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Just been called ugly to my face!

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Walking out of greggs towards the car and some woman and her boyfriend walking towards me and she straight up says “she’s icky isn’t she” What’s even more shocking, I didn’t even say anything. It’s like I had quick flash before eyes of how the scenario would’ve gone down, I fully had the option and capability of saying what the fuck did you just say, but my pizza was in my hand and the thought of having bit of an argument in a car park just wasn’t worth the pizza going cold. Or is it just growth and my counselling kicking in that I don’t react to stupid things.

Please don’t concentrate on the fact she called me ugly, that’s not the issue. I absolutely do not need or want people to say I’m not ugly. I know I’m not, that’s not the point of the post but more to acknowledge that I didn’t react and also what a weirdo for saying that.

Like even if she thought I was why would you say that to a person? I wasn’t a threat to her, I was all eyes on my pizza. She looked like she’d had her rice crispies this morning, the snap the CRACKle and the pop, emphasis on the crack. Bkack knee high boots on over a pair of adidas tracksuit bottoms.

Seeing this just now makes me see things from the other side. Like if you’re with a boyfriend/partner and you try and slag another woman off it just makes you look stupid and draws attention to the woman you’re hoping your partner doesn’t see.

Very odd but proud of myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Aargh. I fucked up the main sentence. She said she’s ugly isn’t she.

See not even my phone knows that word!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bullyers only bully cause they are jelous, it's her problem, not yours

And btw, you are stunning x

*Sending virtual hug*

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By *ustlooking12330Man over a year ago

manchester

You are definitely not ugly your fucking stunning

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it speaks more about her own insecurities than it does on anyone she happens to be saying that about.

I suspect she actually wishes she looked EXACTLY like you (she possibly even fancies you herself) but, knowing she doesn't, is trying to convince herself that you are not her boyfriends type.

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

It could be she was being ironic because she caught the boyfriend eyeing you up - and said she’s ugly isn’t she to which he should reply - who? I didn’t really notice

Other than that she’s possibly on glue and needs a guide dog

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it speaks more about her own insecurities than it does on anyone she happens to be saying that about.

I suspect she actually wishes she looked EXACTLY like you (she possibly even fancies you herself) but, knowing she doesn't, is trying to convince herself that you are not her boyfriends type."

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By *tephanjMan over a year ago

Kettering

Some people are just sad but well done for not biting back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably caught her fella looking at you so made sure he agreed that he wasn't interested in you at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its was probably self defense on her part telling her boyfriend don't you dare catch me looking at her.. she's probably very insecure about her looks well done on your behaviour though x

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By *ocothumpaMan over a year ago

quite close to you

Been called ugly by so many people growing up and recently that I kinda revel in it

Been called it on here by some women

But I’v done remarkably well considering the face,

The sparkling personality, good humour, large penis and relentless begging really does work

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

"Aargh. I fucked up the main sentence. She said she’s ugly isn’t she.

See not even my phone knows that word!"

Was she being ironic? Or should it be rhetorical? Clearly you are very attractive.

What worries me is that you were in Greggs!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That was definitely a boyfriend test. She's clearly insecure and threatened by your looks and needed to boyfriend to affirm her beauty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Firstly, you're beautiful,

Secondly, it's pure jealousy 9n her part that she wished she was a fraction as gorgeous as you

Lastly, you're incredible and don't ever let anyone tell you differently

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By *LiamMan over a year ago

Midlands

That trait of slagging someone off they feel is a threat is the worst one, instantly puts me off a person

Fair play for keeping it moving

Don't know what's up with me lately but I wouldn't have been able to let that slide so easy

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By *LiamMan over a year ago

Midlands

"Firstly, you're beautiful,

Secondly, it's pure jealousy 9n her part that she wished she was a fraction as gorgeous as you

Lastly, you're incredible and don't ever let anyone tell you differently "
facking hell mate

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Annie , well done xx (heart emoji thing )

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By *LiamMan over a year ago

Midlands

"Annie , well done xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Attention seeking at its finest

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Annie,

Is it important for you to be listened to?

I mean, listened to with regard to being understood and then treated in a way that's appropriate to what you said ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like she was just jealous because you had pizza and she couldn't afford some...

I don't understand the logic of just saying things like that to people tho, we are all beautiful in our own way, we should be bigging each other up..not putting each other down..

Regardless hope the pizza was good..

Well done you for keeping your cool, definitely deserve another slice..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Right appreciate nice comments yeah lovely. But trust and believe me when I say that’s not the point of the thread. It’s to acknowledge that previously I would’ve at the least verbally confronted her and been vicious but I just thought what’s the point? I could start shouting at someone and look like a fool or just get in the car and get to my mums to look in her studio Xmas book and eat my pizza and drink my mocha which was my original plan. It’s growth for me.

Also it’s a learning thing I’ve been guilty of it in the past when I’ve been with a guy and he’s commented on another woman, I’ve been like ahh well she ain’t all that blah blah blah which then gives that other woman some sort of ‘power’ maybe power isn’t the right word. When you should just say yeah she’s nice isn’t she. Which shows you’re comfortable with yourself, you’re not a loony and so on.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Annie , well done xx

. "

(IknowhowtodoemojisIjustdontifIcanavoidit)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Walking out of greggs towards the car and some woman and her boyfriend walking towards me and she straight up says “she’s icky isn’t she” What’s even more shocking, I didn’t even say anything. It’s like I had quick flash before eyes of how the scenario would’ve gone down, I fully had the option and capability of saying what the fuck did you just say, but my pizza was in my hand and the thought of having bit of an argument in a car park just wasn’t worth the pizza going cold. Or is it just growth and my counselling kicking in that I don’t react to stupid things.

