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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
Whilst farming my ‘hotlist’ thread, I started thinking about those I wanted to add and those that I have added and I realised that I only add those who’s preferences I match with. I wonder if other people do the same?
Obviously I know that others use their hotlist for other things or as a ‘not list’, I’m not interested in that approach today.
I’m specifically asking if people only add those that they would or could potentially match with or if your hotlist is specifically a wish list of people that you’ll never realistically meet? If the latter is the case, how do you manage it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine is a case off something caught my eye
More a atmires list than anything else
As I know there’s people on there that I am not compatible with not on my part more on there’s as I know they not in to tv/ts
But that’s ok I am good with that I am not for everyone but no harm is still atmring from a far in silence |
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- Oh you're hot but I/we're not what they after so we'll just perve from a distance.
- Oh you're hot and I/we'd like to bang your brains out sometime 
I think that's pretty much the two categories 
LvM |
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My hotlist is on there so I get their new pictures or see their status updates. There’s something about all of them which means I’d like to meet, but distance and the fact they’re hot as hell sometimes puts me off.
It probably shouldn’t though |
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I have some on my hotlist I've not plucked the courage to ask to add to my friend list.
There are those who I've never spoken to and don't really intend on but I like their pictures.
And there are those who I want to meet up with.
As a couple we add notes so we know what category each profile belongs in. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I have some on my hotlist I've not plucked the courage to ask to add to my friend list.
There are those who I've never spoken to and don't really intend on but I like their pictures.
And there are those who I want to meet up with.
As a couple we add notes so we know what category each profile belongs in. "
I like how organised you are with that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine is people I shagged and people I fancy that I might be shagging at some point x
There’s the odd 3-4 who I really fancy even tho I’m not their flavour but I still like to keep an eye on their pics x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes it's about being able to adore from distance not hoping for anything else.
Sometimes hoping for a miracle of time and place aligning one day.
Few added with a hope of striking a good conversation eventually. Sometimes they sit there for weeks or months waiting to be approached over a thread for example or something they put on their profile. Right moment usually comes. If it doesn't that's ok too. |
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My hotlist is a bit of a mixture.
There’s those who I enjoy nattering with from time to time but, never plucked up the courage to message.
Some who I like but, out of their age range
Others who pics I just ‘peruse’ from time to time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a few on my list who are there because they make me smile with status updates and some with an amazing eye for photography. There are others on there who are on the I’m going to message you when i pluck up the courage. And a few because of the forums. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
It is a mixture of profiles who we think we match with and might get round to contacting one day, things that have caught our eye for example party organisers and then the odd one who we are tracking for some reason such as we want to see where a profile goes. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Mine is people I shagged and people I fancy that I might be shagging at some point x
There’s the odd 3-4 who I really fancy even tho I’m not their flavour but I still like to keep an eye on their pics x "
What do you use your friends list for?
My hotlist is those that I perve and hope to make contact with. If I do then they generally move onto friends list to (maybe) meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh. Forgot to add. I don't analyse interests that much because i usually assume they are fluid, which means that they might change around different people and hopefully you don't have to tick 6 out of 10 to match up. And some of my interests I don't display purposely.. and even if something listed puts me off a little I would like to think they would not impose it as condition of the meet ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My hotlist is specifically for perving on pictures of people who I find visually attractive and post good quality pics/videos.
For people who I find compatible with, I just messages message them and leave it there. If they respond, great. If not, move on to the next person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine is hot guys who state on their profile they aren't meeting or are already taken, so just use it for perving purposes only. My friends list is my to do list  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No, I don't just add people whose preference I match. Mine is rather small but a combination of photography/bodies I enjoy perving at and minds I find interesting and enjoyable to read their status updates. I added one purely because I love her confidence, her lingerie choices and she has a similar figure to mine. In part admiration, in part inspiration.
I don't really intend to ever message the majority on there for various reasons but I do still enjoy seeing their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a bit meñana meñana for some profiles. I've seen it but may be not had enough time to fully digest the contents so I hot list with the intention of going back, seldom do though. I spend virtually no time at all looking for people anymore, I mainly read the forums now. There are some genuine people of interest on it, but I'm waiting for socials to meet them, looking forward to MLS  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mine is people I shagged and people I fancy that I might be shagging at some point x
There’s the odd 3-4 who I really fancy even tho I’m not their flavour but I still like to keep an eye on their pics x
What do you use your friends list for?
My hotlist is those that I perve and hope to make contact with. If I do then they generally move onto friends list to (maybe) meet"
Friend list? I don’t even entertain it really Theres people on there who aren’t on my radar at all.
My Hot list is carefully selected and hand picked! X  |
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The only people on my hotlist are folks that I like that I may want to catch up with but just not on my friends list. It’s not a wish list of any sort. I don’t work like that. Christ it’s hard enough funding one person to fancy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine is mostly people i want to see updates from, or people with a nice photographic style ... I also have a penchant for profiles who fuck baseball bats 
I sometimes hot list people to keep tabs on them (eg, stolen my photos)
It never occurs to me to check their preferences or location |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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My hotlist is multi purpose... but aside from the clubs I keep not having the nerve to go to the people on it are people I like to perve on or really like their photos, and hope to one day have the balls to tell them.
