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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems
I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That’s what I’ve been trying but I still don’t get anywhere, am I over confident in my appearance? Am I too forward or not forward enough. Actual minefield |
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By *ob08Man
over a year ago
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"That’s what I’ve been trying but I still don’t get anywhere, am I over confident in my appearance? Am I too forward or not forward enough. Actual minefield "
Just be yourself, don't try and anticipate what other people want and try and change for their benefit |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That’s what I’ve been trying but I still don’t get anywhere, am I over confident in my appearance? Am I too forward or not forward enough. Actual minefield
Just be yourself, don't try and anticipate what other people want and try and change for their benefit"
I am being myself, I’m posting on a thread where it’s encouraged to help others and like them but people stop by my profile and do nothing, messages deleted without response |
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By *ob08Man
over a year ago
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"That’s what I’ve been trying but I still don’t get anywhere, am I over confident in my appearance? Am I too forward or not forward enough. Actual minefield
Just be yourself, don't try and anticipate what other people want and try and change for their benefit
I am being myself, I’m posting on a thread where it’s encouraged to help others and like them but people stop by my profile and do nothing, messages deleted without response "
Alot of people on here are not nice lol don't beat yourself up about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just to be clear I’m not looking for sympathy fabs etc… it’s just an awakening that it takes nothing to do something that could out a smile on someone’s face but instead your profile is judged and deemed not worthy of a simple click. For an open minded website it’s not very open minded |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why is it you need fabs? OP
I get plenty of messages saying that people like my pics but they don’t fab them either. Not a problem to me as I upload pics for my own pleasure Ana that of my partner, not for validation from others |
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So you just want people to Fab photos just for the sake of it? Surely that would make the whole fab system meaningless.
If you are relying solely on this website to be active in the scene then you may find you'll struggle. Why not get out there physically into the social scene and meet other people. |
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Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers "
That’s not true at all.
If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers "
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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You can't and will never please everybody on here.
Just be yourself and hopefully those who like you will make themselves know and you can concentrate on them.
If you think about it too much it will destroy your confidence. Fab can be a brilliant place but it is also a brutal place. |
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers
That’s not true at all.
If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks)"
Well at least you made this about you |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I can see how that might dent your confidence a little but try to remember that not every body is for everybody.
I do realise that people want to feel attractive but you can’t appeal to everyone and the point of the ‘game’ isn’t to receive faux fabs.
Part of the trick of the forums is engaging on the threads that work for you, if it doesn’t work then don’t engage |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers
That’s not true at all.
If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks)
Well at least you made this about you "
As opposed to all those times that you selflessly derailed the threads on female safety with your personal experiences and opinions  |
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers
That’s not true at all.
If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks)
Well at least you made this about you
As opposed to all those times that you selflessly derailed the threads on female safety with your personal experiences and opinions "
And another. Poor lads had his confidence shattered and you can’t help but bash others. Good job guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fabbed and messaged you without the prompt of a thread. I think those threads are intended more as a bit of lighthearted titillation and not a way to make actual connections (I don't really know as I don't take part) but I wouldn't read too much into it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems
I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone "
Couple of things....
There is absolutely nothing wrong with your body. That does not however mean that everyone will want to pump you or Fab your pics.
Whilst Fab can be handy for a wee confidence boost (if the right person Fabs a pic) if you're looking to external sources to feel good about yourself you're setting yourself up for to fail.
Lastly, and this may come across as harsh, but comments like "I'm not worthy" scream "pity me" and are an absolute turn off for most women. I'm not going to fuck someone to make them feel better about themselves.
Chin up Mr
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"Your pics are great I especially like the one where you are playing the guitar  don't take it personally you look great "
This too. You’ve actually got good pics, not just dick pics like most. Interesting pics with the guitar, decent body if I say so myself, manly chest rug
Your alright lad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems
I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone
Couple of things....
There is absolutely nothing wrong with your body. That does not however mean that everyone will want to pump you or Fab your pics.
Whilst Fab can be handy for a wee confidence boost (if the right person Fabs a pic) if you're looking to external sources to feel good about yourself you're setting yourself up for to fail.
Lastly, and this may come across as harsh, but comments like "I'm not worthy" scream "pity me" and are an absolute turn off for most women. I'm not going to fuck someone to make them feel better about themselves.
Chin up Mr
X"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That’s what I’ve been trying but I still don’t get anywhere, am I over confident in my appearance? Am I too forward or not forward enough. Actual minefield "
Some men assume that if they get a Fab it means the person wants to fuck them or chat.
