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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone. Can I ask for some feedback please.
I'm a genuinely nice polite guy, I send the odd message on here and browse the forums etc but never ever get messages or replies to messages.
I'll send a message now and again, sometimes I can see they've been read but then switched back to "unread" and just ignored.
What's so bad about me that I can't get a conversation out of anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a bloke so take whatever I say with a pinch of salt but from a couple's point of view a profile that only has cock pics is an instant turn off. It suggests the only thing about you that you consider to be worth displaying is your cock. We prefer a guy who sells himself, not his genitalia.
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I agree, if someone messages me and all they have is cock pics it’s an instant turn off. Body is great BTW! I prefer someone to show they’re human not just here for sex. Read someone’s profile. Attach a face pic and consider showing your verification summary hopefully that “sells” your qualities. Have a little bit about you in your profile and then highlight your foot kink maybe! Obviously, like you know it’s difficult for women we get a lot of messages so just try to stand out, show personality! Hope that helps! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Believe me OP, It's not just you. Like yourself, I'm always polite etc and 99.9999% of the time, I never receive a reply. When I do, a few messages get exchanged then I hear nothing and messages go unread.
There was one occasion where face pics were exchanged, we chatted for a while and because I did not reply within like 5 minutes in whatsapp, she blocked me saying I have time to be online on fab but not time to message her?
The way I see it is that there are very good looking guys on here and who the women will choose them over you no matter how good your convos are. Not all women but I'd say majority.
I've had better luck in my clubbing days lol.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone. Can I ask for some feedback please.
I'm a genuinely nice polite guy, I send the odd message on here and browse the forums etc but never ever get messages or replies to messages.
I'll send a message now and again, sometimes I can see they've been read but then switched back to "unread" and just ignored.
What's so bad about me that I can't get a conversation out of anyone "
Mate you have a good few verifications so what exactly is the problem?
Your obviously getting meets |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone. Can I ask for some feedback please.
I'm a genuinely nice polite guy, I send the odd message on here and browse the forums etc but never ever get messages or replies to messages.
I'll send a message now and again, sometimes I can see they've been read but then switched back to "unread" and just ignored.
What's so bad about me that I can't get a conversation out of anyone
Mate you have a good few verifications so what exactly is the problem?
Your obviously getting meets "
2 meets in 5 years from this site (partnered with FET) and 1 webcam. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's nothing to do with you or how you are. I have had very nice polite messages over the year I've been here and if I spoke and met them all, I'd probably be tripping over my own fanny lips. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't think it comes down to what you put in the message, if you arent their type nothing you write will make a difference. "
I'm starting to feel that this is the case |
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"It's nothing to do with you or how you are. I have had very nice polite messages over the year I've been here and if I spoke and met them all, I'd probably be tripping over my own fanny lips. "
Taking that mental image to the wank bank. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's only recently that I have added those pictures, before they were just body pictures, but nothing has changed "
Hmm, the issue is what this pics say about your approach. Obviously, this is only an opinion and is based largely on subjective appearance so may not apply to you. In our experience there is a strong correlation between profiles with lots of dick pics and messages that imply the sender is only interested in getting a shag. It is really hard to explain this but lots of messages we get, even ones that have obviously read and referenced our profile, are written in such a way it feels that the author has no real interest in us, no desire to interact in any way other than to empty his balls. If your profile presents you as either being, or just looking for, a glorified sex toy you won't get much interest. Onviously, we are all different and there will be a few who don't want anything more than a cock attached to an attractive body but those are 10 a penny around here and you'll be lucky to get picked, far rarer are guys who present their personality not their manhood, these are the ones we respond best to.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's nothing to do with you or how you are. I have had very nice polite messages over the year I've been here and if I spoke and met them all, I'd probably be tripping over my own fanny lips. "
I've never really thought of it like that, this definitely made me chuckle, it's not something you want to trip over that's for sure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's nothing to do with you or how you are. I have had very nice polite messages over the year I've been here and if I spoke and met them all, I'd probably be tripping over my own fanny lips.
