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So majority of the time most people have put in their bio around discarding messages with "hey" "hi how are you" "hey how's your weekend" etc. I get women and couples get hundreds of messages saying the exact same, my question is what do you expect in a first message or what's a good way to start a first message ? I always read a profile and if there is hardly anything about the person in the bio and not many pictures I'm unsure what I'm suppose to go off to start this first message paragraph ?  |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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As have said many times for us a hi as a first message is OK it is what follows in subsequent messages that is important. A well crafted first message is pointless if subsequent messages are all one word or emojis. We do expect people to have read our profile so they match what we are looking for otherwise you are wasting your time. |
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"As have said many times for us a hi as a first message is OK it is what follows in subsequent messages that is important. A well crafted first message is pointless if subsequent messages are all one word or emojis. We do expect people to have read our profile so they match what we are looking for otherwise you are wasting your time."
Yeah definitely agree being able to hold a conversation and compatible in being into the same things and what that person is looking for. I see it as if I was to meet someone out in a bar etc .. I personally wouldn't start a chat by explaining about myself so it's a bit unnatural  |
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over a year ago
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Mostly something original, humour goes a long way with me. If the first message is lacking, I assume the rest of the conversation will be too. Show a little personality and just be you. |
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I always tailor my opening message and even the subject picking up on something in their profile or a discussion the have been in on here...
In the way it isn't hard to stand out against the copy and paste messages and FAF offerings... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures. "
I totally disagree with this. It doesn’t matter how attractive they are; if their opening gambit is shit, I won’t bother replying. |
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"Mostly something original, humour goes a long way with me. If the first message is lacking, I assume the rest of the conversation will be too. Show a little personality and just be you."
Well it's a good job Christmas is around the corner then, I'll be saving the little paper cracker jokes for my armory of first liners  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my experience it dosent matter what your first message is
If your profile pics suit then that’s all
Ran test with this before two profiles
Well crafted messages on a tv/ts profile
Got blanked
Message on a old man’s profile that I had from first joining with the vaule off elusiveness lifted
A hi how’s you message and ping got a response
Funny that when a pic suits that dosent matter what the message is
Sorry I brake it this way but time to lay hard facts out
As I get this all the time 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures. "
This has been my approach
And my lack of replies leads me to conclude I look like a mess haha |
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures. "
I am not sure if you have ever met anyone with that first line but I would suggest their personality would be questionable  sounds like a very angry individual to me haha |
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It’s a good point, if someone has very little on their profile then there’s not many elaborate first messages you can send, I’m guilty of it too but hey, I prefer to chat to someone and tell them myself, I’m the same way I like to find out about other people myself. Usually the second message will show you if it’s a waste of time or not |
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures. "
100% Annie I so done sugger coating things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures.
I totally disagree with this. It doesn’t matter how attractive they are; if their opening gambit is shit, I won’t bother replying."
Exactly this, doesn't matter how hot you are, if you've got a personality of a sideboard.. I'm not going to be interested  |
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures. "
obviously.if you don't fancy someone what's the point replying |
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures.
100% Annie I so done sugger coating things "
There's a BIG if there ............
Which still leaves most men having to rely on less visual skills. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures.
I totally disagree with this. It doesn’t matter how attractive they are; if their opening gambit is shit, I won’t bother replying.
Exactly this, doesn't matter how hot you are, if you've got a personality of a sideboard.. I'm not going to be interested "
Uh oh hahaha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has been my approach
And my lack of replies leads me to conclude I look like a mess haha
Haha starting to feel the same stay strong "
Yeh man, there's someone for everyone right?  |
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures.
I totally disagree with this. It doesn’t matter how attractive they are; if their opening gambit is shit, I won’t bother replying.
Exactly this, doesn't matter how hot you are, if you've got a personality of a sideboard.. I'm not going to be interested "
I would say your wrong hear as my test in the past have show it |
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It’s a buyers market, women and couples get plenty of messages. We ignore the “Hey x” brigade and don’t even get as far as looking at their profile.
Ultimately we are all a little fickle and there has to be some attraction so including a pic is a must to get our attention, though it can also sadly be the death nail if there is no immediate spark.
