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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Kinda following on from an earlier thread about what makes an older woman more attractive I just wanted to balance this out a little if we can.
As a guy in my late 40’s I know that guys around my age bring different qualities to a guy in his early 20’s.
Guys - what qualities have you got now that you didn’t have when you were younger?
Women - what qualities do older guys have that you can’t see or find in younger men? |
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*some* older men have a presence about them that younger men don't, *some* are way more confident sexually and socially, *some* understand that women aren't all the same...but some aren't  .
I do prefer men over about 47 but I can't claim that's older as far as I'm concerned  |
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I have a self confidence that I didn’t have in my 20’s. I wouldn’t look girls in the eye and that is one of my best features - my eyes!
I feel more body confident and also care less about what others think. Not in a cocky way, I think you just hit a point where you think ‘well I can’t change my looks’ and that in itself helps me feel more sexier, like I’m owning it 
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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago
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"*some* older men have a presence about them that younger men don't, *some* are way more confident sexually and socially, *some* understand that women aren't all the same...but some aren't .
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Ahh. I forgot the *some*. But yes. *Some* |
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"I have a self confidence that I didn’t have in my 20’s. I wouldn’t look girls in the eye and that is one of my best features - my eyes!
I feel more body confident and also care less about what others think. Not in a cocky way, I think you just hit a point where you think ‘well I can’t change my looks’ and that in itself helps me feel more sexier, like I’m owning it
K"
That's good to hear. I also think that a lot of older men lose that competitive streak when it comes to women, they don't do that showing off thing or that really, really annoying thing of talking to women as if they know less than them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"They tend to at least have the big brain in gear half the time even when they're revving with the little brain.
Plus, their eyesight and hearing is often a bit more in my favour 
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More awareness of consequences of their actions? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when younger i wanted an older woman i married one at when you are 20 and your wife is even a couple of years older than you, its nice. I know of people in later life, man about mid 30's mammired mid 50 woman, bloke 50 and woman 70 and they get feed yup people assuming the wife is the mother and the lady get depressed about it and we can tell, she fears her man will leave her.
Not many people thing about a bigger age gap when younger but it is telling when older |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"*some* older men have a presence about them that younger men don't, *some* are way more confident sexually and socially, *some* understand that women aren't all the same...but some aren't .
I do prefer men over about 47 but I can't claim that's older as far as I'm concerned "
You are right to point out that this can be a generalisation.
Presence is a really interesting one as this is something that is developed though experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’d like to hope that a guy in his 40’s would have done all his casual shagging around and lad stuff. May have a child from a previous relationship and on amicable terms with the ex partner so they understand the parenting side. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have a self confidence that I didn’t have in my 20’s. I wouldn’t look girls in the eye and that is one of my best features - my eyes!
I feel more body confident and also care less about what others think. Not in a cocky way, I think you just hit a point where you think ‘well I can’t change my looks’ and that in itself helps me feel more sexier, like I’m owning it
K"
I feel the same way. Confidence and owning who I am has come with age for me too |
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"*some* older men have a presence about them that younger men don't, *some* are way more confident sexually and socially, *some* understand that women aren't all the same...but some aren't .
I do prefer men over about 47 but I can't claim that's older as far as I'm concerned
You are right to point out that this can be a generalisation.
Presence is a really interesting one as this is something that is developed though experience"
I didn't intend to point it out in an aggressive way although looking at it my * are a bit pointy .
Presence is similar to confidence I think and yes, experience will help with that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have financial security, an ability to spot bullshit, confidence and an ability to be far more laid back … oh, and grey hairs "
Grey jays are always a winner
Do you feel you can spot bs better or do you just not tolerate it now? |
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"They tend to at least have the big brain in gear half the time even when they're revving with the little brain.
Plus, their eyesight and hearing is often a bit more in my favour
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They aren’t deaf or blind though, they see and hear the important stuff  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In my experience they have more of a mature attitude to sex in general. They have more of a respect for couples and can have a sexual relationship without developing feelings. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’d like to hope that a guy in his 40’s would have done all his casual shagging around and lad stuff. May have a child from a previous relationship and on amicable terms with the ex partner so they understand the parenting side. "
Understanding the parenting side is so important |
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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago
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"They tend to at least have the big brain in gear half the time even when they're revving with the little brain.
