"I’ve a Fab friend who was stood up yesterday by a member on here. Sat in Costa Coffee after spending time getting ready and the drive over.
Why do people do this?
I can’t think of anything ruder.  "
Are you referring to a fellow forumite or just someone on fab? |
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Its happened to me too - a couple of times - once completely ghosted and never seen again - the other - when i was at the meeting place - 10 mins standing round - sorry I lost my nerve. By text. There should be a way of ing these people out - no one has enough spare time to waste being messed about. I just don’t understand people that do it - hope it doesn’t put your friend off trying again. |
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over a year ago
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It sucks, waist of time, effort and leaves you feeling like utter rubbish... I've been stood up a few times and I always end up wishing there was like a negative review option where you could out people who where time waisters and no shows.... I know it wouldent work because of all the people who would be doing it out of spite or pettynes or leaving one everytime they didn't get a message back from somone but it would make people think twice about setting up meets just to lest the person down |
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over a year ago
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I once travelled to a house knocked on door, rang bell but no answer. Definitely someone in but no answer. Just gotta shrug it off and move on. Damn I smelled good as well  |
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I have been stood up twice and one was by my very first fab meet. Must have had at least 15 social meets cancelled at short notice too. Puts me off arranging meets with new people so I tend nowadays just to stick to people I know and trust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I once travelled to a house knocked on door, rang bell but no answer. Definitely someone in but no answer. Just gotta shrug it off and move on. Damn I smelled good as well "
Was it a first meet? See, that would have alarm bells ringing for me, as it just shows bad judgement on her part.
Sorry it happened to you though x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's just shit, OP.
Hope she's ok & realises he was just a dick. X"
I see no indication that it was a woman stood up by a man in this thread.
But you’re right in any case: it’s shit.
Sadly happened to too many of us. |
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"That's just shit, OP.
Hope she's ok & realises he was just a dick. X
I see no indication that it was a woman stood up by a man in this thread.
But you’re right in any case: it’s shit.
Sadly happened to too many of us."
I just assumed it was a she/he scenario. Apologies for my assumption x |
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"I’ve a Fab friend who was stood up yesterday by a member on here. Sat in Costa Coffee after spending time getting ready and the drive over.
Why do people do this?
I can’t think of anything ruder. "
Its a rotten thing to do to someone |
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"I once travelled to a house knocked on door, rang bell but no answer. Definitely someone in but no answer. Just gotta shrug it off and move on. Damn I smelled good as well
Was it a first meet? See, that would have alarm bells ringing for me, as it just shows bad judgement on her part.
Sorry it happened to you though x"
I think this is a bit harsh.
You can chat, swap numbers & face time & every other vetting strategy you want, but if someone stands you up it's on THEM. |
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over a year ago
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I've never been stud up, well I need a meet first lol but I was talking to someone on here for a couple of weeks, felt like we were getting on well. We decided to arrange a social to see if we got on, started to arrange tines, dates but again nothing set in stone no pressure then the person just ghosted me, said person stopped talking to me so after asking if everything was OK and with no reply for a couple of days said person blocked me. I was a bit gutted but never mind so I can't imagine what it felt like to be stood up on the actual meet, sorry this happened to them op. |
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I have been stood up 3 times in the few years been on fab, I sometimes wondered if they turned up and did not like what they saw and left, never ever had apology, usually get blocked on here or on phone.
Very disheartening especially when you have all the nerves and excitement of a new meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm not interested in playing the blame game, it happened and I moved on. No indication given beforehand that it would happen. It wasn't my first rodeo xx |
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"It sucks, waist of time, effort and leaves you feeling like utter rubbish... I've been stood up a few times and I always end up wishing there was like a negative review option where you could out people who where time waisters and no shows.... I know it wouldent work because of all the people who would be doing it out of spite or pettynes or leaving one everytime they didn't get a message back from somone but it would make people think twice about setting up meets just to lest the person down "
Who in their right mind would stand you up?? Gobsmacked!!! Xx |
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"I’ve a Fab friend who was stood up yesterday by a member on here. Sat in Costa Coffee after spending time getting ready and the drive over.
Why do people do this?
I can’t think of anything ruder.
Are you referring to a fellow forumite or just someone on fab?"
She does frequent the forums. |
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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago
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It sucks massively when that happens. Only happened to me once. The social meet was confirmed a couple of hours before. I get dolled up and head to the pub to meet. He just didn't turn up! And messages went unanswered. I could see he had been online so knew nothing had happened to him. Just so rude. So I just had a drink and went home. |
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It’s piss poor. It happened to me once in the very early days of fab. Sorted the arrangements on the Thursday. Meet was for Saturday afternoon. When I messaged after the no show, the excuse I got was “I forgot what day it was”.
With my Fab hindsight, I now suspect it was a bloke masquerading as a woman. |
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"I try to mitigate disappointment by having text messages an hour or so before meeting.
I’d even text to say, I’m leaving my flat see you shortly. "
Yes I won't meet if I haven't heard from the person that day as I consider nothing is set until I do. |
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Have had it happen a few times
Slightly better in that was waiting at home but still annoying esp if put off other things
Usual rule now is if no contact within 30 mins of expected meet time assume not happening |
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My Fab motto is “I will start getting exited when the person is stood in front of me”
Sadly that has taken the anticipation and fun out of meeting, but I find it necessary to temper disappointment. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I totally give up trying to understand the reasons people do things like that here.
I got stood up for the first time ever about 2 weeks ago , she was coming here for the night and just never showed up. I had met her twice previously and she was super keen. Never showed up , didn't text or respond to messages that night and then next day no apology but asked if I was still speaking to her amd if so could we meet . WTF.
The way I look at it, if they are flaky or problematic , it’s better they exit my life before getting sex than afterwards  |
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"I totally give up trying to understand the reasons people do things like that here.
I got stood up for the first time ever about 2 weeks ago , she was coming here for the night and just never showed up. I had met her twice previously and she was super keen. Never showed up , didn't text or respond to messages that night and then next day no apology but asked if I was still speaking to her amd if so could we meet . WTF.
The way I look at it, if they are flaky or problematic , it’s better they exit my life before getting sex than afterwards "
That’s a horror story. I hope you blocked her.
I once got my own back by completely ignoring someone that messed me about. I didn’t even open her messages afterwards. I left them unread. It wound her up massively.
Revenge is a dish best served cold. |
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