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Not getting any joy on here. help
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys Been on here a while now and getting no joy at all. I’m not expecting much but surely some interest wouldn’t go a miss. Help me out guys what am I doing wrong  |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
Age range 18-99. So you will fuck anyone.
Can't accommodate, people may presume that you are married.
Photos not clear apart from a dick pic.
Dull text with poor spelling and punctuation.
Start by improving your profile and then ensure you write unique messages to ladies that you are interested in and whose criteria you meet.
Go to socials and clubs to meet people. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"Age range 18-99. So you will fuck anyone.
Can't accommodate, people may presume that you are married.
Photos not clear apart from a dick pic.
Dull text with poor spelling and punctuation.
Start by improving your profile and then ensure you write unique messages to ladies that you are interested in and whose criteria you meet.
Go to socials and clubs to meet people."
Oops, just seen that you say you are married ! Yep. That will put a lot of people off.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The married thing will definitely put a big percentage of people off.
So I'm not feeling sorry for you.
Theres single guys on here struggling too. "
I’m not looking for people to feel sorry for me. Just would like a few pointers in the right direction. Thanks all |
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"The married thing will definitely put a big percentage of people off.
So I'm not feeling sorry for you.
Theres single guys on here struggling too.
I’m not looking for people to feel sorry for me. Just would like a few pointers in the right direction. Thanks all "
Esther Perel, relationship expert. Plenty of interviews and advice on YouTube. Probably best to start with "mating in captivity"
Or you could get your wife a book named "leave a cheater, gain a life" that's a good one too. Gives you hope and strength to keep living once your world has been destroyed, your heart broken and you want to die.
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I think you need to adjust your expectations OP. You’ve been on here 3 months. A single man with an incredible profile and super hot pictures could expect not to be fending women off in that timeframe.
Also, contrary to popular belief, most folk on Fab are not just degenerates who are desperate for sex at all costs, so getting involved in extra marital affairs isn’t for everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The married thing will definitely put a big percentage of people off.
So I'm not feeling sorry for you.
Theres single guys on here struggling too.
I’m not looking for people to feel sorry for me. Just would like a few pointers in the right direction. Thanks all "
Really ??Sorry for you ??
You must not be on here that long so
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said, married is a turn off, unless she consents to you playing away. And she range that large means your just here to fuck anything that moves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As others have said, married is a turn off, unless she consents to you playing away. And she range that large means your just here to fuck anything that moves. "
I’d also fuck anything that doesn’t move !!
Yeah sounds desperate but hey !
Get in line  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As you can see, many will find the "married" issue unpalatable. However, there are all sorts on this site. Some will be in the same situation as you, whatever your motive for being here. It isn't necessarily a deterrent and despite taking flak for it, you are honest about it, at the very least.
The issue is the numbers game. Men far outnumber women here. It's as simple as that. You have to keep your eyes open and feel your way along. You'll get a feel for what works and what won't eventually.
Good luck.
For the record, no, I haven't 'cheated' on anyone. I don't base others' life situation on my experience and judge them for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Age range 18-99. So you will fuck anyone.
Can't accommodate, people may presume that you are married.
Photos not clear apart from a dick pic.
Dull text with poor spelling and punctuation.
Start by improving your profile and then ensure you write unique messages to ladies that you are interested in and whose criteria you meet.
Go to socials and clubs to meet people."
Should hire out your review services lizzy  |
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By *omer47Man
over a year ago
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I dont think your pictures are that bad. Being a married man on here is a big no no as couples and women don't want to or seem to avoid you like the plague, but there are married women on here doing exactly the same thing as you are, but thats fine. A married woman on here is still cheating but that seems to be fine by females and couples, but married men get slated.......double standards come to mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The married thing will definitely put a big percentage of people off.
So I'm not feeling sorry for you.
Theres single guys on here struggling too.
I’m not looking for people to feel sorry for me. Just would like a few pointers in the right direction. Thanks all "
dump the wife, accomadate the end. |
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"Maybe write something on your profile as it is your not doing yourself any favours  "
He did have a bio, but it said he was married. He got feedback that that might be why he’s not being as successful as he’d like to be, so now he’s deleted it. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
"Maybe write something on your profile as it is your not doing yourself any favours
He did have a bio, but it said he was married. He got feedback that that might be why he’s not being as successful as he’d like to be, so now he’s deleted it. "
Ah I see, ooops  |
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"Getting some hate on here aren’t i"
Only from people who object to being part to cheating......
Think about it ? It doesn't matter how many cock hungry women are on here.
It does matter... how many :- Live by you, are in your age range, will accommodate, don't mind you being married and think you are sexy .....
Now .... that narrows the chances down a bit ....... so let's be realistic here..... you are doing REALLY WELL |
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"Maybe write something on your profile as it is your not doing yourself any favours
He did have a bio, but it said he was married. He got feedback that that might be why he’s not being as successful as he’d like to be, so now he’s deleted it. "
Good innit. Now maybe he will lie. Who says honesty pays |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well after all that constructive criticism OP, time for vodka "
That's not constructive, brutal is more the word. Any excuse to tear others down it seems |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi guys Been on here a while now and getting no joy at all. I’m not expecting much but surely some interest wouldn’t go a miss. Help me out guys what am I doing wrong "
You aren't doing anything wrong,I think most are struggling at the moment, Covid has certainly killed a mood. Stick around the forums and build up some connections, go from there.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe write something on your profile as it is your not doing yourself any favours
He did have a bio, but it said he was married. He got feedback that that might be why he’s not being as successful as he’d like to be, so now he’s deleted it. "
Him and lots of others, no need to shame him for it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought being honest would be the best way to go about things. Now I feel like maybe this isn’t the place for me."