Plus, their eyesight and hearing is often a bit more in my favour
Px
More awareness of consequences of their actions?"
I think so. And more likely to care about those consequences. |
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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago
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"They tend to at least have the big brain in gear half the time even when they're revving with the little brain.
Plus, their eyesight and hearing is often a bit more in my favour
Px
They aren’t deaf or blind though, they see and hear the important stuff "
Damn them |
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I’ve always appreciated the older man but some younger men have the same qualities and you can watch things like the grey hair develop. I’m lucky enough to get the best of both worlds with Swing 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"*some* older men have a presence about them that younger men don't, *some* are way more confident sexually and socially, *some* understand that women aren't all the same...but some aren't .
I do prefer men over about 47 but I can't claim that's older as far as I'm concerned
You are right to point out that this can be a generalisation.
Presence is a really interesting one as this is something that is developed though experience
I didn't intend to point it out in an aggressive way although looking at it my * are a bit pointy .
Presence is similar to confidence I think and yes, experience will help with that. "
It didn’t come across as aggressive at all as we all know there are exceptions to every rule.
You can be confident but not own the room when you walk in like presence can. Not in an arrogant way either I might add |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In my experience they have more of a mature attitude to sex in general. They have more of a respect for couples and can have a sexual relationship without developing feelings."
Maturity is definitely up there that comes with age. Generally speaking men don’t mature as quickly for some reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find some older males are much more respectful, especially towards younger women or couples.
They know not to form emotional attachments that younger guys probably think they could try their luck with.
They can hold conversations better without it turning sexual (except Todger Moore and Kinky Biscuit - I can't bat them off with a shitty stick atm) *jokes incase mods put me on the naughty step*
I've always had better relationships with older men too so I gravitate towards them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve always appreciated the older man but some younger men have the same qualities and you can watch things like the grey hair develop. I’m lucky enough to get the best of both worlds with Swing
Pink x"
A grey 20 year old? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have allways preferred older men but now at my age that's very old! Love the distinguished look the maturity x"
What makes a guy look distinguished? Appearance? Demeanour? |
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More likely to be more attentive and actually know how to make a woman cum rather than just fucking and fucking off. More experience working/finding a clit and gspot. Better at putting a girl at ease too. More time to practice those oral skills. But then again old/young has always been my thing. Only recently now I'm 29 started fucking guys in their 30s. Before that 40-55 was preferred age range of most of my late teens/20s |
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"I have financial security, an ability to spot bullshit, confidence and an ability to be far more laid back … oh, and grey hairs
Grey jays are always a winner
Do you feel you can spot bs better or do you just not tolerate it now?"
Better at spotting it and a complete relaxed and indifferent response to it pal |
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"I’ve always appreciated the older man but some younger men have the same qualities and you can watch things like the grey hair develop. I’m lucky enough to get the best of both worlds with Swing
Pink x
A grey 20 year old? "
 I’m not a cougar |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In my experience they have more of a mature attitude to sex in general. They have more of a respect for couples and can have a sexual relationship without developing feelings."
Great point. They have more expletives is being able to compartmentalise |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I find some older males are much more respectful, especially towards younger women or couples.
They know not to form emotional attachments that younger guys probably think they could try their luck with.
They can hold conversations better without it turning sexual (except Todger Moore and Kinky Biscuit - I can't bat them off with a shitty stick atm) *jokes incase mods put me on the naughty step*
I've always had better relationships with older men too so I gravitate towards them. "
Older men just flirt better and know boundaries |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"More likely to be more attentive and actually know how to make a woman cum rather than just fucking and fucking off. More experience working/finding a clit and gspot. Better at putting a girl at ease too. More time to practice those oral skills. But then again old/young has always been my thing. Only recently now I'm 29 started fucking guys in their 30s. Before that 40-55 was preferred age range of most of my late teens/20s "
Let’s selfish is a great point but You’ve just disappointed a lot of older men |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve always appreciated the older man but some younger men have the same qualities and you can watch things like the grey hair develop. I’m lucky enough to get the best of both worlds with Swing
Pink x
A grey 20 year old?
