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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inside the furom to outside the furom?
By forumites or non fab people ? X
On fabs by anyone"
Yes, definitely. People on the forum know me a bit, and treat me with more respect (mostly) than randoms. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
Sometimes ignored on the forums, sometimes blocked because of our posts, zero impact upon our meets (we think) so doesn't really matter.
As a side note one person we met actually mentioned our forum activity, said he was interested to meet me (Mr) and how I was going to be due to being in his opinion 'outspoken'. All went well, a great foursome meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mostly the same. Her ladyship has her own profile so it's mostly me on here and the only people to message are mostly from the forums.
That said, I do get more "I'm in Swansea, want to fuck me?" messages away from the forums - I mostly assume it's a case of mistaken identity and the poor helpless schmucks think they're talking to her ladyship.
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Mostly the same. Her ladyship has her own profile so it's mostly me on here and the only people to message are mostly from the forums.
That said, I do get more "I'm in Swansea, want to fuck me?" messages away from the forums - I mostly assume it's a case of mistaken identity and the poor helpless schmucks think they're talking to her ladyship.
Mr"
Bless 'em.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes ignored on the forums, sometimes blocked because of our posts, zero impact upon our meets (we think) so doesn't really matter.
As a side note one person we met actually mentioned our forum activity, said he was interested to meet me (Mr) and how I was going to be due to being in his opinion 'outspoken'. All went well, a great foursome meet."
I've definitely had at least two blocks from the forums which I assume are to do with my terrible attitude 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On not sure how you are defining differently. The honest answer is yes because often people that message me or interact with me on the forum are doing so because of something I've commented on or said where as messages from people I've had no previous contact with are normally about meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the forum I'm a person with a silly sense of humour. Outside the forum I'm a set of holes.
Is my perspective."
Maybe you just have humorous holes?
Mr |
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I only really chat on here and the occasional pm to do with a thread so probably yes. Been here so long that most of my people I chat to I chat to elsewhere. I don’t look at messages from people I don’t know at the moment x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. People outside the forum have a tendency to talk to me. A dm is a dm after all.
Or are we talking about real life. Because real life is waaaaaay different to the Fab website.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the forum I'm a person with a silly sense of humour. Outside the forum I'm a set of holes.
Is my perspective.
Maybe you just have humorous holes?
Mr"
My ass is hilarious! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm often as invisible on the forums as I am in any other situation.
It doesn't really bother me and not something I think about
Exactly this  Miss pc "
Couldn't have said it better. |
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I think I'm lucky to have people who I can chat with on the forum and off.
Sometimes I get replies, sometimes I don't. Sometimes I feel like I'm shouting into the darkness and no one hears me, Sometimes I feel quite heard
The fourumites are wonderful. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
Yes, and it's too be expected, forums are for chat and a laugh, private is for serious and interest (not all always wanted from some on fab) so rare I talk to 'forumites' other than thread related  |
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I talk to far more people away from the forums and those i talk to from the forums it isn’t sexual. The difference is the people off the forums are the ones who I am likely to meet as they are mostly local. So the chat is definitely different
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I chat regularly to a few people from the forums and probably twice as many who don't. I haven't ever really noticed much difference in the interactions but a meet seems to be easier to arrange with non forum users |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s very rare I talk to someone who isn’t in someway forum related. The main difference for me is that because of the forums they know me a little to start with |
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow.  "
I do yeah. Especially at the moment as if they’ve messaged me looking to potentially meet then they obviously haven’t read my profile so that would annoy me even more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow.
I do yeah. Especially at the moment as if they’ve messaged me looking to potentially meet then they obviously haven’t read my profile so that would annoy me even more. "
Faf? |
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow.
I do yeah. Especially at the moment as if they’ve messaged me looking to potentially meet then they obviously haven’t read my profile so that would annoy me even more.
Faf? "
Of course! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow.
I do yeah. Especially at the moment as if they’ve messaged me looking to potentially meet then they obviously haven’t read my profile so that would annoy me even more.
Faf?
Of course! "
Yay. On way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow.
I do yeah. Especially at the moment as if they’ve messaged me looking to potentially meet then they obviously haven’t read my profile so that would annoy me even more. "
That's fair, Nora. I find it a lot easier if people lead with the "do you want to meet" than compliments (for example). It's easier to say no then Tho I would like to meet but not with 99% of those who message me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s very rare I talk to someone who isn’t in someway forum related. The main difference for me is that because of the forums they know me a little to start with"
Most of my messages are not from forumites. Maybe it just because I have tits?? |
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow.
I do yeah. Especially at the moment as if they’ve messaged me looking to potentially meet then they obviously haven’t read my profile so that would annoy me even more.
