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"Had 2 great years to be fair but feel for all how did not."
Yeah I don’t feel I suffered greatly to be honest. It’s made me get used to it a bit I think and I don’t seem to be making much effort to be as sociable as I was. |
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over a year ago
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I'm more determined than ever. Wasted enough time and energy this year, time I could have spent bettering myself! So yes, my mood is a warrior mood. I battle for myself. I don't wave a white flag. I don't seek excuses any more. I don't ask for tissues. No more walking on eggshells either. It's all in. 6th gear or something like that  |
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"I'm more determined than ever. Wasted enough time and energy this year, time I could have spent bettering myself! So yes, my mood is a warrior mood. I battle for myself. I don't wave a white flag. I don't seek excuses any more. I don't ask for tissues. No more walking on eggshells either. It's all in. 6th gear or something like that "
haha go girl! |
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"Had 2 great years to be fair but feel for all how did not.
Yeah I don’t feel I suffered greatly to be honest. It’s made me get used to it a bit I think and I don’t seem to be making much effort to be as sociable as I was. "
Not to worry people suck..  |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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I’m loving the freedom,!
As a person who is always on the go I found the last two years of slowing down and having little to do really tough. Being back to teaching dance/fitness in person again has totally shifted my mindset, being able to hug friends and see family and do those things you took for granted before they were taken away is what I’m grateful for xx |
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"I'm more determined than ever. Wasted enough time and energy this year, time I could have spent bettering myself! So yes, my mood is a warrior mood. I battle for myself. I don't wave a white flag. I don't seek excuses any more. I don't ask for tissues. No more walking on eggshells either. It's all in. 6th gear or something like that haha go girl!"
Woman! Girls sit in corners and cry. I am growing  |
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"I'm more determined than ever. Wasted enough time and energy this year, time I could have spent bettering myself! So yes, my mood is a warrior mood. I battle for myself. I don't wave a white flag. I don't seek excuses any more. I don't ask for tissues. No more walking on eggshells either. It's all in. 6th gear or something like that haha go girl!
Woman! Girls sit in corners and cry. I am growing "
. I’m not quite ready to grow up yet. My mum and dad are still the grown ups |
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"Had 2 great years to be fair but feel for all how did not.
Yeah I don’t feel I suffered greatly to be honest. It’s made me get used to it a bit I think and I don’t seem to be making much effort to be as sociable as I was. "
December will poke you into a right direction |
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"I'm more determined than ever. Wasted enough time and energy this year, time I could have spent bettering myself! So yes, my mood is a warrior mood. I battle for myself. I don't wave a white flag. I don't seek excuses any more. I don't ask for tissues. No more walking on eggshells either. It's all in. 6th gear or something like that haha go girl!
Woman! Girls sit in corners and cry. I am growing
. I’m not quite ready to grow up yet. My mum and dad are still the grown ups "
You are lucky to still have them around   |
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"Had 2 great years to be fair but feel for all how did not.
Yeah I don’t feel I suffered greatly to be honest. It’s made me get used to it a bit I think and I don’t seem to be making much effort to be as sociable as I was.
December will poke you into a right direction "
Yeah definitely. Got a few things planned before then but I seem to be less excited about things. I really hope it’s not a sign of growing up!  |
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"I'm more determined than ever. Wasted enough time and energy this year, time I could have spent bettering myself! So yes, my mood is a warrior mood. I battle for myself. I don't wave a white flag. I don't seek excuses any more. I don't ask for tissues. No more walking on eggshells either. It's all in. 6th gear or something like that haha go girl!
Woman! Girls sit in corners and cry. I am growing
. I’m not quite ready to grow up yet. My mum and dad are still the grown ups
You are lucky to still have them around "
Oh yes I know that and i never take it for granted. I say to my children (eldest 24) they are so lucky to have all 4 grandparents at their age. I didn’t have any at 24 x |
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There have been quite a few changes in my personal and work life in the last 3 or 4 years and especially in the last 18 months.
As a result I'm finding it difficult to plan anything and don't seem to have either the energy or inclination to get out and meet people.
I'm hoping that changes though as I feel I'm still on a journey but have pulled into a layby for a while |
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"There have been quite a few changes in my personal and work life in the last 3 or 4 years and especially in the last 18 months.
