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By *asy-tiger OP Man
over a year ago
Ringwood | Bournemouth | Poole |
I alway find it curious how much mail women and couples and some guys receive. My max is usually 7-10 unread in my inbox in the morning. What is your current unread message tally in your inbox? X |
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over a year ago
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none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
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over a year ago
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
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Okkkayyyyyy then! Righty ho! Ummm....whatever!  
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
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So every piece of junk mail you get through the door you respond to as well. Good to know.
I often ignore my inbox for a week or more at a time because I'm not in the right headspace for private conversation with people I don't actually know. That doesn't make me rude, that means I've taken the phone off the hook and let the mail pile up on the mat.
If anyone really wants to talk to me that much, they'll wait for an answer or try again. Don't see why they would, but sometimes they do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"4 all from guys who are up for fun and wanking and a couple from Tvs which I will answer "
funny tht re tvs/bi guys we've made it clear we are not itnerested in tvs/bi etc but majority are from them, but i still read and will thank them as its only polite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honestly 859. But yet those guys would expect me to answer every single message with a no thanks. "
No I expect the answer to be " oh of course I want to meet"  |
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get a lot less since Fab changed my profile to a couples profile...
30 at the moment. Used to be in the hundreds. I prefer it this way  "
Exactly as I posted earlier ie thats what we didd a couple of weeks into this site as we got to work out what worked etc
its a bit like someone saying hi to you on the street or party and you ignoring them, we would never do that.
its in our culture to be polite and the way we were brought up. Sure there are people there that may take advantage and on here easily resolved via blocking |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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Mine is certainly a very round number!
And looking back through all the posts in here, it’s almost as if women get a lot more messages than men, how weird, who would have thought! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
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So it’s our fault men don’t read the profile properly? Good to know! |
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
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Don’t be ridiculous. What about 800/900 like some people have? I don’t think my profile is giving the wrong impression at all at the moment! I refuse to block men. Not my fault they can’t read. Nothing to do with respect.
How about respect me and read my profile! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"111... and that's all from people who haven't read my profile, so I refuse to answer.. and those who I have already said no to, that still message again, and again regardless...
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Ouch that's a lot. I won't add to your inbox today then  |
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"I alway find it curious how much mail women and couples and some guys receive. My max is usually 7-10 unread in my inbox in the morning. What is your current unread message tally in your inbox? X"
None as don’t receive any hardly anyway  and if I did receive well there all from men, obviously don’t read my profile |
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
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Are you for real?? It’d take me 6 hours to open every message on my inbox and kinda ready for 5 seconds. Some are longer. Never mind replying…
Who’s got the attention span and the WILL to do that?
Also, it doesn’t make me disrespectful as it clearly means I got way too much going on. (And that’s also okay)
So I pick and choose the messages that catch my eyes and that I find worth giving a min to.
I tend to always reply to forumites btw (generally speaking)
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
Are you for real?? It’d take me 6 hours to open every message on my inbox and kinda ready for 5 seconds. Some are longer. Never mind replying…
Who’s got the attention span and the WILL to do that?
Also, it doesn’t make me disrespectful as it clearly means I got way too much going on. (And that’s also okay)
So I pick and choose the messages that catch my eyes and that I find worth giving a min to.
I tend to always reply to forumites btw (generally speaking)
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6 hours if I dedicated 5 seconds MAX non stop in opening/closing each single message.
6 freaking hours! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So I pick and choose the messages that catch my eyes and that I find worth giving a min to.
I tend to always reply to forumites btw (generally speaking)
6 hours if I dedicated 5 seconds MAX non stop in opening/closing each single message.
6 freaking hours!"
You Betta get at it then and stop moaning…  |
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By *asy-tiger OP Man
over a year ago
Ringwood | Bournemouth | Poole |
"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
Are you for real?? It’d take me 6 hours to open every message on my inbox and kinda ready for 5 seconds. Some are longer. Never mind replying…
Who’s got the attention span and the WILL to do that?
Also, it doesn’t make me disrespectful as it clearly means I got way too much going on. (And that’s also okay)
So I pick and choose the messages that catch my eyes and that I find worth giving a min to.
I tend to always reply to forumites btw (generally speaking)
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This is true
Maybe fab should have a quick reply button for no thank you or yes how are you. Bit like LinkedIn does x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So I pick and choose the messages that catch my eyes and that I find worth giving a min to.
I tend to always reply to forumites btw (generally speaking)
6 hours if I dedicated 5 seconds MAX non stop in opening/closing each single message.
6 freaking hours!
You Betta get at it then and stop moaning… "
Let me be !!!!  |
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
Are you for real?? It’d take me 6 hours to open every message on my inbox and kinda ready for 5 seconds. Some are longer. Never mind replying…
Who’s got the attention span and the WILL to do that?
Also, it doesn’t make me disrespectful as it clearly means I got way too much going on. (And that’s also okay)
So I pick and choose the messages that catch my eyes and that I find worth giving a min to.
