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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Let’s have the reasons why you don’t reply?

Dick pics

Gratuitous text..

What else

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

They didn't read the profile

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By *3nsesMan over a year ago

Dublin

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By *stellaWoman over a year ago

London

Simply not in the mood and can’t muster the energy.

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I don’t want too

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By *3nsesMan over a year ago

Dublin

"Let’s have the reasons why you don’t reply?

Dick pics

Gratuitous text..

What else "

Outside their preferred age?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don’t want too "

Yes! Not enough backing for the choice to not reply, because we don’t want to.

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple over a year ago

Manchester

No photos or profile information.

Not reading the profile

Out of preference on age range etc

Too many messages to keep up

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Outside their preferred age?

That's what filters are for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The messages I tend not to reply too are the ones that are really crude and slightly disgusting.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Are you free now? Grr

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One word/line messages, unverified or cannot accommodate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A reply means they can bypass filters in the future

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They just don't give me anything different from the last guy that messaged that makes me want to reply.

Male, has penis, wants sex, looking for women and couples .................... just isn't enough.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A typical conversation for me:

Him - hi + blah

Me - you’re lovely, but 20 years my junior, and that’s not what I’m looking for. Thanks anyway and all the best.

Him - but I love an older woman!

Me - bashing my head off the wall

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or repeat messages after previously being told we’re not interested

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

Blank avatars

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By *sBlueWoman over a year ago

Up North

Profiles are blank

No pictures

Bad pictures

Bad bio’s

One or 2 word messages

Sexual messages

Not read profile

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By *nfin8yWoman over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Meet now type messages

Not reading my profile or ignoring the bits that don’t fit with what they want

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

One's that tell me how beautiful I am and how my figure is gorgeous

N.B not face or body pics on my profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good point about the filters actually. I’ll reset mine. I’m pretty sure it says in my profile that I don’t do significantly younger, but I don’t know if they even read it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also when the message is just a statement and they don’t give you anything to reply to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They just don't give me anything different from the last guy that messaged that makes me want to reply.

Male, has penis, wants sex, looking for women and couples .................... just isn't enough.

Yes!! ^^^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No photos

Nothing on their profile except NSA

Don't feel like replying

Not my type

Their photos give me the ick

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Too many messages I can’t really keep up and I’d waste my day going through them all. So it becomes either there’s something that catches my eye or a thing of luck for the first few messages when everything aligns x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm free /horny.. Tell me your address, I'll send a taxi now.... 3am

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I don't have the energy.

I don't want to.

I don't have the energy.

(Happens more often than anything else)

I can't think of anything to say.

I don't have the energy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All of the above

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know what SSC, or RACK are.. Can you teach me

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Didn’t read the profile (when I have a profile)

Loads of dick pics or cum pics

Other people in pics on a single profile (instant delete)

Loads of sexual veris

Has text talk in message

Calls me hun, babe, babes, bbz

Has nothing about them on profile (hypocritical at the moment I know!)

Lives miles away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Too many messages I can’t really keep up and I’d waste my day going through them all. So it becomes either there’s something that catches my eye or a thing of luck for the first few messages when everything aligns x

This is it. They’re just too plentiful and uninspiring. I mean why the fuck would I bother to reply to a photoless ‘hi’ message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just boring!

Boring username "Johnhotballs21"

Boring message "Hi how's you. How was your weekend"

Boring profile "Looking for fun. Open-minded."

I don't want to spend time with boring.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know what SSC, or RACK are.. Can you teach me

Oh ffs. I have ENM in my profile and been asked what it is. How do they not know what Google is?

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By *old200Man over a year ago

Congleton

Because men happen to be, Numphty fucks!

Because ladies and couples on fab are looking for a connection or a gentleman.

Who wants a dickhead at a meet!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Failure to read profile and lack of effort when messaging - eg. what are you into...

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I don't know what SSC, or RACK are.. Can you teach me

Oh ffs. I have ENM in my profile and been asked what it is. How do they not know what Google is? "

I don’t know what any of them are

. But I would google rather than asking lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know what SSC, or RACK are.. Can you teach me

Oh ffs. I have ENM in my profile and been asked what it is. How do they not know what Google is?

