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What would make you leave?

By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Or what has made you leave? Fab, I mean. Not swinging, not casual sex, or whatever it is you're here for or because of. But fab itself.

And if you've gone.... what's made you come back?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only fab because I "hotwife" so for me the two are connected. If no longer enjoyed the lifestyle then for me there's no point in being on fab. So I guess change in lifestyle choice is my answer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Or what has made you leave? Fab, I mean. Not swinging, not casual sex, or whatever it is you're here for or because of. But fab itself.

And if you've gone.... what's made you come back?"

I felt I was being pulled down into a rabbit hole of addiction I didn’t want. I came back to see if I can control it. Who knows?

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By *xydadbodMan over a year ago

Milton keynes

This is my second time on fab. The last time I was on fab, I was the new guy and didn't quite knew how things work and I even uploaded my face publicly but I received a message from someone I didn't know saying they knew who I was and going to exposed me. Out of fear of my job, I couldn't risk it. That was years ago though. Now lessons have been made and I like to say I'm now more cautious but I've been enjoying it so far

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Boredom, and worse boredom. Plus I missed some of the ladies I chat too..

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I've left once because of a really nasty and potentially dangerous experience when I first joined.

I came back months later and left again because I felt out of my depth.

Third time lucky and made some good friends but left due to non fab issues.

This is my fourth profile in 5 years and the longest I've stayed at 2½ years.

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Men being idiots usually. I just take a break and turn my profile off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only left (hidden) my profile once and it when I was really ill about 2 years ago. I just lost all interest for a few weeks…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get messed around. So we take a break.

We come back have fun until it starts being pain again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I left once because I wasn’t feeling it.

I flounced off once.

Can’t remember why the other time.

I came back because I like you lot, you’re fun and it’s a nice little community, and I missed it when I wasn’t here.

I like posting pics, and indulging my exhibitionist side.

I also still hold a teeny tiny hope in my heart, that I’ll find a partner on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is my second time on fab. The last time I was on fab, I was the new guy and didn't quite knew how things work and I even uploaded my face publicly but I received a message from someone I didn't know saying they knew who I was and going to exposed me. Out of fear of my job, I couldn't risk it. That was years ago though. Now lessons have been made and I like to say I'm now more cautious but I've been enjoying it so far "

People are insane!!! Why would anyone do that to you and try to expose you… I don’t get it

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

I've not left but I've occasionally become jaded by all the abuse and the friction so I've hidden my profile and taken a time out until I can once more take it all with the giant pinch of salt it needs.

Thankfully I have other sources of a good time so when this one stops being fun I just pick things up on one of the other sites instead.

I guess if I came back after a break and I still found this site more of a drag than a laugh that's when I'd think about deleting the profile, because I wouldn't have any intention of ever coming back.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve left for a few reasons.

One time I got ‘outed’ to my family so I deleted everything.

One time because my partner at the time got outed.

One time because my mental health was in a hole.

Other times I’ve hidden and not been back for months at a time to focus on a relationship.

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By *xydadbodMan over a year ago

Milton keynes

People are insane!!! Why would anyone do that to you and try to expose you… I don’t get it

No idea but it just came out of nowhere. I could of ignored it but there was just that risk I couldn't ignore so I deleted the account. One of the risk of being on here.. of course it would be a scary thing to bump into someone I know on here but it's something I enjoy amd I love the connection I've made with people on here. Who knows what goes through people's minds sometimes

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

if the forum no longer served it's purpose for us

(if we decide to stop meeting others for always)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I considered leaving when I first joined due to a repeat meet going how it did

However stuck with it as the shift pattern i work and my dad time with my kids ( which I love ) seem to take me out of the " relationship " equation, still have all the wants and needs of any other human so thankfully I have been able to fulfil these with the good people of fab

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

If the people I enjoy interacting with left or if the site lost its sense of inclusivity and became very judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've been on / off over the years. We originally joined about 10 plus years ago but life got in the way so we came away.. came back about 3 months ago... so far so good

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By *hat BlokeMan over a year ago

Harrogate

"I left once because I wasn’t feeling it.

