being funny, but...

You just know what ever comes next isn't going to be nice

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By *ack688Man  over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)


"I know you're not meeting men, but...

K"

Haha, that made me laugh!

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"No words make me want to punch people's teeth out but if someone says "I'm proud to say I call a spade a spade" or "I speak the truth offend or please" I know it's going to be followed by completely uneccessary and potentially hurtful observations about my appearance, personality or personal possessions and they have truth and opinion confused."

So true. Though I also hate "just my opinion" used as though it's a cover to say anything they like, no matter how unpleasant, rude or disrespectful. Especially when they then get upset about people having different opinions .

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By *yron69Man  over a year ago

Fareham

I’m married to a black woman. I have a stack of black family and friends. In no way are they as hung up about names etc like white folk.

What they get upset about is sla very and institutional racism.

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By *immyinreadingMan  over a year ago

henley on thames


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?"

“I’m not racist but ...” is hard to beat.

“No offence, but ...” is an attempt for the speaker to clear themselves of any charges of causing offence, before saying something that they clearly know is offensive.

“I’m not being funnaaayyyyy” is closely related.

And one that usually deserves a kick in the balls is “it’s only bantah”, again, someone exonerating themselves for saying something they know is offensive

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By *asmeenTV/TS  over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I'm not one to gossip but

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?

“I’m not racist but ...” is hard to beat.

“No offence, but ...” is an attempt for the speaker to clear themselves of any charges of causing offence, before saying something that they clearly know is offensive.

“I’m not being funnaaayyyyy” is closely related.

And one that usually deserves a kick in the balls is “it’s only bantah”, again, someone exonerating themselves for saying something they know is offensive "

With respect....

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By *immyinreadingMan  over a year ago

henley on thames

“My truth” is often used when someone knows they are talking shit and that their version of events doesn’t tally with anyone else’s. But they want to portray it as the truth, so lob it in as “my truth”.

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?

“I’m not racist but ...” is hard to beat.

“No offence, but ...” is an attempt for the speaker to clear themselves of any charges of causing offence, before saying something that they clearly know is offensive.

“I’m not being funnaaayyyyy” is closely related.

And one that usually deserves a kick in the balls is “it’s only bantah”, again, someone exonerating themselves for saying something they know is offensive

With respect.... "

Closely followed by

With the greatest of respect

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"The youth of today or claiming they’re snowflakes or woke etc…

Anyone decrying the younger generation. It was done to us when we were teenagers and I always wanted to ensure I didn’t do the same.

Younger generation than mine fought in Iraq and Afghanistan, student debt, housing ladder, gig economy, online bullying etc..

All shit I didn’t have to go through (my stint in the Army worst posting was Northern Ireland)

So anyone slagging off the young. "

I've never even thought about this. I have friends with PTSD from Afghanistan after watching their friends die but we always get mocked as "pathetic millenials" who don't know we're born compared to previous generations along with some sort of reference about war. The references always seem to be about WW2 as well which is odd as the only people old enough to have fought in that are in their 90s.

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By *ce WingerMan  over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

People who, when asked a question, start every answer with "So"....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I said this on a thread a few days ago I made

“Babe, I’ve got demons I’m fighting”

Errr no, you are the freaking demon !!!

Also this one I used myself

“I’m not being a bitch but…. “

I actually follow up by saying

“I’m totally gonna be one… “

And I say whatever bitchy thing I have to say

Hey, at least I’m honest about being a bitch

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By *tephTV67TV/TS  over a year ago

Cheshire


"The youth of today or claiming they’re snowflakes or woke etc…

Anyone decrying the younger generation. It was done to us when we were teenagers and I always wanted to ensure I didn’t do the same.

Younger generation than mine fought in Iraq and Afghanistan, student debt, housing ladder, gig economy, online bullying etc..

All shit I didn’t have to go through (my stint in the Army worst posting was Northern Ireland)

So anyone slagging off the young.

I've never even thought about this. I have friends with PTSD from Afghanistan after watching their friends die but we always get mocked as "pathetic millenials" who don't know we're born compared to previous generations along with some sort of reference about war. The references always seem to be about WW2 as well which is odd as the only people old enough to have fought in that are in their 90s."