Taking that mental image to the wank bank. "
I paint a pretty picture don't I  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Believe me OP, It's not just you. Like yourself, I'm always polite etc and 99.9999% of the time, I never receive a reply. When I do, a few messages get exchanged then I hear nothing and messages go unread.
There was one occasion where face pics were exchanged, we chatted for a while and because I did not reply within like 5 minutes in whatsapp, she blocked me saying I have time to be online on fab but not time to message her?
The way I see it is that there are very good looking guys on here and who the women will choose them over you no matter how good your convos are. Not all women but I'd say majority.
I've had better luck in my clubbing days lol.."
Ditto. Well stated mate. Deff had more fab out comes. In real life meets n clubbing day to day encounters tbh. |
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"It's nothing to do with you or how you are. I have had very nice polite messages over the year I've been here and if I spoke and met them all, I'd probably be tripping over my own fanny lips.
Taking that mental image to the wank bank.
I paint a pretty picture don't I "
Such a way with words. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mon ami, I started to enjoy this site much more when I stopped trying to get laid from it.
Just get to know the lovely people here and you will find what you seek. "
Exactly!!!
Well put mate expect nothing and you won’t be let down !
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I agree, if someone messages me and all they have is cock pics it’s an instant turn off. Body is great BTW! I prefer someone to show they’re human not just here for sex. Read someone’s profile. Attach a face pic and consider showing your verification summary hopefully that “sells” your qualities. Have a little bit about you in your profile and then highlight your foot kink maybe! Obviously, like you know it’s difficult for women we get a lot of messages so just try to stand out, show personality! Hope that helps! "
Thank you, I do appreciate your advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's nothing to do with you or how you are. I have had very nice polite messages over the year I've been here and if I spoke and met them all, I'd probably be tripping over my own fanny lips.
I've never really thought of it like that, this definitely made me chuckle, it's not something you want to trip over that's for sure "
 it's not something a woman wants to put in her handbag trust me.
Honestly don't think too much into it, it's a whole array of things. Timings, preferences, insecurities and to be really honest, I've read messages, said to myself I'll reply to that later 'unread' and then months fly by.
Don't let this site get you down  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Believe me OP, It's not just you. Like yourself, I'm always polite etc and 99.9999% of the time, I never receive a reply. When I do, a few messages get exchanged then I hear nothing and messages go unread.
There was one occasion where face pics were exchanged, we chatted for a while and because I did not reply within like 5 minutes in whatsapp, she blocked me saying I have time to be online on fab but not time to message her?
The way I see it is that there are very good looking guys on here and who the women will choose them over you no matter how good your convos are. Not all women but I'd say majority.
I've had better luck in my clubbing days lol.."
Great profile pic dude |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile has one photo and a small amount of text that doesn't say very much
I'd add more photos and work on expanding your text"
I'm amending as I'm reading the responses on here, ideally I need to update my pics. I feel like the more I write the less interested people will be |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's nothing to do with you or how you are. I have had very nice polite messages over the year I've been here and if I spoke and met them all, I'd probably be tripping over my own fanny lips.
I've never really thought of it like that, this definitely made me chuckle, it's not something you want to trip over that's for sure
it's not something a woman wants to put in her handbag trust me.
Honestly don't think too much into it, it's a whole array of things. Timings, preferences, insecurities and to be really honest, I've read messages, said to myself I'll reply to that later 'unread' and then months fly by.
Don't let this site get you down "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone. Can I ask for some feedback please.
I'm a genuinely nice polite guy, I send the odd message on here and browse the forums etc but never ever get messages or replies to messages.
I'll send a message now and again, sometimes I can see they've been read but then switched back to "unread" and just ignored.
What's so bad about me that I can't get a conversation out of anyone "
I think you just have to get on with it and try not to let it bother you.
I only joined recently and initially found it disheartening. But now I understand the site a bit better and I’m a lot less sensitive about it.
Try not to have too much expectation, and maybe get out to a club or two…. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just think the numbers don’t relate, even if it’s 50 men for 1 woman it’s still not easy. When I joined I spoke to people now very rarely now but not on much. Don’t take it personally |
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Your pic is generic and so is your profile bio.