I flounced off once.

Can’t remember why the other time.

I came back because I like you lot, you’re fun and it’s a nice little community, and I missed it when I wasn’t here.

I like posting pics, and indulging my exhibitionist side.

I also still hold a teeny tiny hope in my heart, that I’ll find a partner on here. "

As long as there is hope in your heart….

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By *xydadbodMan over a year ago

Milton keynes

"I left once because I wasn’t feeling it.

I flounced off once.

Can’t remember why the other time.

I came back because I like you lot, you’re fun and it’s a nice little community, and I missed it when I wasn’t here.

I like posting pics, and indulging my exhibitionist side.

I also still hold a teeny tiny hope in my heart, that I’ll find a partner on here. "

Yeah, I can relate to that.

I always felt like there is another side of me and here, I can explore that freely. I love taking pics of myself and I feel good about it

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By *unandgamegeekMan over a year ago

Bolton

I left in the past due to entering relationships.

If I was to leave again, it would probably be if I completely lose confidence in myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People are insane!!! Why would anyone do that to you and try to expose you… I don’t get it

I still think Tho leaving because of other people isn’t nice, as it wasn’t really your choice, I’m sorry that happened to you and that it spoiled the fun of being on here in the first place!

At least you learnt something from that and are now careful with everything but yeah, there are some nasties about

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I've never left but have been offline a few times in the past for several weeks / months. Mostly due to fab "fatigue" and when interest wanes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Left and come back a few times, first i put my face pic as profile pic and got a message from people that apparently knew me which freaked me out.

Second was from inactive responses to messages, fake meets and being abused by other members.

This is my third time rejoining and so far so good although i have hidden a few times

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

3rd profile at the moment.

Once left because of someone else. Had a break for bit and enjoyed the break but came back in lockdown... Boredom?

Another I left because I just wanted to wipe the profile and start again.

I'll probably leave several times over when I'm not interested enough or life is busy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Meeting the right person and focusing on us for a while… fabs fun but it’s also a strain at times

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I left once because I wasn’t feeling it.

I flounced off once.

Can’t remember why the other time.

I came back because I like you lot, you’re fun and it’s a nice little community, and I missed it when I wasn’t here.

I like posting pics, and indulging my exhibitionist side.

I also still hold a teeny tiny hope in my heart, that I’ll find a partner on here.

Yeah, I can relate to that.

I always felt like there is another side of me and here, I can explore that freely. I love taking pics of myself and I feel good about it"

Oh I left a bit out then, and you made me think of it. The freedom to express the parts of me, that I can’t express elsewhere

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By *ingle ex cuckMan over a year ago

chester

I left once after I met a woman on here

We agreed she should keep her account private and delete mine so only she has access to the site

After we split up I came back again

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’ve left loads of times. I always know I’ll come back eventually. If I’ve had enough I just delete. It’s no big deal to me really. Losing veris doesn’t bother me. Hiding doesn’t work as I still come on lol. Never regretted any of the times i left.

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By *xydadbodMan over a year ago

Milton keynes

"I left once because I wasn’t feeling it.

I flounced off once.

Can’t remember why the other time.

I came back because I like you lot, you’re fun and it’s a nice little community, and I missed it when I wasn’t here.

I like posting pics, and indulging my exhibitionist side.

I also still hold a teeny tiny hope in my heart, that I’ll find a partner on here.

Yeah, I can relate to that.

I always felt like there is another side of me and here, I can explore that freely. I love taking pics of myself and I feel good about it

Oh I left a bit out then, and you made me think of it. The freedom to express the parts of me, that I can’t express elsewhere "

Exactly that. I don't think my friends or family on Facebook would appreciate seeing that side of me haha and plus like you said before.. its a network of people that appreciates and understands the needs.. I'm sure the reaction would be very different elsewhere or if there was appreciation.. it would be discreetly.. here, I can show that other side of me that rarely comes out. But, strangely enough.. I find the more friends I make on here, the more and more the 2 sides slowly merge into one? Time will tell if thats a good thing or a bad thing going forward

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I left once because I wasn’t feeling it.

