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Because I don't have time to meet every person who spends 0.2seconds sending me a dick pic or a "hey" message.
I make a judgement on who I believe I'll want to meet in the interests of getting on with my life. |
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We look at people's profiles and go from there. Yes we are probably judging on who we are interested and who we aren't but that's nature and happens in all walks of life, even down to buying a chocolate cake, we will buy the cake that appeals to us the most. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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People say that you shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover but it’s exactly how you choose which you’re going to buy.
It’s about the cover and the notes on the back, maybe by a recommendation.
You’re not going to pick up “the expanded history of train travel” if you want a fast paced spy thriller. |
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"All that glitters may not be gold all that wander may not be lost...
Why do people judge without meet or chatting with each other..."
On here?
Because there's so many people, it would be impossible to engage with every single contact... Fab is by its very nature restrictive, if women and couples didn't set sensible boundaries, many wouldn't have a life away from Fab or would need their own admin. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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It's nothing to do with judging, each other has a profile and opportunities to write a little plus add photos,so if another finds it interesting or sexually appealing would chat to develop some kind of connection leading to either social or sexual nothing is guaranteed.
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"People say that you shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover but it’s exactly how you choose which you’re going to buy.
It’s about the cover and the notes on the back, maybe by a recommendation.
You’re not going to pick up “the expanded history of train travel” if you want a fast paced spy thriller. "
 spot on. |
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Rightly or wrongly it's human nature, same as a job interview, apparently you have something like 12 seconds by which time the interviewer as already sub consciously decided if your a worthy candidate or not. The worm on the hook here are photos, that'll pretty much dictate whether the viewer scrolls down to the text, regardless how great that may be |
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"People say that you shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover but it’s exactly how you choose which you’re going to buy.
It’s about the cover and the notes on the back, maybe by a recommendation.
You’re not going to pick up “the expanded history of train travel” if you want a fast paced spy thriller. "
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We do read any messages we get sent and the blurb on profiles but sometimes you just know that someone isn’t your type - so why waste your time or theirs
And it goes both ways I realise I’m not a lot of peoples cup of tea and that’s ok - I think people are more open when they meet in a club . I would exceed a lot of peoples age range when they are just flicking through profiles but I’m not your average 50 year old …
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"If you seriously Tell me your going to judge a book by the flash or promo cover...ok I guess it shows a lack of something...which I wouldn't want to discuss..."
So how do you select people you would wish to meet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you seriously Tell me your going to judge a book by the flash or promo cover...ok I guess it shows a lack of something...which I wouldn't want to discuss..."
Shit books? |
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"That's the trouble...it's all about trying to meet on social media instead of...face to face.. laugh over a drink and feel that..mmm"
Get yourself along to organised social events and clubs then you'll have plenty of opportunity to meet others face to face.
We do that too as well as messaging people on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People form judgments _ased on what is presented before them.
People often seek those that they wish to be surrounded by.
People often remove negative people from their lives.
Shall I continue OP? |
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"You do take a bite out of a dog poo just in case it ain't a dog poo, it's just a misplaced Cumberland? "
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Yes so true...look like shit...smell.. like shit... taste like shit..it is going to be shit...lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you seriously Tell me your going to judge a book by the flash or promo cover...ok I guess it shows a lack of something...which I wouldn't want to discuss...
So how do you select people you would wish to meet?"
Are we not talking about books no ?
Im a sucker for a good flashy promo cover !
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"That's the trouble...it's all about trying to meet on social media instead of...face to face.. laugh over a drink and feel that..mmm"
I don't think you comprehend how many men want to meet in person and chat. If women were to say yes to every man who wanted them take take a chance on meeting them despite having no indication of compatibility on their profile, they would have to work part time to make time to meet them all. We have to use the profiles to narrow down own search. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's the trouble...it's all about trying to meet on social media instead of...face to face.. laugh over a drink and feel that..mmm"
That’s why clubs are great reason to go then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's the trouble...it's all about trying to meet on social media instead of...face to face.. laugh over a drink and feel that..mmm
I don't think you comprehend how many men want to meet in person and chat. If women were to say yes to every man who wanted them take take a chance on meeting them despite having no indication of compatibility on their profile, they would have to work part time to make time to meet them all. We have to use the profiles to narrow down own search. "
You don’t comprehend how many women hit us men up to !
But sure what can ye do !
I just work less hours nowadays to politely reply to all my messages !
I can relate |
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"That's the trouble...it's all about trying to meet on social media instead of...face to face.. laugh over a drink and feel that..mmm
I don't think you comprehend how many men want to meet in person and chat. If women were to say yes to every man who wanted them take take a chance on meeting them despite having no indication of compatibility on their profile, they would have to work part time to make time to meet them all. We have to use the profiles to narrow down own search.
You don’t comprehend how many women hit us men up to !
But sure what can ye do !
I just work less hours nowadays to politely reply to all my messages !