Very odd but proud of myself. "

Why did she say it? Who knows, bad say, insecurities....

No matter my issues with any other woman, I make a point of never bringing their appearance into it. It's petty, immature and just makes you look like a fucking clown.

I don't need to bring other women down to build myself up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is my problem. I love people, I want people to be happy and hate when people are sad, treated unfairly,

Sometimes I wake up just thinking people are horrible and I can’t bring myself to go outside.

So I close the coffin lid and try to go back k to sleep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right appreciate nice comments yeah lovely. But trust and believe me when I say that’s not the point of the thread. It’s to acknowledge that previously I would’ve at the least verbally confronted her and been vicious but I just thought what’s the point? I could start shouting at someone and look like a fool or just get in the car and get to my mums to look in her studio Xmas book and eat my pizza and drink my mocha which was my original plan. It’s growth for me.

Congratulations on growing as a person. It is always good to evolve past the behaviour of children.

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

The fact that you realised the flaw in your character and the insecurity that would make you react and moved on gives you ‘ the power’ you didn’t react which could be perceived as ‘your opinion doesn’t matter to me because I don’t value you or it!’

Id say win win!!

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By *unBob85Man over a year ago

New Forest

I think the issue here is more about herself than it is with you, anyone who feels the need to demean another person aloud and in public is more likely trying to hide their own insecurities,. You absolutely did the right thing, by not giving them the attention their insults are hollow, you know that your not ugly and there are many in here who will confirm that for you, I wonder if people would vouch for her in the same way !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All that is seen is a projection of self or where the idea of self lies. People just reveal their inside by projecting outwardly. Enjoy your day. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You rose above it x these types aren’t worthy of any energy whatsoever

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Growth is to be celebrated and congratulated. Then real growth can follow which does not require public validation or endorsement

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It takes a strong person to say nothing in response and just walk on by. You did the right thing not saying anything, which makes you the better person. Be proud of that and the person that you are OP x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Annie,

Is it important for you to be listened to?

I mean, listened to with regard to being understood and then treated in a way that's appropriate to what you said ?"

Ahh fuck I don’t understand understand the second question

First one is it important I’m listened to, depends on the context. Sometimes I talk to myself so I’m always listening then.

Gonna have to do double layman’s terms for me to answer the second part.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyway....how was the pizza?

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By *otMe66Man over a year ago

Terra Firma

It is easy to get into conflict, simply take 2 egos and mix.

Staying out of conflict is so much harder, it takes self control and recognition of your own ego, tough but well worth the effort.

Well done

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you worry about every dog that barks at you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyway....how was the pizza?

I do like a pepperoni slice, it was good.

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

"Anyway....how was the pizza?

And what toppings?

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Well done Annie. No fights AND a nice warm pizza. Sounds like you're winning.

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By *ottom charlieMan over a year ago

washington

ugly,,,?? i hope you showed her the way to specsavers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyway....how was the pizza?

I do like a pepperoni slice, it was good. "

Well then, that's all that matters

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Id say win win!!

this. It’s so peaceful. Considering that I nearly had an actual fight in Iceland a few Xmas’ ago over a box of sticky chicken skewers. It’s so embarrassing to look back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Could have been worse. You could have just been to the Pound Bakery

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By *ee04Man over a year ago

Essex

The main thing is the pizza didn’t get cold, as she is not worth the oxygen.

It is her own insecurity what prompted the comment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it speaks more about her own insecurities than it does on anyone she happens to be saying that about.

I suspect she actually wishes she looked EXACTLY like you (she possibly even fancies you herself) but, knowing she doesn't, is trying to convince herself that you are not her boyfriends type."

Very much this!

Just take it as a massive compliment Annie.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jealousy and cowardly. She was with her BF/Partner so had back up if it kicked off. £1 gets you a £100 she’d not have said anything if she was on her own. Best thing, just smile and move on. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think it speaks more about her own insecurities than it does on anyone she happens to be saying that about.

I suspect she actually wishes she looked EXACTLY like you (she possibly even fancies you herself) but, knowing she doesn't, is trying to convince herself that you are not her boyfriends type.

Very much this!

Just take it as a massive compliment Annie. "

It’s not even a compliment. I just wanted to be tell her stop, you don’t need to be like this. Your boyfriend clearly loves you cos he’s walking round with you in broad daylight whilst you’re wearing high heel boots with tracksuit bottoms like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Obvs she is a bit insecure and he probably agreed to avoid a smack!

You're hot as!

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

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By *ayneKingMan over a year ago

South East

Her actions clearly demonstrated her immaturity or jealousy, maybe she just clocked her man checking you out and felt threatened? Either way I think your a great person for not rising to it. It takes a strong, confident person to leave it and walk away. Have a great day x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it speaks more about her own insecurities than it does on anyone she happens to be saying that about.