I flounced off once.

Can’t remember why the other time.

I came back because I like you lot, you’re fun and it’s a nice little community, and I missed it when I wasn’t here.

I like posting pics, and indulging my exhibitionist side.

I also still hold a teeny tiny hope in my heart, that I’ll find a partner on here.

Yeah, I can relate to that.

I always felt like there is another side of me and here, I can explore that freely. I love taking pics of myself and I feel good about it

Oh I left a bit out then, and you made me think of it. The freedom to express the parts of me, that I can’t express elsewhere

I know what you mean, and I guess being your authentic self will always be a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's complicated for me.

My wife and I approach life differently. She is passive and let's life come to her, I'm proactive, trying to seize as much as I can from it.

Yesterday we spoke about the site. There is a chick here who really gets my blood going. We spoke about her and my wife was positive about the idea. But in our dynamic if I don't push, she won't move. So it gave her the impression that all I want is swinging. I had to list all the non lifestyle things we have done in the last 2 years to prove my point.

But at the end I was done. My energy was gone. I can't push anymore. I was deleting the account when she got angry. She didn't want that

She likes the excitement not the feelings of guilt she gets. If I'm pushing she's just reacting.

As it stands I'm staying but if I don't get positive enthusiasm from her I will go.

But I do think one more disappointment will do it for me. Our last 5 of our last 8 meets have cancelled or let us down. Some of them had great reasons but enough is enough.

So that's my overly long explanation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I joined last year and 'left' for a month earlier this year when I let a personal connection get too intense. I just wanted to cut ties and think about the best way to use the site, which has definitely helped since my return.

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By *xydadbodMan over a year ago

Milton keynes

People are insane!!! Why would anyone do that to you and try to expose you… I don’t get it

I still think Tho leaving because of other people isn’t nice, as it wasn’t really your choice, I’m sorry that happened to you and that it spoiled the fun of being on here in the first place!

At least you learnt something from that and are now careful with everything but yeah, there are some nasties about

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Thanks for that

I get that I'm not everyone's cup of tea and either am I here to persuade anyone to see it differently but it's one of the dangers of hiding behind a screen isn't it? "if you can't see me, there will be no repercussions" mentality. It's one problems of social media not just here unfortunately

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Pregnancy definitely. I want time to glow and be a goddess when I am not waste time being pedantic with random folk.

If my partner wasn't happy with me doing whatever I do and we discussed it and it was for the best for us.

Finding myself at a point of complete boredom or constant upset here. I like things that bring me joy in my life.

I've never left but I would for any of the reasons above.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

Every time I’m in a new relationship I hide my profile but never delete it. Unless she wanted to join me in my crossdressing fun or social life eventually I’d give up this profile and leave permanently.

It’s always about relationships with me

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

I dont think I would leave I enjoy it to much x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If there's noone I'm talking too and planning on meeting then I'd leave.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

We've always come and gone from Fab as we've wanted to. This is a tiny part of our lives and as such is something we only do occasionally, when we find exactly the right person. We'd only leave if the hassle of being members outweighed the benefits. At present it doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was on fab around 4 years ago and the reason I left was because I was unknowingly using fab to fill a hole in my life. I was seeking external validation to much.

Over the time away I worked hard on myself and found happiness within me that was sadly lacking.

I came back as there are some amazing people here and I knew this time I would only be adding to my life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The first time I left was because feelings happened.

Then I've left because I got bored.

Will probably happen again

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By *amie HantsWoman over a year ago

Atlantis

Feelings, hurt feelings, boredom. I think this is the longest I haven’t gone unlos

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By *EAT..85Woman over a year ago

Nottingham

I left once when a Fab situation tainted my time here. I stopped enjoying the forums and it was bad for my mental health. I wasn't gone long, but it was the right decision made.

