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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Compliments can be given for all sorts of reasons... and clearly on fab most of us take them with a bucket of the old salt.

But when you compliment do you always mean what you say? Do you find something specific and compliment that? Or are you a general complimenter?

And what's the best compliment you remember receiving? Did it mean more because of who it was from?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Compliments can be given for all sorts of reasons... and clearly on fab most of us take them with a bucket of the old salt.

But when you compliment do you always mean what you say? Do you find something specific and compliment that? Or are you a general complimenter?

And what's the best compliment you remember receiving? Did it mean more because of who it was from?

I'm a specific complimenter. Things I notice about people. And yes, I always mean it

I was once told by a gynae Dr that my vagina was "perfect". I'll take that as my best compliment ever! Grade A fanny, get it here

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My dad said he was proud of me best compliment I've ever had

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By *gent CoulsonMan over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

If I pay a compliment, I mean it

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

One of the exercises my therapist gave me was to gracefully accept compliments.

I do give them, usually about something specific.

The best compliment I received was a group of colleagues arranging a This Is Your Life type event for me. It was a lovely and very touching surprise.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Compliments can be given for all sorts of reasons... and clearly on fab most of us take them with a bucket of the old salt.

But when you compliment do you always mean what you say? Do you find something specific and compliment that? Or are you a general complimenter?

And what's the best compliment you remember receiving? Did it mean more because of who it was from?

I'm a specific complimenter. Things I notice about people. And yes, I always mean it

I was once told by a gynae Dr that my vagina was "perfect". I'll take that as my best compliment ever! Grade A fanny, get it here

Mrs TMN x"

That is absolutely awesome! I'd take that!

The compliment I mean.... cos.... y'know.....

I mean.... um.... I've never seen a grade A fanny

(Way to be cool Posh

)

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"My dad said he was proud of me best compliment I've ever had"

That absolutely is.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If I pay a compliment, I mean it"

Do you tend towards specifics or general?

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By *gent CoulsonMan over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"If I pay a compliment, I mean it

Do you tend towards specifics or general?"
depends on context, but as a rule specific

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the more specific or personal a compliment is the more it means. Nothing wrong with a general compliment but they have less impact.

I was once told by a former employer that I was 'unbossable' - it was meant as a criticism but I cherish it as one of my favourite compliments.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Compliments can be given for all sorts of reasons... and clearly on fab most of us take them with a bucket of the old salt.

But when you compliment do you always mean what you say? Do you find something specific and compliment that? Or are you a general complimenter?

And what's the best compliment you remember receiving? Did it mean more because of who it was from?

I'm a specific complimenter. Things I notice about people. And yes, I always mean it

I was once told by a gynae Dr that my vagina was "perfect". I'll take that as my best compliment ever! Grade A fanny, get it here

Mrs TMN x

That is absolutely awesome! I'd take that!

The compliment I mean.... cos.... y'know.....

I mean.... um.... I've never seen a grade A fanny

(Way to be cool Posh

)

Ha ha! It did make me laugh. Don't think she was talking aesthetically. More pH balance and the like. Sexy stuff!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"One of the exercises my therapist gave me was to gracefully accept compliments.

I do give them, usually about something specific.

The best compliment I received was a group of colleagues arranging a This Is Your Life type event for me. It was a lovely and very touching surprise.

I'm unbelievably bad at accepting compliments.... I'm usually convinced they've got the wrong person

I find specific compliments tend to mean more to give and receive. Although sometimes there is just too much general awesomeness to pick out one thing.

And I absolutely love that! You must have been thrilled!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If I pay a compliment, I mean it

Do you tend towards specifics or general? depends on context, but as a rule specific"

What's the best one you've received?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always mean it, no point in not. I like to give a compliment, be in general or specific. NSP your funny and sauciness come out in the forum posts

Best compliment, from a hot work colleague… I’m the complete package apparently. Still dining out on that now

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I think the more specific or personal a compliment is the more it means. Nothing wrong with a general compliment but they have less impact.

I was once told by a former employer that I was 'unbossable' - it was meant as a criticism but I cherish it as one of my favourite compliments.

I completely agree with the first.... and unbossable is absolutely a compliment!! How anyone could think it isn't I do not know....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was playing one of the games although it wasn’t a compliment it was a lovely thing to say was a bit teary after reading it normally when I send a compliment I mean it in general !

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Compliments can be given for all sorts of reasons... and clearly on fab most of us take them with a bucket of the old salt.

But when you compliment do you always mean what you say? Do you find something specific and compliment that? Or are you a general complimenter?

And what's the best compliment you remember receiving? Did it mean more because of who it was from?

I'm a specific complimenter. Things I notice about people. And yes, I always mean it

I was once told by a gynae Dr that my vagina was "perfect". I'll take that as my best compliment ever! Grade A fanny, get it here

Mrs TMN x

That is absolutely awesome! I'd take that!

The compliment I mean.... cos.... y'know.....

I mean.... um.... I've never seen a grade A fanny

(Way to be cool Posh

)

Ha ha! It did make me laugh. Don't think she was talking aesthetically. More pH balance and the like. Sexy stuff! "

Phwoar! That's proper sexy stuff!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I compliment , I definitely mean it.

If I get complimented, I get very awkward.

The best compliment I've ever had was when I walked into eyesight of someone, and they did a double take, stopped what they were doing and said wow, just wow.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never say anything I don't mean, if I compliment a person it's because I genuinely and sincerely want to. I don't really like getting complimented it makes me a bit uncomfortable... Especially if it's on my looks, much prefer a compliment about my personality.