I suspect she actually wishes she looked EXACTLY like you (she possibly even fancies you herself) but, knowing she doesn't, is trying to convince herself that you are not her boyfriends type.

Very much this!

Just take it as a massive compliment Annie.

What a vision.

Compliment in that she was clearly so intimidated by you that she felt the need to say something.

Same as abusive mails on here. If they weren't intimidated/ jealous they wouldn't say anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Obvs she is a bit insecure and he probably agreed to avoid a smack!

You're hot as!"

He just looked embarrassed. My head did spin towards her like Regan off the exorcist but that was it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????"

100% this completely

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By *unCuriousHarryMan over a year ago

somrwhere over the rainbow, The Shire

Very odd but proud of myself. "

I would have done the same ie.. prioritised the pizza as I’m not a fan of cold pizza haha but probably would have let out with a couple of expletives. I think it’s good not to get upset or care about a strangers opinion. Why should somebody let there feelings be hurt by somebody who you habe no respect for or care about. Also people projecting hate like that must be insecure, Jealous or as you implied not in right state of mind( high) . Just have to hope one day they stop being a dick and become happier in themselves. This quote comes to mind on your good decision to ignore the comment.

‘You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.’

All the best

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

The next step is not to assume everything everyone says is about you.

It's easy to assume it was but you are not 100% it was.

As long as you tune into this thread you won't have let go of the incident.....

It's gone now. It exists in your head or nowhere....

Well done on not reacting to someone else's emotional outburst.

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By *am80CoolWoman over a year ago

Town

Sounds like someone pissed in her cornflakes and she was just taking it out on you.

Concentrate on the pizza, that’s way more valuable than some numpty who can’t keep her mouth shut.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Was she definitely talking about you ? Is it possible that they were having another conversation?

That's always my go to. Tho my OH says I always trust ppl are not as shitty as they may be. But I've never lost by thinking the best of strangers who pass me in teh street.

But more importantly, why a pizza from gregs ? That's icky !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????"

Just a factual description IC1 female, POI appears haggard, possible drug user, wearing black tracksuit type bottoms with white stripes, black high heel boots, dark hair, yellow hooded sweatshirt.

Not slagging her off just commenting on her behaviour.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

You're not related to Ugly Kid Joe are you Annie?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The next step is not to assume everything everyone says is about you.

It's easy to assume it was but you are not 100% it was.

As long as you tune into this thread you won't have let go of the incident.....

It's gone now. It exists in your head or nowhere....

Well done on not reacting to someone else's emotional outburst."

They were walking towards me and I couldn’t hear any conversation out of them but she was looking at me, when we were shoulder to shoulder side by side (not touching obviously) but that moment just as someone walks passed your actual physical body she said it. Was all within seconds but no you’re right.

My friends and my sister are all in work. Got no one to pat me on the back for not biting back.

It is hard to not react. Harder than reacting that’s for sure. It’s a new level unlocked but it’s complete peace. When I think back of all situations and drama I’ve ever been involved in. Even sorting out other peoples shit, getting into arguments that weren’t even my arguments just because I used to like confrontation and the odd scrap. Just all could’ve been avoided.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

Just a factual description IC1 female, POI appears haggard, possible drug user, wearing black tracksuit type bottoms with white stripes, black high heel boots, dark hair, yellow hooded sweatshirt.

Not slagging her off just commenting on her behaviour. "

If its her behaviour you are commenting on....Why mention what she was wearing? What has that hot to do with it?

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By *urplechesterCouple over a year ago

chester

Well done to you for not biting back! It sounds as though you’ve had time to reflect on the situation, and see it for not what was said, but how you reacted which is great! We only have control of ourselves, hopefully the other lady will one day reach a point where she feels secure enough to not comment! Ps I hope you enjoyed your pizza mmm

Miss pc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She’s is what is known in my world as a thundercunt

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

What did you get from

Greg's

You have to judge the situation

I would have asked her why say that

But things can turn xxx

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

you are gorgeous,

she is ugly on the inside.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyway....how was the pizza?

I do like a pepperoni slice, it was good. "

Great choice

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????"

This..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

Just a factual description IC1 female, POI appears haggard, possible drug user, wearing black tracksuit type bottoms with white stripes, black high heel boots, dark hair, yellow hooded sweatshirt.

Not slagging her off just commenting on her behaviour.

If its her behaviour you are commenting on....Why mention what she was wearing? What has that hot to do with it?"

The fact that she commented on my appearance and called me ugly is why I mentioned what she was wearing. I was painting the picture.

Now I can’t keep going back to this cos I’m defeating the whole point of me not reacting to stuff.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think she was maybe more concerned that either her fella was looking at you and immediately made a comment to make him aware out of jealousy, or she was being a bully type

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

Just a factual description IC1 female, POI appears haggard, possible drug user, wearing black tracksuit type bottoms with white stripes, black high heel boots, dark hair, yellow hooded sweatshirt.

Not slagging her off just commenting on her behaviour.

If its her behaviour you are commenting on....Why mention what she was wearing? What has that hot to do with it?

The fact that she commented on my appearance and called me ugly is why I mentioned what she was wearing. I was painting the picture.

Now I can’t keep going back to this cos I’m defeating the whole point of me not reacting to stuff. "
would it matter if she was a 10 and said it.