No, stick around. Of course it is a place for you, everyone fits here. |
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"I thought being honest would be the best way to go about things. Now I feel like maybe this isn’t the place for me."
There is a place for everyone on here. Don't let others make you feel like you don't belong here. Not everyone will meet married people but some definitely will.
Give it time, go to socials and clubs, get yourself known on the scene, don't just rely on this site.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought being honest would be the best way to go about things. Now I feel like maybe this isn’t the place for me."
Just block and delete the ones who keep harping on about the W word. You have just as much right to be here as anyone else |
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"Maybe write something on your profile as it is your not doing yourself any favours
He did have a bio, but it said he was married. He got feedback that that might be why he’s not being as successful as he’d like to be, so now he’s deleted it.
Him and lots of others, no need to shame him for it.
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The guy asked why he wasn’t doing well and people told him why they thought it was. People will always have strong views on cheating, it’s naive to expect they won’t share them when asked. |
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"I thought being honest would be the best way to go about things. Now I feel like maybe this isn’t the place for me."
Being honest is definitely the way to go. As you can see from this thread there are people who are and aren’t ok with people who’re cheating. It’ll make it more difficult for you and narrow your pool, but some people will still meet you.
Don’t hide it, that’s worse and can lead to problems if people find out. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Hi guys Been on here a while now and getting no joy at all. I’m not expecting much but surely some interest wouldn’t go a miss. Help me out guys what am I doing wrong "
Op
Well not having a go at you but reading other commitments that you're married, ask yourself a question do you love your partner and if she was on here without your knowledge how would you act if anything I think for whatever reason you need to be honest with yourself and same goes for your partner I myself know what it feels like to be cheated on and don't agree but it is your life and something that you have to live with taking on board the consequences try and save your marriage do plenty of talking.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe write something on your profile as it is your not doing yourself any favours
He did have a bio, but it said he was married. He got feedback that that might be why he’s not being as successful as he’d like to be, so now he’s deleted it.
Him and lots of others, no need to shame him for it.
The guy asked why he wasn’t doing well and people told him why they thought it was. People will always have strong views on cheating, it’s naive to expect they won’t share them when asked. "
He never asked for advice on his profile content though and you responded about his being married after he had deleted his bio, in my eyes that is shaming him |
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"Maybe write something on your profile as it is your not doing yourself any favours
He did have a bio, but it said he was married. He got feedback that that might be why he’s not being as successful as he’d like to be, so now he’s deleted it.
Him and lots of others, no need to shame him for it.
The guy asked why he wasn’t doing well and people told him why they thought it was. People will always have strong views on cheating, it’s naive to expect they won’t share them when asked.
He never asked for advice on his profile content though and you responded about his being married after he had deleted his bio, in my eyes that is shaming him"
He asked what he was doing wrong, from the replies he received I’d say that was widely understood as a request for profile help. How else could anyone have a view without knowing him and without him providing any other details about what he’s doing.
I pointed out factually what he had done. If there’s shame in that, that’s not my fault. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe write something on your profile as it is your not doing yourself any favours
He did have a bio, but it said he was married. He got feedback that that might be why he’s not being as successful as he’d like to be, so now he’s deleted it.
Him and lots of others, no need to shame him for it.
The guy asked why he wasn’t doing well and people told him why they thought it was. People will always have strong views on cheating, it’s naive to expect they won’t share them when asked.
He never asked for advice on his profile content though and you responded about his being married after he had deleted his bio, in my eyes that is shaming him
He asked what he was doing wrong, from the replies he received I’d say that was widely understood as a request for profile help. How else could anyone have a view without knowing him and without him providing any other details about what he’s doing.
I pointed out factually what he had done. If there’s shame in that, that’s not my fault. "
I disagree. So there we are. Have a great day |
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"Age range 18-99. So you will fuck anyone."
Never get this argument. No it doesn't mean I would fuck anyone. It just means age isn't a big factor on someone being sexy. If they're sexy to me I would fuck them, if they're not my type I wouldn't.
*As long as they're an adult of course. |
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"I thought being honest would be the best way to go about things. Now I feel like maybe this isn’t the place for me."
There are lots of married people on here without their partners' permission. And just as many people on here don't judge them for it. We all have our reasons.
Just be honest, and you'll find your niche.
May I suggest popping into the Lounge Forum and interacting a little more? Folk will get to know you more, then.
Good luck, OP.
Please don't be put off by the Judgey Judys & Negative Nellys! X
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought being honest would be the best way to go about things. Now I feel like maybe this isn’t the place for me.
There are lots of married people on here without their partners' permission. And just as many people on here don't judge them for it. We all have our reasons.
Just be honest, and you'll find your niche.
May I suggest popping into the Lounge Forum and interacting a little more? Folk will get to know you more, then.
Good luck, OP.
Please don't be put off by the Judgey Judys & Negative Nellys! X
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No reference to men ?
A tad sexiest no!!?
I think I’m just as judgey and super negative!
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