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By *affron40 OP Woman
over a year ago
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How does it work?
Has it changed?
Is it a general thing or person specific?
I can literally switch off for long periods of time unless im attracted to a specific person. It’s been this way for as long as I can remember.
Is anyone else like this?!? |
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
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Used to be high, and constant. Till about 2.5 yrs ago when it fucked off entirely, went near 8 months without so much as a wank.  
It's started to reappear over the last few months, which is a relief in dome ways, but frustrating in others as no time for fun atm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The more I get the more I want generally but it really does depend on the person you’re with.
Right now for example I feel totally empowered by my partner to be my true authentic self…. Which just happens to be a horny bitch  |
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It has changed over the years but as a result of a condition called Anhedonia.
It affects much more than just my sex drive but unlike those who suffer the more extreme effects I have no difficulty being present and enjoying the moment. It's the before and after that is nonexistent. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Ah my sex drive/vagina is a betrayer. Most of the time it's casually simmering away but it's so obvious when I have new dick energy because my libido soars and I post about sex a lot more openly on here. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
It doesn’t really kick in unless I have someone I’m interested in. For me, the more I have sex then the more I want it (and the person giving me it).
Until then it’s pretty much dead downstairs
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The more I get the more I want generally but it really does depend on the person you’re with.
Right now for example I feel totally empowered by my partner to be my true authentic self…. Which just happens to be a horny bitch "
I agree with the more you get the more you Want!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think mine has been and gone. I was hoping this site would rekindle my sex drive but nothing yet. I would rather have a nice meal at the moment then a night of passion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rising for the two weeks following my period - through the roof at ovulation and then down down down until I can’t bare to be touched  BAM period arrives lol and repeat
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I’m person specific - have been messaged by some real hotties recently but if they don’t float my boat it doesn’t happen
However, put in the same room as either of those two (previous meets) and the electricity is …. Tssssss you know that sizzle … yep that works instantly |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
Mine is weird. It can be ridiculous. As in sky high. Super insane. And then the day before my period comes "Super crazy raging superhorn" Day. Which if the drive is already sky high it can be scary.
But recently it has been person(s) specific. Even on SCRS Day.
And that's a combination of pretty bloody lovely actually and really damn annoying for a myriad of reasons  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Normally it would be up and down depending on where I am with my cycle, but lately it's constantly on the high. I blame a certain person for it rather than hormones. |
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Mine used to be pretty high. Then we had our first child.
We had 3 kids in 5 1/2 years and I breastfed them all. My periods never came back properly in all that time. Sex was uninteresting, painful and completely undesirable to me for most of it.
In March this year my periods suddenly restarted and I got horny again, and sex wasn't painful any more. It was like a fricking miracle.
If we hadn't started swinging in May I probably would have worn my husband out to an early grave - not that he was complaining.
We're now making up for lost time. We had 8 very lean years. 2021 has been a joy  |
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If I'm not getting any I tend to be grumpy for the first 12 months or so then my sex drive takes a nose dive and I barely notice the dry spell.
Otherwise I'm just generally horny. It's not person specific, although there are some people who turn me on more than others - that tends to impact my masturbatory fantasies rather than level of horn though.
Sadly I don't have a guy to hand, so I do masturbate quite a lot at the moment. |
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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago
the Goldilocks Zone |
As a younger man I was horny pretty much all the time, but didn't last very long between the sheets.
In recent years, this has changed completely. I note that this is entirely person specific, but in my 40s I have discovered a stamina and libido that I would never have believed possible...
Not entirely sure what it is that has changed, but rather happy with the outcome! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mine used to be pretty high. Then we had our first child.
We had 3 kids in 5 1/2 years and I breastfed them all. My periods never came back properly in all that time. Sex was uninteresting, painful and completely undesirable to me for most of it.
In March this year my periods suddenly restarted and I got horny again, and sex wasn't painful any more. It was like a fricking miracle.
If we hadn't started swinging in May I probably would have worn my husband out to an early grave - not that he was complaining.
We're now making up for lost time. We had 8 very lean years. 2021 has been a joy "
I can really relate to this ! We had 3 babies 4 years ! Life was bloody hard and sex was the last thing on my mind …. Probably the last year or so it’s returned as I’ve felt like myself again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm having sex with the right person, it's highest then...if its good I just want to keep doing it
Generally though, the third week of my cycle is peak. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its changed,
4 year ago pretty much every female that crossed my path id chase to get into bed and usually get my way. Id travel the length of the country for it,never turned a women down Even if i wasnt attracted to them id go there.
I went on some medication and my sex drive vanished.
Its back now but i feel like im so so picky with women unless they are 100% i 'friendzone' ive even been asked if im gay! Its nice not being what i used to be, but i do miss the 'excitement' of the chase  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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4 babies in 5 years. Bye bye libido until...3 years ago when sans ex-cockwomble it exploded and now it's permanently high. Whether I'm with someone, prospecting or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It drives just like Lewis Hamilton at times and at other times it’s happy seating in the front row on the top of a double decker, watching the paysage. It’s both cyclical and person dependant, I haven’t quite worked out the magic formula. It lives it’s own life kind of and I follow the motion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Normally it would be up and down depending on where I am with my cycle, but lately it's constantly on the high. I blame a certain person for it rather than hormones."
If it gets too much then maybe you should have a word with him |
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"Comes in waves. Antidepressants have killed my ability to orgasm sometimes. Annoyingly. Still enjoy it though. "
My sex drive is as high as ever but since I've been taking pills for insomnia I do have occasions when willy just won't get his act together.
On other days the flagpole is well and truly on form.