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By *dam1971Man over a year ago

Bedford

I’ve hidden my profile a couple of times. Life was difficult enough and I needed to get rid of anything other than just surviving.

I’ll leave if it feels right, hoping I’ll know at the time.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman over a year ago

Next Door

I would leave if I was entering into a relationship, so we can build a strong relationship together.

In time, maybe a joint profile to explore this life together.

I have left previously, for a few reasons and once due to entering into a relationship, sadly it didn't work out.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Feelings, hurt feelings, boredom. I think this is the longest I haven’t gone unlos

My soul appreciates this you gorgeous supported witch.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Left for being stood up multiple times

Left because I thought I was ready for a realship but wasn’t

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

I don't think i could ever leave fabs , unless i was in a relationship out from this fab world

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I probably won't leave, just step back in the sense of meeting etc, I like the forums and posting pics so that side I'll still stick with. Anyone I'm with will be made fully aware of here, if I haven't met them on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's complicated for me.

My wife and I approach life differently. She is passive and let's life come to her, I'm proactive, trying to seize as much as I can from it.

But at the end I was done. My energy was gone. I can't push anymore. I was deleting the account when she got angry. She didn't want that

She likes the excitement not the feelings of guilt she gets. If I'm pushing she's just reacting.

As it stands I'm staying but if I don't get positive enthusiasm from her I will go.

But I do think one more disappointment will do it for me. Our last 5 of our last 8 meets have cancelled or let us down. Some of them had great reasons but enough is enough.

So that's my overly long explanation "

Can you just stay for the forums?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I better not talk about the reason I left but I had a fair few messages saying I should come back.

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By *gent CoulsonMan over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I left because I met someone and wanted to make a go of it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I left because I met someone and wanted to make a go of it"

I did that too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

First time round I left as I kinda had want I wanted from fab, I’d not discovered the forums either and was fed up of it feeling like a meat market...this time round it’s very different...I’m not sure I would leave!

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I left years ago, I was going through quite alot of things in real life, so wasn't the right place for me.

I've been back on this profile 7 years now and on our couple profile 5.5 years.

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

Relationship. That ended I came back.

I’ll reach a point where I’ll just get bored of it all (it’s happened with other forums) and then I won’t be back at all.

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By *stbury DavenportMan over a year ago

Nottingham

I would leave if I was busy with so much sex I didn't think about Fab any more.

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By *esparate danMan over a year ago

glasgow

"It's complicated for me.

My wife and I approach life differently. She is passive and let's life come to her, I'm proactive, trying to seize as much as I can from it.

But at the end I was done. My energy was gone. I can't push anymore. I was deleting the account when she got angry. She didn't want that

She likes the excitement not the feelings of guilt she gets. If I'm pushing she's just reacting.

As it stands I'm staying but if I don't get positive enthusiasm from her I will go.

But I do think one more disappointment will do it for me. Our last 5 of our last 8 meets have cancelled or let us down. Some of them had great reasons but enough is enough.

So that's my overly long explanation "

Some fairly strong evidence she is not comfortable with you swinging

If you left here because of that would you end up resenting her ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes the people, sometimes life getting busy, work getting busy, or sometimes because we aren't feeling it.

Currently we're not meeting, but we have kept the profile open incase we meet someone who just slots right in... Plus I LOVE talking to other like minded people and I surround myself with the people who are on my wavelength. I'm enjoying talking to a couple of people at the minute too so you'll have to thank those for the rest of you still having access to my photos

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love.

We left as we found love with a non lifestyle lady from the muggle world, she requested exclusivity from my wife and I so we respected that and thought we’d all live poly ever after together.

When the relationship broke down 9 months later I returned as I missed the support of the fantastic friends I have here.

Thank you all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Love.

We left as we found love with a non lifestyle lady from the muggle world, she requested exclusivity from my wife and I so we respected that and thought we’d all live poly ever after together.

When the relationship broke down 9 months later I returned as I missed the support of the fantastic friends I have here.