You have very nice arms and good pics.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers "
Some may see them as popularity contests, others may see them as fabbing a pic as a way in trying to start a conversation. Others such as myself will fab a pic as I appreciate it.
Everyone is different. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Nature of the beast really.
The "look at me" popularity threads are best not taken seriously. Drop your name in, do your contribution to those you like and then be on your way and forget about them. Plenty of times I've had a few interest from them and plenty of times not a single thing.
A lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of sheep.
You need to be realistic, do you give false hope to those that you don't like, or do not appeal to you? Do you fab pics and people you are not attracted to yourself?
It is a hard lesson but we won't appeal to everyone, sometimes we appeal to nobody and others we may have interest from two! 
Time to take the training wheels off and it is an initial hit to the ego and knocks the confidence. You are not the first, won't be the last, and even the "gods among men" will have at times had no interest sent their way.
Hell even I have had friends not throw fabs my way during these threads. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers
That’s not true at all.
If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks)
Well at least you made this about you
As opposed to all those times that you selflessly derailed the threads on female safety with your personal experiences and opinions
And another. Poor lads had his confidence shattered and you can’t help but bash others. Good job guys "
You started the bashing and Hippy was not making it about her. I came on to say the same thing. I try to fab as many men as possible on those threads because the disparity between the sexes is bonkers on here and men post some great pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems
I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone "
I'm pretty sure I've fabbed you on those threads before, I didn't make it all the way through yesterday! IMO those guys who add new photos regularly do better because we all like something new to see - worth a thought? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your photos are nice, I’ve dropped you a little fab
I personally stay away from the threads that are a popularity contest now (I find them cliquey), anything that starts with “which forumite….” is avoided. Don’t let it get you down, do your thing and try not to let it get you down |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hey Mike,
I was going to add, you have a good profile, just try not to take it personally.
Ash x "
Thanks Ash, my confidence is generally low and I’d hoped by joining the site I could maybe improve it. Having a bottle of wine and thinking about these things doesn’t help. X |
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Almost every message I receive makes some comment about my pics but the vast majority of those people have never fabbed any of them.
I've joined plenty of fab a fella or fab a fabber threads and have yet to get a single fab through any of them.
The last one I took part in I deliberately winked and fabbed every woman and couple on the thread and got absolutely nothing back. That was done to prove a point and I didn't expect anything in return.
It's the nature of the site and just because someone says they are in on a particular thread doesn't mean they will actually contribute so don't take it personally. |
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
Birmingham |
It’s an absolute roulette wheel, fella.
I’ve gone in on such threads and got nothing one week but multiple Fabs the next week, with the same set of pics.
I know it can be hard not to take things to heart in a place where we’re all being more open than probably anywhere else, but your worth isn’t defined by idle thumb taps. |
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By *ikAshCouple
over a year ago
London |
"Hey Mike,
I was going to add, you have a good profile, just try not to take it personally.
Ash x
Thanks Ash, my confidence is generally low and I’d hoped by joining the site I could maybe improve it. Having a bottle of wine and thinking about these things doesn’t help. X "
Tbh, Mike I seriously think it’s tough on here for single guys. Not sure it’s the best place to improve your confidence. Definitely go along to socials, and just be yourself. Big hug xx
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers "
This x |
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers "
This. I don’t do those threads. I’ve never done them. Fabs mean nowt to me. I’ll sometimes fab a pic if I like it and if I remember to. If someone fabs mine it’s hopefully because they genuinely like it not because I’ve joined a thread. If some get a confidence boost from it though then it can only be a good thing. Never really been for me though x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers "
This ^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on and off this site for around/over 15 years and never met anyone through the forums, they're not a sure fire way of getting a meet, but great to converse with the like minded.
I tend to stay away from those kind of games, I don't tend to fab anyway.
If you feel it's a confidence killer, maybe avoid those games too.
Validation is only temporary anyway, build the confidence within yourself and nothing should knock you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think the fabs build the confidence tbh because I get them as I have boobs and it's not that which builds confidence. I find taking the photos and feeling good about myself is what has helped. The fabs from others are a bonus. Have you seen how many the top women's pics get compared to top men? It's insanity. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers "
I like the cut of this man's jib |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You go out to a disco with 2000 people unless your Ricky Martin you're not getting tons of Posseh an Views.
Come on here you expect loads of action and it ain't gonna happen.
Know what I mean...manage your expectations |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems
I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone "
What do you mean 'You got visits and wasn't worthy?' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mean i did the same and got nothing. Just gotta remember I'm hot as fuck whether people fab or interact with me or not. I move on and thats that really.