I’m not a cougar "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I get younger all the time youngest 19 yeah I'm mid 40's and got silver hair and a beard...think it's that tbh oh and 6'4" .
Daddy issues most of them then there's the just like being sexually excitable about old cock .
Funny thing women what turns em' on  |
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"Have allways preferred older men but now at my age that's very old! Love the distinguished look the maturity x
What makes a guy look distinguished? Appearance? Demeanour?"
Not sure just that something love the grey hair the crinkled round sexy eyes! I worked in a care home few years ago there was one gentleman well into his 80s and I said to the others mr so and so still has that handsome distinguished look they agreed x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I get younger all the time youngest 19 yeah I'm mid 40's and got silver hair and a beard...think it's that tbh oh and 6'4" .
Daddy issues most of them then there's the just like being sexually excitable about old cock .
Funny thing women what turns em' on "
But there are qualities you must have that they find attractive other than age |
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Whilst my user name may infer I would indulge in younger guys … and I may a few years younger…. I actually now tend to go for guys just a little younger - from their mid 40s up (as opposed to 20s as people assume Cougars do  ! )
I find YOUNGER guys tend to come with Mrs Robinson syndrome young pups wanting to learn but not willing to learn
A slightly older …. Gentleman (mostly) will have a little more respect for women, themselves and their appearance in general. Some maybe need their arrogance toned down but for the main I usually find appealing…. If the conversation skills are right |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"More chance of emotional maturity, although some never get it despite being given the opportunity.
An appreciation of cake, or for some deviants an appreciation of cheese, you kinky fuckers"
You raise a great point about having more opportunity to have developed a more mature attitude.
I hope you aren’t kink shaming my preference of cheese over cake?
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"I get younger all the time youngest 19 yeah I'm mid 40's and got silver hair and a beard...think it's that tbh oh and 6'4" .
Daddy issues most of them then there's the just like being sexually excitable about old cock .
Funny thing women what turns em' on "
6'4 and a silver fox yummy! That will do it  |
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"I have a self confidence that I didn’t have in my 20’s. I wouldn’t look girls in the eye and that is one of my best features - my eyes!
I feel more body confident and also care less about what others think. Not in a cocky way, I think you just hit a point where you think ‘well I can’t change my looks’ and that in itself helps me feel more sexier, like I’m owning it
K"
Very well said, the confidence with your skin and body speaks volume about someone's character and some things just come with age. |
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"More chance of emotional maturity, although some never get it despite being given the opportunity.
An appreciation of cake, or for some deviants an appreciation of cheese, you kinky fuckers
You raise a great point about having more opportunity to have developed a more mature attitude.
I hope you aren’t kink shaming my preference of cheese over cake?
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Christ, I fear for your inbox now, mate 
Good luck dealing with all of the women who’ll make unreasonable demands on you. Your poor cock will be as limp as the empty packet of Jacobs crackers by the end |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Whilst my user name may infer I would indulge in younger guys … and I may a few years younger…. I actually now tend to go for guys just a little younger - from their mid 40s up (as opposed to 20s as people assume Cougars do ! )
I find YOUNGER guys tend to come with Mrs Robinson syndrome young pups wanting to learn but not willing to learn
A slightly older …. Gentleman (mostly) will have a little more respect for women, themselves and their appearance in general. Some maybe need their arrogance toned down but for the main I usually find appealing…. If the conversation skills are right "
This is a comment I’ve heard a few times in different guises. Wanting to learn but not willing and actually have you got the time and patience to teach? The older guy will generally not need teaching so much |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I get younger all the time youngest 19 yeah I'm mid 40's and got silver hair and a beard...think it's that tbh oh and 6'4" .
Daddy issues most of them then there's the just like being sexually excitable about old cock .
Funny thing women what turns em' on
6'4 and a silver fox yummy! That will do it "
My work here is done. Thread closed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"More chance of emotional maturity, although some never get it despite being given the opportunity.
An appreciation of cake, or for some deviants an appreciation of cheese, you kinky fuckers
You raise a great point about having more opportunity to have developed a more mature attitude.