Always start with a compliment, and then a little about what drew you to our profile. Fill in something new about you and let the conversation start. Good luck guys, it must be tough and we don’t envy you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my experience it dosent matter what your first message is
If your profile pics suit then that’s all
Ran test with this before two profiles
Well crafted messages on a tv/ts profile
Got blanked
Message on a old man’s profile that I had from first joining with the vaule off elusiveness lifted
A hi how’s you message and ping got a response
Funny that when a pic suits that dosent matter what the message is
Sorry I brake it this way but time to lay hard facts out
As I get this all the time
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So was it the pics that got the different response or the fact I've was a TV profile?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures. "
Totally disagree. Will flat out block a rude first message whatever they look like. When I say rude I mean one of the usual that clearly indicates the sender has no interest in us or what we want, he (and it usually is a he though not always) is only interested in getting his dick wet.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my experience it dosent matter what your first message is
If your profile pics suit then that’s all
Ran test with this before two profiles
Well crafted messages on a tv/ts profile
Got blanked
Message on a old man’s profile that I had from first joining with the vaule off elusiveness lifted
A hi how’s you message and ping got a response
Funny that when a pic suits that dosent matter what the message is
Sorry I brake it this way but time to lay hard facts out
As I get this all the time
So was it the pics that got the different response or the fact I've was a TV profile?
Mr"
Pic as the people that I tested on made shour they were looking for tv/ts and men
Same with all this personal bs you can be dry and a bord and get a repnice I not suger coating anything any more time to lay hard facts
I tryed to show my personal Side gets me no whare
But Lift the vaule do away with the long lens camra to trim the mass
Stope hide the wash bord abs and a man’s profile and people are trip over me
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
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It’s a dice roll about who is on the other end of the message.
I dare say there’s some truth to Annie’s approach; some people here just want to get straight to it and aren’t ‘interested in endless messaging’. I would say they are the exception to the rule, however.
Most will want some form of rapport-building exchange; the more detailed their profile, the more you’re likely to get out of them in that respect although once again, it’s not a hard-and-fast rule.
Humour has worked well for me in the past; it’s not got me a meet yet, but it’s got me very close and almost always gets a reply.
Makes a good filter too. If you’re recipient doesn’t get your humour here, there’s a good chance they won’t get you in person and that’s a situation best avoided. |
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"It’s a buyers market, women and couples get plenty of messages. We ignore the “Hey x” brigade and don’t even get as far as looking at their profile.
Ultimately we are all a little fickle and there has to be some attraction so including a pic is a must to get our attention, though it can also sadly be the death nail if there is no immediate spark.
Always start with a compliment, and then a little about what drew you to our profile. Fill in something new about you and let the conversation start. Good luck guys, it must be tough and we don’t envy you"
Yeah I definitely agree adding a bit more would work so thanks for the response. I do believe it seems to be very one sided, if I receive a first message myself .. which can be few and far between haha I only receive the "hey x" messages. I personally don't mind as of course I'm a single guy and if I didn't respond that would be kind of stupidity but within the next few messages I'll find out myself about them by asking more questions like a general conversation |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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The message can be thoughtful, witty and respectful, but if the profile isn't appealing and your face isn't reasonably attractive you'll get little, if any traction.
You might receive a reply out of courtesy, but not much more. Such is the reality here. |
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"It’s a dice roll about who is on the other end of the message.
I dare say there’s some truth to Annie’s approach; some people here just want to get straight to it and aren’t ‘interested in endless messaging’. I would say they are the exception to the rule, however.
Most will want some form of rapport-building exchange; the more detailed their profile, the more you’re likely to get out of them in that respect although once again, it’s not a hard-and-fast rule.
Humour has worked well for me in the past; it’s not got me a meet yet, but it’s got me very close and almost always gets a reply.
Makes a good filter too. If you’re recipient doesn’t get your humour here, there’s a good chance they won’t get you in person and that’s a situation best avoided."
agree it seems varied and depends who receives the message I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you women realise how time consuming it's gonna be to type out personalised messages based on your profile?
My boner will have gone down by then and I won't be bothered about the message |
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By *edheadjMan
over a year ago
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures. "
But with the amount of messages women and couples receive on the site, how is your looks meant to make that impact you say if they're deleting in bulk because they're getting 100s a day and your 'hi' looks generic and without effort?
Besides, looks can only go so far. You could look like (insert hot Hollywood celeb here) but if you have the personality of a toothbrush, you're not going to be any fun. |
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"So majority of the time most people have put in their bio around discarding messages with "hey" "hi how are you" "hey how's your weekend" etc. I get women and couples get hundreds of messages saying the exact same, my question is what do you expect in a first message or what's a good way to start a first message ? I always read a profile and if there is hardly anything about the person in the bio and not many pictures I'm unsure what I'm suppose to go off to start this first message paragraph ? "
Hi OP. I think it's been mentioned already on this thread, but if a profile doesn't give me much to go on in terms of starting a conversation, personally I'd skip it. |
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"Yeah I definitely agree adding a bit more would work so thanks for the response. I do believe it seems to be very one sided, if I receive a first message myself .. which can be few and far between haha I only receive the "hey x" messages. I personally don't mind as of course I'm a single guy and if I didn't respond that would be kind of stupidity but within the next few messages I'll find out myself about them by asking more questions like a general conversation "
Happy to help and it’s a shame it’s so one sided but that’s the nature of the beast. Happy to provide additional feedback if you think it will help - send us a typical first approach message and We’ll get back to you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many here seek like minded, you'll see in the replies just here that there are different variations of mindsets, so ......