Is that really selling you?
Would you choose a woman based on a small generic bio and one pic or would you go for the woman who’s got a lot of hot pics with a bio that gives you a hard on reading it?
Stand out…
K |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Treat your profile like a shop window...does it attract the women in? Us women like to window shop and every now and then we like to go in and browse x"
I'm decorating the shop windows as we speak, and will be open for business shortly |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone. Can I ask for some feedback please.
I'm a genuinely nice polite guy, I send the odd message on here and browse the forums etc but never ever get messages or replies to messages.
I'll send a message now and again, sometimes I can see they've been read but then switched back to "unread" and just ignored.
What's so bad about me that I can't get a conversation out of anyone
I think you just have to get on with it and try not to let it bother you.
I only joined recently and initially found it disheartening. But now I understand the site a bit better and I’m a lot less sensitive about it.
Try not to have too much expectation, and maybe get out to a club or two…. "
I think going to a social will help, that's my plan when I get a but more confidence |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's only recently that I have added those pictures, before they were just body pictures, but nothing has changed
Hmm, the issue is what this pics say about your approach. Obviously, this is only an opinion and is based largely on subjective appearance so may not apply to you. In our experience there is a strong correlation between profiles with lots of dick pics and messages that imply the sender is only interested in getting a shag. It is really hard to explain this but lots of messages we get, even ones that have obviously read and referenced our profile, are written in such a way it feels that the author has no real interest in us, no desire to interact in any way other than to empty his balls. If your profile presents you as either being, or just looking for, a glorified sex toy you won't get much interest. Onviously, we are all different and there will be a few who don't want anything more than a cock attached to an attractive body but those are 10 a penny around here and you'll be lucky to get picked, far rarer are guys who present their personality not their manhood, these are the ones we respond best to.
Mr"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people aren’t in a meet or chat mood now. It’s getting close to Xmas, people will be thinking about xmas stuff and preparations and just haven’t got the head for sorting out new connections. That’s what is is for me anyway.
The only time I’d want sex now is that small window days before and then the first day of my period. But that’s all I’d want. Just one rough fuck. If someone wanted to do that without having to have prior conversation leading up to it just be available on the day I’d take some names down for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think people aren’t in a meet or chat mood now. It’s getting close to Xmas, people will be thinking about xmas stuff and preparations and just haven’t got the head for sorting out new connections. That’s what is is for me anyway.
The only time I’d want sex now is that small window days before and then the first day of my period. But that’s all I’d want. Just one rough fuck. If someone wanted to do that without having to have prior conversation leading up to it just be available on the day I’d take some names down for that. "
Lol if I’m in the mood there is people to contact, then again it’s sometimes better not too. Feelings get involved inevitably |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think people aren’t in a meet or chat mood now. It’s getting close to Xmas, people will be thinking about xmas stuff and preparations and just haven’t got the head for sorting out new connections. That’s what is is for me anyway.
The only time I’d want sex now is that small window days before and then the first day of my period. But that’s all I’d want. Just one rough fuck. If someone wanted to do that without having to have prior conversation leading up to it just be available on the day I’d take some names down for that. "
Can I put my name down
On a serious note, you're absolutely gorgeous. Looking at your profile It says I messaged you a year ago, with no reply haha how ironic. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A face picture with a smile can warm the coldest of hearts. "
I wish it were that easy, I've been told I have a great smile with a cheeky glint in my eye. Unfortunately there are certain people in the world who like to go out of their way to upset others, so I need to be careful putting face pics up.
With my kinks etc it would really upset me if It became too public |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think people aren’t in a meet or chat mood now. It’s getting close to Xmas, people will be thinking about xmas stuff and preparations and just haven’t got the head for sorting out new connections. That’s what is is for me anyway.
The only time I’d want sex now is that small window days before and then the first day of my period. But that’s all I’d want. Just one rough fuck. If someone wanted to do that without having to have prior conversation leading up to it just be available on the day I’d take some names down for that.
