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Do men not like yo smile?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.
Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling. 
Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me! 
Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!
Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because we have to give them something to smile about.. send boobies and you shall receive."
Lol...they are on full display already!! ...should be no reason not to smile  |
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"Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.
Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling.
Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me!
Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!
Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE "
The lack of smiles here and on regular dating sites has always mused me. I think chaps think they look far sexier in a psychotic stare |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men do like to smile. But we are not good at forced smiling. Of course, there are exceptions. But forget selfies. Even if you look at family photos, women are more smiling compared to men.
Fun fact - Do you know that smile is an expression that is hardest to fake? A real smile involves so many facial muscles most of which do not work when you are forcing it. So when I am forcing a smile, anyone can naturally figure out that it's a forced smile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes you can look kinda goofy trying to force a smile for a photo   "
Exactly. It looks particularly goofy for men. Women can get away with "that looks cute" even if the smile os goofy. But men will get roasted by their mates for the same thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Smiling happens naturally for me, but when I take a picture it looks out on if I smile so I don’t smile in posed pictures.
If a random picture is taken there is a good chance I will be smiling |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Smiling happens naturally for me, but when I take a picture it looks out on if I smile so I don’t smile in posed pictures.
If a random picture is taken there is a good chance I will be smiling "
Put on* |
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OK I get the fake smiling is awkward thing... but staring emptily into the mid distance is also frickin awkward.
We have phones, take 5 take 10, move your face around until you're like, yeah look good on that
And remember, your mates aren't here to laugh at you us girls would just like you to look human please |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OK I get the fake smiling is awkward thing... but staring emptily into the mid distance is also frickin awkward.
We have phones, take 5 take 10, move your face around until you're like, yeah look good on that
And remember, your mates aren't here to laugh at you us girls would just like you to look human please "
 ..this!! I to get the awkward selfie thing, but messing about with the camera and picking a good shot surely isnt that difficult.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have a smiley pic! I have good teeth though.
If someone asked for a flat tummy pic, I’d be in trouble "
Me too!! But virtually everyone has the ability to smile, even if they're not keen on their smile. Id rather goofy than murderous |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.
Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling.
Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me!
Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!
Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE "
Absolutely agree! Always with the description of 'I have a good sense of humour' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I absolutely hate taking selfies. I feel all self conscious and that makes it hard to have a natural smile.
I just stick to looking like a grumpy git. "
But you have cake, so all is forgiven. |
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"Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.
Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling.
Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me!
Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!
Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE "
There is a very good book called the male brain. It explains why men smile less. (Hiding emotions makes you less vulnerable to others, and makes it easier to bluff when pretending to be tough to avoid fights)
Basically teenage boys learn to "act like men" and not smile. Stern faces are more "manly"
It's only 5 hours long on audible.
I learned a lot about myself from it and I would recommend it to everyone. |
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I'm actually genuinely surprised how much resistance there is to smiling.
Virtually every woman on the thread has gone ooooh yes please. Virtually every guy moans about being unanswered.
Just saying... |
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"I'm actually genuinely surprised how much resistance there is to smiling.
Virtually every woman on the thread has gone ooooh yes please. Virtually every guy moans about being unanswered.
Just saying..."
Your advice has been taken on board. |
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"I absolutely hate taking selfies. I feel all self conscious and that makes it hard to have a natural smile.
I just stick to looking like a grumpy git.
But you have cake, so all is forgiven."
Ha thank you. I’ll draw a smiley face on the cake |
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I feel very self conscious having my photo taken and generally hate them. Can't remember the last time I actually liked a photo with my face in it, and it's even worse when I'm smiling as in my opinion I look so goofy.
So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.
Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.
Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling.
Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me!
Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!
Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE "
Give me something to smile about. |
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"I feel very self conscious having my photo taken and generally hate them. Can't remember the last time I actually liked a photo with my face in it, and it's even worse when I'm smiling as in my opinion I look so goofy.
So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.
Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good. "
The odd thing is, I 'am' a little goofy and smile loads when I'm out with people. Just can't on a photo and being told someone wants me to actually makes it worse.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My smile is terrifying. Small downward turning lips and weird teeth. I did my clown make up yesterday and painted on a smile and I thought "my life would have gone in a whole nuther direction if I just was born with a killer smile. |
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"I feel very self conscious having my photo taken and generally hate them. Can't remember the last time I actually liked a photo with my face in it, and it's even worse when I'm smiling as in my opinion I look so goofy.
So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.
Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good.
The odd thing is, I 'am' a little goofy and smile loads when I'm out with people. Just can't on a photo and being told someone wants me to actually makes it worse. "
Oh gosh, stop reading this thread then lol
But also not about weird model shots, just a candid friendly pic. Maybe it is less important on here, but on dating sites which ultimately completely lead on face you have no idea how many empty starey topless mirror selfies there are. It's intense, everyone please stop |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel very self conscious having my photo taken and generally hate them. Can't remember the last time I actually liked a photo with my face in it, and it's even worse when I'm smiling as in my opinion I look so goofy.
So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.
Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good.
The odd thing is, I 'am' a little goofy and smile loads when I'm out with people. Just can't on a photo and being told someone wants me to actually makes it worse.