I hope you aren’t kink shaming my preference of cheese over cake?
Christ, I fear for your inbox now, mate
Good luck dealing with all of the women who’ll make unreasonable demands on you. Your poor cock will be as limp as the empty packet of Jacobs crackers by the end "
Hopefully not as crushed though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have my confidence that I’ve been there done that. And can still do it when I need to lol
But I redirect the young guys. When I was that age I didn’t give two Fuchs about what the old guys thought.
I’d say I’ve mellowed in my 40s I don’t let things get to me, I’m comfy in my own skin and I don’t feel intimidated by beautiful women or rejection.
What about you OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Being an older guy I find am more likely to not notice other women whilst out (eyesight isn't what it was) or hear the questions of "can I have?" And just nod and agree, if course if the battery on the mobility scooter runs out you may need to push me home. |
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"I find some older males are much more respectful, especially towards younger women or couples.
They know not to form emotional attachments that younger guys probably think they could try their luck with.
They can hold conversations better without it turning sexual (except Todger Moore and Kinky Biscuit - I can't bat them off with a shitty stick atm) *jokes incase mods put me on the naughty step*
I've always had better relationships with older men too so I gravitate towards them. "
Oi cheeky You need to go on my naughty desk now...He says in a mature, sophisticated manner. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have my confidence that I’ve been there done that. And can still do it when I need to lol
But I redirect the young guys. When I was that age I didn’t give two Fuchs about what the old guys thought.
I’d say I’ve mellowed in my 40s I don’t let things get to me, I’m comfy in my own skin and I don’t feel intimidated by beautiful women or rejection.
What about you OP "
Very much this as well as some of the other comments. Life experiences have taught me a lot now I’m very much who I am. People can either accept it or not. Life has gotten more about choices for me and acceptance of other peoples choices too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I find some older males are much more respectful, especially towards younger women or couples.
They know not to form emotional attachments that younger guys probably think they could try their luck with.
They can hold conversations better without it turning sexual (except Todger Moore and Kinky Biscuit - I can't bat them off with a shitty stick atm) *jokes incase mods put me on the naughty step*
I've always had better relationships with older men too so I gravitate towards them.
Oi cheeky You need to go on my naughty desk now...He says in a mature, sophisticated manner. "
Obviously you mean a boardroom table rather than a school desk? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mainly its been because they truly want NSA and not a relationship
I've met emotionally stable 30 year olds and drama llama 50 year olds, so age is not a guarantee for stability unfortunately "
But the odds are greater the older they are? |
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
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"Less energy, more irritable, even grumpier but richer. "
We’ve never met and yet, you know me….
Except for the richer part. Married, child….money is something that waves at me as it flies from my bank account. |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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I feel like I have far more sophistication, patience, poise, insouciance and diplomacy than I did when I was younger. Which doesn’t necessarily mean that I even yet have noticeable amounts of those qualities, but certainly more than when I was young! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I feel like I have far more sophistication, patience, poise, insouciance and diplomacy than I did when I was younger. Which doesn’t necessarily mean that I even yet have noticeable amounts of those qualities, but certainly more than when I was young! "
Would you add in more self awareness? |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
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"Have allways preferred older men but now at my age that's very old! Love the distinguished look the maturity x
What makes a guy look distinguished? Appearance? Demeanour?
Not sure just that something love the grey hair the crinkled round sexy eyes! I worked in a care home few years ago there was one gentleman well into his 80s and I said to the others mr so and so still has that handsome distinguished look they agreed x"
I am in my 80s but rather than the handsome and distinguished look apparantly I have the worn and weathered look. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Older guys are Less in a rush and take there time and less that act like a 20 year old too do porn sex which is not fun it hurts and really uncool guys act your age have respect have ome by fisting slapping neck holding wrong wrong you older men you should no better..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Guys get soo much better with age. Intelligence, wisdom, humour and confidence. In my experience they've also mastered the workings of a clitoris "
There’s are all good qualities to have |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't know that age makes them any more attractive
I prefer men around my own age as we're more likely to be at a similar place in life "
That brings attractive qualities in itself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Guys get soo much better with age. Intelligence, wisdom, humour and confidence. In my experience they've also mastered the workings of a clitoris
There’s are all good qualities to have "
Indeed. I managed to snap one up and he put a ring on it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Guys get soo much better with age. Intelligence, wisdom, humour and confidence. In my experience they've also mastered the workings of a clitoris
There’s are all good qualities to have
Indeed. I managed to snap one up and he put a ring on it "
Did you have to put your ring on it first? |
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This is a good post.