Read their profile, if you feel you can relate then touch on what you can relate to.
Like anything internet based, try to keep it short, or not too long.
Though a long message is much better than .... Hey, what are you up to.
I feel messages asking .....
What you up to
Any plans tonight
Where abouts are you
Etc, though are meant as Smalltalk to begin a conversation, they feel intrusive.
Before sending any initial message, profile reading is a must.
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures.
But with the amount of messages women and couples receive on the site, how is your looks meant to make that impact you say if they're deleting in bulk because they're getting 100s a day and your 'hi' looks generic and without effort?
Besides, looks can only go so far. You could look like (insert hot Hollywood celeb here) but if you have the personality of a toothbrush, you're not going to be any fun. "
If you look at veris you'll see a load of "crap" profiles but the pictures in them are of chiseled torsos and thick thighs etc. Despite what people preach about mental connection, for most the aesthetic is the strongest primary attraction. People will look at the profile before they open a message to see if there's any attraction. I'd say keep doing you and have good pics, the rest will come in time. |
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over a year ago
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Obviously my ‘alright cunt look at my face’ comment was tongue in cheek, although in a moment I’m gonna do some research and message 5 people with that exact message and see what the response is.
But my point still stands. A Shakespearian sonnet won’t get you a response, it’s down to whether that person finds you attractive or not.
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By *aui.Man
over a year ago
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Personally OP I try not to say too much in a first message. Obviously I steer clear of ‘hi’ or ‘fancy a fuck’ but I do try to keep it short, no more than a couple of lines.
In the past I’ve been down the, let’s tailor every message perfectly to everyone I send road. I find that is often a waste of energy. You can sit there for 25 minutes, read the person’s profile 4 or 5 times. You pick up on subtle hints in there profile that suggest you have several shared interests. So you tell them all about yourself and why you are their perfect match. You go into minute details about the things you perceive to be your unique selling point. You check and double check, spellings, grammar and punctuation. Once finished you sit back and marvel at your creativity and humour. In fact that classic lover Lord Byron himself couldn’t have penned a better introduction. Then to top it off you include the perfect photograph, click the send button and wait triumphantly as this is sure to grab his/her/their attention.
Obviously you’re impatient so you keep checking to see if it’s read. Each time you look it remains yellow. And then on the 152nd time of looking you see it. That heart crushing line through the title line that suggests the message has been deleted without even being read. Or even worse than that it’s been read and deleted without a single thought of the raw emotion you’ve put into it.
What more could they have wanted you think to yourself, you literally ticked every box they stipulated on their profile. Then you sit back and reflect. oh well, there’s just no pleasing some people. Maybe the next one will appreciate my ramblings!
Well that turned into more than I intended. Basically what I’m trying to say is. A first message is a mere introduction, nothing more. More details should come once you know the recipient is at least willing to engage with you.
On a side note I do find it curious when a profile says:
“No one liners, messages that say ‘hi, hello, good evening’ etc will be deleted”
And then literally say nothing else. I mean, come on. You want a decent message, give people something to work with! |
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By *aui.Man
over a year ago
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"Obviously my ‘alright cunt look at my face’ comment was tongue in cheek, although in a moment I’m gonna do some research and message 5 people with that exact message and see what the response is.
But my point still stands. A Shakespearian sonnet won’t get you a response, it’s down to whether that person finds you attractive or not.
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I think we just said the same thing but you said it in far less words. |
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"Do you women realise how time consuming it's gonna be to type out personalised messages based on your profile?
My boner will have gone down by then and I won't be bothered about the message "
This is such an important point to make....
It would be so fucking time consuming and as others use time as an excuse for not replying I think that's very just |
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over a year ago
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures. "
Straight talk! Thank you for being so honest.
Many are always demanding everything on here! Yet have nout to offer. Nor a simple face pic. I wonder why lol.
Drama. Filling huge voids they have withing themselves.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If the person you are messaging finds you attractive it doesn’t really matter what you say in your opening message. You could message them saying alright cunt look at my face…
Sooner guys realise that a written message won’t determine a response the better, it’s mainly about the pictures.
Your best ever chance of a reply is to send clear face pictures.
I totally disagree with this. It doesn’t matter how attractive they are; if their opening gambit is shit, I won’t bother replying."
But that is how you flow and operate.
Like the younglady stated.
Many are very visual as most of the women keep stating.