Can I put my name down
On a serious note, you're absolutely gorgeous. Looking at your profile It says I messaged you a year ago, with no reply haha how ironic."
Honestly don’t take it personally I get quite a few messages so don’t even see most of them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think people aren’t in a meet or chat mood now. It’s getting close to Xmas, people will be thinking about xmas stuff and preparations and just haven’t got the head for sorting out new connections. That’s what is is for me anyway.
The only time I’d want sex now is that small window days before and then the first day of my period. But that’s all I’d want. Just one rough fuck. If someone wanted to do that without having to have prior conversation leading up to it just be available on the day I’d take some names down for that.
Can I put my name down
On a serious note, you're absolutely gorgeous. Looking at your profile It says I messaged you a year ago, with no reply haha how ironic.
Honestly don’t take it personally I get quite a few messages so don’t even see most of them. "
It's fine, there will be another one in there now, I'll leave it to you whether you see it or not |
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Gents, there are 75 messages shown per page in the inbox.
With no option to view anything but the first page.
Therefore it is highly likely that your message could be sitting on a subsequent page, going unseen.
Don’t take the lack of replies personally
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
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"It's nothing to do with you or how you are. I have had very nice polite messages over the year I've been here and if I spoke and met them all, I'd probably be tripping over my own fanny lips.
Taking that mental image to the wank bank.
I paint a pretty picture don't I "
I now have an image of you gracefully gliding down to the entrance of a club on them, like a more loosely-moraled Mary Poppins. |
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"It's nothing to do with you or how you are. I have had very nice polite messages over the year I've been here and if I spoke and met them all, I'd probably be tripping over my own fanny lips. "
No high heels I hope  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gents, there are 75 messages shown per page in the inbox.
With no option to view anything but the first page.
Therefore it is highly likely that your message could be sitting on a subsequent page, going unseen.
Don’t take the lack of replies personally
KM"
I was unaware of this, as I'm sure most people are so thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"God, not another entitled thread.  "
God not another miserable old git, painting his nails pretending to be a rocker to hold onto his youth, commenting on other people's threads when he should just quietly move along |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just antisocial and don't talk to anyone....
You'd make a great film night partner "
Indeed, currently in silence whilst I've The Godfather part 3 on currently |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You look and sound great, OP!
However I probably wouldn’t reply because you’re obviously into feet ... and I’m not particularly.
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Thank you for the boost of confidence, I'll be honest I have changed my profile a bit since this thread started. More up to date photos added and my bio changed slightly too.
I do appreciate everyone's advice to help me try and get some conversations going so thank you to everyone who has had some input.
Oh and feet aren't too bad, you shouldn't hate your own anyway.... you wouldn't get far without them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you tried sending dick pics?
Nope, not really how I roll 
Well there is the problem.....
Your welcome  "
Whilst I quite like my penis, there are some absolute weapons on here that I would clearly lose out too in a sword fight.
I have to try and use my Whit, sarcasm and amazing sense of humour before even considering a dick pic by DM. The ego can only take so many ignored messages |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh, I don’t hate them! Just not bothered about them in a fetishy way.
Good luck x"
Don't knock it until you've tried it, plus look at the positives.... foot rubs on tap and free pedicures haha.
Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh, I don’t hate them! Just not bothered about them in a fetishy way.
Good luck x
No toe sucking for you then? "
I can guarantee it would bring me out in a fit of giggles
I mean, how could it not tickle?
I’m such a passion killer, ha ha! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't rely on fab to meet people.
Get out to clubs and socials works well for me"
I'm sorry but your username is just the best thing ever haha. Brilliant |
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"Oh, I don’t hate them! Just not bothered about them in a fetishy way.
Good luck x
No toe sucking for you then?
I can guarantee it would bring me out in a fit of giggles
I mean, how could it not tickle?
I’m such a passion killer, ha ha!"
Giggles are good!
Some women really like it, some don’t, allegedly, you’d have to try it to find out, hardly a passion killer. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh, I don’t hate them! Just not bothered about them in a fetishy way.
Good luck x
No toe sucking for you then?
