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Do you have a defining feature? The funny one, the unreliable one, the good listener?
If you do, do you feel you have to play up to it? Always crack jokes even when you're not feeling it? Figure nobody expects much from you so why bother? Yearn for someone to ask how you are, for a change?
Do you like it? Or not?
Mrs TMN x |
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If you ask my best friends I'm the one who gives you a straight answer wether you like it or not. But I'm also the one who will disappear off the face of the earth to go sort my head out when it all gets a bit too much.
They understand me and how I work so I guess it is a positive thing. We all know where we stand which I think friendship is all about |
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"If you ask my best friends I'm the one who gives you a straight answer wether you like it or not. But I'm also the one who will disappear off the face of the earth to go sort my head out when it all gets a bit too much.
They understand me and how I work so I guess it is a positive thing. We all know where we stand which I think friendship is all about "
Oops that was two  |
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"If you ask my best friends I'm the one who gives you a straight answer wether you like it or not. But I'm also the one who will disappear off the face of the earth to go sort my head out when it all gets a bit too much.
They understand me and how I work so I guess it is a positive thing. We all know where we stand which I think friendship is all about
Oops that was two "
Ha ha! That's OK, I'll let you off  |
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"If you ask my best friends I'm the one who gives you a straight answer wether you like it or not. But I'm also the one who will disappear off the face of the earth to go sort my head out when it all gets a bit too much.
They understand me and how I work so I guess it is a positive thing. We all know where we stand which I think friendship is all about
Oops that was two "
There’s always one!  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not sure I have a defining feature but I am constantly curious. I ask questions as a way of checking in, sating my curiosity, expressing care, clarifying so I understand what someone means.
It's not defining but I think, that perhaps, not so deep down, I like people to take an active interest in me. Check how I'm doing. Ask me about me. And maybe, sometimes, I don't feel like people do very often. It's easier to talk about others because people (not in a negative way) like talking about themselves. And I do like hearing about others. But everyone now and again I think I would like people to be curious about me. More so.
You can't control or dictate how others though can you? I don't think I'd want to. I like my friends for how they are and if I didn't like it they wouldn't be my friends*.
* This has been fueled by a double espresso so it is full ramble. |
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Totally depends on the situation
I'm the funny one, the serious one, the needy one, the rock, the toddler, the mother, the reliable one, the one who cancels on a night out, the poor one, the generous one, the one who has all the time in the world for people, the one who needs silence and solitude.
Yeah, that's me. |
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"If you ask my best friends I'm the one who gives you a straight answer wether you like it or not. But I'm also the one who will disappear off the face of the earth to go sort my head out when it all gets a bit too much.
They understand me and how I work so I guess it is a positive thing. We all know where we stand which I think friendship is all about
Oops that was two
There’s always one! "
There is yes |
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"If you ask my best friends I'm the one who gives you a straight answer wether you like it or not. But I'm also the one who will disappear off the face of the earth to go sort my head out when it all gets a bit too much.
They understand me and how I work so I guess it is a positive thing. We all know where we stand which I think friendship is all about
Oops that was two
There’s always one!
There is yes "
And it’s usually you f!  |
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By *bostCouple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
Mrs Pf - definitely the organiser. Likes to know the plan far enough ahead.
Mr Pf - the gruff but faux grumpy (actually a big softy) one that can look at a situation from different viewpoints. |
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over a year ago
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Not everyone has reached comfort in their own skin. But it’s coming and then you’ll realise, it doesn’t matter what others think about you, what others expect of you. You are you. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I think that’s there’s how we see ourselves and how others see us. Often the two are very different.
I’d typify myself as the practical and dependable one, the one that you can rely on when things go bad or wrong, the one with the answer or the shoulder, the kind word or kick in the arse.
How others see me?
That’s for them to answer |
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"I'm not sure I have a defining feature but I am constantly curious. I ask questions as a way of checking in, sating my curiosity, expressing care, clarifying so I understand what someone means.
It's not defining but I think, that perhaps, not so deep down, I like people to take an active interest in me. Check how I'm doing. Ask me about me. And maybe, sometimes, I don't feel like people do very often. It's easier to talk about others because people (not in a negative way) like talking about themselves. And I do like hearing about others. But everyone now and again I think I would like people to be curious about me. More so.
You can't control or dictate how others though can you? I don't think I'd want to. I like my friends for how they are and if I didn't like it they wouldn't be my friends*.
* This has been fueled by a double espresso so it is full ramble. "
I think curiosity counts as a defining feature  I also enjoy a full Meli ramble! X |
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"Totally depends on the situation
I'm the funny one, the serious one, the needy one, the rock, the toddler, the mother, the reliable one, the one who cancels on a night out, the poor one, the generous one, the one who has all the time in the world for people, the one who needs silence and solitude.
Yeah, that's me."
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"I think that’s there’s how we see ourselves and how others see us. Often the two are very different.
I’d typify myself as the practical and dependable one, the one that you can rely on when things go bad or wrong, the one with the answer or the shoulder, the kind word or kick in the arse.
How others see me?
That’s for them to answer"
Do you think so, Tea? I'm not suggesting we can control other people's opinions. But if our view of ourselves is totally at odds with other people's, is that purely down to them? |
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"My defining feature is my height.
Whether I like it or not is irrelevant, as I get zero say in the matter. "
I don't think your feelings are irrelevant. Sure, you might have no control over your height, but why does that negate how you feel about it? |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't think I've got a defining feature. Not that I can see anyway.
I'm just me. Ooh. Maybe I'm the flirt 
No "just" about it. You're you "
Can't be anyone else. They're all taken |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
The happy positive one.
It's not a bad thing to be known for.
It was hilarious when I broke down in tears a few months ago, they didn't know what to do with me 
If I'm feeling low then I'll just keep a lower profile. It's rare though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m the laid back one amongst my friends and close loved ones. This is good as I never stress, panic or react poorly when life throws the usual curveballs that we all know too well but it’s also the worst curse too as I’m the one everyone comes to with their problems.
I’d rather they didn’t do that |
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"My defining feature is my height.
Whether I like it or not is irrelevant, as I get zero say in the matter.
I don't think your feelings are irrelevant. Sure, you might have no control over your height, but why does that negate how you feel about it? "
You might not, but the rest of the world does. I am always going to be defined by my stature whether I want to be or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you have a defining feature? The funny one, the unreliable one, the good listener?
If you do, do you feel you have to play up to it? Always crack jokes even when you're not feeling it? Figure nobody expects much from you so why bother? Yearn for someone to ask how you are, for a change?
Do you like it? Or not?
Mrs TMN x"
How are you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm the strong one. The one who gets things sorted, the problem solver the listener. It is what it is I guess, would love someone to come along and take over sometimes |
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"Do you have a defining feature? The funny one, the unreliable one, the good listener?
If you do, do you feel you have to play up to it? Always crack jokes even when you're not feeling it? Figure nobody expects much from you so why bother? Yearn for someone to ask how you are, for a change?
Do you like it? Or not?
Mrs TMN x
How are you? "
Ha! I'm grand, thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Others have told me my defining feature is solidity.
I'm reliable and honest. I will have a tough conversation if it's needed and I talk honestly even if it's painful.
I think my friends are to be trusted more with this than I am. I think I would choose something that I wish defined me, rather than actually did |
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I would maybe say the silly/giggly one as I love making people smile and laugh though just depends how introverted I'm feeling as some days I'm just super quiet, especially round more than a couple people! |
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