Congrats on not reacting to her face to face. That's a great step. But worth reflecting on if this is a reaction ... And if you'd be happier if this was all water off the proverbial ducks back. And if so ... How to get there.

Healing is a journey.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Miss pc "

Thank you. Even if her boyfriend was the prince of all things handsome I wouldn’t have been interested cos he is hers. I wouldn’t do that to another woman.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

Next step is seeing ignoring this as normal behaviour. Onwards and upwards

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By *m A FuckerMan over a year ago

kingswood,surrey/leysdown kent

Three words for her.....insecure jealous arsehole!

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

How rude. You always wait until strangers are fully out of earshot before you say anything. That’s rule 1!

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"How rude. You always wait until strangers are fully out of earshot before you say anything. That’s rule 1!"

Cheeky

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

I want to know what was on the pizza?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Now I’m pissed off cos I’ve been in my mothers house for over half an hour and I can’t find the bloody studio books.

If you were a 57 year old woman where would you keep your catalogs?

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

" Now I’m pissed off cos I’ve been in my mothers house for over half an hour and I can’t find the bloody studio books.

If you were a 57 year old woman where would you keep your catalogs? "

My tights?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very odd but proud of myself. "

I think you should just said "have you been to spec savers recently"!

Clearly blind.... But like you said it's the fa t she said it but some people are just jealous

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

You ARE absolutely gorgeous. Such sad people to sink so low. I had it in a random message from a woman on here a couple of years back. She told me I shouldn't be on Fab as I was too ugly for the site. Keep your head high and don't let haters win. They have sad lives.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

" Now I’m pissed off cos I’ve been in my mothers house for over half an hour and I can’t find the bloody studio books.

If you were a 57 year old woman where would you keep your catalogs? "

On the bookshelf in the library.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

Just a factual description IC1 female, POI appears haggard, possible drug user, wearing black tracksuit type bottoms with white stripes, black high heel boots, dark hair, yellow hooded sweatshirt.

Not slagging her off just commenting on her behaviour.

If its her behaviour you are commenting on....Why mention what she was wearing? What has that hot to do with it?

The fact that she commented on my appearance and called me ugly is why I mentioned what she was wearing. I was painting the picture.

Now I can’t keep going back to this cos I’m defeating the whole point of me not reacting to stuff. "

It still has nothing to do with it.

Point is...in a way you have reacted by posting this thread!

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Just totally throwing it out there but is there any chance that she actually said "she's lovely isn't she" and it was just miscommunicated?

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Are you sure you heard her right?!?

maybe she said lovely

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By *yclindaveMan over a year ago

Leicester

Did you not get a sausage roll or steak bake as well as the pizza slice. Thought it's the law visit Gregg's come out with sausage rolls!

Whilst I jest you aren't ugly at all, well done for not reacting. It often says more about another person's insecurities than the target of their vitriol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Poor woman

Greggs pizza

Didn’t know it was a thing

Guys trying to chat you up is hilarious

She said she knows she’s pretty ( issue right there for me )

I get called ugly, with good reason

I do however have great shins

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Poor woman

Greggs pizza

Didn’t know it was a thing

Guys trying to chat you up is hilarious

She said she knows she’s pretty ( issue right there for me )

I get called ugly, with good reason

I do however have great shins "

Can your shins be improved on ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well done on being a bigger person than the Anne that would have reacted.

A reaction was clearly what this other woman wanted. Regardless of the result of any such confrontation, she would have won.

By not reacting this will really be annoying her.

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS over a year ago

Leicester

Sending you a big massive “you are beautiful”

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Poor woman

Greggs pizza

Didn’t know it was a thing

Guys trying to chat you up is hilarious

She said she knows she’s pretty ( issue right there for me )

I get called ugly, with good reason

I do however have great shins

Can your shins be improved on ?"

Only if they were painted gold and played Stairway to Heaven when you pressed them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why do people do it? Like do people have no manners! It isn't what she said which I would find offensive but thinking that it is ok to say out loud not caring that you'd heard it. It's awful.

I know you have said abut suffering body dysmorphia in the past? What if that was a trigger?

People need to think before they speak.

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Merton

Her comment does not have an impact on your life beyond a few seconds. Why waste time on trivial matters? So best to ignore, focus on you, her thought is different from the boyfriend except the bf will not voice his.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why do people do it? Like do people have no manners! It isn't what she said which I would find offensive but thinking that it is ok to say out loud not caring that you'd heard it. It's awful.

I know you have said abut suffering body dysmorphia in the past? What if that was a trigger?

People need to think before they speak. "

I’ve never suffered with body dysmorphia think you’ve mentioned this before. Was my ex, my daughters father that had it. I spoke in detail about how he was obsessed with thinking he had dark circles, would spend £100’s on creams. Would only fill up his car on the pay at pump thing, would only like to go to cinemas, would get me to do his shopping and one occasion when we were in Debenhams on the escalator he caught himself in the mirror and we had to leave in the middle of our Xmas shopping. Yeah does that sound familiar? It wasn’t me, was him that had it. I’ve always been happy with how I look. Minus the flat chest hence the boob job in 2007.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Very odd but proud of myself. "

I pay no heed to what strangers say. I don't place any value on their opinion of me.