As a result I'm finding it difficult to plan anything and don't seem to have either the energy or inclination to get out and meet people.
I'm hoping that changes though as I feel I'm still on a journey but have pulled into a layby for a while "
Do you think the lockdowns have affected that? |
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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago
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We've finally organised our first naughty night out in 2 years which we're really looking forward to, but arranging anything off here seems to be as painful as ever.
Started to think we should reverse everything on our profile because we seem to keep getting replies from those who are the opposite of what we're looking for, it might work |
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"We've finally organised our first naughty night out in 2 years which we're really looking forward to, but arranging anything off here seems to be as painful as ever.
Started to think we should reverse everything on our profile because we seem to keep getting replies from those who are the opposite of what we're looking for, it might work "
Haha that’s an idea! Aw hope night out happens and it’s worth the wait! |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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Honestly my anxiety issues have meant that I've been getting worse and worse as time has gone on. It is becoming more and more difficult to actually go out and do things, be around people and live life.
People keep saying that I'm getting out because I am happy to go on a road trip to meet people and see friends, but realistically that's going from house to car to house. It isn't going out. And it takes something bloody special for me to do that.
It takes me days to psyche myself up to go out to anywhere else, lunch, coffee, they're really hard and the only thing that makes me do it is not wanting to let anyone down when I've made plans.
I've got plans ahead for group socials, and I have no idea if I'm actually going to manage to make it to any of them. I'm terrified. |
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"Honestly my anxiety issues have meant that I've been getting worse and worse as time has gone on. It is becoming more and more difficult to actually go out and do things, be around people and live life.
People keep saying that I'm getting out because I am happy to go on a road trip to meet people and see friends, but realistically that's going from house to car to house. It isn't going out. And it takes something bloody special for me to do that.
It takes me days to psyche myself up to go out to anywhere else, lunch, coffee, they're really hard and the only thing that makes me do it is not wanting to let anyone down when I've made plans.
I've got plans ahead for group socials, and I have no idea if I'm actually going to manage to make it to any of them. I'm terrified."
 . I understand. I won’t comment here as we chat privately xx
Glad you made lunch with me though! |
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over a year ago
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"Gave me a outlook off stop putting this that and the next thing off just go do it life’s far to short
Yes. I’ve started to think like that. It’s just putting it into practice I’m stalling on "
That can be the hard part but small steps and it will come to gether I think we’ll that’s what I am trying to do lol |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say I'm finding it easier but I'm definitely of the mindset and more appreciative of the fact that I'm relatively young (I'm only 32!), I've got fairly good health minus a woman's health issue and I have the finances and ability to get out there. So that's what I'm trying to do a bit more of. Stop making excuses, stop thinking I can't or shouldn't do such and such, I have to wait until I've more lost weight until I continue exploring my sexuality...
I want to enjoy myself. With others, by myself whatever. See a bit more. Do a bit more. It's not always easy for me but I think that life is too short and I might as well make the most of the fact that I'm alive, young(ish), fairly attractive and fortunate in many ways.
I don't want to regret the what ifs later on life. |
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over a year ago
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"I’m loving being back at work
I worked from home anyway. I’m loving everyone else being back at work/school! "
Can’t do my job from home sadly
I’ve done very little in the way of work until this week   |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Honestly my anxiety issues have meant that I've been getting worse and worse as time has gone on. It is becoming more and more difficult to actually go out and do things, be around people and live life.
People keep saying that I'm getting out because I am happy to go on a road trip to meet people and see friends, but realistically that's going from house to car to house. It isn't going out. And it takes something bloody special for me to do that.
It takes me days to psyche myself up to go out to anywhere else, lunch, coffee, they're really hard and the only thing that makes me do it is not wanting to let anyone down when I've made plans.
I've got plans ahead for group socials, and I have no idea if I'm actually going to manage to make it to any of them. I'm terrified.