Guys I served with ended up in Bosnia and saw some really bad stuff. I know a few who ended up having issues with their mental health afterwards. One guy I served with killed himself, no note but I know Bosnia had an affect on him, after meeting him at reunion once.

Northern Ireland you’d hear about someone getting killed or injured. But it very rarely happened to someone you knew or in your regiment. But I doubt any younger squaddie leaves the Army without losing one mate to injury or death.

Younger men and women are having it just as tough as my generation, just in different ways. Very few are ‘woke’ or ‘snowflakes’, in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm sorry but........?

Then brace yourself for a comment on why there not sorry.

Fruit loop comments ^^^.

Talking about fruit.

The fruit bowl is a good reflection of people. Some are sour. Some sweet. Lots of different colours shapes and sizes yet all fruit.

So I guess you get sour and sweet ones in all colours.

So just avoid the ones you don't like and only give your attention to the ones you do

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By *ilver Fox 60Man  over a year ago

Southport

"want to punch the teeth out"

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By *orny PTMan  over a year ago

Peterborough


"I have friends like you

My response

What

Human "

No, they live in Stoke too! LOL

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By *orny PTMan  over a year ago

Peterborough


"One that boiled my piss my ex used to say I'm not racist one on my good friends is black! He was one of biggest racist/bigots I've ever known x "

That's like saying "I'm not sexist, my wife is female".

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By *aughtylusciousWoman  over a year ago

Curvy town

Yes... NO offence but... that there is a duck kick or c*nt punt.

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By *aughtylusciousWoman  over a year ago

Curvy town


"Yes... NO offence but... that there is a duck kick or c*nt punt. "

**Dick

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By *orny PTMan  over a year ago

Peterborough


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?

“I’m not racist but ...” is hard to beat.

“No offence, but ...” is an attempt for the speaker to clear themselves of any charges of causing offence, before saying something that they clearly know is offensive.

“I’m not being funnaaayyyyy” is closely related.

And one that usually deserves a kick in the balls is “it’s only bantah”, again, someone exonerating themselves for saying something they know is offensive "

Cricket: what exactly gets said during this so called sledging/banter? Should it be made audible to the spectators and officials?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?"

I'm not (insert any word) but, Is usually followed by a comment that confirms they are what they are claiming not to be.

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By *arlomaleMan  over a year ago

darlington


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?"

and punching someone’s teeth out is the answer? Nice

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By *immyinreadingMan  over a year ago

henley on thames


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?

“I’m not racist but ...” is hard to beat.

“No offence, but ...” is an attempt for the speaker to clear themselves of any charges of causing offence, before saying something that they clearly know is offensive.

“I’m not being funnaaayyyyy” is closely related.

And one that usually deserves a kick in the balls is “it’s only bantah”, again, someone exonerating themselves for saying something they know is offensive

Cricket: what exactly gets said during this so called sledging/banter? Should it be made audible to the spectators and officials?"

Onfield sledging is not the problem. The Yorkshire stuff for example is all about what was being said around the club on a normal day.

Onfield sledging can be quite funny.

Shane warne to a South African batsman, “I’ve been waiting 2 years for another go at you”. Reply “looks like you spent it eating”.

Glenn McGrath to a Zimbabwean batsman “why are you so fat?”. Reply, “cos every time I sleep with your wife she gives me a biscuit”.

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By *immyinreadingMan  over a year ago

henley on thames


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?

I'm not (insert any word) but, Is usually followed by a comment that confirms they are what they are claiming not to be."

Good template, that. Covers most situations

The only exception I can think of is people who say “I’m not being funnnaaayyyyy”, and sure enough, they are not remotely funny.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?

I'm not (insert any word) but, Is usually followed by a comment that confirms they are what they are claiming not to be.

Good template, that. Covers most situations

The only exception I can think of is people who say “I’m not being funny”, and sure enough, they are not remotely funny. "

I once had a neighbour who would say that whenever we did anything he didn't like.