Thank you all."

Aww

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I deleted my first account under threat of being outed to work +family by someone who introduced me to Fab

Came back a few months after the dust settled under a new name because i enjoyed the uninhibited freedom to just be me

.. Hated the new name, so deleted again

Rejoined under a slightly amended name, changed my photo style, which was very distinctive... Became a site member and discovered the chat rooms!

I hide when I'm either busy with life /work, or feeling overwhelmed and need a break

I do find fab a very shallow place a lot of the time and struggle with the bombardment of 'you're gorgeous, I'd love to smash you' type comments which can make me feel very empty at times

A couple of bad experiences early on have made me very guarded with what i share, which is a challenge for people trying to get to know me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I often think of leaving

too many arseholes on here..so i take a break, hide profile,come back because im a bigger arsehole then those fuckers..but on the flip side, I have met some great people and had a lot of fun

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Love.

We left as we found love with a non lifestyle lady from the muggle world, she requested exclusivity from my wife and I so we respected that and thought we’d all live poly ever after together.

When the relationship broke down 9 months later I returned as I missed the support of the fantastic friends I have here.

Thank you all."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I left the first time after a horrible meet and feeling very uncomfortable. Put me right off

Second time I thought I’d met someone great, turns out he was just leading me on and then ghosted me. Honestly broke my heart.

He’s rejoined recently and messaged me. Instant block

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"I left the first time after a horrible meet and feeling very uncomfortable. Put me right off

Second time I thought I’d met someone great, turns out he was just leading me on and then ghosted me. Honestly broke my heart.

He’s rejoined recently and messaged me. Instant block "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I left the first time after a horrible meet and feeling very uncomfortable. Put me right off

Second time I thought I’d met someone great, turns out he was just leading me on and then ghosted me. Honestly broke my heart.

He’s rejoined recently and messaged me. Instant block "

Sending love

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By *isAdventure69Woman over a year ago

Hampshire

I’ve left or hidden my profile when Vanilla dating or finding it all a bit tedious at times .

I come back when wanting great sex with people I probably wouldn’t get to meet in real life, without too much fuss, and also forging “friendships” for parties and clubs .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Starting to feel like leaving now, hard to get a massage back and when you do there isn't any follow through.

I understand that numbers are very different....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's complicated for me.

My wife and I approach life differently. She is passive and let's life come to her, I'm proactive, trying to seize as much as I can from it.

But at the end I was done. My energy was gone. I can't push anymore. I was deleting the account when she got angry. She didn't want that

She likes the excitement not the feelings of guilt she gets. If I'm pushing she's just reacting.

As it stands I'm staying but if I don't get positive enthusiasm from her I will go.

But I do think one more disappointment will do it for me. Our last 5 of our last 8 meets have cancelled or let us down. Some of them had great reasons but enough is enough.

So that's my overly long explanation

Some fairly strong evidence she is not comfortable with you swinging

If you left here because of that would you end up resenting her ?"
It's not me swinging. It's us swinging. We don't meet alone. Or if we do, we both have meets.

As I said It's complicated and weird.

I would have no resentment if she said we are done. There isn't a thing in my world more important than her certainly not sex lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hide when I'm either busy with life /work, or feeling overwhelmed and need a break

I do find fab a very shallow place a lot of the time and struggle with the bombardment of 'you're gorgeous, I'd love to smash you' type comments which can make me feel very empty at times

A couple of bad experiences early on have made me very guarded with what i share, which is a challenge for people trying to get to know me"

The bombardment of "I'd fuck your brains out" type messages really does nothing for my self esteem. OK, I maybe look half decent in pics but aren't these people wanting to get to know the person behind the profile? I'm not some sort of fuck toy to be tossed around (unless it's on my terms).

I love and hate the attention all at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Initially left when covid hit and was not meeting so did not see point of being here

Would leave again if not enjoying or could not find what wanted or if was not what others wanted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When all hope is gone

The internet gets removed from earth

oooooor my penis is cut off in an unfortunate industrial accident

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

The 'closed shop' attitudes of the preening peacocks and in some cases forum regulars.