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By *gent CoulsonMan over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"If I pay a compliment, I mean it

Do you tend towards specifics or general? depends on context, but as a rule specific

What's the best one you've received?"
i don't get them as a rule, last one I got was how nice my eyes were.

I was also told I had a pretty penis by a lady on here

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By *ose and her beastCouple over a year ago

Watford

Very important to be real on here if I say something I mean it if I don't have anything nice to say I won't say anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I pay a compliment, I mean it"

As he said.. though I think most of the time as the OP says on here compliments are taken with a huge bucket of salt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I certainly mean what I say, some may think I'm saying it to get in their knickers but if I feel something is worth complimenting I shall.

I will complement a profile if I think it's appealing and such with photographs

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Always mean it, no point in not. I like to give a compliment, be in general or specific. NSP your funny and sauciness come out in the forum posts

Best compliment, from a hot work colleague… I’m the complete package apparently. Still dining out on that now

Aww fanks Cake.....

um....

And that's an excellent compliment for you!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I was playing one of the games although it wasn’t a compliment it was a lovely thing to say was a bit teary after reading it normally when I send a compliment I mean it in general !

Awwww it's lovely when a compliment comes from summat like that. Knocks you sideways a little

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Yes, I do mean it. I compliment in a similar way to (the rare occasion) I flirt, both times because that's how I genuinely feel and because it's true. I can't do empty ones, I find it awkward.

It depends on the person - sometimes it can be about a particular feature or trait but other times it's appreciation of how brilliant a person they are overall. The best compliment I've received? I'm not sure I have one that stands above the rest. The ones I particularly cherish are from those who I value and respect, even cherish sometimes. And they all possess two qualities, they've made me feel seen and valued, dare I say important to that person.

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By *hunderace...Man over a year ago

Dudley

I only compliment genuinely if I mean it, sometimes I think they are recieved as some kind of cheap sexual advance and as I'd hate to give that impression I don't do it as much these days.

I think we all look at ourselves and often see only what we perceive as our faults so its nice if for no reason someone makes us feel good by passing a nice comment.

I regularly get compliments on my eye colour, probably 3 or 4 times a week. Perhaps its shallow of me but it always makes me smile

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If I compliment , I definitely mean it.

If I get complimented, I get very awkward.

The best compliment I've ever had was when I walked into eyesight of someone, and they did a double take, stopped what they were doing and said wow, just wow. "

That's a hell of a compliment! Completely unsurprising though you gorgeous woman! (Don't get awkward now, and if you do, I'm sorry)

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By *eardybobMan over a year ago

the Goldilocks Zone

By far and away the best and most flattering compliment I have received in at least the last 20 years was from a very special lady fabber who told me (offine and in person - so no bucket of salt required) that I was a very beautiful man...

I'm not a flagrant complimenter myself - I will never say something I don't mean, so if I have complimented you, you can know that I genuinely mean it...

(not least, because if you are honest you dont have to remember what you have told people in the past... And my memory is shot!!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The best compliment I ever received was from

a guy I was dating. He said I had a brilliant mind! That is the kinda compliment I need.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I never say anything I don't mean, if I compliment a person it's because I genuinely and sincerely want to. I don't really like getting complimented it makes me a bit uncomfortable... Especially if it's on my looks, much prefer a compliment about my personality. "

Why do you think that is?

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

When I give a compliment it's with meaning. I don't say them just for the sake of it.

I used to be hopeless at accepting compliments but as I've got older I am learning just to say "thank you".

Compliments in messages from random people on here I tend to take with a pinch of salt though. The things some people will say to get into your knickers is ridiculous.

Mrs

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If I pay a compliment, I mean it

Do you tend towards specifics or general? depends on context, but as a rule specific

What's the best one you've received? i don't get them as a rule, last one I got was how nice my eyes were.

I was also told I had a pretty penis by a lady on here

That's a pair of fine compliments Agent..... pretty peni are few and far between

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By *orraine999Woman over a year ago

Somewhere

When I compliment someone, it’s said with sincerity.

Receiving compliments and I feel awkward. I can’t explain why.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I give a compliment it's with meaning. I don't say them just for the sake of it.

I used to be hopeless at accepting compliments but as I've got older I am learning just to say "thank you".

Compliments in messages from random people on here I tend to take with a pinch of salt though. The things some people will say to get into your knickers is ridiculous.

Mrs"

That makes me nit want to send compliments as I truly mean them but you may think it's to get in your knickers, there are a few of us that genuinely mean them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I am give a complement I mean it

Being on both sides gives me a out look off I have been on the other end off get in my knickers complement and didn’t like it

So when I pay a complement it’s because I mean it

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Very important to be real on here if I say something I mean it if I don't have anything nice to say I won't say anything"

I completely agree! Being real here is so very important. As is being real in the rest of the world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My most recent remembered compliment was from a customer of mine, who upon learning the real reason I'm bald said she thought I shaved my head because I was cool.

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By *elshkinkyMan over a year ago

south wales

I always mean it when I pay a compliment … otherwise it shows as insincere …. A lot of people struggle with compliments and can show their own humility or often because they have had a past of constant negativity etc … x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That’s the thing with compliments. A thousand people can say you are beautiful/ handsome and it means nothing and you brush it off. Then someone you like says it and suddenly it makes your day. I always compliment genuinely and it’s not get a response it’s just a genuine appreciation of a feature or characteristic that made me smile x

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By *reya73Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I love to compliment and I love to be complimented!