Like others say its best not to get hung up on it. Theres probably more people that pass you on the street and think your fab than people here willing to dish em out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That’s what I’ve been trying but I still don’t get anywhere, am I over confident in my appearance? Am I too forward or not forward enough. Actual minefield
Just be yourself, don't try and anticipate what other people want and try and change for their benefit
I am being myself, I’m posting on a thread where it’s encouraged to help others and like them but people stop by my profile and do nothing, messages deleted without response "
Oh right I get the visits now...
Depends on your approach, we can't see your mail to them, so can't really comment as such.
If you've read some of their profile and get the jist of what THEY want, then keep trying.
If you are ignoring the write up. Then I'm afraid it'll be deleted...
Have you used Advanced Search? |
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I don’t get those threads so I avoid. But I’d assume that the premise would be for people to make extra effort to fab maybe their favourite photo on any profile they click on. I know many posters do and are very inclusive. However, to me that doesn’t mean much because its essentially a game. If it’s making you feel crap then avoid them. There’s no link between fabs on photos and self worth. Stick to threads that make you smile  |
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"I never get fabbed, I’m cool with that, relying on others for your own self-esteem is a fools errand Poor you
Keep up sweety  "
Okay so I was fishing. You know what they say, advice is the easiest thing to give and the hardest thing to take |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I never get fabbed, I’m cool with that, relying on others for your own self-esteem is a fools errand Poor you
Keep up sweety
Okay so I was fishing. You know what they say, advice is the easiest thing to give and the hardest thing to take "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm one of those that very rarely fab photos. I'll look at them, appreciate them but my mind isn't entwined in a SM world where it says "oh you need to like this if you've seen it".
I'm sure lots of people appreciate you, your profile and pics.
Always happy to chat if you want to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems
I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone "
The forum can be very cliquey, I'm mostly ignored but I care not!
Missy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never get fabbed, I’m cool with that, relying on others for your own self-esteem is a fools errand Poor you
Keep up sweety
Okay so I was fishing. You know what they say, advice is the easiest thing to give and the hardest thing to take "
Fabbed you - I tried one of those double exposure photos too - never seen anyone else do it on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems
I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone
The forum can be very cliquey, I'm mostly ignored but I care not!
Missy x"
Forums and the likes are likely always be this way, I don't see it as a clique per se, more a familiarity and understanding boundaries with one another.
To the outsider, it can feel like there's a select few that play together on the forums, but the bigger picture is there are many that don't. |
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"I never get fabbed, I’m cool with that, relying on others for your own self-esteem is a fools errand Poor you
Keep up sweety
Okay so I was fishing. You know what they say, advice is the easiest thing to give and the hardest thing to take
Fabbed you - I tried one of those double exposure photos too - never seen anyone else do it on here!"
I used gimp. I’ve got a few others in my hidden pics including a sunset over pants and a view of Dartmoor . It was good fun to do but I had to watch a YouTube tutorial. |
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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers "
Absolutely spot on with your comments as usual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never get fabbed, I’m cool with that, relying on others for your own self-esteem is a fools errand Poor you
Keep up sweety
Okay so I was fishing. You know what they say, advice is the easiest thing to give and the hardest thing to take
Fabbed you - I tried one of those double exposure photos too - never seen anyone else do it on here!
I used gimp. I’ve got a few others in my hidden pics including a sunset over pants and a view of Dartmoor . It was good fun to do but I had to watch a YouTube tutorial. "
sunset over pants! I use Snapseed - it's super easy but I didn't think mine was very effective. I moved it to private |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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I join threads if I get a response yippee... often if you're late to the thread lots of folk are 'd out and may have moved on to the next topic..its fab its an ever moving feast.
I joined in a fuck suck lick thread the other day...
Can a lady please message me to arrange this.. ta. |
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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago
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"Your photos are nice, I’ve dropped you a little fab
I personally stay away from the threads that are a popularity contest now (I find them cliquey), anything that starts with “which forumite….” is avoided. Don’t let it get you down, do your thing and try not to let it get you down "
Yeah we keep away from all that now. Every one learns the hard way it's just a little private group really.
On one we were the only post to be ignored on there.
Couldn't actually care but once you know where you stand it's easy to avoid |
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"Don't dwell on it. I do much better on fabguys than here.Fabs are fun but don't really mean anything. "
This.
Fabs are pretty meaningless and don’t signify a wealth of meaningful meets. Fab is not a competition, and should be about you connecting with the people your profile speaks to. I’d rather make 2 or three great connections than receive 20k Fabs!