. I understand. I won’t comment here as we chat privately xx
Glad you made lunch with me though! "
Me too. Very glad xx |
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"Gave me a outlook off stop putting this that and the next thing off just go do it life’s far to short
Yes. I’ve started to think like that. It’s just putting it into practice I’m stalling on
That can be the hard part but small steps and it will come to gether I think we’ll that’s what I am trying to do lol "
Definitely. Small steps. Although it’s worse in the winter. I just wanna have a bath and put my pjs on rather than go out |
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Last year I spent all my time urging Dr's and surgeons to let me have an operation. In the end I had emergency surgery (why didn't they just listen?). Feeling more positive this year and looking forward to work slowing down |
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"I wouldn't say I'm finding it easier but I'm definitely of the mindset and more appreciative of the fact that I'm relatively young (I'm only 32!), I've got fairly good health minus a woman's health issue and I have the finances and ability to get out there. So that's what I'm trying to do a bit more of. Stop making excuses, stop thinking I can't or shouldn't do such and such, I have to wait until I've more lost weight until I continue exploring my sexuality...
I want to enjoy myself. With others, by myself whatever. See a bit more. Do a bit more. It's not always easy for me but I think that life is too short and I might as well make the most of the fact that I'm alive, young(ish), fairly attractive and fortunate in many ways.
I don't want to regret the what ifs later on life. "
I like this. Well said |
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I'm raring to go....I want to live life fully again. One thing it has made me do though is to be more selective with who I spend my time with...no more accepting invitations because I feel obliged to, I'd rather give my time to those that mean something to me. |
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"There have been quite a few changes in my personal and work life in the last 3 or 4 years and especially in the last 18 months.
As a result I'm finding it difficult to plan anything and don't seem to have either the energy or inclination to get out and meet people.
I'm hoping that changes though as I feel I'm still on a journey but have pulled into a layby for a while
Do you think the lockdowns have affected that?"
Yes and no. In regards to live outside fab I am still very active and go out hiking and meeting up with friends. Lockdowns were just a blip.
As far as motivation within the site I've never been one to chat to a lot of people or meet frequently but the lockdown mentality of so many people and how they changed beyond recognition has made me more cynical and therefore less inclined to get caught up in other people's drama. |
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"Gave me a outlook off stop putting this that and the next thing off just go do it life’s far to short
Yes. I’ve started to think like that. It’s just putting it into practice I’m stalling on
That can be the hard part but small steps and it will come to gether I think we’ll that’s what I am trying to do lol
Definitely. Small steps. Although it’s worse in the winter. I just wanna have a bath and put my pjs on rather than go out "
Yes same but it happen this outbreak has been a wake up call for me to just get out and do it to damm with everything
It’s always next year for that then it comes and I am like no we can wait till the next not this time it’s been a eye opener for shour
I don’t want to be sitting at 70-80 thinking I should have done this that and the next thing when I had the chance |
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"Gave me a outlook off stop putting this that and the next thing off just go do it life’s far to short
Yes. I’ve started to think like that. It’s just putting it into practice I’m stalling on
That can be the hard part but small steps and it will come to gether I think we’ll that’s what I am trying to do lol
Definitely. Small steps. Although it’s worse in the winter. I just wanna have a bath and put my pjs on rather than go out
Yes same but it happen this outbreak has been a wake up call for me to just get out and do it to damm with everything
It’s always next year for that then it comes and I am like no we can wait till the next not this time it’s been a eye opener for shour
I don’t want to be sitting at 70-80 thinking I should have done this that and the next thing when I had the chance "
Great attitude to have x |
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"I'm raring to go....I want to live life fully again. One thing it has made me do though is to be more selective with who I spend my time with...no more accepting invitations because I feel obliged to, I'd rather give my time to those that mean something to me. "
Ah so that’s why you didn’t come out with me in July   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gave me a outlook off stop putting this that and the next thing off just go do it life’s far to short
Yes. I’ve started to think like that. It’s just putting it into practice I’m stalling on
That can be the hard part but small steps and it will come to gether I think we’ll that’s what I am trying to do lol
Definitely. Small steps. Although it’s worse in the winter. I just wanna have a bath and put my pjs on rather than go out
Yes same but it happen this outbreak has been a wake up call for me to just get out and do it to damm with everything
It’s always next year for that then it comes and I am like no we can wait till the next not this time it’s been a eye opener for shour
I don’t want to be sitting at 70-80 thinking I should have done this that and the next thing when I had the chance
Great attitude to have x "
Thanks x |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
"I'm more determined than ever. Wasted enough time and energy this year, time I could have spent bettering myself! So yes, my mood is a warrior mood. I battle for myself. I don't wave a white flag. I don't seek excuses any more. I don't ask for tissues. No more walking on eggshells either. It's all in. 6th gear or something like that "
Yes absolutely this! Love it, you go girl xx |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm raring to go....I want to live life fully again. One thing it has made me do though is to be more selective with who I spend my time with...no more accepting invitations because I feel obliged to, I'd rather give my time to those that mean something to me. "
Yes to this! Who knew grumpy old men could make you want to spend time with them?
