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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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OR those other unnamed substances have to do with you becoming free enough to have sex?
(Of course certain things cannot be made known on here)
(By you)
Yet it has been my general observation over the years (so that I have formed a kind of idea) the people of the UK just cannot do (it) without assistance from either of them.
Why is that?
I'm thinking of life outside of fab mainly..but there may be crossover?
Enter the stage AND prove me wrong!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't drink or do anything else. I will have a drink socially on occasion or when I go to a club. But I much prefer to sober when it comes to sex. So I'm guessing I'm proving you wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never do "d*unken sex" but I can have had a drink...do prefer to be sober and have any play meets to be the same, I'd never play with anyone I thought had had too much.
As for anything else that's a big NO never
Have come across many who need a drink though which I find quite strange...each to their own I suppose
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I (MJ) am completely tee-total, so alcohol and other substances play no part in me having sex.
For others,alcohol helps to make them feel more confident and lower their inhibitions, which is fine. But there comes a point, especially as a non drinker where I would be put off from playing with them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely drink and never would on a meet let alone take anything else.
I have few inhibitions anyway and have yet to meet someone that’s actually challenged them enough for me to say no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We take it in turns to have a drink when we go out to "play" so either if us can be sober.... in fact I much prefer to not drink to enjoy the experience at its fullest! Sorry to disprove the theory! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I (MJ) am completely tee-total, so alcohol and other substances play no part in me having sex.
For others,alcohol helps to make them feel more confident and lower their inhibitions, which is fine. But there comes a point, especially as a non drinker where I would be put off from playing with them.
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It may lower THEIR inhibitions but that thing about being seduced by someone a bit too *pissed is not the most pleasant. |
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"I (MJ) am completely tee-total, so alcohol and other substances play no part in me having sex.
For others,alcohol helps to make them feel more confident and lower their inhibitions, which is fine. But there comes a point, especially as a non drinker where I would be put off from playing with them.
It may lower THEIR inhibitions but that thing about being seduced by someone a bit too *pissed is not the most pleasant."
Completely agree, nothing worse than someone who has had too much to drink and doesn't respect/read subtle "no thanks" signs. At that point being blunt us the way to go!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I (MJ) am completely tee-total, so alcohol and other substances play no part in me having sex.
For others,alcohol helps to make them feel more confident and lower their inhibitions, which is fine. But there comes a point, especially as a non drinker where I would be put off from playing with them.
It may lower THEIR inhibitions but that thing about being seduced by someone a bit too *pissed is not the most pleasant."
Thankfully that has not happened to me on here.
On here I would be more interested to understand who uses it as a build up or loosener.
I know that in the general outside social scene alcohol is a big part of it.
Some other substances too.
Do you think it's a bit too much? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually drive to and from meeting so are cold stone sober for the whole of the sex. I can even strip down naked in daylight and not blink an eye 
I do like staying over and getting a bit tipsy if I can, but I am generally going to be feeling a bit unwell and past my best by morning. I would need to feel comfortable with you for that exposure.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I usually drive to and from meeting so are cold stone sober for the whole of the sex. I can even strip down naked in daylight and not blink an eye
I do like staying over and getting a bit tipsy if I can, but I am generally going to be feeling a bit unwell and past my best by morning. I would need to feel comfortable with you for that exposure. "
I like that answer that (chuckle) I could probably handle.
The possible hangover (chuckle) I would leave with you.
For me it's partly can we still make decent or interesting conversation whilst having a drink through that period. |
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Outside of fab, yeah, in my younger days when I'd go regular clubbing and pull on a night out.
I rarely drink these days tho, I don't like how it feels. I can go from feeling sound to monged and pukey |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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I barely drink. I believe if you need to drink to have sex then you shouldn't be having it. My youth was full of d*unken sex and faceless people because I thought it gave me confidence. Hindsight is a great thing  |
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I'd describe us both as light sociable drinkers.
We may have one or two drinks early on, then you'll usually see us on fruit juice, or water.