That's fair, Nora. I find it a lot easier if people lead with the "do you want to meet" than compliments (for example). It's easier to say no then Tho I would like to meet but not with 99% of those who message me. "
Haha I know what you mean. The amount of “wow you’re stunning” messages I get when the only pic is of my legs!  |
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Not that I've taken any notice but I have been on here in the forums in the past as a male and jesus was the reception different.
As a guy I was ignored pretty much all the time even by those who know me on here as Sophie, it's a very different place for men/women and trans  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not that I've taken any notice but I have been on here in the forums in the past as a male and jesus was the reception different.
As a guy I was ignored pretty much all the time even by those who know me on here as Sophie, it's a very different place for men/women and trans "
It didn’t use to be such a nice place to be trans…. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow.
I do yeah. Especially at the moment as if they’ve messaged me looking to potentially meet then they obviously haven’t read my profile so that would annoy me even more.
That's fair, Nora. I find it a lot easier if people lead with the "do you want to meet" than compliments (for example). It's easier to say no then Tho I would like to meet but not with 99% of those who message me.
Haha I know what you mean. The amount of “wow you’re stunning” messages I get when the only pic is of my legs! "
They're not bad legs tbf
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow. "
Pretty much I don’t have much interest in talking to random people. At least with people on the forum I have a sense of knowing most and enjoy talking to them. |
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow.
I do yeah. Especially at the moment as if they’ve messaged me looking to potentially meet then they obviously haven’t read my profile so that would annoy me even more.
That's fair, Nora. I find it a lot easier if people lead with the "do you want to meet" than compliments (for example). It's easier to say no then Tho I would like to meet but not with 99% of those who message me.
Haha I know what you mean. The amount of “wow you’re stunning” messages I get when the only pic is of my legs!
They're not bad legs tbf
Mr"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The forum men tend to be a tad more subtle in their FAF approach because they've read all the threads that say the ladies don't like the crude messages "
Yes I'm sure this is true! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow.
I do yeah. Especially at the moment as if they’ve messaged me looking to potentially meet then they obviously haven’t read my profile so that would annoy me even more.
That's fair, Nora. I find it a lot easier if people lead with the "do you want to meet" than compliments (for example). It's easier to say no then Tho I would like to meet but not with 99% of those who message me.
Haha I know what you mean. The amount of “wow you’re stunning” messages I get when the only pic is of my legs! "
I was having a convo earlier about this. My urge to say "thank you" to a politely worded compliment is SO strong even though I know it's a load of crap.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s very rare I talk to someone who isn’t in someway forum related. The main difference for me is that because of the forums they know me a little to start with
Most of my messages are not from forumites. Maybe it just because I have tits??"
It could very well be or it could be my bio |
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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow. "
I reply to some of the other messages but only when I'm in a bad mood. So it's usually best I stay far, far away from my inbox. Because of that, when I do look at it I tend to look for people who I either know, or "know", or at least vaguely recognise from the forum.
Posh
(Bob is nicer than me, he responds to anyone who sends a pleasant message. But don't tell him I told you) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s very rare I talk to someone who isn’t in someway forum related. The main difference for me is that because of the forums they know me a little to start with
Most of my messages are not from forumites. Maybe it just because I have tits??
It could very well be or it could be my bio"
I should have stuck to stealing yours |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do some of you really only reply to messages from forumites?? Wow.
Pretty much I don’t have much interest in talking to random people. At least with people on the forum I have a sense of knowing most and enjoy talking to them. "
But the forumites would have been random people once I think I'm just quite new (4 months) and I have a different take on it maybe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s very rare I talk to someone who isn’t in someway forum related. The main difference for me is that because of the forums they know me a little to start with
Most of my messages are not from forumites. Maybe it just because I have tits??
It could very well be or it could be my bio
I should have stuck to stealing yours "
I wouldn’t steal my current one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s very rare I talk to someone who isn’t in someway forum related. The main difference for me is that because of the forums they know me a little to start with
Most of my messages are not from forumites. Maybe it just because I have tits??
It could very well be or it could be my bio
I should have stuck to stealing yours
I wouldn’t steal my current one "
I hadn't looked but I can guess why! |
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I have a lot more conversations with people from outside the forum, and they are the people I tend to meet.
It's very rare any of the crap I share on the forum prompts a message (although it did today, which was nice!). The friendships I've made have been made without interaction on the forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s very rare I talk to someone who isn’t in someway forum related. The main difference for me is that because of the forums they know me a little to start with
Most of my messages are not from forumites. Maybe it just because I have tits??
It could very well be or it could be my bio
I should have stuck to stealing yours
I wouldn’t steal my current one "
Aww . I love that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s very rare I talk to someone who isn’t in someway forum related. The main difference for me is that because of the forums they know me a little to start with
Most of my messages are not from forumites. Maybe it just because I have tits??
