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"but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly. " You want to be ignored?  | |||
"5-1?...I'll take those odds.. "Yep... add a zero to the 5 and it would be closer to the actual ratio. | |||
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Anyway. Thanks for suggestions. Bests. | |||
"I mean I wasnt expecting laid million times in 2 weeks, two weeks. But again, I did not know I was not the type of so many women
Anyway. Thanks for suggestions. Bests. "Your post says you want to be ignored, what is the problem then? | |||
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"I mean I wasnt expecting laid million times in 2 weeks, two weeks. But again, I did not know I was not the type of so many women
Anyway. Thanks for suggestions. Bests. "Well we can't be the type for everyone. That's just life eh? | |||
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"Head to a club...and just use fab to stay in touch with those you meet there and enjoy the forum threads n stuff. Clubs by the way gave me loads of confidence...much easier for your personality to shine through in person than on here." This is good advice. Clubs were where I made the best connections! That and socials. | |||
"I mean I wasnt expecting laid million times in 2 weeks, two weeks. But again, I did not know I was not the type of so many women
Anyway. Thanks for suggestions. Bests. "What were you expecting, out of interest? | |||
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"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly. " You've been here 2 weeks so still seen as a newbie give it time make yourself known people don't necessarily go for looks but personality talk in the forums make appearances at socials get yourself know and you'll be alright | |||
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"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”" Give us an example of your opening message to someone | |||
"I mean I wasnt expecting laid million times in 2 weeks, two weeks. But again, I did not know I was not the type of so many women
Anyway. Thanks for suggestions. Bests.
Your post says you want to be ignored, what is the problem then?"Its obvious what he meant to say | |||
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"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…”" If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense. It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that. | |||
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"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…” Give us an example of your opening message to someone" Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile. I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D | |||
"Op - have you asked for profile advice?" Not yet. Should I? | |||
"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…” If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense. It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that." Actually thats why I am here. To connect with some people, even make some friends. Doesnt have to be a sexual relation. | |||
"Op - have you asked for profile advice? Not yet. Should I?" No | |||
"Op - have you asked for profile advice? Not yet. Should I?" We can’t give you advice if you don’t ask for it | |||
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"Op - have you asked for profile advice? Not yet. Should I?" I don't see anything particularly wrong with your profile wording tbh. You've made some effort which is good. I think some better pics will really help. Have a look at the pics from a couple of the guys on here that have commented for some ideas. | |||
"I’d say my confidence has been boosted substantially by the good people of fab " I have to agree! | |||
"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…” Give us an example of your opening message to someone Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile. I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D" I get what you’re trying to do but that wouldn’t work for us. Also we’re a couple so calling us gurl would be an instant no. Our best advice is read the profile, reference something in the profile to show you’ve read it and say a little bit about yourself that isn’t already on your profile. Make yourself stand out from all the other single men that message and you’re more likely to get a reply. | |||
"Head to a club...and just use fab to stay in touch with those you meet there and enjoy the forum threads n stuff. Clubs by the way gave me loads of confidence...much easier for your personality to shine through in person than on here." Most deff 2nd that. Can not beat face to face many are way better in the flesh tbh.. | |||
"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…” Give us an example of your opening message to someone Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile. I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D I get what you’re trying to do but that wouldn’t work for us. Also we’re a couple so calling us gurl would be an instant no. Our best advice is read the profile, reference something in the profile to show you’ve read it and say a little bit about yourself that isn’t already on your profile. Make yourself stand out from all the other single men that message and you’re more likely to get a reply." I see. Thanks for suggestions. This feels really good btw feel to connect with someone. Thank you very much to you and all. Love you. | |||
"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly. " You're younger and much better looking than me mate and I'm doing ok. But you have to work at it and be patient. If you give up you get nothing anyway so you might as well stick at it. Also, visit a social or a club. I'm sitting in my hotel room but will shortly be visiting Jay-Dees for the first time. Do the same for yourself but go with no other expectations than to socialize and get to know like minded people. If you conduct yourself properly and respect those around you they'll respond as they get to know you. | |||