It's one of the greatest gifts we can give to each other.. To name what it is in each other that we love, appreciate and are inspired by.

The greatest compliment I could ever receive was my mum saying to me that if she had her time over again, she would be inspired by me and live life and make choices more like I do!!!! My goodness! I love and respect my mum... So that was a beautiful, gorgeous, precious compliment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like being told I smell nice. Not sure why - I don’t think I smell of shit - but nice that it’s recognised

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If I pay a compliment, I mean it

As he said.. though I think most of the time as the OP says on here compliments are taken with a huge bucket of salt

They are. Absolutely.

Because when you set up a new profile with no text or pictures and get 100 messages in a few minutes telling you "you're beautiful/amazing/just my type/random superlative" you kind of start getting cynical.

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

"When I give a compliment it's with meaning. I don't say them just for the sake of it.

I used to be hopeless at accepting compliments but as I've got older I am learning just to say "thank you".

Compliments in messages from random people on here I tend to take with a pinch of salt though. The things some people will say to get into your knickers is ridiculous.

Mrs

That makes me nit want to send compliments as I truly mean them but you may think it's to get in your knickers, there are a few of us that genuinely mean them

If someone has met me in person then yes I would accept them, but I receive messages telling me how beautiful I am. That's just a ridiculous thing to say when they haven't seen me.

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

I would never give a compliment I don't genuinely mean. I tend to give more where I think they are needed, such as if somebody has a downer on themselves, but my compliments are no less sincere.

I personally feel very uncomfortable receiving compliments. Maybe that's hypocritical. It just seems to me that I'm supposed to agree with the good things being said about me but I don't always. Luke

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By *reya73Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Honestly people.. Tell people every day how much you appreciate them! Even the cashier or the bi's driver.. If they've made you smile or reached you, made your day in the smallest way.. . Tell em, show em!!

This is what makes the world go round.

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By *reya73Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

*bus driver

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I certainly mean what I say, some may think I'm saying it to get in their knickers but if I feel something is worth complimenting I shall.

I will complement a profile if I think it's appealing and such with photographs

I think as long as you're consistent and appear to actually have paid attention to what you're looking at or reading, that comes across genuine.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I love to compliment and I love to be complimented!

It's one of the greatest gifts we can give to each other.. To name what it is in each other that we love, appreciate and are inspired by.

Your posts are like chicken soup for the soul Freya, they really are so lovely. x

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By *reya73Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

When you get them.. The genuine ones.. Take it in. Even just start by saying thank you.. Avoid deflecting them.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Yes, I do mean it. I compliment in a similar way to (the rare occasion) I flirt, both times because that's how I genuinely feel and because it's true. I can't do empty ones, I find it awkward.

Those are the compliments that should mean the most. Being seen and valued is the best compliment I think.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I once got a compliment from a lady on here who is not around very much of late, when I was on a real downer due to a lot of crap going on personally. That compliment meant and still does mean the world to me as the lady knew how cr@p I was feeling at the time and it had me in tears.

I suppose what I am trying to say here is that sometimes compliments can and do mean a hell of a lot to people at times, so please when you post them make them heartfelt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I certainly mean what I say, some may think I'm saying it to get in their knickers but if I feel something is worth complimenting I shall.

I will complement a profile if I think it's appealing and such with photographs

I think as long as you're consistent and appear to actually have paid attention to what you're looking at or reading, that comes across genuine."

I totally do but appears some like and some don't which is life in general I suppose but I'd say mist mistake it for wanting a shag only, my opinion that's all x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

I don’t say anything I don’t mean, compliments are no different and are likely to be specific rather than general.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I only compliment genuinely if I mean it, sometimes I think they are recieved as some kind of cheap sexual advance and as I'd hate to give that impression I don't do it as much these days.

I think we all look at ourselves and often see only what we perceive as our faults so its nice if for no reason someone makes us feel good by passing a nice comment.

I regularly get compliments on my eye colour, probably 3 or 4 times a week. Perhaps its shallow of me but it always makes me smile

Doesn't need to be shallow to smile at being told something nice though.

It is too easy to just see our own faults, seeing ourselves through the eyes of others is hard, because we dont have their eyes.

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By *reya73Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"I love to compliment and I love to be complimented!

It's one of the greatest gifts we can give to each other.. To name what it is in each other that we love, appreciate and are inspired by.

Your posts are like chicken soup for the soul Freya, they really are so lovely. x"

Now that is a compliment I'm having!

And a lovely one too coming from you, Meli the heart warrior.. Thank you x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"By far and away the best and most flattering compliment I have received in at least the last 20 years was from a very special lady fabber who told me (offine and in person - so no bucket of salt required) that I was a very beautiful man...

I'm not a flagrant complimenter myself - I will never say something I don't mean, so if I have complimented you, you can know that I genuinely mean it...

(not least, because if you are honest you dont have to remember what you have told people in the past... And my memory is shot!!) "

Others might want a bucket, salt optional.... but I meant it

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"The best compliment I ever received was from

a guy I was dating. He said I had a brilliant mind! That is the kinda compliment I need. "

I love that kind of compliment!

Best ever!

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By *hesblokeMan over a year ago

Derbyshire village

I always mean em, from the smallest to the largest

Best I've had recently is that I look 30 (!!!!).

I choose to believe em

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"When I give a compliment it's with meaning. I don't say them just for the sake of it.