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By *CDecauxMan over a year ago

Caerphilly

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

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By *CDecauxMan over a year ago

Caerphilly

Good on you for not head butting the fucker!

I’m not sure I know many who would have been so restrained.

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By *1c4yMan over a year ago

stourbridge

Very odd but proud of myself. "

Kickbox her ass....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately it makes some people feel better about their own insecurities to insult others. Being a fatty I've had years of practice dealing with it to the point where I can just laugh at these peoples' obvious deep-rooted unhappiness.

Also you're never going to see this woman again, so her opinion makes literally zero impact to your life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????"

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By *wistedTooCouple over a year ago

Frimley

Jesus. When we are walking around, we point out hot girls to each other. Some people are just assholes.

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By *wistedTooCouple over a year ago

Frimley

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

It’s nothing like pot and kettle. Saying it out of earshot is one thing, saying it right in front of someone is just fucking nasty. Completely different. Everyone judges. Doing it to someone’s face is just a dick move. So no, that comment is utterly wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not a big deal, men hear nasty comments all the time, on street or on this site . You did the right thing by walking away. Next time say "Thanks for sharing that" and give them a smile. Some can find you ugly, this is life, you cannot have universal approval. Some would like to pick up a fight, you cannot have universal friendship. Just walk away from conflicts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

Everyone judges, not everyone feels the need to voice their judgement either openly to someone's face or (in my opinion worse) behind their backs to strangers online.

We have no idea what this woman said or to whom. We only know Annie thought she heard someone being called ugly and believed the comment was aimed at her. She may have misheard or the woman may have been taking about someone else (or she may have done exactly what Annie thought). What we do know for a fact though is Annie has made comments about a strangers looks and a group of randoms on here have decided it's ok to slag off someone they've never met. This other woman has been called everything from blind and jealous to a thunder cunt.

I think Annie is right in what she identifies as being important - that she didn't react as she would once have done. I also think those who have pointed out the hypocrisy of her commenting on the other woman's appearance have a very valid point. Not taking a swing at a stranger who pisses you off is obviously a great step towards having a more civil society. Not instigating a group slagging match about them on social media is an even bigger step in the right direction. Given that a lot on society haven't even got past the violence stage I won't be holding my breath that many get past the slagging off a total stranger with no evidence stage...

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By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

"Aargh. I fucked up the main sentence. She said she’s ugly isn’t she.

See not even my phone knows that word!"

To be honest me and the misses say that but it means she’s drop dead gorgeous we are just jealous

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

Everyone judges, not everyone feels the need to voice their judgement either openly to someone's face or (in my opinion worse) behind their backs to strangers online.

Mr"

I know what I heard. This woman was right next to me when it was said and looking directly at me as she was walking towards me.

Also if you saw someone wearing black knee high heeled boots on over pair of Adidas joggers you’d be like what’s this mad cunt up to. It’s a strong look.

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By *athers123Man over a year ago

Harpenden

Given that you're into kickboxing and could easily have had her and her bf you did well to walk away. I saw a YouTube vid by an ex-SAS guy that said if you can you should run from a fight. There's no upside to fighting. Even if you win you could be arrested for assualt or you could accidentally do some real damage and have to live with yourself. His words not mine but he's right. You did the right thing. Venting on here is better than any other outcome. In 2 days time it'll be out of your mind altogether

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

Everyone judges, not everyone feels the need to voice their judgement either openly to someone's face or (in my opinion worse) behind their backs to strangers online.

I know what I heard. This woman was right next to me when it was said and looking directly at me as she was walking towards me.

Also if you saw someone wearing black knee high heeled boots on over pair of Adidas joggers you’d be like what’s this mad cunt up to. It’s a strong look. "

I really don't get why you keep bringing up what she was wearing when you've said previously it was her behaviour.....

At the end of the day, it was a comment made by someone you don't know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Och, she was havering. Jealousy, pure and simple.

Put it this way, she wouldn’t have said this about a genuinely unattractive person.

It was a deliberate put-down, for the benefit of her partner.

Pathetic and insecure. Dignity will win over every time

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By *ustcurious1000Couple over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Pure jealousy hun, she’s insecure and very aware of how attractive you are because her bf probably noticed you !!

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Just her own insecurities manifesting.

I can imagine the boyfriend nodding along, "yeah terrible" while really thinking about booking her an appointment at Specsavers.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Blimey a lot of people on this thread seem to know an awful lot about the motivation behind a complete strangers comments.

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By *yore34Man over a year ago

Hull

Big respect for you not kicking off. I totally agree with not letting little thi gs like that get to you. Massive learning curve and you smashed it ?? xx

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"Big respect for you not kicking off. I totally agree with not letting little thi gs like that get to you. Massive learning curve and you smashed it ?? xx"

Obviously she has as she created a thread about it but I think it was the woman's outfit that's annoyed her more

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

You should have slapped her about the chops with the pizza and said “shaddap you face” but I agree, that would have been a waste of a good pizza!!

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By *azylivingMan over a year ago

random location

Very odd but proud of myself. "

Well done!!

(What toppings on your pizza? It could be a deal breaker)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

Everyone judges, not everyone feels the need to voice their judgement either openly to someone's face or (in my opinion worse) behind their backs to strangers online.