Lockdown helped me realise how important those important people are. Before I'd accept invitations because it was polite, because I thought I should be sociable, meet different people. Now I'd rather decide who I spend time with and make sure it's with people who make me feel good. |
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"There have been quite a few changes in my personal and work life in the last 3 or 4 years and especially in the last 18 months.
As a result I'm finding it difficult to plan anything and don't seem to have either the energy or inclination to get out and meet people.
I'm hoping that changes though as I feel I'm still on a journey but have pulled into a layby for a while
Do you think the lockdowns have affected that?
Yes and no. In regards to live outside fab I am still very active and go out hiking and meeting up with friends. Lockdowns were just a blip.
As far as motivation within the site I've never been one to chat to a lot of people or meet frequently but the lockdown mentality of so many people and how they changed beyond recognition has made me more cynical and therefore less inclined to get caught up in other people's drama. "
Yes I agree. I was talking more in general life. I don’t really see fab as anything other than forums and an occasional giggle at the moment. |
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"This has to be the worse year I have had, physically, emotionally, mentally and financially.
Hardly surprising that I have turned into a recluse"
Oh no. I’m sorry  . I hope things turn around for you x |
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We couldn’t go on dates as everywhere was shut when we got together…so we had plenty of sex instead
Now we are making up for lost time and getting out and about…London last weekend, Scotland in a couple of weeks, cruise at the end of the year…and still trying to cram in plenty of sex too
K |
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"We couldn’t go on dates as everywhere was shut when we got together…so we had plenty of sex instead
Now we are making up for lost time and getting out and about…London last weekend, Scotland in a couple of weeks, cruise at the end of the year…and still trying to cram in plenty of sex too
K"
Wow sounds perfect! Go you two! |
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"I'm more determined than ever. Wasted enough time and energy this year, time I could have spent bettering myself! So yes, my mood is a warrior mood. I battle for myself. I don't wave a white flag. I don't seek excuses any more. I don't ask for tissues. No more walking on eggshells either. It's all in. 6th gear or something like that "
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"This has to be the worse year I have had, physically, emotionally, mentally and financially.
Hardly surprising that I have turned into a recluse"
Hope things turns around for you soon! |
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
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I think I was pretty fortunate during lockdowns and still managed to do quite a lot when restrictions eased at certain times. I’ve just enjoyed a fabulous week in Spain with the other half and fab friends and have plenty more weekend trips booked and I’m off to a 90’s festival on Friday
The downside is the lockdowns seriously impacted on my son. His ASD has become more complex and now diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. He hasn’t been in full time education since April and I’ve had to defer my second year of studying as now his full time carer. Lack of support and services is shocking |
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"I think I was pretty fortunate during lockdowns and still managed to do quite a lot when restrictions eased at certain times. I’ve just enjoyed a fabulous week in Spain with the other half and fab friends and have plenty more weekend trips booked and I’m off to a 90’s festival on Friday
The downside is the lockdowns seriously impacted on my son. His ASD has become more complex and now diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. He hasn’t been in full time education since April and I’ve had to defer my second year of studying as now his full time carer. Lack of support and services is shocking "
I can relate to that last paragraph lovely. It’s disgusting. So much so we’ve now gone private x |
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Im having a rethink about lots of things this year and putting a last big effort into 'mum' stuff, I can only spread my energies so far. Im clinging onto good friends made from here and would meet if ever there was a chance but I dont feel committed to the whole process of making new friends yet. Im a bit glum about it all but will do it when the time feels right. |
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This year is easier as have the freedom to do something if I wish. However, except from one social with an old friend, I have no appetite to spend time with others, I’m very happy out and about in my own company. Autumn / winter will determine if this is a permanent feeling or just a blip. |
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"This year is easier as have the freedom to do something if I wish. However, except from one social with an old friend, I have no appetite to spend time with others, I’m very happy out and about in my own company. Autumn / winter will determine if this is a permanent feeling or just a blip. "
I’m like that. I love my own company and nearly 2 years of hardly having it has almost finished me off! So I’m quite enjoying that for now x |
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I’ve lost a lot of confidence over the last two years, although I’ve gained it in some areas I suppose.