I used to be hopeless at accepting compliments but as I've got older I am learning just to say "thank you".

Compliments in messages from random people on here I tend to take with a pinch of salt though. The things some people will say to get into your knickers is ridiculous.

Mrs"

You are one of the people who have managed to convince me, after all this time, to try and just say thank you.

And thank you for that my amazing, beautiful, caring friend

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By *antasyrealmCouple over a year ago

Congleton

I thought my doc said nice fanny. Turned out to be acute angina...

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

"When I give a compliment it's with meaning. I don't say them just for the sake of it.

I used to be hopeless at accepting compliments but as I've got older I am learning just to say "thank you".

Compliments in messages from random people on here I tend to take with a pinch of salt though. The things some people will say to get into your knickers is ridiculous.

Mrs

You are one of the people who have managed to convince me, after all this time, to try and just say thank you.

And thank you for that my amazing, beautiful, caring friend

Pleased to of been of service

And thank you for those kind words.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"When I compliment someone, it’s said with sincerity.

Receiving compliments and I feel awkward. I can’t explain why."

It's such a strange thing, isn't it....

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By *B69Woman over a year ago

Wiltshire

"I don’t say anything I don’t mean, compliments are no different and are likely to be specific rather than general. "

This

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If I am give a complement I mean it

Being on both sides gives me a out look off I have been on the other end off get in my knickers complement and didn’t like it

So when I pay a complement it’s because I mean it "

I've never thought anything you've said has been anything but sincere lovely xx

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"My most recent remembered compliment was from a customer of mine, who upon learning the real reason I'm bald said she thought I shaved my head because I was cool.

That's a pretty awesome compliment actually!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Compliments can be given for all sorts of reasons... and clearly on fab most of us take them with a bucket of the old salt.

But when you compliment do you always mean what you say? Do you find something specific and compliment that? Or are you a general complimenter?

And what's the best compliment you remember receiving? Did it mean more because of who it was from?

I don't compliment unless I believe it. Trust is too hard to come by and I don't need to impress people by bullshitting.

The best compliment I have received was from a woman at a social. She told me "now that was an amazing kiss. Do that again" kissing is important to me.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I always mean it when I pay a compliment … otherwise it shows as insincere …. A lot of people struggle with compliments and can show their own humility or often because they have had a past of constant negativity etc … x"

Do you think you struggle with it?

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By *elshkinkyMan over a year ago

south wales

Do you think you struggle with it?"

I don’t think so … it also helps on whose giving it… I manage a fair few staff and hearing them say I’ve helped them or supported them is always nice to hear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Obviously I have recieved better from people I know and worked with. Or when people have told me they respect me. Stuff like that makes my heart warm.

The kiss compliment was different and it stood out in my head

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"That’s the thing with compliments. A thousand people can say you are beautiful/ handsome and it means nothing and you brush it off. Then someone you like says it and suddenly it makes your day. I always compliment genuinely and it’s not get a response it’s just a genuine appreciation of a feature or characteristic that made me smile x"

You make a good point there....

I shall counter with the sadness that for many a thousand people can say you're beautiful/handsome or whatever and you dont hear it, and one person says you're not and it's the only thing you can hear.

That's why it is so hard to believe compliments for many of us.... the volume is turned too high on the negative.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I love to compliment and I love to be complimented!

It's one of the greatest gifts we can give to each other.. To name what it is in each other that we love, appreciate and are inspired by.

That must have been so special!

That's made me ch*ked up

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I like being told I smell nice. Not sure why - I don’t think I smell of shit - but nice that it’s recognised

Now I want to know what you do smell like dammit!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I am give a complement I mean it

Being on both sides gives me a out look off I have been on the other end off get in my knickers complement and didn’t like it

So when I pay a complement it’s because I mean it

I've never thought anything you've said has been anything but sincere lovely xx"

Awww thanks you so much xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I would never give a compliment I don't genuinely mean. I tend to give more where I think they are needed, such as if somebody has a downer on themselves, but my compliments are no less sincere.

I personally feel very uncomfortable receiving compliments. Maybe that's hypocritical. It just seems to me that I'm supposed to agree with the good things being said about me but I don't always. Luke"

That's how so many of us feel sadly Luke.... a wise woman (on this thread) told me just to accept the compliments. Because to not do so is taking away the right of the person giving the compliment to have that opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You make a good point there....

That's why it is so hard to believe compliments for many of us.... the volume is turned too high on the negative."

We disregard when we think people are only saying it to be nice. It doesn't feel right because we don't have the same view in our heads.

If someone says I'm handsome I tend to ignore it because that's not how I see myself (even tho I know I'm not seeing myself as others do)

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Honestly people.. Tell people every day how much you appreciate them! Even the cashier or the bus driver.. If they've made you smile or reached you, made your day in the smallest way.. . Tell em, show em!!

This is what makes the world go round.

X "

Freya, you are utterly right!

I try to live by this. When I leave the house

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I once got a compliment from a lady on here who is not around very much of late, when I was on a real downer due to a lot of crap going on personally. That compliment meant and still does mean the world to me as the lady knew how cr@p I was feeling at the time and it had me in tears.

I suppose what I am trying to say here is that sometimes compliments can and do mean a hell of a lot to people at times, so please when you post them make them heartfelt

That's the best way.

It's lovely that someone made you feel that way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only offer genuine compliments, never flattery

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

If I haven't got anything nice to say, I won't say it.

So I genuinely always mean it when I compliment someone.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I certainly mean what I say, some may think I'm saying it to get in their knickers but if I feel something is worth complimenting I shall.