I don't really worry too much about whether I match their preferences or not when I hotlist them because I don't expect them to find me attractive anyway.
Friends list is people I'd like to get to know better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The only people on my hotlist are folks that I like that I may want to catch up with but just not on my friends list. It’s not a wish list of any sort. I don’t work like that. Christ it’s hard enough funding one person to fancy! "
If I'd known you came with funding you'd have been on my hotlist ages ago |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Mine is mostly people i want to see updates from, or people with a nice photographic style ... I also have a penchant for profiles who fuck baseball bats
I sometimes hot list people to keep tabs on them (eg, stolen my photos)
It never occurs to me to check their preferences or location "
It’s perhaps the realist in me! I don’t hotlist if they’re not looking for guys, looking for my age or if they specify things that they don’t want, that I am.
I see it as rather pointless to perve on someone that definitely doesn’t want me or to ever hear from me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My hotlist ranges from gorgeous people to the weird and wonderful, guys that have those micro penis’ that I like looking at. People that I like having advice off on the forums so I can check if they’re around. I have myself on it. It’s a mixture. |
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"- Oh you're hot but I/we're not what they after so we'll just perve from a distance.
- Oh you're hot and I/we'd like to bang your brains out sometime
I think that's pretty much the two categories
LvM"
This is mine too  |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"I’m specifically asking if people only add those that they would or could potentially match with or if your hotlist is specifically a wish list of people that you’ll never realistically meet? If the latter is the case, how do you manage it? "
I only hotlist people that I feel we would get on with either socially or (less so these days) from a play perspective.
The chances of us meeting everyone on it may be slim, but we aren't playing pokemon go! |
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It’s basically a filing cabinet; a ‘to do’ file, a pending tray where we really need to get off our arses and do something about it, and a ‘research’ file which obviously needs regular checking. Tough but someone’s gotta do it. |
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
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My hot list is more of an I fucking wishlist some on there are folk I've met/plan to meet, the rest are just wank fodder, although most of them would be a match in theory if it wasn't for excessive distance.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The same as many others...
Some are there because of their photo skills but not sure they are people that I’d meet with it could be their preferences don’t match with mine or we’ve chatted briefly and it’s gone nowhere but I like their pics.
Some women on there cause they are hot..and have great pics.
Some because one day I’d like to possibly meet and for some reason or another I haven’t reached out...not have they.
General rule they are there as there is something that’s caught my eye and I want to perve...and maybe sometime say hey.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mine is mostly people i want to see updates from, or people with a nice photographic style ... I also have a penchant for profiles who fuck baseball bats
I sometimes hot list people to keep tabs on them (eg, stolen my photos)
It never occurs to me to check their preferences or location
It’s perhaps the realist in me! I don’t hotlist if they’re not looking for guys, looking for my age or if they specify things that they don’t want, that I am.
I see it as rather pointless to perve on someone that definitely doesn’t want me or to ever hear from me! "
Hmm we have different approaches for sure! I don't see anything wrong with admiring from a distance, knowing I'll probably never meet them and possibly never even talk to them it would kinda spoil the mystery?
Maybe i need to rethink my hot list approach  |
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"The only people on my hotlist are folks that I like that I may want to catch up with but just not on my friends list. It’s not a wish list of any sort. I don’t work like that. Christ it’s hard enough funding one person to fancy!
If I'd known you came with funding you'd have been on my hotlist ages ago "
Jesus… see there’s no hope!!! I can’t even find FIND!!!! I give up… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am likely to meet very very very few people from Fab. My Hotlist is very short and consists of people who have photos I enjoy looking at.
Although, I don't even know why I bother with it because I rarely even look at the Hotlist tab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no intentions of meeting anyone who is on my hotlist. I just add people who I like from the forums so I can stay up to date with their pics and see what shite they are talking about on their status. I don't even fancy any of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"- Oh you're hot but I/we're not what they after so we'll just perve from a distance.
- Oh you're hot and I/we'd like to bang your brains out sometime
I think that's pretty much the two categories
LvM"
As above ..dream sheet and maybe.. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"- Oh you're hot but I/we're not what they after so we'll just perve from a distance.
- Oh you're hot and I/we'd like to bang your brains out sometime
I think that's pretty much the two categories
LvM"
This and those who's profiles I just like their pictures |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mine is mostly people i want to see updates from, or people with a nice photographic style ... I also have a penchant for profiles who fuck baseball bats
I sometimes hot list people to keep tabs on them (eg, stolen my photos)
It never occurs to me to check their preferences or location
It’s perhaps the realist in me! I don’t hotlist if they’re not looking for guys, looking for my age or if they specify things that they don’t want, that I am.
I see it as rather pointless to perve on someone that definitely doesn’t want me or to ever hear from me!
Hmm we have different approaches for sure! I don't see anything wrong with admiring from a distance, knowing I'll probably never meet them and possibly never even talk to them it would kinda spoil the mystery?
Maybe i need to rethink my hot list approach "
I’m the same, I use it for those pics I admire, but am unlike to meet. |
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