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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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... I'm rubbish at it 
Do you think it's a talent ya've either got or not got? Did you learn to flirt? or did it just come naturally? Why is it so feck'n difficult for some of us? lol!
I can be having a perfectly fun and confident time, then someone will flirt with me and I still panic and just dunno what to say back! lol!
I'm sure I give out a disinterested 'message' at times because of it 
Why can't I do it?!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I flirt all the time, I think its something that's defined by your successes as a youth.
I grew up on a holiday park so would meet 100's of new people a month. Having confidence to speak to new people without fear of rejection is one thing, but mastering how to handle rejection only makes you more confident. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looooove flirting...
Do it all the time...But I am carefull to pick my victims.... wouldnt want to cause offence.
They invented "Dignity at work" just for me !!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I flirt all the time, ....but mastering how to handle rejection only makes you more confident. "
So you would put it down to confidence? I don't think I'm not confident... maybe I just have no imagination lol! 
I'll have to practice more |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am rubbish at flirting.
If I like someone, I just let him know by telling him directly.  "
Yeah, I think that might be me too.  doesn't bother me if it get's me nowhere, just gotta ask anyway.. Just when I see others flirting on the threads it looks really fun and always makes me smile, would be nice to join in sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Looooove flirting...
Do it all the time...But I am carefull to pick my victims.... wouldnt want to cause offence.
They invented "Dignity at work" just for me !!!! "
Is that flirting or harrassment? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer the direct approach, this way, I do not live the rest of my life pondering "what if's".
Not sure about overt public display of affection in the form of flirting and love-in's on a message board, as some of them are really cringe-worthy, IMHO.
I only do it to/with one person as fun and games as I know it will not lead to anything. He knows who he is! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looooove flirting...
Do it all the time...But I am carefull to pick my victims.... wouldnt want to cause offence.
They invented "Dignity at work" just for me !!!!
Is that flirting or harrassment? "
Nooooo... I dont let em harrass me...
And I generally pick on the ones who can handle 'emselves....
If it aint fun.... Wheres the point??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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im shit at flirting, im also shit at picking up if someones flirting with me
I can be stood talking to someone for ages in a club and then i'll just walk off because i think hes just chatting and being friendly, then my mates will say..what did you walk off for he was so coming onto you.....and i'll think, was he, when |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"im shit at flirting, im also shit at picking up if someones flirting with me
I can be stood talking to someone for ages in a club and then i'll just walk off because i think hes just chatting and being friendly, then my mates will say..what did you walk off for he was so coming onto you.....and i'll think, was he, when "
lol! In a rock club once this guy came over he chatted a bit and told me he had 2 tickets to see a band, I seriously though he was trying to offload the 2 tickets and said thanks very much but I didn't like the band and he should offer them to someone else lol! he looked perplexed and left and my mate just shook her head at me in disbelief she still takes the piss about that one |
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"im shit at flirting, im also shit at picking up if someones flirting with me
I can be stood talking to someone for ages in a club and then i'll just walk off because i think hes just chatting and being friendly, then my mates will say..what did you walk off for he was so coming onto you.....and i'll think, was he, when "
I'm the same!!!
Think confidence has a lot to do with it and other than in the sack I don't have much confidence around members of the opposite sex lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just Fia - Get that imagination of yours working. Practice makes perfection as they say and if the peeps have a sense of humour and and an ounce of understnding they will welcome your endeavours. |
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I am really bad at flirting and being able to tell when I am being flirted at. I even had a friend that used to have to tell me when I was being hit on so I would know. It's ok being confidant but it sometimes comes down to the belief that someone can fancy you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just Fia - Get that imagination of yours working. Practice makes perfection as they say and if the peeps have a sense of humour and and an ounce of understnding they will welcome your endeavours."
Yeah but when I try, I just end up insulting them instead lol! I think I must still have that 'school playground' mindset |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"im shit at flirting, im also shit at picking up if someones flirting with me
I can be stood talking to someone for ages in a club and then i'll just walk off because i think hes just chatting and being friendly, then my mates will say..what did you walk off for he was so coming onto you.....and i'll think, was he, when
lol! In a rock club once this guy came over he chatted a bit and told me he had 2 tickets to see a band, I seriously though he was trying to offload the 2 tickets and said thanks very much but I didn't like the band and he should offer them to someone else lol! he looked perplexed and left and my mate just shook her head at me in disbelief she still takes the piss about that one "
I have an even 'better' example of totally missing that someone was interested in me. I still kick myself.
I'm rubbish at flirting and at noticing when someone is interested in me. I tend to take it as just being friendly or just banter.
I also don't know how to handle it when I think someone might be interested and I also send fuck off vibes. In fact I tend to send 'stay away' vibes so often people don't approach me to try in the first place.
I've never been 'picked up' and all my boyfriends have been men I've asked out. Here, I'm fine with men expressing an interest, (maybe because it's more overt and obvious), but in the "real world" I'm totally different. Perhaps it's down to my inner control freak wanting to be the one making the choices and doing the asking.
I'm curious to see how I fare at a club, when I finally get my behind along to one.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with a good bit of flanter!
I sometimes forget in even doing it - bars, pubs, supermarket checkouts - and especially on here!
It's fun, providing its done in the right way - not creepy, cringeworthy or cheesy - although if ther'e's been prior interaction tre olds cheesy line is often fun! And it's harmless fun as long as you dont ever go too far and give the wrong idea! |
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I don't think I flirt. The jury is still out on that.
Some people have said that they are good at flirting ..... Do you think ?
Makes me cringe when someone I'm not attracted to flirts or when blokes are crude and think it's a come on ......
Constant innuendo is fucking childish and makes me sick to the core.
New thread coming up ....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"oops ...... NO It's not. Its' the same as this one ....
To those that say they are GOOD at it ..
What makes a good flirt ? "
Self confidence...
A sense of fun... And a genuine liking of other people...
*Works for me...* |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"oops ...... NO It's not. Its' the same as this one ....
To those that say they are GOOD at it ..
What makes a good flirt ? "
How often it works? I'm going to a party tonight (have I mensioned that on enough threads yet? ) I'm going to practice flirting whilst being fucked... or do you think it's pointles by that stage?  |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"oops ...... NO It's not. Its' the same as this one ....
To those that say they are GOOD at it ..
What makes a good flirt ?
How often it works? I'm going to a party tonight (have I mensioned that on enough threads yet? ) I'm going to practice flirting whilst being fucked... or do you think it's pointles by that stage? "
Least you will get some practice in  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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I'm not very good at flirting especially in person. Do think it's something that either comes naturally or doesn't!
Doesn't help that I am not always the quickest at picking up signals unless they are as subtle as a sledgehammer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am also rubbish at flirting and knowing someone is flirting with me too!! Tony on the other hand is sooo good at it, he tries to give me tips and i get really excited thinking I am gonna just go for it and when am faced with the situation I freeze.
I too think I give out uninterested signals but I just get flustered |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm always flirting even though I'm crap at it and it goes down like a lead balloon.
I don't know when people are flirting with me, I just think they are taking the piss. |
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