I will complement a profile if I think it's appealing and such with photographs

I think as long as you're consistent and appear to actually have paid attention to what you're looking at or reading, that comes across genuine.

I totally do but appears some like and some don't which is life in general I suppose but I'd say mist mistake it for wanting a shag only, my opinion that's all x"

Unfortunately a lot of people here have been a bit conditioned to believe that.

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By *hunderace...Man over a year ago

Dudley

I think without doubt there's 2 compliments I've had either in the forums or privately in texts from fab friends that I value highly and have meant the most to me...

Few are aware of all the challenges I've faced in the last 2yrs but most will know at least some of them. All will remain nameless but a couple have said I was the most positive person they knew, that gave me strength.

I've also been told that I was the best a father could've been to my son and did all I could, that has to be the finest compliment I or anyone could ever wish to receive and nothing will ever come close to how it still makes me feel.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why do you think that is?"

I don't know, maybe it's because I find it more believable that someone would find me funny or nice or whatever than truly think I'm physically attractive... Or maybe it's because looks arnt as important to me as personality, I'd much rather somone remember me for being a kind/caring/funny/smart or whatever person than a pretty person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend not to make deliberate compliments

I'd sooner they be a fluid and natural part of a conversation as opposed to wedged in and direct

They always seem a little forced when they are stand alone comments

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not a very good complimenter or do it often so when I do compliment someone I absolutely mean it. I also hate compliments, I take it with a pinch of salt and forget about it, thinking it couldn't ever be true.

The best compliment has always got to be my eyes. Husband says they're so honest (and naughty of course).

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all "

I think that can be true sometimes but it's a tad cynical - I'd like to believe that we all (bar when we're trying to have sex with someone) genuinely mean our compliments and say them as appreciative verbal nods, at least 90% of the time.

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

This is what makes the world go round.

Freya, you are utterly right!

I try to live by this. When I leave the house

I recently did this with the chap who served me in B&Q. First time I was there, he was going out of his way to call a taxi for an old guy, next time I went in he served me again and I mentioned it. He was really chuffed! And his co worker said she had seen it... I just said it's nice to be nice

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

"I would never give a compliment I don't genuinely mean. I tend to give more where I think they are needed, such as if somebody has a downer on themselves, but my compliments are no less sincere.

I personally feel very uncomfortable receiving compliments. Maybe that's hypocritical. It just seems to me that I'm supposed to agree with the good things being said about me but I don't always. Luke

Nowadays I say thank you. I just feel very uncomfortable because it seems like I'm agreeing with them, but really I'm acknowledging their kindness.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I don’t say anything I don’t mean, compliments are no different and are likely to be specific rather than general. "

It's good to be consistent

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

If I compliment someone it's because I mean it, not to curry favour with them or a feeble attempt to get in their pants.

I however don't take them too well as I'm always skeptical that there's some hidden agenda behind it

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I always mean em, from the smallest to the largest

Best I've had recently is that I look 30 (!!!!).

I choose to believe em

You should! I'd have said 32 though.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I thought my doc said nice fanny. Turned out to be acute angina..."

Awkward....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am a complimenter! I like to put a smile on peoples faces and fill their tanks - its always genuine and honest.. I do not blow smoke up people's arses

I a very bad complimentee.. I get flustered and panic... My instinct is 'run'

often i can't run, so i turn to humour

its never failed me yet

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I don’t say anything I don’t mean, compliments are no different and are likely to be specific rather than general.

This

Again, consistency is important....

Do you take them well?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

I agree with _eli.

I doubt I will ever meet anyone I have messaged on here (tho it hurts my heart to admit it)

If I pay a compliment what favour am I currying? What am I going to get? I'm not having a go at the lady _eli quoted, I'm just letting you know that sometimes it's nice to let people know when you admire them

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I don't compliment unless I believe it. Trust is too hard to come by and I don't need to impress people by bullshitting.

The best compliment I have received was from a woman at a social. She told me "now that was an amazing kiss. Do that again" kissing is important to me.

That's a lovely compliment then.

And I think bullshit usually ends up being unimpressive really. You're right about trust of course.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Do you think you struggle with it?

I don’t think so … it also helps on whose giving it… I manage a fair few staff and hearing them say I’ve helped them or supported them is always nice to hear

You are beautifully supportive WK x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Obviously I have recieved better from people I know and worked with. Or when people have told me they respect me. Stuff like that makes my heart warm.

The kiss compliment was different and it stood out in my head "

I can see why. There's no rhyme or reason for the compliments that mean most to us sometimes.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all "

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

You make a good point there....

That's why it is so hard to believe compliments for many of us.... the volume is turned too high on the negative.

We disregard when we think people are only saying it to be nice. It doesn't feel right because we don't have the same view in our heads.

If someone says I'm handsome I tend to ignore it because that's not how I see myself (even tho I know I'm not seeing myself as others do)"

As I said somewhere way up there ^^

We can see ourselves through the eyes of others, as we dont have their eyes....

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I only offer genuine compliments, never flattery"

Do you accept them well?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not one too fake compliments. I always look for the best in people and compliment them on that.

Each of us are unique and attractive in our own ways.

The best compliment I have ever received on fab was that someone felt so safe in my arms that it just felt natural to be there.