Fortunately for me a great deal of my enjoyment comes from what the lady is getting out of the experience. If she's satisfied that's the important thing for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Comes in waves will have no intrest then someone will kick it off and its intense for ages a wanting of sex all the time the smalkest thing getting me aroused then all of sudden gone again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like that of a pubescent 17 year old in season and getting worse.
The older I get the kinkier I seem to become too although my taste in women has become more refined than when I was 17, thank god! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fits and starts for me, sometimes I can go weeks without a littl bite in my fanny and then wham! Doughnut puts a pair of grey joggers on and I'm all over him like a chocolate cake with cream!
Danish x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find if I don’t have someone who interests me or I am not getting sex then mine goes completely. When I am having regular good sex with someone I’m into I become insatiable. There is no happy medium |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
Always been person specific with me, that craving you get after you have been with them and can’t wait for the next encounter, the flashbacks, the sensation when you think about them touch you, the inability to control yourself because they have tapped into your inner horny bitch and set her free!
It’s that understanding of your body and ability to unleash something inside you that only certain people have, it drives me nuts in the best possible way xx |
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"Like that of a pubescent 17 year old in season and getting worse.
The older I get the kinkier I seem to become too although my taste in women has become more refined than when I was 17, thank god!"
We've definitely got kinkier as we've got older  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Normally it would be up and down depending on where I am with my cycle, but lately it's constantly on the high. I blame a certain person for it rather than hormones.
If it gets too much then maybe you should have a word with him "
Too much? Are you kidding me? I'm just worried about him in case he won't be able to actually stand up one day...  |
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"How does it work?
Has it changed?
Is it a general thing or person specific?
I can literally switch off for long periods of time unless im attracted to a specific person. It’s been this way for as long as I can remember.
Is anyone else like this?!? "
I can relate to this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How does it work?
Has it changed?
Is it a general thing or person specific?
I can literally switch off for long periods of time unless im attracted to a specific person. It’s been this way for as long as I can remember.
Is anyone else like this?!? "
Very similar. I've always been good at compartmentalising my life so can open and shut that door quite easily. |
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For some strange reason mine seems to be at it's highest when I'm dealing with stressful, and frustrating situations in the real world. I can even remember an old girlfriend telling me that some people smoke to relieve tension, others use alcohol, some people gamble, and for others it was substances, but for me it seemed that sex was my form of release. She was probably spot on with her observation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ebbs and flows. Hormone related mostly.
I have been known to go a very, very long time without.
It can be person specific. A "friend " called round unexpectedly one day, couldn't have felt less interested but one kiss and that was enough. I felt great after and wanted more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very much person specific.
With the right person I can be utterly insatiable. The more I have the more I want.
However, the rest of the time it's not something I focus on. |
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I sometimes get the desire, I seldom get the opportunity, especially over the last two years (illness for four months before covid, then the pandemic hit...). Then the combination of my anti-dep meds and my gender dysphoria make it difficult to actually get to a successful conclusion, unless with someone with patience and understanding. When I meet that person, I hope that I will be able to give back to them everything that they give to me. |
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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago
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My sex drive shifted signficantly upwards after dedicating time to total fitness. Over the last 5 years or so I've been horny mostly all the time. Last couple of years though edging increased that even more, so I'm pretty much horny all the time until I cum. A standard wank and cumming for easy gratification is a wasted wank. I do need to cum at least twice before I settle if I've been more than a few days without orgasm. |
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By *htcMan
over a year ago
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Mine has been very high since teens and still is. I have problems sleeping if I don't cum at least twice within the last hours of going to bed had this since probably around 10.
Constantly wanting action and to cum, I can get a erection still by walking or even sitting next to a female, with just a few thoughts.
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Used to be really high, all the time, since living alone for the last 6 months, it’s dwindled. I go for a week without knocking one out now.
I’m interested to see if it picks up if I was to meet someone new. |
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Non existent since the start of the first lockdown as far as having sex with a person.
I'll have a weekly or so buzz with my wand but I wouldn't call it being actually horny.
More of a "meh fuck it, I'll have a quick buzz" and I ain't been bothered about penetration so not even used a dildo.
When I went to clubs and stuff the idea of having a cracking night and potentially great sex was the thing that gave me the motivation to feel great about myself, shave my legs, make an effort etc whereas now the thought of sex is different, my thought process has changed from "potentially great sex" to "probably lied to for a shag" and that kills any sex drive or desire to go out stone cold dead.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How does it work?
Has it changed?
Is it a general thing or person specific?
I can literally switch off for long periods of time unless im attracted to a specific person. It’s been this way for as long as I can remember.
Is anyone else like this?!? "
Mine is similar, I can be horny as sin for weeks then not interested for equal or longer amounts of time however with the right person it can be high amd non stop lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Really glad I stumbled across this as I actually thought something was wrong with me,I've gone years without sex and thought therecwas something wrong with me, but as I've gotten older I can definitely see it's person or persons specific, I love sex, I love the intimacy etc but hate one night stands,I enjoy sex with someone I know and enjoy been with.
When I'm getting sex it's pretty high when I'm not I get to the stage where I just switch off but there is one person I'm craving at the moment.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Really glad I stumbled across this as I actually thought something was wrong with me,I've gone years without sex and thought therecwas something wrong with me, but as I've gotten older I can definitely see it's person or persons specific, I love sex, I love the intimacy etc but hate one night stands,I enjoy sex with someone I know and enjoy been with.
When I'm getting sex it's pretty high when I'm not I get to the stage where I just switch off but there is one person I'm craving at the moment.
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Mine was just like that DD, but lately i have noticed 2 week cycles. ill binge out on sex if i can, then be grand and not even feel horny, then 2 weeks later if i havent had a meet ill be like |
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