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over a year ago
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Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection? 
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose?  |
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"Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection?
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection?
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose? "
Just do it, I am fed up of you stalking me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Forum people I tend to only message in relation to threads, mainly because I'll eventually, hopefully, meet in person at socials. I've stopped messaging randoms, unless there's something extremely interesting in the profile or a status update.  |
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"Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection?
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose? "
I regularly view your pictures as I find them exceptionally sexy. Kind of stalking as I’m miles away from you. If I was a little closer I doubt I’d still pluck the courage up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's still a couple who I'd love to speak to.. But I'm also speaking to a couple that I didn't have the guts to message. Thanks to forum threads/challenges we now talk every day and I *think* get on really well  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection?
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose?
Only yours! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection?
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose?
Just do it, I am fed up of you stalking me "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection?
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose? "
Do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection?
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose? "
Don’t fear their rejection although it’s easier said than done. Put yourself out there and say ‘Hi’. If you’re an emoji person or a ‘lol’ person put them in there too. If you’re not matched then enjoy better times with someone more matched to you. Sex, friendships, situationships can be great but even greater with someone who is on your level. That person you’re questioning might be as dull as dishwater. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Definitely! I can’t speak for everyone but I can imagine the problem being 10 times worse for single men than women and couples but could be wrong!"
But why don't you do something about it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection?
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose? "
I don't think you either have to worry about being out of their league or getting rejected. Just go for it and as you are truly gorgeous and it would be a fool who turns you down. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" It’s the bullet OP. Life is for living and unless you make yourself known and that you appreciate them, then they might be totally unawares "
Exactly this. Your definitely right |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's still a couple who I'd love to speak to.. But I'm also speaking to a couple that I didn't have the guts to message. Thanks to forum threads/challenges we now talk every day and I *think* get on really well "
That's great, but don't forget about the others Do it! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection?
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose?
Don’t fear their rejection although it’s easier said than done. Put yourself out there and say ‘Hi’. If you’re an emoji person or a ‘lol’ person put them in there too. If you’re not matched then enjoy better times with someone more matched to you. Sex, friendships, situationships can be great but even greater with someone who is on your level. That person you’re questioning might be as dull as dishwater."
Exactly.!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection?
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose?
I don't think you either have to worry about being out of their league or getting rejected. Just go for it and as you are truly gorgeous and it would be a fool who turns you down."
What a lovely thing to say
Thank you xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. There are a few that I would never message. I don't want to start off feeling out of someone's league - I will always feel that way. I don't want any awkwardness on the forum either. |
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I used to be like that. Thought those things like what will they see in me and I wouldn’t be good enough. But I’ve been very surprised over the last few years and people I thought “was out my league” although there’s no such thing as leagues it’s down to each other’s preferences. So now I will message if I like the profile and if you get knocked back that’s fine at least you know. Just go for it and message who you fancy. At least that way you will know and not be constantly wondering. Why waste time thinking do they don’t they like me. Message and find out! |
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"The thing I struggle with is that first message to someone and what to bloody say hehe "
Blocked all men !! Now I can’t message!! Lol I think you could just say hi and you will guarantee a response!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The thing I struggle with is that first message to someone and what to bloody say hehe "
Haha that is true! I did try messaging you first to save you from the trouble but I’m blocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Confirmation that we’re not good enough?
Sometimes hope is better than certainty in our minds, so we think
But we only live once.."
We only die once, we live every day |
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There are some profiles out there. But we rarely message because of a lack of free time/opportunity and not into endless back and forth messaging without meeting in real life, if that makes sense? We tend to leave things to the clubs and obviously if we were in the same place at the same time we'd go say hello in person and see where it goes. |
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Nah, I've always just messaged if I've liked the look of someone...that can have it's drawbacks too though, as some men don't like women being "too forward"  But at least you know either way if they're interested or not. I'm far too impatient for admiring from afar |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep also ones that o have messaged and had no reply confirming I’m not good enough "
It means you are not for them. It doesn't mean you're not good enough. I no longer have the energy to reply to all of my messages. It doesn't mean those who messaged are less than - it means they're not for me. That's all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many profiles that you stalk in or out of the forums but just don't have the balls to message as you think there either out of your league or you just fear the rejection?
I'm a culprit of this with a few. Should we bite the bullet and just do it? What we got to lose? "
I stalk someone’s profile that is way out of my league many times per day. Fortunately I messaged her |
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Yep. I've added them to my hotlist, as I want to eventually contact them.
But, I know I'm too busy at the moment to really give the conversation the focus I'd want... or am I just making excuses... probably  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Confirmation that we’re not good enough?
Sometimes hope is better than certainty in our minds, so we think
But we only live once..
We only die once, we live every day"
Well corrected |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yep. I've added them to my hotlist, as I want to eventually contact them.
But, I know I'm too busy at the moment to really give the conversation the focus I'd want... or am I just making excuses... probably "
That definitely sounds like me .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t believe anyone is out of anyone’s league on Fabswingers, otherwise we wouldn’t all be on here!
There’s something for everyone on here, and yes it’s always good to talk and say hello if you take a liking to someone. Yes we can be shy and nervous but shouldn’t be afraid of rejection (no one is that special or better than anyone on here), and I believe what’s meant to be will be.
Some are simply here not to play but make friends, others are purely here to have fun and have sex, so no need to be shy (worst case scenario they can say no).
Nothing ventured nothing gained!
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
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We are definitely guilty of this. Our dynamic seems to be quite niche (even for Fab) so we tend to convince ourselves either:
1) they wouldn't be interested
2) they'd not believe us
3) were not hot enough/good enough shape.
Got the love the human self conscious...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, definitely. A lot of people talk about " Well what do you have to lose?" to which my answer is usually: The hope they might actually be interested |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
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"Yeah there's a few.
Reasons for not messaging - Usually they are popular hotties who get 1000's of messages each day or, being bloody miles away. "
This is a good point. We've been reluctant to message some of the ladies who regularly appear in Hot Pics, as let's face it, of the thousands of messages, fabs and winks they receive... Why would we stand out? We have messaged a couple over the years and chatted, but not sure our attraction to them is mutual.  |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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If I'm within their age parameters, I find their text interesting, pictures attractive, similar interests I send a message, I don't get the they might say no so I won't send a text attitude ..that seems to be playground stuff.
I accept that I'm not universally attractive my confidence age experience allow me to accept that, I may get a no thanks, I can accept those with no issues and my confidence intact with that knowledge,
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