Having come back some time ago I discovered there we're also some fantastic people in certain clubs who really do make people welcome and not everywhere was the same. The 'Dangerous Curves' group showed me the other side of Fab and I've now got friends I can meet at Libs, Chams and shortly Atlantis. Moral of the story is don't give up, even though there are some on Fab who believe it's their right to look down on others - there are some truly fantastic and genuine people in this lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Meeting the right person and focusing on us for a while… fabs fun but it’s also a strain at times "
This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Meeting the right person and focusing on us for a while… fabs fun but it’s also a strain at times This

"
thats reason 4

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I left the first time after a horrible meet and feeling very uncomfortable. Put me right off

Second time I thought I’d met someone great, turns out he was just leading me on and then ghosted me. Honestly broke my heart.

He’s rejoined recently and messaged me. Instant block "
Good on you my darling, hold that head up high

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

There have been times when I’ve hidden my profile through fab fatigue. I don’t post as much as I used to.

Unless it was to specifically thank people and a reason to go I wouldn’t delete. I certainly wouldn’t get the drama llama out of the cupboard and create a fuss over leaving!

why would you!

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Love.

We left as we found love with a non lifestyle lady from the muggle world, she requested exclusivity from my wife and I so we respected that and thought we’d all live poly ever after together.

When the relationship broke down 9 months later I returned as I missed the support of the fantastic friends I have here.

Thank you all."

Awe …. It was good to see you return Sam x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m good thank you ladies.

It coincided with the anniversary of husbands death last year - and he knew it. What an absolute d&ck he was.

His message last week was an apology.

Didn’t even warrant a reply, bye! x

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

"I’m good thank you ladies.

It coincided with the anniversary of husbands death last year - and he knew it. What an absolute d&ck he was.

His message last week was an apology.

Didn’t even warrant a reply, bye! x

Good for you. He sounds a total t*at that doesn't deserve another second of your thoughts.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm on account one of one.

Sustained harassment I couldn't get around through filters or blocking (this is a theoretical reason, not an actual concern)

A radical change in my libido

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m good thank you ladies.

It coincided with the anniversary of husbands death last year - and he knew it. What an absolute d&ck he was.

His message last week was an apology.

Didn’t even warrant a reply, bye! x

Good for you. He sounds a total t*at that doesn't deserve another second of your thoughts."

Indeed lovely. Was surprised to see a message pop up. Obviously single again and sniffing around.

No thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Big hugs to all that had bad experiences with anyone on here. And thank you to everyone that has been nice to me xxxxx

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I’m good thank you ladies.

It coincided with the anniversary of husbands death last year - and he knew it. What an absolute d&ck he was.

His message last week was an apology.

Didn’t even warrant a reply, bye! x

Well done you, sounds like you've done the right thing! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I usually hide my profile for a while when I've had enough of the "entitled" and assumptive men this site seems to attract, sadly they way outnumber the few decent diamonds in the rough that I come back to find. There's only so much abuse a girl can take.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes it just isn't fun and that's when I'd hide my profile. Not sure if I could be bothered to permanently delete, If I decided to change my mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been contemplating it recently as I'm not sure I can quite get what I want out of the site. The reason I haven't is that I still hold out a bit of hope and I enjoy the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been contemplating it recently as I'm not sure I can quite get what I want out of the site. The reason I haven't is that I still hold out a bit of hope and I enjoy the forums."

Just use the bits you enjoy and if anything else good comes along it's just a bonus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been contemplating it recently as I'm not sure I can quite get what I want out of the site. The reason I haven't is that I still hold out a bit of hope and I enjoy the forums."

Don’t you be taking that peachy bum anywhere!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I leave purely because I think I can stay away and do something more useful with my time. I return because I am good at re arranging my time or more likely stretching my deadlines right to the brink so find I still have dead time to fill. Fab is good for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing

I left before and I genuinely missed the perving and forums so I’m afraid I’m now here to stay

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By *tue555Man over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

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By *91kMan over a year ago

Maidstone

So sorry that happened to you. It's the exact reason I would never upload a public face picture, and am selective about who sees in private messages...