I'm 62 but in my case I'd suggest it really is just a number, I'm fairly fit, I don't have a six pack and I'm a tiny bit cov- fat I call it.
I've learned as I've aged that I can talk to women with the greatest ease, I've even been know to ad lib a few lines from songs to women.
I'm not the most handsome guy and I do sometimes engage the mouth before the brain but not often.
I think maturity brings many advantages over youth.
One thing I must say is I have a real appreciation of mature ladies, there are some very attractive ones on here.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is a good post.
I'm 62 but in my case I'd suggest it really is just a number, I'm fairly fit, I don't have a six pack and I'm a tiny bit cov- fat I call it.
I've learned as I've aged that I can talk to women with the greatest ease, I've even been know to ad lib a few lines from songs to women.
I'm not the most handsome guy and I do sometimes engage the mouth before the brain but not often.
I think maturity brings many advantages over youth.
One thing I must say is I have a real appreciation of mature ladies, there are some very attractive ones on here.
J"
Do you think you are more health conscious too because of your age? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Guys get soo much better with age. Intelligence, wisdom, humour and confidence. In my experience they've also mastered the workings of a clitoris
There’s are all good qualities to have
Indeed. I managed to snap one up and he put a ring on it
Did you have to put your ring on it first? "
I did. He wanted to make sure I ticked all his boxes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Steady mind. Common interests and similar humour. Some men age very well indeed. "
Being very similar in these aspects means that conversations flow much easier than with someone much younger |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i’ve only ever been attracted to older guys although now i’m getting older i’ve noticed that reducing slightly but i still don’t like younger than me. older guys have more in common with me, they tend to be better in bed- less selfish. they tend to enjoy more than just sex. obviously not all older guys are this way but this is just the ones i’ve met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of older men seem to have more confidence, more straight to the point, more experience and from my own experience far more engaging on an intellectual level.
Also I find a lot of older men more sincere. Younger men rarely do it for me personally.
But as with everything else everyone is different and no two people are the same |
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"This is a good post.
I'm 62 but in my case I'd suggest it really is just a number, I'm fairly fit, I don't have a six pack and I'm a tiny bit cov- fat I call it.
I've learned as I've aged that I can talk to women with the greatest ease, I've even been know to ad lib a few lines from songs to women.
I'm not the most handsome guy and I do sometimes engage the mouth before the brain but not often.
I think maturity brings many advantages over youth.
One thing I must say is I have a real appreciation of mature ladies, there are some very attractive ones on here.
J
Do you think you are more health conscious too because of your age?"
Possibly but for the last 15 or twenty years I've done something about fitness. Not constantly but often. |
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Had a first date with a woman 12 years younger than me last Saturday. My ex wife was also around that age difference as well, so I was concerned about not dating in my age range.
However it didn’t take long to realise why she dated older guys. She’s very intelligent and fully aware of it as well, bad experiences with ex boyfriend and husband especially as he didn’t support her through a serious illness. Now prefers guys who know a bit about politics, music, film and life experiences. Very sympathetic to my heart attack as she’s been close to death herself.
So she allayed my fears that it could be some ‘Daddy Issues’ it’s more she needs mental stimulation and reassurance that when things go bad, the guy will be mature enough to support her.
Second date beckons on Friday |
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Honestly, I find guys 40+ far more attentive and in tune with a woman’s body, wants and needs. Not that I haven’t had that with younger guys, but almost always with 40+.
I feel far more spoilt physically.
And IMO men get better and better with age!
I’ll be looking for 50+ soon |
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"Honestly, I find guys 40+ far more attentive and in tune with a woman’s body, wants and needs. Not that I haven’t had that with younger guys, but almost always with 40+.