We much prefer to remember every detail and need no Dutch courage.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I barely drink. I believe if you need to drink to have sex then you shouldn't be having it. My youth was full of d*unken sex and faceless people because I thought it gave me confidence. Hindsight is a great thing "
 To you and the friend above you I really appreciate that input. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Outside of fab, yeah, in my younger days when I'd go regular clubbing and pull on a night out.
I rarely drink these days tho, I don't like how it feels. I can go from feeling sound to monged and pukey "
I have had two hangovers in my life..truly seemed worse than death! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I never have sex if I've had a drink, alcohol just makes me sleepy & ive never touched drugs
I only have sex sober "
That last sentence is impressive. |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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"OR those other unnamed substances have to do with you becoming free enough to have sex?
(Of course certain things cannot be made known on here)
(By you)
Yet it has been my general observation over the years (so that I have formed a kind of idea) the people of the UK just cannot do (it) without assistance from either of them.
Why is that?
I'm thinking of life outside of fab mainly..but there may be crossover?
Enter the stage AND prove me wrong!
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I'm far too controlled. I want to be sober. I prefer my partner to be sober. Without being sober is everything 100% consensual? This concerns me a little. If we are doing breath play then any impairment is a definite no. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OR those other unnamed substances have to do with you becoming free enough to have sex?
(Of course certain things cannot be made known on here)
(By you)
Yet it has been my general observation over the years (so that I have formed a kind of idea) the people of the UK just cannot do (it) without assistance from either of them.
Why is that?
I'm thinking of life outside of fab mainly..but there may be crossover?
Enter the stage AND prove me wrong!
I'm far too controlled. I want to be sober. I prefer my partner to be sober. Without being sober is everything 100% consensual? This concerns me a little. If we are doing breath play then any impairment is a definite no."
If you could get your other half to read through this thread..that could be a simple start? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Zero. Never touched unnamed substances, am less likely to engage in sexual activity with alcohol in my system"
Why are you less likely to engage in that activity?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mostly don't drink when I'm meeting guys from here because it's nearly always in a hotel and I'm driving. Club nights are slightly different and I will have a drink but that's more of a whole night out experience rather than just a sexy time experience. So no. Completely not necessary. |
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"Zero. Never touched unnamed substances, am less likely to engage in sexual activity with alcohol in my system Why are you less likely to engage in that activity?"
Because I like to be in control of my faculties |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Zero. Never touched unnamed substances, am less likely to engage in sexual activity with alcohol in my system Why are you less likely to engage in that activity?
Because I like to be in control of my faculties"
So do I. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Zero. Never touched unnamed substances, am less likely to engage in sexual activity with alcohol in my system Why are you less likely to engage in that activity?
Because I like to be in control of my faculties So do I...but mostly before any sexual activity..I don't mind a drink at the right time."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Zero. Never touched unnamed substances, am less likely to engage in sexual activity with alcohol in my system Why are you less likely to engage in that activity?
Because I like to be in control of my faculties So do I...but mostly before any sexual activity..I don't mind a drink at the right time."
That sounds strange!
Having a drink..yes..but not letting the drink influence me in regretful ways. |
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None , I often drive to parties and clubs and need to make my way back and therefore stick to coffee or soft drinks.
I’m not adverse to drinking some wine if I’m at home or staying the night but it has no bearing on my confidence.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"None , I often drive to parties and clubs and need to make my way back and therefore stick to coffee or soft drinks.
I’m not adverse to drinking some wine if I’m at home or staying the night but it has no bearing on my confidence.