I know what I heard. This woman was right next to me when it was said and looking directly at me as she was walking towards me.

Also if you saw someone wearing black knee high heeled boots on over pair of Adidas joggers you’d be like what’s this mad cunt up to. It’s a strong look. "

I'm not saying you're wrong, just that you and her are strangers to me so I won't be making any judgement on the situation and certainly won't be calling her any names. Also, the court records are full of wrongful convictions based testimonies of people who "know what they saw" You may be right but I (and everyone else on this thread) don't know that and no amount of telling ud otherwise will change that.

Re the black boots and Adidas, I don't tend to pay much attention to what others are wearing and definitely wouldn't mention it unless it had any bearing on the story. By bearing I mean she'd tripped over her clothing or something, not that her choice of clothing meant (in my opinion) anyone seeing her would consider her a "mad cunt". I definitely wouldn't be commenting on what I thought of someone else's appearance on a thread that complained about the fact they had voiced their opinion on mine.

Would I change my behaviour because of my judgement about a strangers appearance? Absolutely I would, there are some very dodgy looking people about. If you'd described her look to explain why you felt intimidated or something then I would understand that but your comments about rice crispies makes it read that you were mocking her. Either way your thread was ostensibly about the pleasure you felt in your behaviour changes (which BTW I totally understand and believe to be worthy of celebrating). A description of how your reactions have changed doesn't need a comment mocking a strangers dress sense - that says far more about you than her.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Do you have your PJs on op?

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By *yron69Man over a year ago

Fareham

Sticks and stones..

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By *elshcouple18Couple over a year ago

Cardiff

Wonder what she was hoping to gain from this?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

Everyone judges, not everyone feels the need to voice their judgement either openly to someone's face or (in my opinion worse) behind their backs to strangers online.

I know what I heard. This woman was right next to me when it was said and looking directly at me as she was walking towards me.

Also if you saw someone wearing black knee high heeled boots on over pair of Adidas joggers you’d be like what’s this mad cunt up to. It’s a strong look.

I really don't get why you keep bringing up what she was wearing when you've said previously it was her behaviour.....

At the end of the day, it was a comment made by someone you don't know."

Right at the moment r I hold you lot (forum) people in such high regard that I care enough to defend what I’m saying. I’m showing that level of respect and courtesy so extend it back to me. Context yeah? I’m answering the previous comment which mentions me slagging off her appearance that’s why I mentioned what she had on again. Also calling someone ugly is worse than saying that they were wearing a mad combination of clothes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Do you have your PJs on op?"

No. Works stuff. I’m about to start a night shift.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Do you have your PJs on op?

No. Works stuff. I’m about to start a night shift. "

I meant to say did you? At the time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i find only women do that but sure some funny blokes do as well but guessing its a 95% woman thing call other women "ugly."

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"No offence Annie fair play not to react there and then but you are showing immaturity by slagging her of on here because of how she apparently looked....a bit of pot and kettle isn't it????

Everyone judges, not everyone feels the need to voice their judgement either openly to someone's face or (in my opinion worse) behind their backs to strangers online.

I know what I heard. This woman was right next to me when it was said and looking directly at me as she was walking towards me.

Also if you saw someone wearing black knee high heeled boots on over pair of Adidas joggers you’d be like what’s this mad cunt up to. It’s a strong look.

I really don't get why you keep bringing up what she was wearing when you've said previously it was her behaviour.....

At the end of the day, it was a comment made by someone you don't know.

There are worse things to be called. Would you have started a thread had she said you were beautiful and drop dead gorgeous?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i find only women do that but sure some funny blokes do as well but guessing its a 95% woman thing call other women "ugly.""

I’d have to disagree. That’s a massive sweeping generalisation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also... It could have been a dare? Maybe she got a free Greggs dinner out of it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i find only women do that but sure some funny blokes do as well but guessing its a 95% woman thing call other women "ugly."

I’d have to disagree. That’s a massive sweeping generalisation."

No "genrilsation" there mate its a fact ie my experience and I'm no spring chicken.

Years of working in factories, offices and even a stint as a coach driver, its women on the whole - no generlisation at all.

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Meh!

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By *xTwo4FunTimesxXCouple over a year ago

chester

Bit of a cliche but some people really do try and blow others candles out to make theirs burn brighter....

What an odd thing to just blurt out!

You are stunning too xx

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

I would have ignored her too, and had a laugh over it as I sat on my sofa stuffing my face full of pizza.

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By *ourNextAddictionMan over a year ago

Somerset

Sounds insecure or the BF was looking at you & she didn’t like it.

But all in all. Comes down to her being a very insecure person in her own skin.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i find only women do that but sure some funny blokes do as well but guessing its a 95% woman thing call other women "ugly."

I’d have to disagree. That’s a massive sweeping generalisation.

No "genrilsation" there mate its a fact ie my experience and I'm no spring chicken.

Years of working in factories, offices and even a stint as a coach driver, its women on the whole - no generlisation at all."

Personal experience doesn't make things a fact. I've heard far more men describe women as ugly than women do so but then my working life has been almost exclusively male. One of the biggest obstacles to resolving differences is so many people believe their experiences are universally true and objective facts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very odd but proud of myself. "

Don't worry about it love. They were most probably on about your pizza you was carrying?? Unless it was ham an pineapple then you most likely deserved it lol xx only joking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i find only women do that but sure some funny blokes do as well but guessing its a 95% woman thing call other women "ugly."