I feel far more spoilt physically.
And IMO men get better and better with age!
I’ll be looking for 50+ soon "
Why wait ???  |
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"i’ve only ever been attracted to older guys although now i’m getting older i’ve noticed that reducing slightly but i still don’t like younger than me. older guys have more in common with me, they tend to be better in bed- less selfish. they tend to enjoy more than just sex. obviously not all older guys are this way but this is just the ones i’ve met. "
These are great qualities on show here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Had a first date with a woman 12 years younger than me last Saturday. My ex wife was also around that age difference as well, so I was concerned about not dating in my age range.
However it didn’t take long to realise why she dated older guys. She’s very intelligent and fully aware of it as well, bad experiences with ex boyfriend and husband especially as he didn’t support her through a serious illness. Now prefers guys who know a bit about politics, music, film and life experiences. Very sympathetic to my heart attack as she’s been close to death herself.
So she allayed my fears that it could be some ‘Daddy Issues’ it’s more she needs mental stimulation and reassurance that when things go bad, the guy will be mature enough to support her.
Second date beckons on Friday "
This is awesome and so happy for you |
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"Honestly, I find guys 40+ far more attentive and in tune with a woman’s body, wants and needs. Not that I haven’t had that with younger guys, but almost always with 40+.
I feel far more spoilt physically.
And IMO men get better and better with age!
I’ll be looking for 50+ soon "
Noted. |
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"Honestly, I find guys 40+ far more attentive and in tune with a woman’s body, wants and needs. Not that I haven’t had that with younger guys, but almost always with 40+.
I feel far more spoilt physically.
And IMO men get better and better with age!
I’ll be looking for 50+ soon "
Suddenly lots of guys will be changing their age when this happens |
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"Honestly, I find guys 40+ far more attentive and in tune with a woman’s body, wants and needs. Not that I haven’t had that with younger guys, but almost always with 40+.
I feel far more spoilt physically.
And IMO men get better and better with age!
I’ll be looking for 50+ soon
Suddenly lots of guys will be changing their age when this happens "
Way ahead of you.... |
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By *etsukaCouple
over a year ago
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I just find that a lot of men under about 35 have been quite inspired by Internet porn of a certain kind and _ase a lot of their sexual knowledge off that. Sex just feels very performative with them and I'm not like that, I like to take my time and enjoy everything and I absolutely hate my head being pushed down or the young lads favourite- choking without discussing if its okay or boundaries or safe words etc. There's maybe a few women who like that straight off the bat, but I feel disrespected if not asked first. I also find that younger men tend to say they care about your pleasure, but what they really mean is they care about the fantasy of you being pleasured, rather than being able to take polite instruction.
My experience is that gentlemen over about 35 who I have played with are more likely to be respectful of boundaries and not bash my clitoris like they are winning at Street Fighter Arcade.
I mean these are generalities and there are probably loads of younger men who aren't like I've described, but I've not found them and maybe I've just been very lucky with the older men I've been with! |
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"I just find that a lot of men under about 35 have been quite inspired by Internet porn of a certain kind and _ase a lot of their sexual knowledge off that. Sex just feels very performative with them and I'm not like that, I like to take my time and enjoy everything and I absolutely hate my head being pushed down or the young lads favourite- choking without discussing if its okay or boundaries or safe words etc. There's maybe a few women who like that straight off the bat, but I feel disrespected if not asked first. I also find that younger men tend to say they care about your pleasure, but what they really mean is they care about the fantasy of you being pleasured, rather than being able to take polite instruction.
My experience is that gentlemen over about 35 who I have played with are more likely to be respectful of boundaries and not bash my clitoris like they are winning at Street Fighter Arcade.
I mean these are generalities and there are probably loads of younger men who aren't like I've described, but I've not found them and maybe I've just been very lucky with the older men I've been with! "
I back this!!! Couldn’t have put it better. Porn stars do it, therefore I must do it! Rather than finding the individuals buttons a pushing those boundaries naturally.