I can relate "
Do you get the blank profiles too ? No photo, no listed interests, fun woman seeks fun guy.......insist they just know that if you would only just take the chance and meet them, you would see how genuine they really are  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need to meet or chat to know if I fancy you enough to fuck you... The chatting/meeting confirms it... Or not
This an offer ?   
Askin for a friend?  "
Oh that old chestnut eh ? Wink wink |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"If you seriously Tell me your going to judge a book by the flash or promo cover...ok I guess it shows a lack of something...which I wouldn't want to discuss..."
You’re trying to be disdainful about the way that people choose their meets or who they want to spend time with but that’s only because they’re discounting you.
People always get snippy about other people’s choices, preferences and selection processes when they are the ones getting discounted or dismissed.
I’m sure that you’re a thoroughly lovely chap but you can’t make someone meet you if they don’t like the ‘cover’ or if you simply don’t appeal. |
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"All that glitters may not be gold all that wander may not be lost...
Why do people judge without meet or chatting with each other..."
All to do with animal magnetism..... I love mine rough and ready with a bit ink,tall with a good beard  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't need to meet or chat to know if I fancy you enough to fuck you... The chatting/meeting confirms it... Or not
This an offer ?
Askin for a friend?
Oh that old chestnut eh ? Wink wink "
I was asking if you were |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't need to meet or chat to know if I fancy you enough to fuck you... The chatting/meeting confirms it... Or not
This an offer ?
Askin for a friend?
Oh that old chestnut eh ? Wink wink
I was asking if you were
wouldn’t be unusual for me to get shit mixed up
So where exactly are we now ?
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Hahaha, where are you hoping to be? |
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"People form judgments _ased on what is presented before them.
People often seek those that they wish to be surrounded by.
People often remove negative people from their lives.
Shall I continue OP?"
I can't read this at all... Sorry, I can't take my eyes of the thighs! Still gushing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a site like this judging a book by its cover is the only way.
If you don't like the photos and or profile why would you message them to get to know them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't need to meet or chat to know if I fancy you enough to fuck you... The chatting/meeting confirms it... Or not
This an offer ?
Askin for a friend?
Oh that old chestnut eh ? Wink wink
I was asking if you were
wouldn’t be unusual for me to get shit mixed up
So where exactly are we now ?
Hahaha, where are you hoping to be? "
Expecting I think is the word you mean haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's the trouble...it's all about trying to meet on social media instead of...face to face.. laugh over a drink and feel that..mmm"
Is that not what you are doing by being here? |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"That's the trouble...it's all about trying to meet on social media instead of...face to face.. laugh over a drink and feel that..mmm"
Ermm isn't that what you can do at a club, not everyone uses here to meet...
You're not gonna buy a meal that comes in plain packaging and not able to see if it looks good or appealing... Likewise on here, there has to be something initially draws you in and makes you want to know more. Unfortunately sometimes you're not always gonna be what floats someone's boat  |
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"That's the trouble...it's all about trying to meet on social media instead of...face to face.. laugh over a drink and feel that..mmm
I don't think you comprehend how many men want to meet in person and chat. If women were to say yes to every man who wanted them take take a chance on meeting them despite having no indication of compatibility on their profile, they would have to work part time to make time to meet them all. We have to use the profiles to narrow down own search. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People form judgments _ased on what is presented before them.
People often seek those that they wish to be surrounded by.
People often remove negative people from their lives.
Shall I continue OP?
I can't read this at all... Sorry, I can't take my eyes of the thighs! Still gushing "
Just the thighs? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need to meet or chat to know if I fancy you enough to fuck you... The chatting/meeting confirms it... Or not"
Ariel the little scamp !!
Typical
And Why am I reading this again ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need to meet or chat to know if I fancy you enough to fuck you... The chatting/meeting confirms it... Or not
Ariel the little scamp !!
Typical
And Why am I reading this again ? "
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"People form judgments _ased on what is presented before them.
People often seek those that they wish to be surrounded by.
People often remove negative people from their lives.
Shall I continue OP?
I can't read this at all... Sorry, I can't take my eyes of the thighs! Still gushing
Just the thighs? "
Totally! |
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Fab is like one giant shopping mall, our profiles are all a shop window.
Sometimes you like what you see and pop inside and other times you pull a face and walk on by to the next store.
Like all things in life sometimes the sparkly on the outside is dull on the inside and vice versa.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fab is like one giant shopping mall, our profiles are all a shop window.
Sometimes you like what you see and pop inside and other times you pull a face and walk on by to the next store.
Like all things in life sometimes the sparkly on the outside is dull on the inside and vice versa.
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Hahaha WTF
It’s that nuts it’s brilliant!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t want gold.. but I do want a face I fancy.. so that will always draw me into conversation. The personality is what keeps me there  "
I use this outlook a lot !
Looks can only get you so far on here
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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago
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"All that glitters may not be gold all that wander may not be lost...
Why do people judge without meet or chatting with each other..."
But that's exactly what you do when you message someone, don't you? There's something superficial about them that you are attracted to. Not wanting to chat is no different, just the opposite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fab is like one giant shopping mall, our profiles are all a shop window.