The last two years have been the toughest of my life I think, with separating from an emotionally abusive ex, 2 lots of major surgery, and the accompanying health issues.
Plus Covid on top of it. I know I need to start going out and meeting people, but I actually don’t know how to at the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The last two years have been very good for me.
There have tough times for sure. And dark days.
But overall great.
I had 2 great lockdowns and I feel mentally healthy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've lost pretty much all the confidence I did have, I try and avoid conversations and social things. Especially on here "
That's sad. You look amazing and just know you are bloody fantastic and IL fight anyone who says otherwise |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"I've lost pretty much all the confidence I did have, I try and avoid conversations and social things. Especially on here "
And yet you come across so lovely and friendly.
I'd love to help you build on this. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tragically, the lockdowns have not affected my personal life at all. Changes in the workplace that will stick going forward and still waiting for full access in some insignificant areas but it all seems to have happened to others, not me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve lost a lot of confidence over the last two years, although I’ve gained it in some areas I suppose.
The last two years have been the toughest of my life I think, with separating from an emotionally abusive ex, 2 lots of major surgery, and the accompanying health issues.
Plus Covid on top of it. I know I need to start going out and meeting people, but I actually don’t know how to at the moment. "
It's funny. The reality we see and the reality that is.
You don't seem short of confidence and you present yourself strongly.
But inside is different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to say the last 2 years have probably been the best in my life from a selfish point if view
Work from home, avoiding crowds, hiding behind a mask. No need to think of excuses to miss parties etc...Bliss.
Obviously I'd rather it hadn't happened with the impact on the world and deaths..
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I am trying to balance out this with equal homely weekends and fun weekends away, its not working at the mo, leaning towards too many fun weekends away with kids and parties and I am cautious about not burning myself out, last year was all homely and small amounts of fun, but there are so many good deals out there argh..... |
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"I’ve lost a lot of confidence over the last two years, although I’ve gained it in some areas I suppose.
The last two years have been the toughest of my life I think, with separating from an emotionally abusive ex, 2 lots of major surgery, and the accompanying health issues.
Plus Covid on top of it. I know I need to start going out and meeting people, but I actually don’t know how to at the moment.
It's funny. The reality we see and the reality that is.
You don't seem short of confidence and you present yourself strongly.
But inside is different "
Online flirting and chatting is easy.
Actual people, nope . Then I finally plucked up the courage to say yes to lunch, and he dicked about  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I’d rather just go for a walk with my kids and dogs to be honest. If a local opportunity presented itself for just quick meet fuck and go’s on a regular (ish) basis then yes, but I think my days of meets longer than an hour are in the past. And realistically meeting a fella willing to be used and abused for just half an hour are pretty slim. Especially as I don’t accommodate.
I sometimes wonder why I bother and then suddenly my clit will shout out “hello! Remember me?!” and I remember why I bother.
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'm glad to be able to have a mooch out again, like today I went to the library and to a couple of charity shops.
It's good to see friends again
I'm not arsed about meets at all still, it's just good to be able to do some of the little things again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm more determined than ever. Wasted enough time and energy this year, time I could have spent bettering myself! So yes, my mood is a warrior mood. I battle for myself. I don't wave a white flag. I don't seek excuses any more. I don't ask for tissues. No more walking on eggshells either. It's all in. 6th gear or something like that "
Best way to be, best step forwards and PMA! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had 2 great years to be fair but feel for all how did not.
Yeah I don’t feel I suffered greatly to be honest. It’s made me get used to it a bit I think and I don’t seem to be making much effort to be as sociable as I was.