If our dog barked after 7 pm he would send a text asking to keep her quiet then they would go to bed between 10 and midnight and slam their windows hut, waking us up. We confronted them with this and they never spoke to us again. On the plus side we never had any stupid complaints again. Never liked them anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

People who are 'just saying what everyone's thinking' or 'telling it like it is' are invariably saying the exact opposite of my thoughts or how I see things.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Starting any sentence or answer with ‘so……..’

and also using ‘anecdotally’

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

What boils my piss is

When you tell someone something or a story & at the end of it they say “you know what I’m saying”

Erm … NO

You’re saying nothing - I AM!!!!

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By *orny PTMan  over a year ago

Peterborough


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?

“I’m not racist but ...” is hard to beat.

“No offence, but ...” is an attempt for the speaker to clear themselves of any charges of causing offence, before saying something that they clearly know is offensive.

“I’m not being funnaaayyyyy” is closely related.

And one that usually deserves a kick in the balls is “it’s only bantah”, again, someone exonerating themselves for saying something they know is offensive

Cricket: what exactly gets said during this so called sledging/banter? Should it be made audible to the spectators and officials?

Onfield sledging is not the problem. The Yorkshire stuff for example is all about what was being said around the club on a normal day.

Onfield sledging can be quite funny.

Shane warne to a South African batsman, “I’ve been waiting 2 years for another go at you”. Reply “looks like you spent it eating”.

Glenn McGrath to a Zimbabwean batsman “why are you so fat?”. Reply, “cos every time I sleep with your wife she gives me a biscuit”.

"

Class, that's much more fun than the game itself. I can Imagine someone like Tuffers doing a standup routine based on these little ripostes.

"I was aiming for your cock, that's why the ball hit you in the head!"

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"The youth of today or claiming they’re snowflakes or woke etc…

Anyone decrying the younger generation. It was done to us when we were teenagers and I always wanted to ensure I didn’t do the same.

Younger generation than mine fought in Iraq and Afghanistan, student debt, housing ladder, gig economy, online bullying etc..

All shit I didn’t have to go through (my stint in the Army worst posting was Northern Ireland)

So anyone slagging off the young. "

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By *immyinreadingMan  over a year ago

henley on thames


"People who are 'just saying what everyone's thinking' or 'telling it like it is' are invariably saying the exact opposite of my thoughts or how I see things. "

That’s true. Pretty sure I have never agreed with the statement that has followed that intro

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

In my day ....

Normally just shows that your generation didnt have the awareness we do now

(I wonder what the "in my day" thing will be when I'm old...)

"If you can't handle me at my worst..."

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By *orny PTMan  over a year ago

Peterborough


"In my day ....

Normally just shows that your generation didnt have the awareness we do now

(I wonder what the "in my day" thing will be when I'm old...)

"If you can't handle me at my worst..."

"

In my day the internet was a painful 56k and you had to pay £30 pcm plus a penny per minute, just to get online.

You only had 6-10 stations on your radio, if you disregard MW and LW.

FAB didn't exist either!

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By *asmeenTV/TS  over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I have friends like you

My response

What

Human

No, they live in Stoke too! LOL"

???

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By *orny PTMan  over a year ago

Peterborough


"I have friends like you

My response

What

Human

No, they live in Stoke too! LOL

???"

Just teasing Yasmeen. Don't spank me too hard!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"The youth of today or claiming they’re snowflakes or woke etc…

Anyone decrying the younger generation. It was done to us when we were teenagers and I always wanted to ensure I didn’t do the same.

Younger generation than mine fought in Iraq and Afghanistan, student debt, housing ladder, gig economy, online bullying etc..

All shit I didn’t have to go through (my stint in the Army worst posting was Northern Ireland)

So anyone slagging off the young. "

Me and my mates call each other snowflakes all the time when we talk about inconvenient things. I find it hilarious when I see people use it unironically

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

As you guys know you get racists from all backgrounds and only a fool will deny that.