. It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site. | |||
"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…” Give us an example of your opening message to someone Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile. I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D" Sorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever ! | |||
Must be better alternatives you can do without showing your full face too | |||
"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly. " You've been on here 2 weeks. Try to control your want for immediate satisfaction, it's a big turn off. Sorry, don't think it's your confidence getting dented, it could be your ego. | |||
"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…” Give us an example of your opening message to someone Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile. I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :DSorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever !" Electrifying | |||
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"Can I throw something out there which may also make a difference.... No word of a lie your profile photo actually scares me
Must be better alternatives you can do without showing your full face too "This is what I where I was heading. | |||
"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly. You've been on here 2 weeks. Try to control your want for immediate satisfaction, it's a big turn off. Sorry, don't think it's your confidence getting dented, it could be your ego. "Well, it could be really my ego. But I really dont think so. Because I dont have any problem with rejections. I have rejected and been rejected a lot before. I guess getting ignored what makes me feel down. | |||
"Can I throw something out there which may also make a difference.... No word of a lie your profile photo actually scares me
Must be better alternatives you can do without showing your full face too
This is what I where I was heading."Not just me then ha ha Literally screams scary horror movie masks at me | |||
"Can I throw something out there which may also make a difference.... No word of a lie your profile photo actually scares me
Must be better alternatives you can do without showing your full face too
This is what I where I was heading.
Not just me then ha ha
Literally screams scary horror movie masks at me "Sorry to scare you all :/ Gonna change it. Thanks. | |||
" Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile. I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D Sorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever !" I'm glad it's not just me. That's how people kill themselves  | |||
" Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile. I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D Sorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever ! I'm glad it's not just me. That's how people kill themselves "People gotta learn toasters prefer showers not baths | |||
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" Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile. I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D Sorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever ! I'm glad it's not just me. That's how people kill themselves "Probably how I am gonna kill myself too
Just kidding. I have a cat so she would be devastated without me. Just kidding. She probably wouldnt care. But still love her too much. Too much to not to kill myself | |||
"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…” If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense. It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that." I disagree, it's much harder in my experience to get a conversation going on tinder than here | |||
"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…” If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense. It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that. I disagree, it's much harder in my experience to get a conversation going on tinder than here" On tinder who needs conversation?
To be honest, I am of course speaking from the woman's perspective. I've had more fun in here though. | |||
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" Oh. I generally use puns and pickup lines depends on the profile. I would send you something like “hey gurl, are you a toaster? Cause I wanna take a bath with you” with the photos you have requested :D Sorry ? This makes no sense whatsoever ! I'm glad it's not just me. That's how people kill themselves
People gotta learn toasters prefer showers not baths "Not every toasters are the same, right?  | |||
"I’d say my confidence has been boosted substantially by the good people of fab I have to agree! "Me to a lot of lovely lady’s and come to that gents as well chat to few lady’s some have helped me immensely some gents to for that matter. Stick with it !  | |||
"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…” If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense. It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that. I disagree, it's much harder in my experience to get a conversation going on tinder than here On tinder who needs conversation?
To be honest, I am of course speaking from the woman's perspective. I've had more fun in here though."I find Tinder Mission Impossible for any kind of interaction | |||
"I’d say my confidence has been boosted substantially by the good people of fab " Mine too. I had really low confidence before. After posting some photos for the forums challenges, and getting loads of comments, it really boosted me. Not getting meets didn't knock my confidence, as I wasn't getting them off fab either. | |||
"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…” If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense. It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that. I disagree, it's much harder in my experience to get a conversation going on tinder than here On tinder who needs conversation?
To be honest, I am of course speaking from the woman's perspective. I've had more fun in here though.