Onwards and upwards though my man

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By *tue555Man over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Leave nah, there is nothing that would make leave short of death or clapse of the world as we know it.

Lets be honest it is sooo much fun watching the lengths people will go to to try and get laid and to annoy the shit out of people is a bonus

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By *91kMan over a year ago

Maidstone

"I left the first time after a horrible meet and feeling very uncomfortable. Put me right off

Second time I thought I’d met someone great, turns out he was just leading me on and then ghosted me. Honestly broke my heart.

He’s rejoined recently and messaged me. Instant block "

That's not cool. Sorry that happened to you

Good on you for blocking and moving on though!

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We will leave when we feel that we are no longer enjoying the lifestyle and not getting a thrill.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The first time I left it was mostly down to getting bored with it all and how hard it felt to make it work.

The second time was combination of being a little tired with it again but predominately a disappointment that felt unnecessary.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been contemplating it recently as I'm not sure I can quite get what I want out of the site. The reason I haven't is that I still hold out a bit of hope and I enjoy the forums.

Just use the bits you enjoy and if anything else good comes along it's just a bonus

I try to keep that attitude of thinking that if I do find something then it's a bonus, but it can be a hit to the confidence if you do try to put yourself out there and it doesn't work for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been contemplating it recently as I'm not sure I can quite get what I want out of the site. The reason I haven't is that I still hold out a bit of hope and I enjoy the forums.

Don’t you be taking that peachy bum anywhere! "

Haha thank you, I'm sure it's just a phase and I'll get over it

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By *ubal1Man over a year ago

Newry Down

If I managed to establish a relationship with a lady who disapproved of my interest in swinging, and gave me an ultimatum to quit.

It's an unlikely scenario; so I'll be hear for the diration.!

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

There was a time that I seriously considered leaving... well, two. And both because of the forum. The first one was 2-3 years ago where basically 2 people ruled the forum and it was so boring and so toxic. Second one was during lockdowns when I wanted to participate more and I felt ignored most of the time.

Now that I am back to working full time, Fab serves the purpose I came here for- relax and unwind me after a hard day at work and to chat and meet amazing people...

So I don’t see myself leaving anytime soon.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS over a year ago

Horsham

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We’d leave if we decided we didn’t enjoy it anymore.

FAB has been perfect for posting pics, meeting people and chatting to like minded people but I’m sure we’ll get to a point of having a select few playmates and therefore the need isn’t there for FAB.

We both enjoy FAB though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The site becoming more moderated, it is bad enough at the moment.

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I've never needed to unlos, just taken regular breaks for real life family stuff.

Fab provides me with contacts to some amazing people who let me play with their husbands and go to social parties with lots of likeminded people where we can talk about bdsm in a pub

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

Probably only when I decide to pursue a new relationship...that would be the only reason I would leave the site. I am thinking of taking a break from it though...sometimes I feel like I don't belong or that I'm not good enough and it kinda messes with my self esteem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Probably only when I decide to pursue a new relationship...that would be the only reason I would leave the site. I am thinking of taking a break from it though...sometimes I feel like I don't belong or that I'm not good enough and it kinda messes with my self esteem "

I feel the same x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel the same x"

You two ! Both gorgeous and good people. Have a break if you need it but not because you feel unnoticed or out of place. We are all misfits here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had an account before this and left...many years ago. Then I came back discovered the forums and became a serial lurker...

Now I just wander back to the cave and stop by now and then to well....perv mainly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If my life had gone the direction of my fantasy world i would have

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mekell noooo, don’t feel that way!! You are part of us and go on, you look lovely and u know it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel the same x"

Same for ya lovely

I just wanna hug u all and tell u ur all good souls

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes, I consider leaving because I feel out of place here, like an impostor.