It could very well be or it could be my bio
I should have stuck to stealing yours
I wouldn’t steal my current one
Aww. I love that. "
Just telling the truth |
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By *rixterMan
over a year ago
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"I get more conversations outside of the forums. Here its very much who you know really in my opinion anyway
Or how long you’ve been here and how involved you get "
Yes quite possibly the case |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No, I don't think so. Not really. I tend to talk to people who are a bit nerdy, needy and nonsensical on and off the forum. I get similar messages from both sets of people. Away from the forum people do tend to marvel at my incredible lexicon a bit more. But generally, not really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am me regardless off whare it is forums private message or in public like social and clubs and such
But I do keep notes ie
Icnore me on private or forums you can expect the same back at a club or social
Love it when you send a pm and they just blank it and the next thing they all google eyed at a club at you sorry had the chance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have commented on many threads but no one ever interacts.
I find the forums very clique.
I am going to give up on them.
Messages and private chats are great and super friendly xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have commented on many threads but no one ever interacts.
I find the forums very clique.
I am going to give up on them.
Messages and private chats are great and super friendly xx "
Ah don’t give up! I’m sure I can speak for many when I say we’ve all felt ignored at times or missed on a thread. I can assure you it’s not on purpose. Sometimes threads move fast or people don’t have anything to add on to your comment. Don’t give up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have commented on many threads but no one ever interacts.
I find the forums very clique.
I am going to give up on them.
Messages and private chats are great and super friendly xx "
100% agree. Think I'll give up participating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have commented on many threads but no one ever interacts.
I find the forums very clique.
I am going to give up on them.
Messages and private chats are great and super friendly xx "
Take my way still comment don’t care but take notes
When summer rolls around and at clubs and social and stuff tell them sorry not interested happy swingeing wait let me re frase that I would have been interested but you chose to icnore me so I am going to do the same hear to you I am the same person I am hear as real life your not interested on fab I am not interested hear
It’s a very good feeling when you do then proceed to chat up some other none forum goer right infort off them |
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"I have commented on many threads but no one ever interacts.
I find the forums very clique.
I am going to give up on them.
Messages and private chats are great and super friendly xx
Ah don’t give up! I’m sure I can speak for many when I say we’ve all felt ignored at times or missed on a thread. I can assure you it’s not on purpose. Sometimes threads move fast or people don’t have anything to add on to your comment. Don’t give up "
Agree with this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Outside of the forum is a two way conversation, but on here it's more just shouting into a void with an occasional reply. I quite like both, depending on how I'm feeling. I wouldn't worry about being ignored, everyone thinks they are but I think it's mainly just not a very good format for showing reactions, you don't want to be quoting people every single time they make you laugh or you agree with something they say. |
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"On the forums people are ruder as they can be faceless virtue signalling keyboard warriors, in real life when they see a 6'5" dude, they tend to be nicer funnily enough. "
Is being intimidating deliberate or accidental? |
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By *ob08Man
over a year ago
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"On the forums people are ruder as they can be faceless virtue signalling keyboard warriors, in real life when they see a 6'5" dude, they tend to be nicer funnily enough.
Is being intimidating deliberate or accidental? "
What a strange question, if they're intimidated it must be their biased perception. |
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"On the forums people are ruder as they can be faceless virtue signalling keyboard warriors, in real life when they see a 6'5" dude, they tend to be nicer funnily enough.
Is being intimidating deliberate or accidental?
What a strange question, if they're intimidated it must be their biased perception. "
I'm just wondering what being 6ft 5 has anything to do with people being nicer to you? It sounded like your height intimidates people into being nicer? If people are simply nicer in real life, what does your height have to do with it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have commented on many threads but no one ever interacts.
I find the forums very clique.
I am going to give up on them.
Messages and private chats are great and super friendly xx "
Sorry you feel that way, we're not all like that. Please stick around, there are friendly people here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have commented on many threads but no one ever interacts.
I find the forums very clique.
I am going to give up on them.
Messages and private chats are great and super friendly xx
100% agree. Think I'll give up participating. "
We all go through phases of feeling/being invisible on here. Don’t give up. |
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"I have commented on many threads but no one ever interacts.
I find the forums very clique.
I am going to give up on them.
Messages and private chats are great and super friendly xx
100% agree. Think I'll give up participating.
We all go through phases of feeling/being invisible on here. Don’t give up."
Who said that ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. I am (probably not anymore after this post) likely to get a reply from someone off the forum if I messaged them.
I think if you are familiar with someone, it’s easier to reply to them. Maybe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Forums are to chat shit with people and find social parties
Fab is for hunting for sexual partners and adventures 
Nothing has changed for me in 51 weeks "
I hope your underwear has. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, I am definitely treated and seen differently. Because I have Asperger's. People see me as a freak, Oddball, and socially awkward. I agree with the socially awkward part. |
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