Try not to let something so arbitrary affect your confidence, darling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely get fabb'd but Im sure if I made more effort with pics, had a better profile and liked celery I would.
The fabbing threads are supposed to be a bit of fun - thats why I don't do them any more.....plus my pics are shite
As others, far wiser than me, have said....dont take what happens in the forums home.
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"Just realise those kinda threads are popularity contests, nothing more. If you have a banging body you might get a few favs, but ultimately it’s the same niche group on here that all make those threads and stroke eachothers egos
Don’t place your confidence or self worth on an Internet forum for wannabe swingers
That’s not true at all.
If I join the fabbing thread I try and go through everyone and fab some of their pics (unless it’s all dicks)"
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Hey OP I fabbed your photos I think you have some good pictures
Don’t let it knock your confidence especially on threads like that, we all have been or felt ignored on forum threads I’m sure. I know I have and how it feels, it’s easy to let it get to you but don’t let it. Keep positive dude |
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"I join threads if I get a response yippee... often if you're late to the thread lots of folk are 'd out and may have moved on to the next topic..its fab its an ever moving feast.
I joined in a fuck suck lick thread the other day...
Can a lady please message me to arrange this.. ta."
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tickled me |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems
I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone
The forum can be very cliquey, I'm mostly ignored but I care not!
Missy x"
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems
I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone "
If you walked into a pub, would every woman give you the eye, or would some and others think “not for me.” It’s no different here.
If you rate your esteem by the amount of fabs you get, you’re in for a bumpy ride bruv. |
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"I'm one of those that very rarely fab photos. I'll look at them, appreciate them but my mind isn't entwined in a SM world where it says "oh you need to like this if you've seen it".
I'm sure lots of people appreciate you, your profile and pics.
Always happy to chat if you want to "
There’s nothing wrong with showing appreciation of a good image, by leaving a fab. I enjoy doing that, it doesn’t mean I’m entwined in a sm world. |
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"I'm one of those that very rarely fab photos. I'll look at them, appreciate them but my mind isn't entwined in a SM world where it says "oh you need to like this if you've seen it".
I'm sure lots of people appreciate you, your profile and pics.
Always happy to chat if you want to
There’s nothing wrong with showing appreciation of a good image, by leaving a fab. I enjoy doing that, it doesn’t mean I’m entwined in a sm world."
I leave Fabs as "a thank you for the perv" as well  |
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"I'm one of those that very rarely fab photos. I'll look at them, appreciate them but my mind isn't entwined in a SM world where it says "oh you need to like this if you've seen it".
I'm sure lots of people appreciate you, your profile and pics.
Always happy to chat if you want to
There’s nothing wrong with showing appreciation of a good image, by leaving a fab. I enjoy doing that, it doesn’t mean I’m entwined in a sm world.
I leave Fabs as "a thank you for the perv" as well "
Me too, I feel I owe it to those brave/generous enough to share |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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There could be a various reasons for not being fabbed. The most obvious might be they didn't deem your pictures appealing enough.
Women in particular can often choose not to fab a picture of a man they don't know to avoid any messaging which frequently happens afterwards.
Men in general receive few fabs, regardless of how good their pictures might be. It shouldn't lessen or detract from your experience here. |
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"So I like to get involved in the forums and the themes that get posted but what’s frustrating and potentially upsetting is a situation that happened today from the “fab a fella” thread, I like to get involved so I opt in, I receive 1 fab (which I appreciate!) however I did get visits from folk who were in the thread but no fabs from them, seems
I’m not worthy, does nothing for my confidence and I try and be sociable and open minded with everyone "
You did get fabbed though  |
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"I'm one of those that very rarely fab photos. I'll look at them, appreciate them but my mind isn't entwined in a SM world where it says "oh you need to like this if you've seen it".
I'm sure lots of people appreciate you, your profile and pics.
Always happy to chat if you want to
There’s nothing wrong with showing appreciation of a good image, by leaving a fab. I enjoy doing that, it doesn’t mean I’m entwined in a sm world."
Ive fabbed yours. Theyre ace! |
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Hey OP. Intend to avoid those types of threads as it’s easy to get lost in the deluge of comments on here. Try not to be too disheartened as it happens to us all.
The forums can be great so perhaps try some of the other posts and above all, have a laugh |
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No fabs for me either, used to mess with my head but I've changed my attitude towards this site and now just use it for entertainment. I'm not expecting a meet (it would be nice but I doubt it'll happen) so I just join in occasionally sometimes chat in chat rooms but I can find those a little too competitive, occasionally I'll cam if I'm feeling extra horny. Try not to take this site seriously. |
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