Then I think I may as well let the subscription expire first.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

I get bored talking to people.

I prefer to delete my profile so if I do come back it's a fresh start.

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

The day it’s no longer fun, then I’ll be on my bike.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When you see threads about the best people in the forums and you realise you have no way of getting accepted in the forums because you don't bow down to them....thats when I think is this still worth it?

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"When you see threads about the best people in the forums and you realise you have no way of getting accepted in the forums because you don't bow down to them....thats when I think is this still worth it? "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m hiding at the moment (can you see me?!

) as I just need a break from strangers asking How I am. I don’t want to meet anyone new for a while, it’s hard work even for women, honestly! A lot of fun too, or it can be

It’s also really addictive and it’s good to realise it’s just a website at times and live your real life & just get outside! Not dogging!

Have a lovely week everyone xxxx

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By *uietly_KinkyMan over a year ago

High Wycombe

A monogamous relationship. Deciding the negative effects on my mental health outweighed the positive. Loss of interest in the whole idea. A few reasons.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

Gosh in 10+ years I have boomeranged on and off the site, left for many reasons. Come back for… don’t know really. I once left as part of a forum thread about magic tricks, I said I could disappear and did for over a year. I’ve left because people have become too possessive and that gets me down. I left because I fell in love (she didn’t feel the same).

Fab is like my Netflix’s subscription now, I log on, see if there is anything interesting but I’m not too hung up on it, there’s always something coming. (Or someone

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the total loss of what self-confidence I have would make me vanish.. Or being ridiculed after a meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why would l leave is probably the exact same reason l joined .. finding a beautifully filthy minded SINGLE or SEPARATED or DIVORCED lady who is on the same sexual mental wavelength as me ,l did find that exact lady here once , l fucked up ..she moved on , so hence am back in the ring here ...does lightening strike twice ??? I certainly hope so ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel the same x"

You two are both absolutely good enough.

Both lovely, sexy and great to have around.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When and if I’ll get into a serious relationship with someone and we become exclusive then that’s when It will be my time to leave I guess x

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By *ecky and justCouple over a year ago

Godalming

I had a single profile before and closed it when I started a previous couples profile with someone.

That didn’t work out and I started a new single guy profile.

Meeting Becky, we started a couples profile after a few months and I’ve just hidden my single guys profile.

I’m fairly certain we won’t ever leave now, just hide the profile occasionally when we need a break.

The people I’ve spoken to who have left tend to have ‘leavers remorse’ within a few hours and then have to rebuild their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Zombie outbreak

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Really sorry to read all the negative reasons people have left for. Especially ones behind your control. I've not been here long. I've found ways to enjoy the site my way without hassle. If that changed and the hassle got too much I would hide my profile. As I have already several times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was on for afew months last year and left due to the start of an unexpected “seeing someone” episode

Things didn’t work out, I came back in July once the clubs reopened as that was my main reason for being here anyway.

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

Crazy ex’s. Friends brought me back. But I’m one foot in and one out. Just here for the social events.

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By *piderBunnyCouple over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

"Crazy ex’s. Friends brought me back. But I’m one foot in and one out. Just here for the social events. "

And obviously my comic genius

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Relationships have made me leave, and the one I'm in now will too. Not until my subscription runs out though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A happy relationship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Or what has made you leave? Fab, I mean. Not swinging, not casual sex, or whatever it is you're here for or because of. But fab itself.

And if you've gone.... what's made you come back?"

Finding someone we have regular great no strings sex together

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When it becomes boring.

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By *ubal1Man over a year ago

Newry Down

"Or what has made you leave? Fab, I mean. Not swinging, not casual sex, or whatever it is you're here for or because of. But fab itself.

And if you've gone.... what's made you come back?"

It would take a lot to make me leave; I was formerly on a couple of other sites, that were full of fake profiles, out of date profiles and some members who met for a fee.

Fab is good; feedback can be intermittently negative but you can't please everyone.

Looking forward to the new year when people feel sufficiently confident to resume group meets, post-Covid.

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