I can guarantee it would bring me out in a fit of giggles
I mean, how could it not tickle?
I’m such a passion killer, ha ha!"
It may sound cliche, but you wouldn't believe the amount of times I've heard those word and then had a woman backtrack when having their feet played with. It's very sensual and erotic.
From experience, being ticklish only comes from not being comfortable with who you are with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For a 38yo guy who can't accommodate but has 7 veris we'd say you aren't doing that bad tbh. "
I only have 3 veris?
Being able to accommodate should hopefully be changing soon |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For a 38yo guy who can't accommodate but has 7 veris we'd say you aren't doing that bad tbh. "
I have only just seen that I've been verified by 7 people, that's strange. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok, maybe I shouldn’t rule it out completely!"
I definitely wouldn't, you may be surprised.
If only you lived closer I would offer to be your guinea pig |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I gave up trying to get laid, when you are one out of a thousand the odds are not in your favour, so just enjoy the banter, try to make some friends and just go with the flow"
Tahiti? |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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"I gave up trying to get laid, when you are one out of a thousand the odds are not in your favour, so just enjoy the banter, try to make some friends and just go with the flow
Tahiti?"
it's a wonderful place |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I gave up trying to get laid, when you are one out of a thousand the odds are not in your favour, so just enjoy the banter, try to make some friends and just go with the flow
Tahiti? it's a wonderful place"
I've heard you come back feeling like a new man |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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"I gave up trying to get laid, when you are one out of a thousand the odds are not in your favour, so just enjoy the banter, try to make some friends and just go with the flow
Tahiti? it's a wonderful place
I've heard you come back feeling like a new man "
it's like being reborn |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I gave up trying to get laid, when you are one out of a thousand the odds are not in your favour, so just enjoy the banter, try to make some friends and just go with the flow
Tahiti? it's a wonderful place
I've heard you come back feeling like a new man it's like being reborn"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For a 38yo guy who can't accommodate but has 7 veris we'd say you aren't doing that bad tbh.
I have only just seen that I've been verified by 7 people, that's strange."
7 of them are meets... how'd you forget
I think you might get more replies than you remember OP |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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Take this from someone with anxiety and shyness issues.
You need to ask you self this one question. Apart form my cock what can I offer? With my it's the spikey gloves that my partner made and who thinks a post coital massage is a bad idea. This way you can get intimate, without being pushy and always get though of a nice guy. Nice guys are talked about.
Good karma will help. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Take this from someone with anxiety and shyness issues.
You need to ask you self this one question. Apart form my cock what can I offer? With my it's the spikey gloves that my partner made and who thinks a post coital massage is a bad idea. This way you can get intimate, without being pushy and always get though of a nice guy. Nice guys are talked about.
Good karma will help."
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You say you browse the forums so you must have seen the other countless threads from men saying exactly the same thing that you’re saying so you should know that you most definitely aren’t the only man who struggles to get replies on here. It’s totally normal and it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you or your profile, it’s just the way it is here. There’s a very deep pool of men for the women to choose from on here so you have to be exactly what someone is looking for to get their attention. You have to learn how to handle rejection and assume that you’re not actually going to find anyone to have a conversation with or meet up with to be able to enjoy this site. |
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Having thought about your quandary for an hour or so, and as another man checking your profile,
You seem a nice chap, and I'm sure you are very genuine, but as one who is quite pragmatic about this site and most of the dating site, I feel its a wasted effort, and worrying about no replies in the grand scheme of things doesn't really warrant much of your valuable time.
Im not a great lover of seeing female bits plastered all over the show, leave something to the imagination i say, plus in the real world I doubt when you are down the pub/ work or where ever you would expect someone to flash their bits in the first 5 mins
As for sending polite messages etc , yet another waste of effort, too many men in here versus women, plus having checked out a random selection of women , of those looking, its a No from me.