I don’t know what any of them are

. But I would google rather than asking lol "

Well I'd be very happy to tell YOU. But you're not trying to get into my box. (

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Out of age range

Abusive/crude msg

Obviously haven't read profile

No face pic

Smoker

Married

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In all honesty I can't be bothered, I have to be in the mood to talk.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Ah yes, gross usernames

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know what SSC, or RACK are.. Can you teach me

Oh ffs. I have ENM in my profile and been asked what it is. How do they not know what Google is?

I don’t know what any of them are

. But I would google rather than asking lol "

Exactly

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By *BootyfulDayWoman over a year ago

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I sometimes can't be bothered or don't want to, especially if it's a boring message. Or more likely I get distracted...that happens too much hehe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wanna breed you

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'm in the area staying at such and such hotel...

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By *ustamanMan over a year ago

weymouth

Not sure you need a reason, just the same as walking up to woman in a bar/club or wherever and trying to engage in conversation may also be ignored. Live with it it's life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Didn’t read the profile (when I have a profile)

Loads of dick pics or cum pics

Other people in pics on a single profile (instant delete)

Loads of sexual veris

Has text talk in message

Calls me hun, babe, babes, bbz

Has nothing about them on profile (hypocritical at the moment I know!)

Lives miles away "

The cum pics usually make me want to vomit too

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By *stellaWoman over a year ago

London

Because it’s not who I *really* want a message from.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is it. They’re just too plentiful and uninspiring. I mean why the fuck would I bother to reply to a photoless ‘hi’ message."

150%!!!!

So either they have something that catches my attention or they are going to be lost forever in the sea of unread

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Because it’s not who I *really* want a message from.

This

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Photos of their dick in multiple other women

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By *ewrocksWoman over a year ago

button moon

"Let’s have the reasons why you don’t reply?

Dick pics

Gratuitous text..

What else "

I look at the profile first, if that doesn't match up, is blank or just fill in later or ask me

I don't even bother opening the mail.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Because they don't appear particularly nerdy.

They fetishize my skin tone/incorrectly guess my heritage.

Their veris.

The ones I want to talk to I have away from Fab.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Can’t be bothered. I’m not into the fabmin these days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do I want to touch their willy?

No.

The end

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By *uitednbooted2Man over a year ago

Berkshire

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By *stellaWoman over a year ago

London

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"

It’s nice to feel wanted at some level with zero effort on my part.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"

Because I want to interact with people on the forum. If I could filter it to that I would. Besides I never moan about it I was just answering the question. Easy to delete and block

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"

Most of the time my filters are on. Sometimes I want forum interaction but you can't use that as a filter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't want to. For one or many various reasons.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

It’s nice to feel wanted at some level with zero effort on my part.

At least you're honest.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Because it’s not who I *really* want a message from.

This

Actually that's not true, if I wanted a message from someone in particular I would message them anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do I want to touch their willy?

No.

The end

!!!!! Girllll

U killed me with one shot

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"

Oi, start your own thread

I don’t want to search myself, I can’t be arsed. I’m just hoping that gem pops into my box

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"

I've blocked everyone who isn't in my search criteria. But this ends in not chatting with some of the people of the forum as it is. I really don't want to restrict myself further than I already have due to other people not being respectful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"

I have done. Main reason to allow men to message is the Forum challenges and games.

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By *stellaWoman over a year ago

London

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

It’s nice to feel wanted at some level with zero effort on my part.

At least you're honest. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Do I want to touch their willy?

No.

The end

You win the whole internet today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Awful spelling

Presumptuous messages

Rudeness

Unwanted pics

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"

Agreed. Anyone would think it was men's fault....again

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By *obbychickWoman over a year ago

Essex

Not reading my profile is the biggest thing.

Secondly- asking if I’m taking payment for sex

I could be rolling in it

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

Agreed. Anyone would think it was men's fault....again"

I hate man bashing threads but I don’t see this as one to be fair.