I tend to always reply to forumites btw (generally speaking)
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Yeah I do too. If I see someone from the forums I tend to reply. The rest I don’t x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
Are you for real?? It’d take me 6 hours to open every message on my inbox and kinda ready for 5 seconds. Some are longer. Never mind replying…
Who’s got the attention span and the WILL to do that?
Also, it doesn’t make me disrespectful as it clearly means I got way too much going on. (And that’s also okay)
So I pick and choose the messages that catch my eyes and that I find worth giving a min to.
I tend to always reply to forumites btw (generally speaking)
This is true
Maybe fab should have a quick reply button for no thank you or yes how are you. Bit like LinkedIn does x"
Don’t let me start on apps like tinder or whatever where you have to swipe… I’d literally also couldn’t keep up over there and used to just swipe as fast as I could and by the type it was chat time I was done… literally D O N E!
I think the solution would be having a PA to bring forward a few options every week..
Kinda Like a run through (10 options )
simple, easy.. and manageable |
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
Are you for real?? It’d take me 6 hours to open every message on my inbox and kinda ready for 5 seconds. Some are longer. Never mind replying…
Who’s got the attention span and the WILL to do that?
Also, it doesn’t make me disrespectful as it clearly means I got way too much going on. (And that’s also okay)
So I pick and choose the messages that catch my eyes and that I find worth giving a min to.
I tend to always reply to forumites btw (generally speaking)
6 hours if I dedicated 5 seconds MAX non stop in opening/closing each single message.
6 freaking hours!"
Should I start a side hustle managing ladies' inboxes on here... Just saying I can probably pull together 6 hours if the price was right...  |
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
Are you for real?? It’d take me 6 hours to open every message on my inbox and kinda ready for 5 seconds. Some are longer. Never mind replying…
Who’s got the attention span and the WILL to do that?
Also, it doesn’t make me disrespectful as it clearly means I got way too much going on. (And that’s also okay)
So I pick and choose the messages that catch my eyes and that I find worth giving a min to.
I tend to always reply to forumites btw (generally speaking)
6 hours if I dedicated 5 seconds MAX non stop in opening/closing each single message.
6 freaking hours!
Should I start a side hustle managing ladies' inboxes on here... Just saying I can probably pull together 6 hours if the price was right... "
I think there’s actual money to be made !!!!  |
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
Are you for real?? It’d take me 6 hours to open every message on my inbox and kinda ready for 5 seconds. Some are longer. Never mind replying…
Who’s got the attention span and the WILL to do that?
Also, it doesn’t make me disrespectful as it clearly means I got way too much going on. (And that’s also okay)
So I pick and choose the messages that catch my eyes and that I find worth giving a min to.
I tend to always reply to forumites btw (generally speaking)
6 hours if I dedicated 5 seconds MAX non stop in opening/closing each single message.
6 freaking hours!
Should I start a side hustle managing ladies' inboxes on here... Just saying I can probably pull together 6 hours if the price was right...
I think there’s actual money to be made !!!! "
I can offer you the Basic Package, where you give me your ideal type and I just delete anyone who doesn't match it, or the Deluxe, which includes sarcastic, passive aggressive replies to FAF messages, dick pics and those who clearly haven't read your profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Could you do a package for us men who can't read as well? Basic package you spam everyone on out behalf, deluxe you write thoughtful messages that may get a reply?
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"none as I respect people taking time and effort to make contact even if itts just a hi, i/we always read but rarely repsond to one liners or just a few words other than say 'read our profile' an if the bs contiunes second time a block.
We were both brought up to repsct others and told that people that come to see us, talk to us could easily do it to someone else so show them respect
thos getting more emails than they can handle, change your profile as it must be giving the wrong impression you getting so many contactd and not be bothered to read them at the very least. Reading most takes a split second.
Are you for real?? It’d take me 6 hours to open every message on my inbox and kinda ready for 5 seconds. Some are longer. Never mind replying…
Who’s got the attention span and the WILL to do that?
Also, it doesn’t make me disrespectful as it clearly means I got way too much going on. (And that’s also okay)
So I pick and choose the messages that catch my eyes and that I find worth giving a min to.
I tend to always reply to forumites btw (generally speaking)
6 hours if I dedicated 5 seconds MAX non stop in opening/closing each single message.
6 freaking hours!
Should I start a side hustle managing ladies' inboxes on here... Just saying I can probably pull together 6 hours if the price was right...
I think there’s actual money to be made !!!!
I can offer you the Basic Package, where you give me your ideal type and I just delete anyone who doesn't match it, or the Deluxe, which includes sarcastic, passive aggressive replies to FAF messages, dick pics and those who clearly haven't read your profile "
Oooh I’m loving the deluxe one!!! Haha just make sure you bring my some option for the run through every week
(In my head I’m imagining the scene with Miranda Pristley in DWP when they pick options for the photo shoot. But instead of clothes it’s men/ and their profiles )
WHY IS NONE REAAAADYYYY |
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