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Are you hard to please?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think I must be. I've been having a bit of a reflective day and thinking about all the encounters I've had over the years with different people.
Some people blow your mind and make you see actually others weren't even close. Possibly due to a mutual chemistry.
Some people who lead you to believe or have a reputation of being great were actually, well not. I assumed I obviously wasn't for them either (although they seemed happy and wanted to see me again)
From sharing experiences with my friends it often seems that there are a lot of people out there who are having really bad sex but think that they aren't.
So is it that you get to a point in your life where you think you're just the one that's hard to please? |
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I do agree to a point, and I've had the situation where a partner has thought the sex was amazing when I've found it no more than adequate.
I've had the opposite happen too though, where I've thought there was a real spark and a connection that made the sex sensational, but my partner has no interest in coming back for seconds.
I don't think I'm particularly hard to please, but I do want to both like and fancy the person I'm in bed with, which does narrow my options somewhat. I've met perfectly nice people where there just wasn't that pull, the spark of desire.
I'm not going to just go through the motions when it comes to sex, and I'm not prepared to just settle for adequate. I'd rather have a wank. |
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I don’t think I’m hard to please but I’m very hard to get.. I’m not one for loads of conversations or keeping options open. I’m pretty definitive in whether or not I think someone would be well matched to me. If the chemistry is there I know it will be epic. But that’s not often because of the way I am…
So actually maybe I am hard work  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not really. I'm hard to attract, I'm hard to convince I'm attractive, but I'm not hard to please.
Just give me coffee and tell me I'm pretty (but that's the only thing I want to be lied to about). |
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I’m hard to get and hard to please - you have to be on my wave length to draw me in. I often find those I’m attracted to can sometimes be arrogant about their dominance, when it’s actually alpha male. And those that claim to be dominant mostly don’t like or can’t cope with confident females.
I need all the boxes ticked, not just a few of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope not really
For woman a nice cuddle on the couch with a movie and munches is all I need
For guys just pull my knickers down and bang away till your hearts content |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I don’t think I’m hard to please but I’m very hard to get.. I’m not one for loads of conversations or keeping options open. I’m pretty definitive in whether or not I think someone would be well matched to me. If the chemistry is there I know it will be epic. But that’s not often because of the way I am…
So actually maybe I am hard work "
Yep, I'm similar.  I've been told I'm hard work before but if something is working for me then I'm fully on board, engaged, easy to please. I'm not easily pleased though, I know what I like and it's very rare I find that. I'm not one for flirty conversations with no substance or genuine interest on my part which might seem like I'm difficult. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"As my tag line says I would rather be hard to deal with than easy to please.
In my eyes anything worth having is worth working for. "
Whatcha tryna say BG?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do agree to a point, and I've had the situation where a partner has thought the sex was amazing when I've found it no more than adequate.
I've had the opposite happen too though, where I've thought there was a real spark and a connection that made the sex sensational, but my partner has no interest in coming back for seconds.
I don't think I'm particularly hard to please, but I do want to both like and fancy the person I'm in bed with, which does narrow my options somewhat. I've met perfectly nice people where there just wasn't that pull, the spark of desire.
I'm not going to just go through the motions when it comes to sex, and I'm not prepared to just settle for adequate. I'd rather have a wank."
I agree with you, it happened to me quite a lot were they thought it was mind blowing but I thought it was okay or maybe a bit more than okay
And times where I did have sex with a guy and j thought it was dynamite but for whatever reason they didn’t get the spark … (okay it’s only happened a couple of times but it did kinda hurt!! Especially with one guy who I REALLY fancied and the sex was amazing… like well I enjoyed it a lot) 
From a relationship point of view tho I’ve been told that eventually no guy will ever truly satisfy me because they could give me the moon, and apparently I’d want two… quote on quote |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As my tag line says I would rather be hard to deal with than easy to please.
In my eyes anything worth having is worth working for. "
Don't you think that might have the opposite effect at times? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As my tag line says I would rather be hard to deal with than easy to please.
In my eyes anything worth having is worth working for.
Whatcha tryna say BG?
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That I’m hard work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As my tag line says I would rather be hard to deal with than easy to please.
In my eyes anything worth having is worth working for.
Don't you think that might have the opposite effect at times?"
In what sense? |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"As my tag line says I would rather be hard to deal with than easy to please.
In my eyes anything worth having is worth working for.
Whatcha tryna say BG?
That I’m hard work "
Phew. Thought you were saying I'm not worth it 
Also... how hard are you?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would much prefer a good chat and chemistry than Adonis people. The most “normal” people are usually the most fun. If you can have a laugh and a giggle whilst naked then you’re winning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As my tag line says I would rather be hard to deal with than easy to please.
In my eyes anything worth having is worth working for.
Whatcha tryna say BG?
That I’m hard work
Phew. Thought you were saying I'm not worth it
Also... how hard are you? "
Better ask TG she has to deal with me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not hard to please but I suppose people would think I am because they can’t deal with my honesty ? They take it to personally and then say “well no pleasing her etc “
I’m not about pretending something is good to save the feelings of others - I know what I like and don’t…. However - it takes a while to get to that position because I can be hard to read / make friends with due to being quite shy…. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"As my tag line says I would rather be hard to deal with than easy to please.
In my eyes anything worth having is worth working for.
Whatcha tryna say BG?
That I’m hard work
Phew. Thought you were saying I'm not worth it
Also... how hard are you?
Better ask TG she has to deal with me "
Yeah baby  |
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