I find Tinder Mission Impossible for any kind of interaction"I find Tinder impossible for anything tbh. This place is much easier to get chatting and arrange socials / meets. | |||
"Not expecting too much honestly. “My expectation was low but holy fuck…” If I can be totally frank. If you just want an NSA shag, it's easier to get that on tinder. I could get it any time on there if that's all I wanted. For me personally (not speaking for others of course), I'm on here because in this scene the people I'm attracted to know and understand the scene and how it works. Yes it's NSA fun, but I have a small handful of people I've had that fun with in the past that I'm still friends with them 10 years later (I dip in and out). So I want more than just a one night stand, I want an actual connection with someone. But I have no interest in having a relationship. If that makes sense. It sounds to me that you just need to work out what you actually want and manage your expectations and desires from that. I disagree, it's much harder in my experience to get a conversation going on tinder than here On tinder who needs conversation?
To be honest, I am of course speaking from the woman's perspective. I've had more fun in here though.
I find Tinder Mission Impossible for any kind of interaction
I find Tinder impossible for anything tbh. This place is much easier to get chatting and arrange socials / meets. "That's fair enough. It is different for men and women on all these various sites. | |||
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"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site. "This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion. | |||
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"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.
This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion. "You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes | |||
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"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.
This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.
You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes "Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it. | |||
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"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.
This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.
You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes
Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it. "Do you mean the code? Because "where are all the females" doesn't need any discourse | |||
"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.
This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.
You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes
Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it.
Do you mean the code? Because "where are all the females" doesn't need any discourse "I did indeed mean "Where are all the women?" Although, if you do know the code, I would be grateful for that too! | |||
"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.
This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.
You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes
Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it.
Do you mean the code? Because "where are all the females" doesn't need any discourse
I did indeed mean "Where are all the women?" Although, if you do know the code, I would be grateful for that too! "Genuinely don't understand the question? Women are on this thread, on the forum, on the site.  | |||
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"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.
This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.
You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes
Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it.
Do you mean the code? Because "where are all the females" doesn't need any discourse
I did indeed mean "Where are all the women?" Although, if you do know the code, I would be grateful for that too!
Genuinely don't understand the question? Women are on this thread, on the forum, on the site. "In the human population, the gender split is roughly fifty-fifty. On Fab, the gender split is very heavily tilted towards men. Why? Where are all the women? I know why *I* think it is. I would be interested to hear other people discussing their conclusions too. | |||
"I cannot answer all of the post under this topic but I have read all of them and thank you very much all of you people. Some of you really put a smile on my face. " That’s good to hear you are smiling  | |||
"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.
This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.
You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes
Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it.
Do you mean the code? Because "where are all the females" doesn't need any discourse
I did indeed mean "Where are all the women?" Although, if you do know the code, I would be grateful for that too!
Genuinely don't understand the question? Women are on this thread, on the forum, on the site.
In the human population, the gender split is roughly fifty-fifty. On Fab, the gender split is very heavily tilted towards men. Why? Where are all the women?
I know why *I* think it is. I would be interested to hear other people discussing their conclusions too. "Women don’t need fabs to get sex Just exist in a pub and they have their pick of the litter. Just swipe on tinder and 90% are matches Fabs is niche | |||
"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here What are you lot doing differently " I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this. I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018. What are *you* lot doing differently? | |||
"Fab is the last place you should be if you have no confidence!" And this ! I’m thinking of getting off this I’m to old and to mad to be on hear I have no confidence in myself or others it is what it is and I am who I am do not seek anything of anyone else neither will I do in future ! | |||