December will poke you into a right direction
Yeah definitely. Got a few things planned before then but I seem to be less excited about things. I really hope it’s not a sign of growing up! "
Possibly just a scar of the last year.. when we were hoping at times things eased off and you could make plans but then it all went to shit again. And again. So maybe optimistic caution? I'm glad you do. We need things to look fwd too! X
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over a year ago
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"I'm more determined than ever. Wasted enough time and energy this year, time I could have spent bettering myself! So yes, my mood is a warrior mood. I battle for myself. I don't wave a white flag. I don't seek excuses any more. I don't ask for tissues. No more walking on eggshells either. It's all in. 6th gear or something like that
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Thanks for a wake up call of sorts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm more determined than ever. Wasted enough time and energy this year, time I could have spent bettering myself! So yes, my mood is a warrior mood. I battle for myself. I don't wave a white flag. I don't seek excuses any more. I don't ask for tissues. No more walking on eggshells either. It's all in. 6th gear or something like that
Yes absolutely this! Love it, you go girl xx"
I'm going. how long does it take to walk to Edinburgh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve lost a lot of confidence over the last two years, although I’ve gained it in some areas I suppose.
The last two years have been the toughest of my life I think, with separating from an emotionally abusive ex, 2 lots of major surgery, and the accompanying health issues.
Plus Covid on top of it. I know I need to start going out and meeting people, but I actually don’t know how to at the moment. "
They can come to you if you don't want to go out x |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve lost a lot of confidence over the last two years, although I’ve gained it in some areas I suppose.
The last two years have been the toughest of my life I think, with separating from an emotionally abusive ex, 2 lots of major surgery, and the accompanying health issues.
Plus Covid on top of it. I know I need to start going out and meeting people, but I actually don’t know how to at the moment.
They can come to you if you don't want to go out x"
Get over here |
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Not much change as worked all the way through and its busier than ever. We don't have a huge social life because of the little ones. But if it was before the kids arrived I think me and Mrs m would have been climbing the walls.
This year has flown by though to be fair  |
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By *eardybobMan
over a year ago
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"This year easier than last or are you still in can’t be arsed I’d rather stay in mood? "
Hi Nora
100% easier, and better for a whole heap of reasons. Actively getting out and about, and loving every second of it! |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Honestly my anxiety issues have meant that I've been getting worse and worse as time has gone on. It is becoming more and more difficult to actually go out and do things, be around people and live life.
People keep saying that I'm getting out because I am happy to go on a road trip to meet people and see friends, but realistically that's going from house to car to house. It isn't going out. And it takes something bloody special for me to do that.
It takes me days to psyche myself up to go out to anywhere else, lunch, coffee, they're really hard and the only thing that makes me do it is not wanting to let anyone down when I've made plans.
I've got plans ahead for group socials, and I have no idea if I'm actually going to manage to make it to any of them. I'm terrified."
Yes you are! And we're gonna do stuff while you're here too! You kick my arse into sense so I'm gonna do the same back xx |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve lost a lot of confidence over the last two years, although I’ve gained it in some areas I suppose.
The last two years have been the toughest of my life I think, with separating from an emotionally abusive ex, 2 lots of major surgery, and the accompanying health issues.
Plus Covid on top of it. I know I need to start going out and meeting people, but I actually don’t know how to at the moment.
They can come to you if you don't want to go out x
Get over here "
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Not sure if it has been easier. I was ill most of last year so covid etc didn't register and I couldn't go out so didn't feel like I was missing out.
But now I still don't quite have the energy levels I did, put on weight etc etc so lost a lot of confidence and more conscious I'm not as social as I once was. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to say even with all that's going on I have had an amazing year. I joined fab for a start, that has lead to me meeting an amazing array of people that are as diverse as they are fascinating. I have been to a few organised socials now that have been attended by said amazing people. All so friendly and welcoming, if that's not a tonic for anyones mental well being then I don't know what is. I did my first club visit which once again was just pure joy to participate in. My health has been good as i have new found hunger for exercise, my job fulfils everything it should and Christmas is just around the corner. So yes, I have found this year to be fantastic |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Honestly my anxiety issues have meant that I've been getting worse and worse as time has gone on. It is becoming more and more difficult to actually go out and do things, be around people and live life.