My advice get in the real world and give this place a break you may find it a breath of fresh air.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You say you browse the forums so you must have seen the other countless threads from men saying exactly the same thing that you’re saying so you should know that you most definitely aren’t the only man who struggles to get replies on here. It’s totally normal and it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you or your profile, it’s just the way it is here. There’s a very deep pool of men for the women to choose from on here so you have to be exactly what someone is looking for to get their attention. You have to learn how to handle rejection and assume that you’re not actually going to find anyone to have a conversation with or meet up with to be able to enjoy this site. "
Completely agree, I have seen the odd thread with the same question asked. I never expect a reply especially with the amount of messages women must get in a day.
I just wanted some pointers specifically to my profile to see where I may be going wrong and improving it. So far I've had some good feedback about removing the dick pics, updating my pics to more recent ones and changing my bio slightly.
Time will tell now I suppose |
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"Having thought about your quandary for an hour or so, and as another man checking your profile,
You seem a nice chap, and I'm sure you are very genuine, but as one who is quite pragmatic about this site and most of the dating site, I feel its a wasted effort, and worrying about no replies in the grand scheme of things doesn't really warrant much of your valuable time.
Im not a great lover of seeing female bits plastered all over the show, leave something to the imagination i say, plus in the real world I doubt when you are down the pub/ work or where ever you would expect someone to flash their bits in the first 5 mins
As for sending polite messages etc , yet another waste of effort, too many men in here versus women, plus having checked out a random selection of women , of those looking, its a No from me.
My advice get in the real world and give this place a break you may find it a breath of fresh air.
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Appreciate your time and advice buddy |
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"Having thought about your quandary for an hour or so, and as another man checking your profile,
You seem a nice chap, and I'm sure you are very genuine, but as one who is quite pragmatic about this site and most of the dating site, I feel its a wasted effort, and worrying about no replies in the grand scheme of things doesn't really warrant much of your valuable time.
Im not a great lover of seeing female bits plastered all over the show, leave something to the imagination i say, plus in the real world I doubt when you are down the pub/ work or where ever you would expect someone to flash their bits in the first 5 mins
As for sending polite messages etc , yet another waste of effort, too many men in here versus women, plus having checked out a random selection of women , of those looking, its a No from me.
My advice get in the real world and give this place a break you may find it a breath of fresh air.
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Love that you’re telling him that he’s wasting his effort by spending a few minutes writing someone a message yet you spent an hour or so thinking about this haha. |
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"Having thought about your quandary for an hour or so, and as another man checking your profile,
You seem a nice chap, and I'm sure you are very genuine, but as one who is quite pragmatic about this site and most of the dating site, I feel its a wasted effort, and worrying about no replies in the grand scheme of things doesn't really warrant much of your valuable time.
Im not a great lover of seeing female bits plastered all over the show, leave something to the imagination i say, plus in the real world I doubt when you are down the pub/ work or where ever you would expect someone to flash their bits in the first 5 mins
As for sending polite messages etc , yet another waste of effort, too many men in here versus women, plus having checked out a random selection of women , of those looking, its a No from me.
My advice get in the real world and give this place a break you may find it a breath of fresh air.
Love that you’re telling him that he’s wasting his effort by spending a few minutes writing someone a message yet you spent an hour or so thinking about this haha. "
Have you thought that there may be other issues going on with the OP ? , maybe, maybe not . Yet another quick to judge
But I suppose its easy to ridicule other when hiding behind your keyboard ..
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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"Take this from someone with anxiety and shyness issues.
You need to ask you self this one question. Apart form my cock what can I offer? With my it's the spikey gloves that my partner made and who thinks a post coital massage is a bad idea. This way you can get intimate, without being pushy and always get though of a nice guy. Nice guys are talked about.
Good karma will help.
Cheers buddy "
You're welcome. Feel free to contact my partner for deatials about get some gloves for yourself.
Bring some homemade cakes to a social too. Pure pussy magnet!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Take this from someone with anxiety and shyness issues.
You need to ask you self this one question. Apart form my cock what can I offer? With my it's the spikey gloves that my partner made and who thinks a post coital massage is a bad idea. This way you can get intimate, without being pushy and always get though of a nice guy. Nice guys are talked about.
Good karma will help.
Cheers buddy
You're welcome. Feel free to contact my partner for deatials about get some gloves for yourself.