"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here What are you lot doing differently I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this. I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018. What are *you* lot doing differently? " I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened | |||
"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly. " I think your numbers are really optimistic talking about a ratio of 5-1. Once you take out the fantasists and fake females and fake couples it is more like 200-1. I also think you have to consider fab as just one tool in your arsenal for meet ladies. There are other sites were the balance is more even, there are clubs, hey you could do it the old fashioned way and ask a lady you know if she would like to go out on a date. If fab is your main outlet for meeting women then I think you have picked the toughest of places to progress. I tend to use this place very casually as its nice if you meet someone you click with, but most of the time it is just a place to chat in the forums. Chin up and don't take this place too seriously. | |||
"I know that I am not the best looking guy and there are like 5 males for 1 female here, but it feels bad when you dont get ignored constantly. " Dude that cartoon picture is haunting | |||
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"Mate you've been on here 2 weeks. You need patience. And personally I reckon it's closer to 20+ single men to single women at least. If not a lot more. This isn't instashag. For example, just last night between say 6pm and midnight I must have got 50+ messages when I turned my message filters off. Most ladies on here are overwhelmed. Just make sure you read profiles fully. Make sure you fit their preferences. Tailor your messages accordingly and no copy and paste jobs (we can spot them a mile away). No simple one liners. Have a well thought out and composed profile with some good pics. Good luck." 47 were probably just from me,sorry  | |||
"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here What are you lot doing differently I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this. I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018. What are *you* lot doing differently? I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened " On Tinder, you have to get the matches before you can send a message. Since I wasn't, the quality of the messages I couldn't send became irrelevant. On here, sure, a lot of my messages never get looked at, but a 0.01% chance is still a lot better than a 0.00% chance. A couple of weekends ago, I made the time to send a whole five messages. The most I've ever sent in one go! I'm astonished to report that four of them were actually read. Nobody responded, which is their prerogative, but people actually saw what I wrote! On here, that feels like a triumph. (Needless to say, though, the one unread message was to the person I was most interested in. Hah.) | |||
"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here What are you lot doing differently I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this. I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018. What are *you* lot doing differently? I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened On Tinder, you have to get the matches before you can send a message. Since I wasn't, the quality of the messages I couldn't send became irrelevant. On here, sure, a lot of my messages never get looked at, but a 0.01% chance is still a lot better than a 0.00% chance. A couple of weekends ago, I made the time to send a whole five messages. The most I've ever sent in one go! I'm astonished to report that four of them were actually read. Nobody responded, which is their prerogative, but people actually saw what I wrote! On here, that feels like a triumph. (Needless to say, though, the one unread message was to the person I was most interested in. Hah.)" Zero matches? Aren’t you quite tall too? I’d say tinder is all about the quality of your pictures. I’d say with some good picture and a funny bio with your height in it you’d clean up no problem. I’m short and I do well. | |||
"You're not alone matey. This code is extremely hard to crack, I just wonder where all the females actually are . It baffles me in a population of virtually 50/50 there are so few ladies on this site.
This is a question I think deserves more attention and discussion.
You really need an answer to that? Just think about it for 5 minutes
Oh, I've thought about it a lot, and I have my opinions on the matter. I just think there should be more discourse about it. "Check my newest thread for some theories on this. | |||
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"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here What are you lot doing differently I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this. I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018. What are *you* lot doing differently? I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened On Tinder, you have to get the matches before you can send a message. Since I wasn't, the quality of the messages I couldn't send became irrelevant. On here, sure, a lot of my messages never get looked at, but a 0.01% chance is still a lot better than a 0.00% chance. A couple of weekends ago, I made the time to send a whole five messages. The most I've ever sent in one go! I'm astonished to report that four of them were actually read. Nobody responded, which is their prerogative, but people actually saw what I wrote! On here, that feels like a triumph. (Needless to say, though, the one unread message was to the person I was most interested in. Hah.) Zero matches? Aren’t you quite tall too? I’d say tinder is all about the quality of your pictures. I’d say with some good picture and a funny bio with your height in it you’d clean up no problem. I’m short and I do well. " Yes. Zero meets in six years, and zero matches in three. I've never had a match on Bumble either. I met a couple of people on OkCupid, but one of them ghosted and the other one died. I'm 6' 8". Hit 6' when I was twelve years old and just kept going. In my personal experience, when people say they like "tall" men, they mean about 6' 2"-ish. Once you go sailing past that, it starts counting against you. In clubs, I try to sit down as much as possible, so I don't tower over everyone else and creep them out. There was a decent article on Gawker recently that went some way towards reflecting the experience of actually tall men: 'Being tall sucks', by Nicholas Russell, who's getting on for my sort of size. I think the big difference between Tinder and here is that on Tinder I had public face pictures. I've been forced to conclude that I'm *really* fucking ugly! | |||
