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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Being called cute, sweet, etc.
It’s not always meant in a friend zone way. Sometimes you are cute or sweet etc.
Every guy I’ve met has always hated that. Weird. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's how you speak to small and wimpy women and children, not big and burly men 
In all seriousness, lots of guys will take it as you being cheeky because it's not how they're used to being spoken to. Some really will have such fragile egos that they can't handle it though. |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"Being called cute, sweet, etc.
It’s not always meant in a friend zone way. Sometimes you are cute or sweet etc.
Every guy I’ve met has always hated that. Weird. "
Some don’t some some do , do women mind as well ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate being called cute/ sweet. That isn't the language I'd use when I'm talking to someone with a view to getting sexy. I guess that's why they wouldn't like it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hate being called cute/ sweet. That isn't the language I'd use when I'm talking to someone with a view to getting sexy. I guess that's why they wouldn't like it. "
I get where you’re coming from but if they do or say something which warrants that as a reply?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A baby is cute. A puppy is cute.
I don't want to be cute, I want to be sexy dammit  "
In many circles the obvious compliment is over used, and the lesser ones are often the ones with most impact. In motor racing they are all fast, but when one does something amazing the compliment for those in the know isn’t that they were fucking fast, it’s downgraded to being quick. That’s the ultimate compliment. They’re expected to be fast. Likewise if it’s obvious you’re sexy, adding additional qualifying superlatives is pointless, we know you’re sexy and that’s cute.
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When I met Lorenzo his username was The_Cute_One. Women he sent his face picture to kept saying he's cute so used it as his username for years.
I still call him Cutie Pie on occasion and he doesn't seem to mind.
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Beauty and cuteness is in the eyes of the beholder, so it's fine to share what you perceive. Some men have been pushed too much to portray a 1 dimensional 'man', that's got limited emotional depth. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Shouldn’t you just respect that they don’t like it and not do it?
Very entitled to think you have the right to call someone a pet name. Kinda sexist too. "
Shouldn’t you not assume that I am thinking I’m entitled. You shouldn’t make assumptions , assume makes an ass out of you and me …
I was having a conversation with a male friend and I said aww you’re cute and he implied he hates when woman say that and it sparked curiosity in me as to why!?
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"Shouldn’t you just respect that they don’t like it and not do it?
Very entitled to think you have the right to call someone a pet name. Kinda sexist too.
Shouldn’t you not assume that I am thinking I’m entitled. You shouldn’t make assumptions , assume makes an ass out of you and me …
I was having a conversation with a male friend and I said aww you’re cute and he implied he hates when woman say that and it sparked curiosity in me as to why!?
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I call it as I see it. The thread reeks of “aww why can’t I call people names they don’t like? I like them!” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont think I'd dislike that its always nice to receive a compliment.
If we already had an existing relationship the context of it would also be clear enough and the look on your face as you said it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I say these things to my partners and they don't seem to mind. I also call them sick fucks, perverts and bastards. Life is about balance  . "
Haha I love calling someone I’m close to a dickhead or other terms of endearment. If I insult you I like you. I sent my ex a birthday card saying happy birthday to my favourite dickhead.
It’s a great word |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I say these things to my partners and they don't seem to mind. I also call them sick fucks, perverts and bastards. Life is about balance .
Haha I love calling someone I’m close to a dickhead or other terms of endearment. If I insult you I like you. I sent my ex a birthday card saying happy birthday to my favourite dickhead.
It’s a great word "
I like that too. Haha, dickhead.
I don't mind being called sweet or cute (yes it has happened before) but I don't like it when people say I'm nice. But that's because of other stuff I think.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't care. Tho will play like I'm offended.
I get the impression that men believe gals don't fuck cute. I'm sure some do, and some don't.
I suspect this comes from some guys not holding a sexual frame and get called called cute. So cute = unsexyal = friendzone.
But I'm cute as a button but also a deviant... All part of the disguise.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I say these things to my partners and they don't seem to mind. I also call them sick fucks, perverts and bastards. Life is about balance . "
This I can work with. Tbh, it doesn't bother me.. |
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"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?
The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x yes that is weird "
Instant turn off for me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?
The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x yes that is weird
Instant turn off for me x"
I’m trying to think of situations where it might work but can’t |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?
The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x"
That's because you are a bad girl, of course you don't like it  |
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"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?
The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x
That's because you are a bad girl, of course you don't like it "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being called cute, sweet, etc.
It’s not always meant in a friend zone way. Sometimes you are cute or sweet etc.
Every guy I’ve met has always hated that. Weird. "
Imo I think it's not a very masculine thing to be called. If you see a guy a say to yourself "phwoar! He is fit! He is sexy af!" or something similar. Tell a guy that and it's makes them feel sexier. Calling a guy cute, it's something your mother, grandmother or auntie calls you lol |
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"Being called cute, sweet, etc.
It’s not always meant in a friend zone way. Sometimes you are cute or sweet etc.
Every guy I’ve met has always hated that. Weird. "
You're meeting the wrong kind of guys? |
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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago
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Some guys like it/don’t mind
Some guys hate it
I think there are two different meanings to the word ‘cute’ and how it’s used:
“Awww you’re cute” translates to “You remind me of my baby brother/puppy/child…awww I see you as a sexless friend”
“X is cute” translates as “X is good-looking/sexy…let’s see how this goes”
For me calling me cute is akin to calling something ‘nice’ - I’m not offended but it’s a Luke-warm compliment that just sounds like you don’t want to offend but you’re keeping it standard and safe.
Affectionate insults are much better in my mind. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why do ladies mind to be called babe, sweetie, cutie?
The only thing I mind being called is a "good girl"....for some reason the gives me the creeps x"
Total opposite for me haha they’re magic words to me. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Shouldn’t you just respect that they don’t like it and not do it?
Very entitled to think you have the right to call someone a pet name. Kinda sexist too. "
It's not a pet name, it's a descriptive term  |
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