People keep saying that I'm getting out because I am happy to go on a road trip to meet people and see friends, but realistically that's going from house to car to house. It isn't going out. And it takes something bloody special for me to do that.
It takes me days to psyche myself up to go out to anywhere else, lunch, coffee, they're really hard and the only thing that makes me do it is not wanting to let anyone down when I've made plans.
I've got plans ahead for group socials, and I have no idea if I'm actually going to manage to make it to any of them. I'm terrified.
Yes you are! And we're gonna do stuff while you're here too! You kick my arse into sense so I'm gonna do the same back xx"
Jeez mum |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"Honestly my anxiety issues have meant that I've been getting worse and worse as time has gone on. It is becoming more and more difficult to actually go out and do things, be around people and live life.
People keep saying that I'm getting out because I am happy to go on a road trip to meet people and see friends, but realistically that's going from house to car to house. It isn't going out. And it takes something bloody special for me to do that.
It takes me days to psyche myself up to go out to anywhere else, lunch, coffee, they're really hard and the only thing that makes me do it is not wanting to let anyone down when I've made plans.
I've got plans ahead for group socials, and I have no idea if I'm actually going to manage to make it to any of them. I'm terrified.
Yes you are! And we're gonna do stuff while you're here too! You kick my arse into sense so I'm gonna do the same back xx
Jeez mum "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This year is one of the biggest of my life with work and life in general.
I’m pushing really hard, close to burnout of few months back but back on track again.
The future is the one we create and I’m creating the best one I can |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This year easier than last or are you still in can’t be arsed I’d rather stay in mood? "
I’m very adaptable.
Enjoyed the chill last year and kicking back without as much pressure work/social.
So far I’ve had some great outings with friends old and new this year and I’m loving being back at the sport events and drinking exotic extortionately priced cocktails in busy bars especially.
In summary, I was happy last year and I’m happy this year too. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Aside from our social life being curtailed a bit last year overall 2020 was not bad just very repetitive work, fitness, TV repeat. This year has been manic with all the social stuff that we had booked last year now being rearranged for this year. We are actually struggling to fit everything in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This year is soooo much better than last year. I can't stand most people, but it's great to see those I like and to be able to do fairly normal things again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't feel that I've got back into the swing of things and I feel like I've forgotten how to people... But in honesty i have little interest in people-ing either |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
This year and last have had major highs and worse lows, the weeks I had on furlough were the best as it's time I would never normally have with my kids, a lot of sadness though with lost loved ones. The middle to end of this year has had some highs though in my career and my personal/fab life is seemingly on the up too x |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"This year and last have had major highs and worse lows, the weeks I had on furlough were the best as it's time I would never normally have with my kids, a lot of sadness though with lost loved ones. The middle to end of this year has had some highs though in my career and my personal/fab life is seemingly on the up too x"
After waffling all that my answer is I'm raring to go for what the rest of this year and next has in store |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This year easier than last or are you still in can’t be arsed I’d rather stay in mood? "
Each year just gets better. A few bumps in the toad but onwards and upwards. |
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Still single, still without girlfriend , Mega busy with work and haven't had a holiday yet.
Finding someone on Fab is as hard as ever.
The great thing about this year is that after 14 years im finally mortgage free . |
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"Still single, still without girlfriend , Mega busy with work and haven't had a holiday yet.
Finding someone on Fab is as hard as ever.
The great thing about this year is that after 14 years im finally mortgage free ."
Mortgage free, congratulations
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've lost pretty much all the confidence I did have, I try and avoid conversations and social things. Especially on here
That's sad. You look amazing and just know you are bloody fantastic and IL fight anyone who says otherwise"
You and chunky are too sweet, thankyou |
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We've had a great year thank you. We are all fit and healthy, our business is currently thriving, we have met up with family and vanilla friends on many occasions, met Fab friends, we have had a 10 day family summer holiday and have been away for at least one night a month since the end of May. Life is good, work hard play hard is our motto. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m having a great year.. amazing new job, house renovations finally nearing completion, loving being able to go out & about & dancing, plus I popped my club cherry & loved it!