Sometimes you like what you see and pop inside and other times you pull a face and walk on by to the next store.
Like all things in life sometimes the sparkly on the outside is dull on the inside and vice versa.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All that glitters may not be gold all that wander may not be lost...
Why do people judge without meet or chatting with each other..."
Because i judge with my eyes if am not attracted to a person il not be able to play with them, its my preference |
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By *aseMan
over a year ago
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"If you seriously Tell me your going to judge a book by the flash or promo cover...ok I guess it shows a lack of something...which I wouldn't want to discuss..."
Be controversial on here & you will get a lot of views |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Fab is massive and we have to cut down our options to a level which is more manageable. To use your analogy we do judge books _ased on their covers, along with which genres we like and so it is with Fab we use photos (book cover), profile type (genres) and the write up (blurb on the back of the book) in narrowing down our search.
After that we then look to meet and get to know people. |
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This why most of us like face pictures……if we like what we see then we will meet
If not then we move on
Personally if there is no attraction and I politely say no thank you then it’s followed by attitude then I know I was right |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Lol bit shallow but what I would expect...lol"
How is wanting to be attracted to (in whatever form) the person your potentially going to have sex with shallow? I'm not going to lead someone on and give them false hope. |
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"People say that you shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover but it’s exactly how you choose which you’re going to buy.
It’s about the cover and the notes on the back, maybe by a recommendation.
You’re not going to pick up “the expanded history of train travel” if you want a fast paced spy thriller. "
Exactly this !
We’ll have a read of the profile, if they’ve been on a year and have just put “will fill in later” we just move on |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I’m interested OP.
How do you choose those that you want to meet on here? Is it the ‘superficial’ _ased on their pictures and profile write up or do you systematically go through every woman individually and spend time with them in the same way that you expect others to?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol bit shallow but what I would expect...lol"
Stick your dick in anyone that will let you then do you?? I would rather not be fucked by someone that isn't attracted to me at all, thanks... Rejection is preferable to that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol bit shallow but what I would expect...lol
How is wanting to be attracted to (in whatever form) the person your potentially going to have sex with shallow? I'm not going to lead someone on and give them false hope. "
Because he thinks nobody is attracted to him, so it has to be someones fault... It's a little sad tbh |
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"I’m interested OP.
How do you choose those that you want to meet on here? Is it the ‘superficial’ _ased on their pictures and profile write up or do you systematically go through every woman individually and spend time with them in the same way that you expect others to?
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I asked the OP the same question, he didn't reply. Funnily enough the OP seems to start these type of threads often but doesn't really comment much. |
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By *ibonacciMan
over a year ago
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"All that glitters may not be gold all that wander may not be lost...
Why do people judge without meet or chatting with each other..."
I hate to break it to you, but that's how this and many dating type sites work.
We all have a small window to make a good first impression and that's very much our profile page, so that is the cover to the book.
If it's not good enough, people generally move to the next book. |
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"I’m interested OP.
How do you choose those that you want to meet on here? Is it the ‘superficial’ _ased on their pictures and profile write up or do you systematically go through every woman individually and spend time with them in the same way that you expect others to?
I asked the OP the same question, he didn't reply. Funnily enough the OP seems to start these type of threads often but doesn't really comment much."
"Lol bit shallow but what I would expect...lol"
Increase in views no doubt but congratulations on cock blocking yourself OP and driving final nail into ever getting to first _ase let alone laid. Answer to your question which you already knew answer to.....yes. If by a random set of circumstances you publish your memoirs, which is heavily influenced by your time on fab.com and how men i.e just you in this case, struggle to navigate the complexity of a swinging site and in the process continue to reaffirm what many swingers think, that alot of men on here are cry babies and have no balls, said book then gets entered into an annual 'best book cover for a memoir' competition and is then judged the winner we will all have been proved right again.
My last retort which was similar got me banned for 24 hours, thinking.... probably 3 days for this one, seems fair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All that glitters may not be gold all that wander may not be lost...
Why do people judge without meet or chatting with each other..."
And yet your latest post does exactly that.
So, you tell us why people judge so harshly without knowing the people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All that glitters may not be gold all that wander may not be lost...
Why do people judge without meet or chatting with each other...
And yet your latest post does exactly that.
So, you tell us why people judge so harshly without knowing the people"
Omg just read it!! Yeah op you made this post then totally contradicted yourself,  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women (most of the time) judge on face alone...men not so much. "
I wouldnt say judge, i look at a face and if im attracted to that face then il carry on chatting if not then its a no, its a preference, and like ive been told by various men on here after ive turned them down its only sex, might very well be but for me i cannot have sex with somone im not attracted to, most men must see it as any holes a goal lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If by judging, you mean deciding whether you want to have sex with someone by how attracted you are to that person. Then yes, it’s judging the book by its cover. And the problem with that is……? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women (most of the time) judge on face alone...men not so much. "
I would disagree there. I think most people look for an initial attraction, but then there is so much more to it. |
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