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Confidence is good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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None x I don’t need to drink to get disinhibited and get dirty x all I need is a good connection with a fitty … and there the sluteeee mode comes in x
I do have a social drink but it’s just as it is x not as Dutch courage |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Non at all, I don't really drink unless it's a social engagement and don't do drugs, I wouldent play whilst intoxicated unless it was someone I knew well or was in a relationship with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met a few lads on here and have had a disappointing time as a result of "sniff dick"
I don't meet guys that want HnH fun but not adverse to giving the occasional herbal enhanced BJ. "You smoke as I ch0ke" kind of thing ;-p . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Non at all, I don't really drink unless it's a social engagement and don't do drugs, I wouldent play whilst intoxicated unless it was someone I knew well or was in a relationship with "
I get that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've met a few lads on here and have had a disappointing time as a result of "sniff dick"
I don't meet guys that want HnH fun but not adverse to giving the occasional herbal enhanced BJ. "You smoke as I ch0ke" kind of thing ;-p . "
Thanks for input..the genuine humour too! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"None x I don’t need to drink to get disinhibited and get dirty x all I need is a good connection with a fitty … and there the sluteeee mode comes in x
I do have a social drink but it’s just as it is x not as Dutch courage "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't drink at all so it's never played a part in my sex life, although it can play a part in other social settings which is why I think clubs put me off a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always sober... Wine after play Because it is more wise for you to do so?"
Well in fairness i dont drink much.. But when giving power to someone you need to know what you are agreeing to.. I imagine most D/s play sober (I certainly wouldn't play with anyone who was d*unk.. It would be too risky /potentially dangerous) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't drink at all so it's never played a part in my sex life, although it can play a part in other social settings which is why I think clubs put me off a bit."
I'm not really a fan of pubs as a place of social interaction is it the fact that I'm not a big time drinker or something else? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Always sober... Wine after play Because it is more wise for you to do so?
Well in fairness i dont drink much.. But when giving power to someone you need to know what you are agreeing to.. I imagine most D/s play sober (I certainly wouldn't play with anyone who was d*unk.. It would be too risky /potentially dangerous) "
Because I know you a little I knew your answer would be on point! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't need it for sex as such but if I'm nervous abd trying something new I find it calms me down and helps my confidence."
Much thanks for your straight talk. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't drink. Neither would I get involved with anyone under the influence to an extent it showed in their behavior."
That's an interesting way of putting it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I mostly don't drink when I'm meeting guys from here because it's nearly always in a hotel and I'm driving. Club nights are slightly different and I will have a drink but that's more of a whole night out experience rather than just a sexy time experience. So no. Completely not necessary. "
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the whole night out club thing experience,
it usually has a nice pace to it. |
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Unless I'm seeing someone regularly or in a relationship, it's always been sober (me and them)...and even then it's only a cocktail or glass of wine with dinner.
I actively dislike alcohol on meets, and it's one of the main reasons that I generally avoid clubs...I would happily pay more/travel further to go to a club with a zero alcohol policy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Unless I'm seeing someone regularly or in a relationship, it's always been sober (me and them)...and even then it's only a cocktail or glass of wine with dinner.
I actively dislike alcohol on meets, and it's one of the main reasons that I generally avoid clubs...I would happily pay more/travel further to go to a club with a zero alcohol policy. "
So you feel quite passionate about it. |
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"OR those other unnamed substances have to do with you becoming free enough to have sex?
(Of course certain things cannot be made known on here)
(By you)
Yet it has been my general observation over the years (so that I have formed a kind of idea) the people of the UK just cannot do (it) without assistance from either of them.
Why is that?
I'm thinking of life outside of fab mainly..but there may be crossover?
Enter the stage AND prove me wrong!
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We never drink on a meet. Full stop. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't drink at all so it's never played a part in my sex life, although it can play a part in other social settings which is why I think clubs put me off a bit."
The power of alcohol to drive people away from social settings?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OR those other unnamed substances have to do with you becoming free enough to have sex?
(Of course certain things cannot be made known on here)
(By you)
Yet it has been my general observation over the years (so that I have formed a kind of idea) the people of the UK just cannot do (it) without assistance from either of them.
Why is that?
I'm thinking of life outside of fab mainly..but there may be crossover?
Enter the stage AND prove me wrong!
We never drink on a meet. Full stop. "
Emphatic. |
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