But I also enjoyed the slower pace of life hanging around at home last year. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm glad that things have opened back up again. In general I'm fine, like most people I have good days and bad days. However I do think that I'm not as resilient as I was and I need to work harder to keep myself from getting too down. |
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I enjoyed working from home and I can’t say it affected me that much although it’s really good to be out and about again. It’s also fantastic that I’ve landed a second new home me from home in an area I never considered before! Loving it!
I value my close friends a lot more than I may have realised before. Apart from the constraints we all had to abide by it hasn’t had much affect. |
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"Still single, still without girlfriend , Mega busy with work and haven't had a holiday yet.
Finding someone on Fab is as hard as ever.
The great thing about this year is that after 14 years im finally mortgage free .
Mortgage free, congratulations
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Cheers chap |
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Loved reading all the comments. I can definitely resonate with a lot of them.
I think I need a good shake, a serious talking to, a major kick up the arse and probably a bloody good seeing to! .
Thanks for all the comments. Think it made me feel better in some way x |
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"Loved reading all the comments. I can definitely resonate with a lot of them.
I think I need a good shake, a serious talking to, a major kick up the arse and probably a bloody good seeing to! .
Thanks for all the comments. Think it made me feel better in some way x "
Happy to help with the fourth one on the list
And don’t be too hard on yourself x |
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"Loved reading all the comments. I can definitely resonate with a lot of them.
I think I need a good shake, a serious talking to, a major kick up the arse and probably a bloody good seeing to! .
Thanks for all the comments. Think it made me feel better in some way x "
I do like the list of needs and wants. Tick them off. x |
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"Loved reading all the comments. I can definitely resonate with a lot of them.
I think I need a good shake, a serious talking to, a major kick up the arse and probably a bloody good seeing to! .
Thanks for all the comments. Think it made me feel better in some way x
Happy to help with the fourth one on the list
And don’t be too hard on yourself x"
Haha. Always there to help Adam you are .
I’m more annoyed with myself. Had a real tough couple of months (not fab related lol) and I’m usually a coper but I’ve struggled and that makes me angry with myself. Hard to explain lol. I know what I mean! |
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"Loved reading all the comments. I can definitely resonate with a lot of them.
I think I need a good shake, a serious talking to, a major kick up the arse and probably a bloody good seeing to! .
Thanks for all the comments. Think it made me feel better in some way x
I do like the list of needs and wants. Tick them off. x"
I will I think! Apart from the arse kick unless they’re not wearing shoes |
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"Loved reading all the comments. I can definitely resonate with a lot of them.
I think I need a good shake, a serious talking to, a major kick up the arse and probably a bloody good seeing to! .
Thanks for all the comments. Think it made me feel better in some way x "
Yes , you need all of those haha |
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"Loved reading all the comments. I can definitely resonate with a lot of them.
I think I need a good shake, a serious talking to, a major kick up the arse and probably a bloody good seeing to! .
Thanks for all the comments. Think it made me feel better in some way x
Yes , you need all of those haha "
. Why? So that you get a rest from my moaning . You must have loved it when WhatsApp was down!!! |
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over a year ago
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"Loved reading all the comments. I can definitely resonate with a lot of them.
I think I need a good shake, a serious talking to, a major kick up the arse and probably a bloody good seeing to! .
Thanks for all the comments. Think it made me feel better in some way x
I do like the list of needs and wants. Tick them off. x
I will I think! Apart from the arse kick unless they’re not wearing shoes "
Could just use a gentle knee poke
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Of course I have pangs of disappointment with regards to how different my life may be, but overall I'm ok.
Last year I was hopeless, and the only thing that gave me any sense of worth was my friends and knowing I had done the right thing.
This year I've got over that hopelessness in a sense, because I believe the healthiest thing for me is to be single, and that anything else is unnecessary anxiety. I've got over the "how can I be happy knowing XYZ"
I don't need to be, I need to be content and accepting that I attract and am attracted to a certain type of person, and they're no fucking good for me.
I still can't be arsed with an awful lot of stuff, I don't get excited by much. I tend to see danger in a lot of things now and risks that just aren't worth taking.
I'm not boring or a sadsack, I kinda feel like I've simply grown up somewhat and learning more about myself and my needs. |
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