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By *91kMan over a year ago

Maidstone

"Photos of their dick in multiple other women"

Always wondered about this one... I see it in bios quite often. Same with dick pics.

Yet that same bio could state that particular lady doesn't enjoy seeing action shots on men's profiles...

You can't win

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"

I think most of us do have filters on and just delete or leave unread

.. We're just answering why we don't reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do I want to touch their willy?

No.

The end

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

Agreed. Anyone would think it was men's fault....again

I hate man bashing threads but I don’t see this as one to be fair. "

It absolutely isn’t. I’m asking women why they don’t reply. It’s a fact that I won’t reply to certain messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

too many reason id be here all day listing them ...but its good as it gives me a great pre view as to why im going to block let alone reply

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By *isAdventure69Woman over a year ago

Hampshire

95 % of the times I’ve already replied previously with a no thank you …

The other 5% are just “hi” or “wanna lick you” or “feeling naughty ?” And other inane one liners.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Do I want to touch their willy?

No.

The end

You win the whole internet today

Agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not reading my profile is the biggest thing.

Secondly- asking if I’m taking payment for sex

I could be rolling in it

I've had offers to pay for my petrol if I drive to their house!

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By *ewrocksWoman over a year ago

button moon

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"
I do this. Filters set to very narrow windows of specifics, then browse for myself as filters don't flex.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"

I'm not seeking.

But I open my filters for forum stuff, and sometimes I fancy a chat.

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By *obbychickWoman over a year ago

Essex

"Not reading my profile is the biggest thing.

Secondly- asking if I’m taking payment for sex

I could be rolling in it

I've had offers to pay for my petrol if I drive to their house! "

Question is…did you take the offer

These messages do make me laugh a little

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

What are your plans for today?

How is fab treating you?

U free (lol)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not reading my profile is the biggest thing.

Secondly- asking if I’m taking payment for sex

I could be rolling in it

I've had offers to pay for my petrol if I drive to their house!

Question is…did you take the offer

These messages do make me laugh a little "

I didn't take the offer, it would have been around £7.50...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Let’s have the reasons why you don’t reply?

Dick pics

Gratuitous text..

What else "
should dick pics be in the friends only album x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

why should i/other women set my filters to block men ...i only meet men on fab there are alot of good guys on here too ... who understand how swinging works... im not going to block them because of the idiots

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Outside their preferred age?

That's what filters are for

I used to have age filters but if you use the forums people cannot reply by message.

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"

Too unconfident to send the first message so sometimes it's easier to not have them on and have that one message come through that takes an interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes it’s just because I’m not attracted to them.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If the ladies are happy getting messages that aren't from whom or the contents aren't what they'd like for any and or all the reasons mentioned the site offers tools that can be used to alleviate the problem.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"why should i/other women set my filters to block men ...i only meet men on fab there are alot of good guys on here too ... who understand how swinging works... im not going to block them because of the idiots"

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

You seem to think I’m complaining? I’m actually asking for factual reasons why women don’t reply.

It’s a different thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Profiles are blank

No pictures

Bad pictures

Bad bio’s

One or 2 word messages

Sexual messages

Not read profile"

That about covers it all for me.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No public pics or more pics of women than him on profile.

Sent a graphic /cringe message

Sent me dick pics

Married/attached

They have a horrible status up or something derogatory on their profile.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

But this isn't about moaning about too many messages, it's just why we don't reply. I don't get why you think the ladies who have answered aren't happy getting messages?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Awful spelling

Presumptuous messages

Rudeness

Unwanted pics

Living for this!! LOVE x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend to ask why? When they do reply.

To be fair the shock and surprise in my question probably makes them regret it and not reply again lol

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

But this isn't about moaning about too many messages, it's just why we don't reply. I don't get why you think the ladies who have answered aren't happy getting messages?"

That’s what I thought! Nobody’s moaning, they’re answering a question. If I didn’t want messages from men i’d block them. Surely everyone knows they can do that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

But this isn't about moaning about too many messages, it's just why we don't reply. I don't get why you think the ladies who have answered aren't happy getting messages?