If its not your colour, its your religion - etc

I'm not perfect nowhere close but over the many years of working with the public - I have learned a lot but a lot more to learn

Thankfully my parents were very open minded and we were taught to respect elders/olice/teachers and nice to all - it did help otherwsie some of the jokers that used to meet in the pub, I could have easily ended up in trouble

It takes a life time to build trust and respect but its all lost in a nano second

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By *laclkguyMan  over a year ago

Pontefract


"No words make me want to punch people's teeth out but if someone says "I'm proud to say I call a spade a spade" or "I speak the truth offend or please" I know it's going to be followed by completely uneccessary and potentially hurtful observations about my appearance, personality or personal possessions and they have truth and opinion confused."

yes and i always warn them before they say i don't like

if they say it me then the say it about me when i'm not around

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By *hoirCouple  over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?"

"I'm vegan" or any variation thereof.

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By *ouplecu2015Couple  over a year ago

Reading

When you make an affirmation followed by but you are already denying what you just said

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

I agree with that, but, there must be situations where is acceptable

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By *lackMetalMan  over a year ago

Centre


"One that boiled my piss my ex used to say I'm not racist one on my good friends is black! He was one of biggest racist/bigots I've ever known x "

Did you find this out before or after you married him?

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By *2000ManMan  over a year ago

Worthing

'Don't take this the wrong way but...'

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By *lackMetalMan  over a year ago

Centre


"In my day ....

Normally just shows that your generation didnt have the awareness we do now

(I wonder what the "in my day" thing will be when I'm old...)

"If you can't handle me at my worst..."

"

This!

Why the hell would anyone want to handle you at your worst? And most importantly, WTF should they? People who usually use this expression seem to think they are innately special for some reason and people should do whatever to be with them.

Hilarious and delusional all together.

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By *rHotNottsMan  over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"The youth of today or claiming they’re snowflakes or woke etc…

Anyone decrying the younger generation. It was done to us when we were teenagers and I always wanted to ensure I didn’t do the same.

Younger generation than mine fought in Iraq and Afghanistan, student debt, housing ladder, gig economy, online bullying etc..

All shit I didn’t have to go through (my stint in the Army worst posting was Northern Ireland)

So anyone slagging off the young. "

That and the “who remembers’ posts

Do you remember eating lard and coal 100 years ago? Yes it was shit , thank fuck for Costa and Subway and young people with better tastes in food

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'll be brief

I'll just say a few words

They NEVER just say a few words

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By *annaBeStrongMan  over a year ago

wokingham

Got excited when I opened this and thought yas was back

Then saw 17 weeks ago

Sad times

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By *r TriomanMan  over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"I want to punch their teeth out" or similar phrases, I don't like talking to people that think violence is the way to solve problems.

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By *969Jay6969Man  over a year ago

Cheshire

I’m not being funny but……

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By *ora the explorerWoman  over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

No offence but …..

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I love everybody, I do , But….

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By *lackMetalMan  over a year ago

Centre


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?

I'm not (insert any word) but, Is usually followed by a comment that confirms they are what they are claiming not to be.

Good template, that. Covers most situations

The only exception I can think of is people who say “I’m not being funny”, and sure enough, they are not remotely funny.

I once had a neighbour who would say that whenever we did anything he didn't like.

If our dog barked after 7 pm he would send a text asking to keep her quiet then they would go to bed between 10 and midnight and slam their windows hut, waking us up. We confronted them with this and they never spoke to us again. On the plus side we never had any stupid complaints again. Never liked them anyway."

Perfect example of the English version of passive aggression,

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

80/20 Spend 80% time listening and 20% responding, to ensure you fully understand context.

People are clumsy in communicating sometimes and may use language that's potentially offensive, but surely context is more important?

Oh...my pet annoyance? "They're all corrupt"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman  over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

[Removed by poster at 10/03/22 09:57:16]

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By *hil most chillMan  over a year ago

South East & Europe


"The youth of today or claiming they’re snowflakes or woke etc…

Anyone decrying the younger generation. It was done to us when we were teenagers and I always wanted to ensure I didn’t do the same.

Younger generation than mine fought in Iraq and Afghanistan, student debt, housing ladder, gig economy, online bullying etc..