Not all younger men, but yes. Very well put. |
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By *etsukaCouple
over a year ago
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"I just find that a lot of men under about 35 have been quite inspired by Internet porn of a certain kind and _ase a lot of their sexual knowledge off that. Sex just feels very performative with them and I'm not like that, I like to take my time and enjoy everything and I absolutely hate my head being pushed down or the young lads favourite- choking without discussing if its okay or boundaries or safe words etc. There's maybe a few women who like that straight off the bat, but I feel disrespected if not asked first. I also find that younger men tend to say they care about your pleasure, but what they really mean is they care about the fantasy of you being pleasured, rather than being able to take polite instruction.
My experience is that gentlemen over about 35 who I have played with are more likely to be respectful of boundaries and not bash my clitoris like they are winning at Street Fighter Arcade.
I mean these are generalities and there are probably loads of younger men who aren't like I've described, but I've not found them and maybe I've just been very lucky with the older men I've been with! "
I should probably qualify that my exception to the rule is usually men in their early to mid thirties who are married and have been for a while, I think they have more understanding having been with the same woman for a while |
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"Honestly, I find guys 40+ far more attentive and in tune with a woman’s body, wants and needs. Not that I haven’t had that with younger guys, but almost always with 40+.
I feel far more spoilt physically.
And IMO men get better and better with age!
I’ll be looking for 50+ soon
Suddenly lots of guys will be changing their age when this happens "
yes to try and avoid me! |
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"I just find that a lot of men under about 35 have been quite inspired by Internet porn of a certain kind and _ase a lot of their sexual knowledge off that. Sex just feels very performative with them and I'm not like that, I like to take my time and enjoy everything and I absolutely hate my head being pushed down or the young lads favourite- choking without discussing if its okay or boundaries or safe words etc. There's maybe a few women who like that straight off the bat, but I feel disrespected if not asked first. I also find that younger men tend to say they care about your pleasure, but what they really mean is they care about the fantasy of you being pleasured, rather than being able to take polite instruction.
My experience is that gentlemen over about 35 who I have played with are more likely to be respectful of boundaries and not bash my clitoris like they are winning at Street Fighter Arcade.
I mean these are generalities and there are probably loads of younger men who aren't like I've described, but I've not found them and maybe I've just been very lucky with the older men I've been with! "
Porn does have a lot to answer for without a doubt but I think you’ve raised a great point about performance expectation levels that maybe it is so much you must do this or that, but they have to |
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"Oh and I look after myself far better now than when I was younger… think the closer to death I’m getting the more I want to avoid it "
I don’t think you are far off the mark there. As I have become older I’m certainly wanting to stop healthier for quality of life later on |
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"Kinda following on from an earlier thread about what makes an older woman more attractive I just wanted to balance this out a little if we can.
As a guy in my late 40’s I know that guys around my age bring different qualities to a guy in his early 20’s.
Guys - what qualities have you got now that you didn’t have when you were younger?
Women - what qualities do older guys have that you can’t see or find in younger men? "
Disintegrating eyesight and a lowering of expectations |
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By *ozapperMan
over a year ago
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I'm the wrong side of 65 (or so younger folks tell me) and having had a major life scare 7 years ago (double pulmonary embolism caused by a calf injury I didn't look after - being a typical indestructible male ) I made a full recovery after 14 days in critical care and definitely reevaluated my life and lifestyle.
Now people have to take me as I am, warts and all (not that I have any).
Life is to be enjoyed and explored as I have never met anyone who has got a second bite at it. More importantly, it is to be savoured with others.
So what can I offer apart from many 'years'? Well hugs, cuddles, romanticism in abundance, consideration, long lasting staying power, a capacity to impart enjoyment to others just as much as myself and a sexual appetite that although not as high as it was a number of years ago, benefits the other person just as much as me, if not more as these days I love to savour sexual play and take my time. Also no strings fun and enjoyment.
Apart from that, what have the Romans done for us? ?? |
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"I'm the wrong side of 65 (or so younger folks tell me) and having had a major life scare 7 years ago (double pulmonary embolism caused by a calf injury I didn't look after - being a typical indestructible male ) I made a full recovery after 14 days in critical care and definitely reevaluated my life and lifestyle.
Now people have to take me as I am, warts and all (not that I have any).