Oh gosh, stop reading this thread then lol
But also not about weird model shots, just a candid friendly pic. Maybe it is less important on here, but on dating sites which ultimately completely lead on face you have no idea how many empty starey topless mirror selfies there are. It's intense, everyone please stop"
Yep, a pic caught by mates while you're doing something is always better than a selfie - for men and women.
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Like most things in life guys, fake it till you make it. Force a big smile. The more you do it, the more you begin to accept, and eventually enjoy it.
I used to never smile. Now I find myself smiling all the time and you’d be surprised how often it gets complimented. Ladies notice it.
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"I feel very self conscious having my photo taken and generally hate them. Can't remember the last time I actually liked a photo with my face in it, and it's even worse when I'm smiling as in my opinion I look so goofy.
So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.
Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good.
The odd thing is, I 'am' a little goofy and smile loads when I'm out with people. Just can't on a photo and being told someone wants me to actually makes it worse.
Oh gosh, stop reading this thread then lol
But also not about weird model shots, just a candid friendly pic. Maybe it is less important on here, but on dating sites which ultimately completely lead on face you have no idea how many empty starey topless mirror selfies there are. It's intense, everyone please stop"
I totally get that.
But if you show me two photos of me, almost identical, but one smiling and one not I'm pretty certain I will always prefer the not smiling one. I'm assuming it's the same for most men.
I think as someone said above, it's ingrained into us at an early age that we shouldn't smile as it shows emotion and emotion is a weakness.
We know you want to see them, but it's really hard to post a photo that you feel uncomfortable with and truely dislike. |
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"I feel very self conscious having my photo taken and generally hate them. Can't remember the last time I actually liked a photo with my face in it, and it's even worse when I'm smiling as in my opinion I look so goofy.
So smiling for a photo doesn't come naturally and I have to force it. This ends up looking fake and even worse.
Plus, if you look at male models and their photos on adverts or magazines they also never smile, they just smoulder, so it's what we have been brought up believing looks good.
The odd thing is, I 'am' a little goofy and smile loads when I'm out with people. Just can't on a photo and being told someone wants me to actually makes it worse.
Oh gosh, stop reading this thread then lol
But also not about weird model shots, just a candid friendly pic. Maybe it is less important on here, but on dating sites which ultimately completely lead on face you have no idea how many empty starey topless mirror selfies there are. It's intense, everyone please stop
I totally get that.
But if you show me two photos of me, almost identical, but one smiling and one not I'm pretty certain I will always prefer the not smiling one. I'm assuming it's the same for most men.
I think as someone said above, it's ingrained into us at an early age that we shouldn't smile as it shows emotion and emotion is a weakness.
We know you want to see them, but it's really hard to post a photo that you feel uncomfortable with and truely dislike. "
Yeah I get you're never gonna upload a photo that doesn't make you feel good. But I think it feels like it's a "norm" worth challenging. People naturally warm more to those they can get a sense of, and that requires expression x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I absolutely hate taking selfies. I feel all self conscious and that makes it hard to have a natural smile.
I just stick to looking like a grumpy git. "
Some people can pull it off, not saying your grumpy |
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"I absolutely hate taking selfies. I feel all self conscious and that makes it hard to have a natural smile.
I just stick to looking like a grumpy git.
Some people can pull it off, not saying your grumpy "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't smile in mine. For a while I did use a pic of me smiling and I got deleted or blocked every single time.
Wot "
Seriously. I did far better with the non smiling face. |
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"I don't smile in mine. For a while I did use a pic of me smiling and I got deleted or blocked every single time.
Wot
Seriously. I did far better with the non smiling face. "
You were on our hotlist for a long time and i never ever thought... shit she's hot cos she's not smiling.
You are hot regardless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When guys are taking a selfie, do you take loads to get one good one? I get the impression a lot of men just take one or two where women take dozens "
This was the 99th.
I couldn’t quite get the I’m still in bed and I haven’t shaved for two weeks look quite right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men of Fab...and woman too if you know the answer.
Why don't you smile?...now obviously im generalising here, but this morning ive had multiple face pics sent to me by different guys, none of which were smiling.
Some looked half a sleep, others angry and one looked like he wanted to murder me!
Is it meant to be sexy? The not smiling look!
Pllleeaaseeerd SMILE "
Madness! Every guys likes a good smoulder, but I love a cheeky grin. Happpy to be the exception that proves the rule though, wouldn't want to go blending in!
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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"When guys are taking a selfie, do you take loads to get one good one? I get the impression a lot of men just take one or two where women take dozens "
I normally take one, hate it, try again, hate it, try again, hate it and think, fuck it I will do it some other time and be in a mood for ages. |
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I have resting smiley face. I send photos not smiling but somehow they still look smiley.
If I sent an actual smiling pic I'd probably look like the Joker and my podgy hamster cheeks would mean that my eyes would vanish. Not a good look for a photo so I don't take actual proper smiling ones. |
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"When guys are taking a selfie, do you take loads to get one good one? I get the impression a lot of men just take one or two where women take dozens "
I take loads! Delete them all, then take loads more. Then give up and try again the next day |
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