Bring some homemade cakes to a social too. Pure pussy magnet!!! "
The gloves sound awesome. What sort of cakes are we talking about? I'm partial to an angel slice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Having thought about your quandary for an hour or so, and as another man checking your profile,
You seem a nice chap, and I'm sure you are very genuine, but as one who is quite pragmatic about this site and most of the dating site, I feel its a wasted effort, and worrying about no replies in the grand scheme of things doesn't really warrant much of your valuable time.
Im not a great lover of seeing female bits plastered all over the show, leave something to the imagination i say, plus in the real world I doubt when you are down the pub/ work or where ever you would expect someone to flash their bits in the first 5 mins
As for sending polite messages etc , yet another waste of effort, too many men in here versus women, plus having checked out a random selection of women , of those looking, its a No from me.
My advice get in the real world and give this place a break you may find it a breath of fresh air.
Love that you’re telling him that he’s wasting his effort by spending a few minutes writing someone a message yet you spent an hour or so thinking about this haha.
Have you thought that there may be other issues going on with the OP ? , maybe, maybe not . Yet another quick to judge
But I suppose its easy to ridicule other when hiding behind your keyboard ..
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I wasn’t judging OP at all, it was only a little joke and it was aimed at you not at OP. Sorry if it offended you, I’ll refrain from making jokes in future.
I posted a message previously giving OP a bit of support and telling him not to worry as it’s the same for everyone rather than anything wrong with him, so yes I did consider that OP may have some sort of insecurity issues and I tried to help him.
Cracking one little joke isn’t ridiculing anyone. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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Try this for size.
Cheat! Go and look at other men's profiles and see which ones have the best:
Names
updates
profile pictures
pictures of only eyes, smile and bums (this is what women want, not cocks, they smell of wee!)
Suits, tuxes even more so
So when you have done this, you will see a profile that will make you as a straight guy think "fuck me, he's gonna have a full mail box, thanks to all the effort that he's just put in."
Plagiarism is your best friend: don't steal pictures, take even better ones yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Try this for size.
Cheat! Go and look at other men's profiles and see which ones have the best:
Names
updates
profile pictures
pictures of only eyes, smile and bums (this is what women want, not cocks, they smell of wee!)
Suits, tuxes even more so
So when you have done this, you will see a profile that will make you as a straight guy think "fuck me, he's gonna have a full mail box, thanks to all the effort that he's just put in."
Plagiarism is your best friend: don't steal pictures, take even better ones yourself."
Noted, I will have a little play around this week and see how I get on |
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Just dont let it get you down, don't let the site get you down its meant to be fun so what if you get knocked back or don't receive a reply just you a small fish in a very big pond and women and cples have their choice of thousands of guys get yourself to a social or a club I use the site mainly to peruse the forums and occasionally I'll message someone if I think theirs something we have in common sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't |
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By *orny PTMan
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"Take this from someone with anxiety and shyness issues.
You need to ask you self this one question. Apart form my cock what can I offer? With my it's the spikey gloves that my partner made and who thinks a post coital massage is a bad idea. This way you can get intimate, without being pushy and always get though of a nice guy. Nice guys are talked about.
Good karma will help.
Cheers buddy
You're welcome. Feel free to contact my partner for deatials about get some gloves for yourself.
Bring some homemade cakes to a social too. Pure pussy magnet!!!
The gloves sound awesome. What sort of cakes are we talking about? I'm partial to an angel slice "
Bring a selection, you know plain, lemon, chocolate and even salted caramel. Keep it simple, cheap and have fun. Ask Lick and Bicker as went to her social at Purple Mamba in Nottingham. |
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It's the nature of the beast here, after almost 2 years of the pandemic and far single men.
You can fully control 2 things - your expectations and
-your approach
I advise doing so, for your wellbeing and to potentially improve your results |
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Numbers… thats all - about 200 guys to every woman on here and they all send her a pic of their knob so she bulk deletes after the first 50 ( perhaps?). And your decent message gets swept up in that. One day your message will be in the first ones and you might get a reply and even more. |
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