That’s what I thought! Nobody’s moaning, they’re answering a question. If I didn’t want messages from men i’d block them. Surely everyone knows they can do that. "

Exactly. It was purely factual, and asking the reason why.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

1st thread I've seen in 4 months on here that's about women + messages. Usually it's men complaining about not getting replies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Out of interest..I wonder if the men who get upset about women not replying to them, politely decline messages from other men, or just ignore

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Out of interest..I wonder if the men who get upset about women not replying to them, politely decline messages from other men, or just ignore"

Interesting yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Out of interest..I wonder if the men who get upset about women not replying to them, politely decline messages from other men, or just ignore

Interesting yes

My filters block out messages from men

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

1st thread I've seen in 4 months on here that's about women + messages. Usually it's men complaining about not getting replies. "

That’s mainly why I did it, to get the reasons why.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

1st thread I've seen in 4 months on here that's about women + messages. Usually it's men complaining about not getting replies.

That’s mainly why I did it, to get the reasons why. "

And hopefully men will read it!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

1st thread I've seen in 4 months on here that's about women + messages. Usually it's men complaining about not getting replies.

That’s mainly why I did it, to get the reasons why.

And hopefully men will read it!!

Here’s hoping

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Any reference to drugs in their status, profile or message

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?"

Because we don't want to msg a dick pic? Which is what the majority of profile pics are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m guessing being snowed under by messages is an issue?

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By *evebal12Man over a year ago

Canary Wharf

"Out of interest..I wonder if the men who get upset about women not replying to them, politely decline messages from other men, or just ignore"

From men, although I'm not bi, I will reply if the message is polite.

From women, I don't know, I never get any!!

In general, I don't think men get anywhere near as many messages as the woman, if any at all, so we don't have the same inbox issues.

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

"I don't know what SSC, or RACK are.. Can you teach me

Oh ffs. I have ENM in my profile and been asked what it is. How do they not know what Google is?

I don’t know what any of them are

. But I would google rather than asking lol

Exactly

Are you also a member of Swindon Sailing Club?

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By *nfin8yWoman over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

"Didn’t read the profile (when I have a profile)

Loads of dick pics or cum pics

Other people in pics on a single profile (instant delete)

Loads of sexual veris

Has text talk in message

Calls me hun, babe, babes, bbz

Has nothing about them on profile (hypocritical at the moment I know!)

Lives miles away "

They live miles away but they say “I can drive@. So can I but I’ve got no intention of meeting someone who lives miles away anyway.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

Location or generic hows you etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

We're not moaning at all.

And what does changing filters actually achieve?

That the men in my age range, who is verified, a supporter, has a public photo and isn't new are automatically the kind of people I want to speak to? These filters make all the men messaging me, my type?

Doesn't matter that the only photos are a 360° of their dicks, the username is MahoosiveChopper3000, their status is "who wants to milk my dick". And their first message is about wanting to fist me?

What do filters do?

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By *GentlemanMan over a year ago

Worcestershire

Really insightful post. Off to review mine now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me it's simply how boring the message is. 'Hi, how are you?' For the 10th time that day just drives me mad.

Where are the funny or different opening messages x

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I don’t want too

Yes! Not enough backing for the choice to not reply, because we don’t want to. "

I want to but don't have time. I feel really guilty that I can't reply to everyone but it is impossible. Today 4000 have looked at my profile and probably over 25% have messaged. I would like to explain that my life is busy. I came home from a nightshift at 8.30, walked my dog then went to bed until midday, then I took my son to work before spending 2hrs in a hairdressers and an hour doing some shopping before going back out to walk my dog again. It annoys me how there is a little box stating the number of unread messages and not a box stating how many messages I have replied to. I have responded to loads of messages today but impossible to read and answer them all and for this I feel bad.

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

And hopefully men will read it!!

Ha ha ha don't be daft

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know what SSC, or RACK are.. Can you teach me

Oh ffs. I have ENM in my profile and been asked what it is. How do they not know what Google is?