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

Oh god not my best subject… I’m learning more and more about myself as I talk to close friends and realising how closed off I’ve truly become.. I’m not a gushy human so when I say something complementary I absolutely mean it. Whilst I will accept complements from friends I still struggle to do it graciously. If it’s someone I don’t know well I dismiss it as trying to achieve something.. it’s crap really. I didn’t realise I was quite so jaded

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If I haven't got anything nice to say, I won't say it.

So I genuinely always mean it when I compliment someone."

What's the best one you remember receiving?

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I don't hand out compliments freely or easily.

When I give one it is genuinely sincere.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"If I pay a compliment what favour am I currying? What am I going to get? I'm not having a go at the lady _eli quoted, I'm just letting you know that sometimes it's nice to let people know when you admire them

Thinking that our compliments/those of our friends are genuine and doubting others is a thing isn't it? I'm not sure why that is - it reminds me of the thread Tea did earlier about being a "good" person and someone said treating others equally. Why do we believe ourselves but question others? I'm not sure but it's interesting.

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By *elshkinkyMan over a year ago

south wales

Do you think you struggle with it?

I don’t think so … it also helps on whose giving it… I manage a fair few staff and hearing them say I’ve helped them or supported them is always nice to hear

You are beautifully supportive WK x"

Lush compliment thank you and I mean what I say

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I think without doubt there's 2 compliments I've had either in the forums or privately in texts from fab friends that I value highly and have meant the most to me...

That's a hell of a compliment. And true.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

I agree with _eli.

I doubt I will ever meet anyone I have messaged on here (tho it hurts my heart to admit it)

Why is it nice?

That makes it sound like it's more about the person giving the compliment, than the one receiving.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Why do you think that is?

That makes all the sense in the world

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it."

Unfair how?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I tend not to make deliberate compliments

I'd sooner they be a fluid and natural part of a conversation as opposed to wedged in and direct

They always seem a little forced when they are stand alone comments"

See, I think sometimes they seem more genuine. Depends really.

It's intriguing how differently people view things. Always gets me.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'm not a very good complimenter or do it often so when I do compliment someone I absolutely mean it. I also hate compliments, I take it with a pinch of salt and forget about it, thinking it couldn't ever be true.

The best compliment has always got to be my eyes. Husband says they're so honest (and naughty of course). "

Like me.... you assume they've got the wrong person, or are just being insincere....

Honest and naughty is an awesome compliment. And combo.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

This is what makes the world go round.

Freya, you are utterly right!

I try to live by this. When I leave the house

It really is! I think it can absolutely make a person's day if you notice them.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I would never give a compliment I don't genuinely mean. I tend to give more where I think they are needed, such as if somebody has a downer on themselves, but my compliments are no less sincere.

I personally feel very uncomfortable receiving compliments. Maybe that's hypocritical. It just seems to me that I'm supposed to agree with the good things being said about me but I don't always. Luke

Nowadays I say thank you. I just feel very uncomfortable because it seems like I'm agreeing with them, but really I'm acknowledging their kindness. "

And that's exactly the point. Just acknowledging their kind words.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"If I compliment someone it's because I mean it, not to curry favour with them or a feeble attempt to get in their pants.

I however don't take them too well as I'm always skeptical that there's some hidden agenda behind it

That's because we are 2 bodies with the same brain

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I am a complimenter! I like to put a smile on peoples faces and fill their tanks - its always genuine and honest.. I do not blow smoke up people's arses

I a very bad complimentee.. I get flustered and panic... My instinct is 'run'

often i can't run, so i turn to humour

its never failed me yet "

Oh Midnight you glorious beast!

Absolutely! That's why I give the compliments. Because it's awesome to make a person smile with something lovely.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I’m not one too fake compliments. I always look for the best in people and compliment them on that.

Each of us are unique and attractive in our own ways.

The best compliment I have ever received on fab was that someone felt so safe in my arms that it just felt natural to be there. "

When they're comfortable enough right from the start to fall asleep. It's the best thing

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"If I compliment someone it's because I mean it, not to curry favour with them or a feeble attempt to get in their pants.

I however don't take them too well as I'm always skeptical that there's some hidden agenda behind it

That's because we are 2 bodies with the same brain

That we are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am a complimenter! I like to put a smile on peoples faces and fill their tanks - its always genuine and honest.. I do not blow smoke up people's arses

I a very bad complimentee.. I get flustered and panic... My instinct is 'run'

often i can't run, so i turn to humour

its never failed me yet

Oh Midnight you glorious beast!

Absolutely! That's why I give the compliments. Because it's awesome to make a person smile with something lovely."

Poshy I've been waiting for ages for you to comment

you need to read faster

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Oh god not my best subject… I’m learning more and more about myself as I talk to close friends and realising how closed off I’ve truly become.. I’m not a gushy human so when I say something complementary I absolutely mean it. Whilst I will accept complements from friends I still struggle to do it graciously. If it’s someone I don’t know well I dismiss it as trying to achieve something.. it’s crap really. I didn’t realise I was quite so jaded

A compliment from you always means a lot to the person receiving it. Trust me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Know thy self.

And we think we do. But we don't.

How your voice sounds in your head isn't how others hear it.

We either have inflated senses of self or deflated.

We all know beautiful people who are insecure about how they look. Or people less gifted with looks who "punch above their weight" because they think they are good looking and that confidence works.

Also It's easier to believe the dark voices in your mind if you have low self esteem

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I am a complimenter! I like to put a smile on peoples faces and fill their tanks - its always genuine and honest.. I do not blow smoke up people's arses

I a very bad complimentee.. I get flustered and panic... My instinct is 'run'

often i can't run, so i turn to humour

its never failed me yet

Oh Midnight you glorious beast!