All shit I didn’t have to go through (my stint in the Army worst posting was Northern Ireland)

So anyone slagging off the young. "

Exactly. Some generations just refuse to accept that times might actually be hard for younger generations, but all they see are instagram influencers and avocado toast and assume everyone is taking the piss. They expect everything to be exactly the same as it was for them in their formative years and refuse to change with the times. I can't fucking stand people with that kind of attitude

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

One that really annoys me is a colleague always uses the term "The gays" as if they are a pop group or something, but then he also believes that Trump was robbed and global warming is a lie.

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By *immyinreadingMan  over a year ago

henley on thames


""I want to punch their teeth out" or similar phrases, I don't like talking to people that think violence is the way to solve problems."

My in laws talk a great game over a cup of tea, about how they would punch people, hit them with a hammer, kill them etc., praising their self-discipline for not having done so ... “if I’d gone over there I would have killed him” etc etc.

... but then they absolutely shit themselves if anyone so much as says boo to them.

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By *immyinreadingMan  over a year ago

henley on thames


"The youth of today or claiming they’re snowflakes or woke etc…

Anyone decrying the younger generation. It was done to us when we were teenagers and I always wanted to ensure I didn’t do the same.

Younger generation than mine fought in Iraq and Afghanistan, student debt, housing ladder, gig economy, online bullying etc..

All shit I didn’t have to go through (my stint in the Army worst posting was Northern Ireland)

So anyone slagging off the young.

Exactly. Some generations just refuse to accept that times might actually be hard for younger generations, but all they see are instagram influencers and avocado toast and assume everyone is taking the piss. They expect everything to be exactly the same as it was for them in their formative years and refuse to change with the times. I can't fucking stand people with that kind of attitude "

Generalising about entire generations just isn’t right. Saying that all young people are this, that or the other simply doesn’t work.

But in your effort to defend you people, you open with “some generations just refuse to accept ...”

So it’s not ok to lump going people into a single bracket and pain them all with the same brush, but it’s ok to do so with other generations?

A bit of balance would be good. Perhaps “some people” rather than “some generations”?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Well I'm sorry but... Makes me want to set the speakers toes on fire

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By *yclindaveMan  over a year ago

Leicester

I cannot stand the word 'basically' when used whilst explaining something.

Basically, you are saying I'm basically an idiot who needs things explained really basically.

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By *immyinreadingMan  over a year ago

henley on thames

“Don’t take this the wrong way” is another balls of a way to open a sentence

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By *hil most chillMan  over a year ago

South East & Europe


"The youth of today or claiming they’re snowflakes or woke etc…

Anyone decrying the younger generation. It was done to us when we were teenagers and I always wanted to ensure I didn’t do the same.

Younger generation than mine fought in Iraq and Afghanistan, student debt, housing ladder, gig economy, online bullying etc..

All shit I didn’t have to go through (my stint in the Army worst posting was Northern Ireland)

So anyone slagging off the young.

Exactly. Some generations just refuse to accept that times might actually be hard for younger generations, but all they see are instagram influencers and avocado toast and assume everyone is taking the piss. They expect everything to be exactly the same as it was for them in their formative years and refuse to change with the times. I can't fucking stand people with that kind of attitude

Generalising about entire generations just isn’t right. Saying that all young people are this, that or the other simply doesn’t work.

But in your effort to defend you people, you open with “some generations just refuse to accept ...”

So it’s not ok to lump going people into a single bracket and pain them all with the same brush, but it’s ok to do so with other generations?

A bit of balance would be good. Perhaps “some people” rather than “some generations”? "

True, "some members of some generations" is more accurate

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By *ts the taking part thatMan  over a year ago

southampton


"That phrase makes me instantly want to punch the teeth out of whoever says it before they can even say the racist thing that's going to follow.

Is there any precursor to a sentence that makes you feel the same way?"

Snowflake!

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By *urga2076Woman  over a year ago

London

“Are you going on about women this and women that again- like they’re the only one with problems”

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Feels like everyone wants a row today

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