I don’t know what any of them are

. But I would google rather than asking lol

Exactly

Are you also a member of Swindon Sailing Club? "

I'm the Skipper.. Are you the deck hand

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By *rAitchMan over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I think I am the ideal man - I don't send messages, therefore saving you ladies time and effort in not reading them and deleting them!

I do, however, reply to any I receive, which, to be honest, isn't that many

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

We're not moaning at all.

And what does changing filters actually achieve?

Doesn't matter that the only photos are a 360° of their dicks, the username is MahoosiveChopper3000, their status is "who wants to milk my dick". And their first message is about wanting to fist me?

What do filters do? "

Exactly this

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Didn’t read the profile (when I have a profile)

Loads of dick pics or cum pics

Other people in pics on a single profile (instant delete)

Loads of sexual veris

Has text talk in message

Calls me hun, babe, babes, bbz

Has nothing about them on profile (hypocritical at the moment I know!)

Lives miles away

They live miles away but they say “I can drive@. So can I but I’ve got no intention of meeting someone who lives miles away anyway. "

Especially as it would only be a social first anyway

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

1st thread I've seen in 4 months on here that's about women + messages. Usually it's men complaining about not getting replies.

That’s mainly why I did it, to get the reasons why.

And hopefully men will read it!!

Here’s hoping

Given some of the responses are about not reading profiles ..ya think this is gonna be read by those guys ?

From memory fabmin produced a stat that less than 1% of the site posted in the forums.

I didn't mention volume / amount of messages, some ladies have, I said from people that aren't whom you seek or the content.

Carry on or change makes no difference to me,.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Alot of single fems and couples punching well above their weight

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"Alot of single fems and couples punching well above their weight "

How does that answer the OP?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

We're not moaning at all.

And what does changing filters actually achieve?

Doesn't matter that the only photos are a 360° of their dicks, the username is MahoosiveChopper3000, their status is "who wants to milk my dick". And their first message is about wanting to fist me?

What do filters do? "

Mahoosivechopper3000!!!! Can I find one of those on Amazon??

I’ve never been this excited since I discovered air fryers !!!!!!

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

We're not moaning at all.

And what does changing filters actually achieve?

Doesn't matter that the only photos are a 360° of their dicks, the username is MahoosiveChopper3000, their status is "who wants to milk my dick". And their first message is about wanting to fist me?

What do filters do?

Exactly this

There are other tools available.

. if you searched yourself you'd see all and you could message only those who interest.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Alot of single fems and couples punching well above their weight "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alot of single fems and couples punching well above their weight "

In what way?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alot of single fems and couples punching well above their weight "

Oh here's another example of why we don't reply.... Leads to insults !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

We're not moaning at all.

And what does changing filters actually achieve?

Doesn't matter that the only photos are a 360° of their dicks, the username is MahoosiveChopper3000, their status is "who wants to milk my dick". And their first message is about wanting to fist me?

What do filters do?

Exactly this

There are other tools available.

. if you searched yourself you'd see all and you could message only those who interest. "

So you mean I should block everyone from messaging me? Why should I?

And don't eye roll me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Men that mansplain!

Men that think they know best, and like to explain to the little women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't reply to couples who haven't read my profile or anyone who hasn't at least made a bit of effort to start a conversation.

I get lots of heys and nice tits but I don't have time to reply to all so the message has to contain something to work with or it's pointless.

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By *onb21Woman over a year ago

Cardiff

Either lying about their age or I don't know what a 43 year old looks like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alot of single fems and couples punching well above their weight "

that can go both ways alot of men doing or trying the same .... not only that if the men are meeting them then how can it be ?? are you saying men are not fussy ???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Let’s have the reasons why you don’t reply?

Dick pics

Gratuitous text..

What else "

Because I don't want to

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Men that mansplain!

Men that think they know best, and like to explain to the little women. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

We're not moaning at all.

And what does changing filters actually achieve?

Doesn't matter that the only photos are a 360° of their dicks, the username is MahoosiveChopper3000, their status is "who wants to milk my dick". And their first message is about wanting to fist me?