" post your picture,send your picture,post your picture! .but never send your post theirs. |
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"Do you women realise how time consuming it's gonna be to type out personalised messages based on your profile?
My boner will have gone down by then and I won't be bothered about the message
This is such an important point to make....
It would be so fucking time consuming and as others use time as an excuse for not replying I think that's very just"
Innit? I have a max 3 mins wanking time before i cum so I need to keep my messages short and snappy.
I got for the shot gun approach: scatter as many short messages as possible and see if i hit anything |
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I don’t read or reply to most messages that land when I’m not looking. But.. when I am. I don’t really care what it says as long as it’s not in text speak. I check that they match the basic things I’ve stated like distance and single.. but ultimately if I don’t like the face I’m not chatting anyway. It’s not about being super good looking it’s just an initial feeling.
That’s how I run my inbox. |
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over a year ago
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"Well I have my results. 5/5 responded to my opener.
Is it not the case that most women would be a little more discerning? "
Personally I’d find it funny but 8 years ago a guy I met had on his profile “I love to whisper romantic things in your ear after sex, like hey, get the fuck outta my house” I met him and he was really funny PLUS I stole that line and used it on my profile for years |
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By (user no longer on site)
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First and last sentence are usually deciding for me. Odd I know. I just skim through. I read fast. Then there goes delete button 9 times out of 10.
If they talk a lot about themselves.. few sentences starting with I.. mine.. my.. thats one of worst traits and it gets binned instantly. I won't mention all the usual ones.. come to my hotel.. what I would do to your pussy .. you look hot..what are you up to and all others lacking imagination, thought and tact. Yawn.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you meet their criteria?
Have you read their profile in full?
If Yes then a message could begin -
“I think we would get on because….”
A few recent face pics - show your teeth and smile!
Tidy bedroom pics only!
Good spelling and grammar.
And leave it at 1 message.
Delete your sent messages and don’t wait for a reply. Keeps things exciting when you get a yellow in your inbox 
Have fun! |
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It’s got to be engaging…if we get a sniff the message is sent to the masses, it’s binned!
Come across well and your profile, pics also carry on the intrigue, your foot is in the door.
We are here for top shelf and so something has to grab us…
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"Personally OP I try not to say too much in a first message. Obviously I steer clear of ‘hi’ or ‘fancy a fuck’ but I do try to keep it short, no more than a couple of lines.
In the past I’ve been down the, let’s tailor every message perfectly to everyone I send road. I find that is often a waste of energy. You can sit there for 25 minutes, read the person’s profile 4 or 5 times. You pick up on subtle hints in there profile that suggest you have several shared interests. So you tell them all about yourself and why you are their perfect match. You go into minute details about the things you perceive to be your unique selling point. You check and double check, spellings, grammar and punctuation. Once finished you sit back and marvel at your creativity and humour. In fact that classic lover Lord Byron himself couldn’t have penned a better introduction. Then to top it off you include the perfect photograph, click the send button and wait triumphantly as this is sure to grab his/her/their attention.
Obviously you’re impatient so you keep checking to see if it’s read. Each time you look it remains yellow. And then on the 152nd time of looking you see it. That heart crushing line through the title line that suggests the message has been deleted without even being read. Or even worse than that it’s been read and deleted without a single thought of the raw emotion you’ve put into it.
What more could they have wanted you think to yourself, you literally ticked every box they stipulated on their profile. Then you sit back and reflect. oh well, there’s just no pleasing some people. Maybe the next one will appreciate my ramblings!
Well that turned into more than I intended. Basically what I’m trying to say is. A first message is a mere introduction, nothing more. More details should come once you know the recipient is at least willing to engage with you.
On a side note I do find it curious when a profile says:
“No one liners, messages that say ‘hi, hello, good evening’ etc will be deleted”
And then literally say nothing else. I mean, come on. You want a decent message, give people something to work with!"
Loved this response! You're not wrong at all the amount of times you re read it and feel so proud of yourself had me! So many times haha |
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"The best first message you can send is just being really really ridiculously good looking
No message is gonna get over someone being unattracted to you "
That’s basically what I said although they don’t have to be ridiculously good looking, just enough that the recipient finds them attractive. |
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"Personally I’d find it funny but 8 years ago a guy I met had on his profile “I love to whisper romantic things in your ear after sex, like hey, get the fuck outta my house” I met him and he was really funny PLUS I stole that line and used it on my profile for years "
That is pretty funny to be fair.. but let's be honest if I messaged 5 people with the same line you used I could guarantee by the third one i would be reported, profile disabled and blocked by each one. Same as if you said that to someone in person I don't think 5/5 would respond with the same enthusiasm no matter how good looking you are. |
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