I’d have to disagree. That’s a massive sweeping generalisation.

No "genrilsation" there mate its a fact ie my experience and I'm no spring chicken.

Years of working in factories, offices and even a stint as a coach driver, its women on the whole - no generlisation at all."

We’ll have to agree to disagree. Your experiences don’t make it fact.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Just jeoulous! And not reacting deffo best thing to do x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You should have slapped her about the chops with the pizza and said “shaddap you face” but I agree, that would have been a waste of a good pizza!!

Don't waste pizza!

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"i find only women do that but sure some funny blokes do as well but guessing its a 95% woman thing call other women "ugly."

I’d have to disagree. That’s a massive sweeping generalisation.

No "genrilsation" there mate its a fact ie my experience and I'm no spring chicken.

Years of working in factories, offices and even a stint as a coach driver, its women on the whole - no generlisation at all."

I've been called ugly by far more men than women. Usually if I've turned them down or had the audacity not to reply quickly enough for their liking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyways Annie they are more likely to be ugly on the inside which your not..so chin up kid your a good looking lass

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its was probably self defense on her part telling her boyfriend don't you dare catch me looking at her.. she's probably very insecure about her looks well done on your behaviour though x"
exactly what I was thinking

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By *ourNextAddictionMan over a year ago

Somerset

"i find only women do that but sure some funny blokes do as well but guessing its a 95% woman thing call other women "ugly."

I’d have to disagree. That’s a massive sweeping generalisation.

No "genrilsation" there mate its a fact ie my experience and I'm no spring chicken.

Years of working in factories, offices and even a stint as a coach driver, its women on the whole - no generlisation at all.

We’ll have to agree to disagree. Your experiences don’t make it fact. "

Mixture id say - a lot of men can’t face rejection thus kicking off the insults.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i find only women do that but sure some funny blokes do as well but guessing its a 95% woman thing call other women "ugly."

I’d have to disagree. That’s a massive sweeping generalisation.

No "genrilsation" there mate its a fact ie my experience and I'm no spring chicken.

Years of working in factories, offices and even a stint as a coach driver, its women on the whole - no generlisation at all.

I've been called ugly by far more men than women. Usually if I've turned them down or had the audacity not to reply quickly enough for their liking

. "

When I didn’t engage with a bloke on here the other day, he sent back a message saying ‘lesbian’. I simply replied that his profile pic - a limp dick - was enough to turn me that way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i find only women do that but sure some funny blokes do as well but guessing its a 95% woman thing call other women "ugly."

I’d have to disagree. That’s a massive sweeping generalisation.

No "genrilsation" there mate its a fact ie my experience and I'm no spring chicken.

Years of working in factories, offices and even a stint as a coach driver, its women on the whole - no generlisation at all.

Mr"

"pernal experience does not make it a fact" - What the hech?? So what I have seen and heard is not a "fact"????

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"i find only women do that but sure some funny blokes do as well but guessing its a 95% woman thing call other women "ugly."

I’d have to disagree. That’s a massive sweeping generalisation.

No "genrilsation" there mate its a fact ie my experience and I'm no spring chicken.

Years of working in factories, offices and even a stint as a coach driver, its women on the whole - no generlisation at all.

"pernal experience does not make it a fact" - What the hech?? So what I have seen and heard is not a "fact"????

You can see and hear through your perineum?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She had probably just cought her boyfriend piercing on you but don’t give her the right to call you that

My reasons would have been shut up before I make you boyfriend my new play toy u send him back good and used

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

A massive well done to you not reacting. I don't know you personally but have seen you post on here over the years. Once over you would of seen red and blow your gasket, you really are a better person.

I'm also going to say one word, jealousy. The woman was obviously jealous of you. I feel very sorry for people like that. She is obviously a sad and insecure individual. I would pity her.

One last thing, always remember those who put you down are already way beneath you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Do you have your PJs on op?

No. Works stuff. I’m about to start a night shift.

I meant to say did you? At the time "

I had a hoodie on with leggings and trainers.

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By *weetandHungMan over a year ago

liverpool

Very odd but proud of myself. "

Ignore the woman in the shop, she is just jealous of a more beautiful lady.

Hope the pizza didn’t go cold, would have been funny to have splatted it in her face, but would have been a waste of a pizza.

Was it nice by the way (pizza I mean)

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

What

Annie is sayjng is

She has grown as a person

People always post their journeys on here

Its not what she was called

Its how she responded

For that well

Done

Never argue in the street it can turn

Horrible

Xxx

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By *ilverjagMan over a year ago

swansea

There's arseholes everywhere love, I wouldn't take it to heart, and having just looked at your profile, the chances are that she was displaying jealousy on the highest level through knowing that her boyfriend or partner was very likely to fancy you, and she could never be in your league.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What

Annie is sayjng is

She has grown as a person

People always post their journeys on here

Its not what she was called

Its how she responded

For that well

Done

Never argue in the street it can turn

Horrible

Xxx"

Yes

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"What

Annie is sayjng is

She has grown as a person

People always post their journeys on here

Its not what she was called

Its how she responded

For that well

Done

Never argue in the street it can turn

Horrible

Xxx

Yes

Xxx

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By *ames44XXXMan over a year ago

newport

Obviously just jealous as you are absolutely stunning! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i find only women do that but sure some funny blokes do as well but guessing its a 95% woman thing call other women "ugly."