What do filters do?

Exactly this

There are other tools available.

. if you searched yourself you'd see all and you could message only those who interest. "

You made your point now. Interesting that you've focussed on what women could do, rather than what men could.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"Either lying about their age or I don't know what a 43 year old looks like."

Haha they're a year older than me, but God they must have lived a rough life or in deluded about the way I look.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men that mansplain!

Men that think they know best, and like to explain to the little women. "

YES!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alot of single fems and couples punching well above their weight "

Ooh fetching the popcorn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alot of single fems and couples punching well above their weight "

Lol its way better than punching below though, don't you think?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

We're not moaning at all.

And what does changing filters actually achieve?

Doesn't matter that the only photos are a 360° of their dicks, the username is MahoosiveChopper3000, their status is "who wants to milk my dick". And their first message is about wanting to fist me?

What do filters do?

Mahoosivechopper3000!!!! Can I find one of those on Amazon??

I’ve never been this excited since I discovered air fryers !!!!!! "

Ahahahaha! He's a proto type at the mo

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

We're not moaning at all.

And what does changing filters actually achieve?

Doesn't matter that the only photos are a 360° of their dicks, the username is MahoosiveChopper3000, their status is "who wants to milk my dick". And their first message is about wanting to fist me?

What do filters do?

Exactly this

There are other tools available.

. if you searched yourself you'd see all and you could message only those who interest.

So you mean I should block everyone from messaging me? Why should I?

And don't eye roll me. "

Your choice, zero skin off of my nose, you wouldn't get mahoosive chopper messaging with 360 degree pictures or whoever isn't what you seek, you can do the searching..you know better than anyone whom and what you seek.

Which emoji would you like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men that mansplain!

Men that think they know best, and like to explain to the little women. "
like guessing someone’s really name ??? Lolol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Passive aggressive updates or profile headers are offputting, as is hearing how horny someone is. Grow the fuck up, you’re not 15!

If a guy is attractive, funny, erudite and with a good grasp of spelling and grammar, I’m sold!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could always set your fters so you receive very few messages or none at all and do the searching proactive messaging yourselves..

Afterall you know better than anyone else what you seek..saves all the reasons above.

Reasons for not doing this ladies ?

You can reply privately on the forum opening up the filter.

If its working for you crack on if not change something.

We're not moaning at all.

And what does changing filters actually achieve?

Doesn't matter that the only photos are a 360° of their dicks, the username is MahoosiveChopper3000, their status is "who wants to milk my dick". And their first message is about wanting to fist me?

What do filters do?

Mahoosivechopper3000!!!! Can I find one of those on Amazon??

I’ve never been this excited since I discovered air fryers !!!!!!

Ahahahaha! He's a proto type at the mo

If it’s on kickstarter, Imma invest/pre order

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm not interested

Haven't read my profile

Amateur erotica/wank chat

Nowhere near me

Abusive

Demanding

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Away for Christmas

I'll just continue to assume that my needle of a message is lost within the haystack of other messages of other men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men that mansplain!

Men that think they know best, and like to explain to the little women. like guessing someone’s really name ??? Lolol"

That is a weird comment?

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By *adame1981Woman over a year ago

Leicester

"Let’s have the reasons why you don’t reply?

Dick pics

Gratuitous text..

What else "

*Very little info/pics on their profile

*if they are literally the opposite end of the country to me

*they've not read my profile

*they don't send a face pic

*if I'm not attracted to them

*single male pretending to be a couple profile

My list is actually quite long ooops

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll just continue to assume that my needle of a message is lost within the haystack of other messages of other men. "

I think participation on the forum is much more likely to mean your needle won't get lost. Do you think?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mostly because there not my type

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not read my profile,

No info on their's,

Pictures or what they are looking for isn't my thing,

To name some

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By *inAndTonic21Couple over a year ago

Merseyside

Not read profile and mindless message as if not a human xx

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

One line messages or a copy and paste bland generic message.

Not read my profile.

Live chuffin miles away.

Married or attached.

Dick pic sent to me or loads on their profile.