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"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here What are you lot doing differently I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this. I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018. What are *you* lot doing differently? I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened On Tinder, you have to get the matches before you can send a message. Since I wasn't, the quality of the messages I couldn't send became irrelevant. On here, sure, a lot of my messages never get looked at, but a 0.01% chance is still a lot better than a 0.00% chance. A couple of weekends ago, I made the time to send a whole five messages. The most I've ever sent in one go! I'm astonished to report that four of them were actually read. Nobody responded, which is their prerogative, but people actually saw what I wrote! On here, that feels like a triumph. (Needless to say, though, the one unread message was to the person I was most interested in. Hah.) Zero matches? Aren’t you quite tall too? I’d say tinder is all about the quality of your pictures. I’d say with some good picture and a funny bio with your height in it you’d clean up no problem. I’m short and I do well. Yes. Zero meets in six years, and zero matches in three. I've never had a match on Bumble either. I met a couple of people on OkCupid, but one of them ghosted and the other one died. I'm 6' 8". Hit 6' when I was twelve years old and just kept going. In my personal experience, when people say they like "tall" men, they mean about 6' 2"-ish. Once you go sailing past that, it starts counting against you. In clubs, I try to sit down as much as possible, so I don't tower over everyone else and creep them out. There was a decent article on Gawker recently that went some way towards reflecting the experience of actually tall men: 'Being tall sucks', by Nicholas Russell, who's getting on for my sort of size. I think the big difference between Tinder and here is that on Tinder I had public face pictures. I've been forced to conclude that I'm *really* fucking ugly! " I bet your not ugly! I’ve been told I look better from behind and I still do ok. Might ne worth trying again, like I said, I get 100x more success on tinder then on here. When I was 26 and on a mad one I’d get 1-2 meets a week consistently | |||
"Surprised people say this is easier than tinder I get more meets off tinder in a month that I do in multiple years on here What are you lot doing differently I'm surprised that other people say Tinder is easier than this. I was on Tinder from 2015 to 2021 and didn't get a single meet. I didn't get a single *match* after 2018. What are *you* lot doing differently? I do nothing different than what I do on here. Send a funny message, get them laughing, ask them out Just that on here 99% of the funny first messages don’t get opened On Tinder, you have to get the matches before you can send a message. Since I wasn't, the quality of the messages I couldn't send became irrelevant. On here, sure, a lot of my messages never get looked at, but a 0.01% chance is still a lot better than a 0.00% chance. A couple of weekends ago, I made the time to send a whole five messages. The most I've ever sent in one go! I'm astonished to report that four of them were actually read. Nobody responded, which is their prerogative, but people actually saw what I wrote! On here, that feels like a triumph. (Needless to say, though, the one unread message was to the person I was most interested in. Hah.) Zero matches? Aren’t you quite tall too? I’d say tinder is all about the quality of your pictures. I’d say with some good picture and a funny bio with your height in it you’d clean up no problem. I’m short and I do well. Yes. Zero meets in six years, and zero matches in three. I've never had a match on Bumble either. I met a couple of people on OkCupid, but one of them ghosted and the other one died. I'm 6' 8". Hit 6' when I was twelve years old and just kept going. In my personal experience, when people say they like "tall" men, they mean about 6' 2"-ish. Once you go sailing past that, it starts counting against you. In clubs, I try to sit down as much as possible, so I don't tower over everyone else and creep them out. There was a decent article on Gawker recently that went some way towards reflecting the experience of actually tall men: 'Being tall sucks', by Nicholas Russell, who's getting on for my sort of size. I think the big difference between Tinder and here is that on Tinder I had public face pictures. I've been forced to conclude that I'm *really* fucking ugly! I bet your not ugly! I’ve been told I look better from behind and I still do ok. Might ne worth trying again, like I said, I get 100x more success on tinder then on here. When I was 26 and on a mad one I’d get 1-2 meets a week consistently" Thank you. That's very kind of you. For what it's worth, I don't think I'm *that* ugly either, but that sheer lack of success pretty emphatically tells me otherwise. Congratulations on your Tinder success. You get more meets in a week than I did in six years. Technically, I'm still on Tinder, but I can no longer access my account due to not having a passport. I'm still on OkCupid and Bumble too, but since I've already swiped my way through all UK users of both, I won't hold my breath. Heh. | |||