I’d have to disagree. That’s a massive sweeping generalisation.

No "genrilsation" there mate its a fact ie my experience and I'm no spring chicken.

Years of working in factories, offices and even a stint as a coach driver, its women on the whole - no generlisation at all.

"pernal experience does not make it a fact" - What the hech?? So what I have seen and heard is not a "fact"????

What you have seen and heard may well be fact (assuming your memory is correct and not affected by biases) but that doesn't make your guess that 95% of ugly comments come from women a fact. In your experience that may be true. In mine the opposite is the case. As I said my entire working life has been almost exclusively male so it's not surprising my data is skewed but if you put yours and my experience together you get an average that says the insult is equally like to come from either sex.

You can say that "it is a fact that I have experienced x" but not "I have experienced x so it is a fact" I may be misunderstanding your writing to mean the latter when you meant the former.

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By *imbobaMan over a year ago

Glasgow

Water. Duck. Back.

Good for you. Move on. Who gives a shit what some stranger says. You’ve given them enough of your time already.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why do people do it? Like do people have no manners! It isn't what she said which I would find offensive but thinking that it is ok to say out loud not caring that you'd heard it. It's awful.

I know you have said abut suffering body dysmorphia in the past? What if that was a trigger?

People need to think before they speak.

Ah my apologies Annie, probably what I am remembering

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By *lasgow rooferMan over a year ago

Baillieston

Haters will always hate they have nothing else in their pathetic lives

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

What toppings did you have on the pizza?

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"What toppings did you have on the pizza? "

Fish

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By *iscean_dreamMan over a year ago

Llanelli

"What toppings did you have on the pizza?

Fish"

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By *evil-AngelWoman over a year ago

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Well done for not reacting but did you have to mention Gregg's? I really fancy one more but it's too late

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan over a year ago

Cheshire

"I think it speaks more about her own insecurities than it does on anyone she happens to be saying that about.

I suspect she actually wishes she looked EXACTLY like you (she possibly even fancies you herself) but, knowing she doesn't, is trying to convince herself that you are not her boyfriends type."

Ditto to the above....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very odd but proud of myself. "

You're defo not ugly... far fucking from it, next level you are girl

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You really do have such an unfortunate time of it in life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very odd but proud of myself. "

sounds like you may live in a not so nice area or were in a not so nice area.

The conclusion i have reached is that the other woman may not have liked the way yuo looked at her or the man on her leash gave you an admiring look.

You would have lost if you went for the bait.

Even to this day I try to instil into our children that its best to steer clear of dog shit as once you get embroiled with the shits at least some of the shit will stick on you.

It is easier said than done to turn the other cheek but I've/we've had to do it many times as at times we still do get sworn at/cut up in the car just because we have what many perceive to be a nice car and in the eyes of these lawless shits we don't deserve it as they feel they do whislt sat on their shitty anus and frugs/etc/etc.

No matter how right one is if you mess with shit, not matter how well you think you have done by engaging with them, some of the shit, smell will stick on you.

I avoid shits but shits seem to follow me is the feeling i get at times.

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By *ehind closed curtainsCouple over a year ago

East Midlands

I personally think that the reason you didn't react is because you are 'happy in your own skin' and realise that many others are not.

Hope you enjoyed your pizza. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Follow your zen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get called worse than that but I just ignore them, I just think of them as poor ignorant idiot's

Fair play to you for not letting them see you react to it. X

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By *aui.Man over a year ago

around here

Wow whether someone is ugly or not isn’t the issue. Thats just a really strange thing for someone to do. I can’t imagine what is going through someone’s head to insult someone like that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very odd but proud of myself. "

Quite right to be proud

As to why she said it. I've worked on doors for many years. Unfortunately there are some people who just want to fight. In pubs it's the barging someone and demanding they buy you a new bear or others I've seen. Pinching your partners bum. Accidently spilling their drink over you or your partner. The game is when you respond the trap is sprung. You are left with either a fight situation or look like a loser as you back down.

In my mind they said it just to get a response and draw you into a fight. Equally lots of people get robbed this way as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

In my mind they said it just to get a response and draw you into a fight. Equally lots of people get robbed this way as well. "

I highly highly doubt she wanted a full on fight or to rob me. Was broad daylight in a massive car park with loads of shops and people in their cars and stuff.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Also I didn’t have anything on me only 15p change in cash and my car keys. If she’d gone for my pizza I would’ve dropped her there and then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very odd but proud of myself. "

I’m proud to good stuff !!

Not saying I wouldn’t be just as proud if you booted her in the gut while obviously not dropping the pizza !!

Regardless you handled it the right way !

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS over a year ago

Carlisle

She's obviously insecure and jealous of you! Typical schoolground bully mentality. You done the right thing to ignore it! Her boyfriend probably thought what a shan. Hahahaha x

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By *iss_Cali_xxCouple over a year ago

Herne Bay

Definitely projecting, I think all unprovoked nastiness stems from that persons own self loathing. I'm sorry that happened to you xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like a normal week for me

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