No effort in their own profile.

Age range of 18-99. Are they too lazy to change it or that desperate?

Loads of photos of them in action with different women without a condom in use. I'm not impressed with close ups of fannies, I'm not bi and why would that appeal to me?

Meet now messages ?

First message content too sexual.

Oooooo lots of reasons

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By *errocaWoman over a year ago

Shropshire

Not given a reason to.. The message wasn't captivating enough to grab my attention.

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By *est Mims LookingCouple over a year ago

Crofton

Many reasons.

Didn't read profile.

Wrong area.

Pushy.

Dick pic.

No face pic.

Intro message way too long

Most i do reply not interested bc & give a reason.

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By *dquestCouple over a year ago

Peterborough

"Blank avatars "

Yep! Blank avatar is the most lazy thing ever.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

As a lot of messages just want to get their dick wet

Graphic in detail of what they want to do to me

Send a couple of messages then ask ‘too good for me are you’ or tell me I’m stuck up, or a full of shit woman who doesn’t meet - yeah that’s gonna get a reply

Mainly because I want to come on and use the site how I want, talk to friends, go on forums.

Use MY time as I wish - and not be made to feel like I’m rude or ignorant if I don’t respond.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As a lot of messages just want to get their dick wet

Graphic in detail of what they want to do to me

Send a couple of messages then ask ‘too good for me are you’ or tell me I’m stuck up, or a full of shit woman who doesn’t meet - yeah that’s gonna get a reply

Mainly because I want to come on and use the site how I want, talk to friends, go on forums.

Use MY time as I wish - and not be made to feel like I’m rude or ignorant if I don’t respond.

All the yeses!

My time, my choice.

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By *irminghamlady08Woman over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was considering putting a post up with the equivalent for man but I guess that I’ll be watching football now

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By *anilla switchWoman over a year ago

Hampshire

"The messages I tend not to reply too are the ones that are really crude and slightly disgusting. "

Same, seriously can't think that ladies reply to some of the messages. One guy offered, for my pleasure....to drink his own urine and at some point was going to put yoghurt up his anus... All on cam too. Such a pleasant invitation.

I do mostly reply, even if it's TBNT

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I was considering putting a post up with the equivalent for man but I guess that I’ll be watching football now

It would be interesting to compare though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The messages I tend not to reply too are the ones that are really crude and slightly disgusting.

I do mostly reply, even if it's TBNT"
OMG that’s awful x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was considering putting a post up with the equivalent for man but I guess that I’ll be watching football now

It would be interesting to compare though"
Am just not sure it would go down to well, maybe if you did it ? X

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Let’s have the reasons why you don’t reply?

Dick pics

Gratuitous text..

What else "

All of the above plus

Loads of veris

Arrogance

Hanging out the end of another female pics

Dirty rooms in the back ground of pics

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

I don't know why you women just say your a ugly bastard and have done with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just imagine how much more pleasant life would be if all these comments could be consolidated into a dos and don'ts list that's given to new guys when they join fabs. They'd probably be fewer "why am I getting nowhere" threads too!

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Just imagine how much more pleasant life would be if all these comments could be consolidated into a dos and don'ts list that's given to new guys when they join fabs. They'd probably be fewer "why am I getting nowhere" threads too! "

Great idea

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By *EAT..85Woman over a year ago

Nottingham

Nooo! It's so much easier for the good ones to shine through all the shite ones. Leave em to it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nooo! It's so much easier for the good ones to shine through all the shite ones. Leave em to it

Good point. Filtering out the ones that aren't so, erm, user-friendly, would be trickier.

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"The messages I tend not to reply too are the ones that are really crude and slightly disgusting.

I do mostly reply, even if it's TBNT"

I had that guy msg me lol

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By *rMojoRisinMan over a year ago

Sheffield

I always think it’s because I’m an ugly bastard, maybe I should get rid of my face pic.

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

They cheat to get through my filters.

I've already said no thanks to them previously.

I have no interest in them when I've looked at their profile (usually because it a minimum effort profile) and their message is the same .

It's a faf etc message.

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