Absolutely! That's why I give the compliments. Because it's awesome to make a person smile with something lovely.

Poshy I've been waiting for ages for you to comment

you need to read faster

Twat

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I don't hand out compliments freely or easily.

When I give one it is genuinely sincere. "

The best compliment you've ever given me is printed out and framed.

And I dont even care if that's self involved of me.

Thank you Chill

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

“Remember the compliments forget the insults”

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Do you think you struggle with it?

I don’t think so … it also helps on whose giving it… I manage a fair few staff and hearing them say I’ve helped them or supported them is always nice to hear

You are beautifully supportive WK x

Lush compliment thank you and I mean what I say "

Ditto. And thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

I agree with _eli.

I doubt I will ever meet anyone I have messaged on here (tho it hurts my heart to admit it)

Why is it nice?

That makes it sound like it's more about the person giving the compliment, than the one receiving.

I like hearing when I do good work.

It's nice that my boss takes time to tell me what I'm doing right rather than what I'm doing wrong.

He doesn't get any benefit. So why do it? Because I feel better afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am a complimenter! I like to put a smile on peoples faces and fill their tanks - its always genuine and honest.. I do not blow smoke up people's arses

I a very bad complimentee.. I get flustered and panic... My instinct is 'run'

often i can't run, so i turn to humour

its never failed me yet

Oh Midnight you glorious beast!

Absolutely! That's why I give the compliments. Because it's awesome to make a person smile with something lovely.

Poshy I've been waiting for ages for you to comment

you need to read faster

Twat

Whatevs

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

"I think without doubt there's 2 compliments I've had either in the forums or privately in texts from fab friends that I value highly and have meant the most to me...

I don't know you personally but do know some of what you've been through via your forum posts. That is THE best compliment.

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By *ig_eric_tionMan over a year ago

IPSWICH

I only pay compliments when I mean them. It may be about something specific or a general observation.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?"

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive."

Nice bum

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By *hunderace...Man over a year ago

Dudley

"I think without doubt there's 2 compliments I've had either in the forums or privately in texts from fab friends that I value highly and have meant the most to me...

That's a hell of a compliment. And true."

You know how dark things got, thank you for being one of the few x

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"“Remember the compliments forget the insults”"

If only it were so easy....

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

"I don’t say anything I don’t mean, compliments are no different and are likely to be specific rather than general.

It's good to be consistent "

Only way to be, no crossed wires then

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I am a complimenter! I like to put a smile on peoples faces and fill their tanks - its always genuine and honest.. I do not blow smoke up people's arses

I a very bad complimentee.. I get flustered and panic... My instinct is 'run'

often i can't run, so i turn to humour

its never failed me yet

Oh Midnight you glorious beast!

Absolutely! That's why I give the compliments. Because it's awesome to make a person smile with something lovely.

Poshy I've been waiting for ages for you to comment

you need to read faster

Twat

Whatevs

Luv ya

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I only pay compliments when I mean them. It may be about something specific or a general observation."

What's been your best received?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive."

I agree 100% with this poshy

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By *hunderace...Man over a year ago

Dudley

"I think without doubt there's 2 compliments I've had either in the forums or privately in texts from fab friends that I value highly and have meant the most to me...

I don't know you personally but do know some of what you've been through via your forum posts. That is THE best compliment."

Thank you, who could ever ask for more.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

Nice bum

Cheers treacle

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I think without doubt there's 2 compliments I've had either in the forums or privately in texts from fab friends that I value highly and have meant the most to me...

That's a hell of a compliment. And true.

You know how dark things got, thank you for being one of the few x"

An honour

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

I make sense occasionally....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive."

Agree with this Posh. My compliments have no ulterior motives. If I have motives they are clear

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

Agree with this Posh. My compliments have no ulterior motives. If I have motives they are clear "

I told you! You can't get in my knickers. They'd fall down and that's impractical.

Joking aside, I think there are so many people for whom that's true.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

I make sense occasionally...."

You pretty much always make sense..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

Agree with this Posh. My compliments have no ulterior motives. If I have motives they are clear

I told you! You can't get in my knickers. They'd fall down and that's impractical.

Joking aside, I think there are so many people for whom that's true."

You wear kickers?

are they similar to a yo-yo?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

I make sense occasionally....

You pretty much always make sense..

Aww fanks

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

Agree with this Posh. My compliments have no ulterior motives. If I have motives they are clear

I told you! You can't get in my knickers. They'd fall down and that's impractical.

Joking aside, I think there are so many people for whom that's true.

You wear kickers?

are they similar to a yo-yo?

Not often.... but yeah, not dissimilar

They're carefully attached to my halo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am a complimenter! I like to put a smile on peoples faces and fill their tanks - its always genuine and honest.. I do not blow smoke up people's arses

I a very bad complimentee.. I get flustered and panic... My instinct is 'run'

often i can't run, so i turn to humour

its never failed me yet

Oh Midnight you glorious beast!

Absolutely! That's why I give the compliments. Because it's awesome to make a person smile with something lovely.

Poshy I've been waiting for ages for you to comment

you need to read faster

Twat

Whatevs

Luv ya

Love ya too poshy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

Agree with this Posh. My compliments have no ulterior motives. If I have motives they are clear

I told you! You can't get in my knickers. They'd fall down and that's impractical.

Joking aside, I think there are so many people for whom that's true.

You wear kickers?

are they similar to a yo-yo?