Life is to be enjoyed and explored as I have never met anyone who has got a second bite at it. More importantly, it is to be savoured with others.
So what can I offer apart from many 'years'? Well hugs, cuddles, romanticism in abundance, consideration, long lasting staying power, a capacity to impart enjoyment to others just as much as myself and a sexual appetite that although not as high as it was a number of years ago, benefits the other person just as much as me, if not more as these days I love to savour sexual play and take my time. Also no strings fun and enjoyment.
Apart from that, what have the Romans done for us? ??"
This is an interesting pov. Do you think romance has a part to play in swinging? Maybe that’s for another thread though |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I don’t think guys really understand women until they get to about 40, it helps if you’ve had a couple of wives and daughters to teach you
By 40-45 usually finally secure, confident and laid back too and really know what you want (and don’t want) so don’t end up in silly relationships |
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I would only be echoing what the other ladies have said but for me, it’s their confidence, not only in who they are but their confidence when they’re with a woman.
The conversations are more diverse, and their sense of humour is refreshing.
Sex is much better, IMO, because they understand that it isn’t just the act itself but the anticipation, the foreplay, taking time to explore and enjoy.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think older men are more attractive than younger men, just differently so. Similar to women in that regard really.
I've always been more attracted to older men, I'm not quite sure why. The aesthetic is something I appreciate, I like the smile lines, those little glimpses of a life well lived and enjoyed. The hair, that salt and pepper look that sends electricity straight to my clit. I find it easier to talk to older men on the whole, the ones I've met/spoken to tend to be intelligent, self assured, knowledgeable on a myriad of topics. They can also be quite straight forward. And the sex seems to be more relaxed, less about doing the whole karma sutra with an everlasting erection. I also have a soft spot for grumpy types, it feels like I've done something really good when I can make them laugh or open up.
All that being typed, I know of/some older men who are mind game central, rather stupid and completely lack the ability to converse on anything. The sex is perfunctory and they're rather set in stone.
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"Less energy, more irritable, even grumpier but richer.
Mmmm so appealing
Ok so I didn’t see the richer part and now look like a gold digger  Not what I meant "
She take my money when I'm in need. |
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With age comes experience and with experience comes pleasure for all concerned no matter how they take there pleasure the mature guy will always adapt and overcome or cum over whichever the case maybe |
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In my teens I was permanently horny and would shag any female that breathed
In my twenties I was married, playing in a band, touring and shagging any female that breathed
In my thirties I was still doing what I did in my Twenties only a lot less as I was more interested in my surroundings and what was going on around me
In my Forties I had slowed down on the band stuff and touring, had joined Fab and was into something a bit different
In my Fifties I was a widower, a grandfather and someone more chilled in my own body. My interest in Fab and sex in particular waned
Now 60, I am richer yes but not necessary monetary richer.
I am more enlightened, I daily practice mindfulness, meditation, tai chi and various other therapies
I don’t go looking for women or trying to impress anyone as I don’t need to.
I’ve nothing to prove.
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"Less energy, more irritable, even grumpier but richer.
Mmmm so appealing
Ok so I didn’t see the richer part and now look like a gold digger Not what I meant
She take my money when I'm in need. "
Yeah, she's a triflin' friend indeed
Oh, she's a gold digger
Way over town, that digs on me
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"Less energy, more irritable, even grumpier but richer.
Mmmm so appealing
Ok so I didn’t see the richer part and now look like a gold digger Not what I meant
She take my money when I'm in need.
Yeah, she's a triflin' friend indeed
Oh, she's a gold digger
Way over town, that digs on me
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I ain’t sayin’ she’s a gold digger |
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"They don't try so hard. I like the "take me or leave me" attitude of some older guys. "
That’s so true. Less time for bs and wanting to change for someone else |
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"Less energy, more irritable, even grumpier but richer.
Mmmm so appealing
Ok so I didn’t see the richer part and now look like a gold digger Not what I meant
She take my money when I'm in need.
Yeah, she's a triflin' friend indeed
Oh, she's a gold digger
Way over town, that digs on me
I ain’t sayin’ she’s a gold digger"
But she ain't messin' with no broke………
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