Not often.... but yeah, not dissimilar

They're carefully attached to my halo."

A detachable halo I hope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

Who is calling you poshy.. I feel like you are cheatin' on me

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By *acDreamyMan over a year ago

Wirral

Someone recently told me I had the kindest eyes they had ever seen. I didn't really know what to say!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone recently told me I had the kindest eyes they had ever seen. I didn't really know what to say! "

What the hell is a kind eye

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

I make sense occasionally....

You pretty much always make sense..

Aww fanks

Your welcome.. even if you don't read my messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone recently told me I had the kindest eyes they had ever seen. I didn't really know what to say!

What the hell is a kind eye

One that doesn’t go straight to boobs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

Who is calling you poshy.. I feel like you are cheatin' on me

Sorry Twas moi Midnight

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone recently told me I had the kindest eyes they had ever seen. I didn't really know what to say!

What the hell is a kind eye

One that doesn’t go straight to boobs

what kind of a pervert doesn't look at boobs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

Who is calling you poshy.. I feel like you are cheatin' on me

Sorry Twas moi Midnight

Do i need to drive down there and pee on her

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By *acDreamyMan over a year ago

Wirral

Well that was one possible response but it would have somewhat destroyed the poor girls illusion!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

Agree with this Posh. My compliments have no ulterior motives. If I have motives they are clear

I told you! You can't get in my knickers. They'd fall down and that's impractical.

Joking aside, I think there are so many people for whom that's true.

You wear kickers?

are they similar to a yo-yo?

Not often.... but yeah, not dissimilar

They're carefully attached to my halo.

A detachable halo I hope

As detachable as the knickers

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By *ig_eric_tionMan over a year ago

IPSWICH

"I only pay compliments when I mean them. It may be about something specific or a general observation.

What's been your best received?"

I don't receive many on here.

I think actually the best compliments aren't anything specific but general sentiments such as acceptance and conversation.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Someone recently told me I had the kindest eyes they had ever seen. I didn't really know what to say! "

You say "thank you". Or if you're me..... "trust me, there's fuck all kind about these eyes.....", then blush and run away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone recently told me I had the kindest eyes they had ever seen. I didn't really know what to say!

What the hell is a kind eye

One that doesn’t go straight to boobs

what kind of a pervert doesn't look at boobs"

Not if they have kind eyes

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

I make sense occasionally....

You pretty much always make sense..

Aww fanks

Your welcome.. even if you don't read my messages

Don't take it personally.... my inbox scares me

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Someone recently told me I had the kindest eyes they had ever seen. I didn't really know what to say!

What the hell is a kind eye

One that doesn’t go straight to boobs

They piss me right off those do!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone recently told me I had the kindest eyes they had ever seen. I didn't really know what to say!

What the hell is a kind eye

One that doesn’t go straight to boobs

what kind of a pervert doesn't look at boobs

Not if they have kind eyes

What if their hands are fondling the boobies?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

Who is calling you poshy.. I feel like you are cheatin' on me

Sorry Twas moi Midnight

Do i need to drive down there and pee on her

Again?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

I make sense occasionally....

You pretty much always make sense..

Aww fanks

Your welcome.. even if you don't read my messages

Don't take it personally.... my inbox scares me

Wotevs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

Who is calling you poshy.. I feel like you are cheatin' on me

Sorry Twas moi Midnight

Do i need to drive down there and pee on her

Again?

Shush you, you know you luvs it

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I only pay compliments when I mean them. It may be about something specific or a general observation.

What's been your best received?

I don't receive many on here.

I think actually the best compliments aren't anything specific but general sentiments such as acceptance and conversation."

Well, I think you're rather delightful

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On here it's mostly to curry favour

That's really no compliment at all

That's unfair to a hell of a lot of people on here.

And I find it very sad that anyone actually believes it.

Unfair how?

Because a lot of the time it isn't to curry favour. Some people just give a compliment because they see something to compliment. Not everyone has an ulterior motive.

I agree 100% with this poshy

Who is calling you poshy.. I feel like you are cheatin' on me

Sorry Twas moi Midnight

Do i need to drive down there and pee on her

Again?

Shush you, you know you luvs it

I dooooooo!

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By *inAndTonic21Couple over a year ago

Merseyside

Yes i try to give compliments a lot and make them genuine as it’s nice to see someone’s face light up when they receive it

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By *acDreamyMan over a year ago

Wirral

"Someone recently told me I had the kindest eyes they had ever seen. I didn't really know what to say!

You say "thank you". Or if you're me..... "trust me, there's fuck all kind about these eyes.....", then blush and run away

I did say thank you!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Yes i try to give compliments a lot and make them genuine as it’s nice to see someone’s face light up when they receive it

I think compliments can absolutely make someone's day. And that can only be a good thing!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Someone recently told me I had the kindest eyes they had ever seen. I didn't really know what to say!

You say "thank you". Or if you're me..... "trust me, there's fuck all kind about these eyes.....", then blush and run away

I did say thank you! "

I knew you would have.... cos you're a gentleman!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Thank you all for joining in my rambling musing again, I do love when y'all put up with my incessant babble and questions.

I love to compliment people. It makes them joy and sometimes roll their eyes. But either way, brings at least little smile I hope.

And I mean what I say when I do it. It'll be a genuine compliment. Sometimes specific, sometimes general. Oftentimes completely random and pretty obscure. But always genuine.

And the greatest compliment I've received has been someone's trust. Almost instant and so pure

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