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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Man are men, right?
*insert stereotypes here
Yes men are greatly underestimated in certain aspects of life like how emotionally enable they can be for the right person that goes out of their way to reassure them that they have value.
What other things are men underestimated for? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Their ability to look after a child "
That’s a great one. The amount of comments I’ve had about being a ‘good dad and taking an interest in my child’ is ridiculous. It’s like I’m going out of my way to do it and it’s unexpected |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Here?
Having thoughts outside the sexual
Sending a message without it being motivated by a wish to get their fingers wet"
It’s as though men can’t have a conversation with someone without it being sexually charged and motivated  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same  "
Oh ffs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same "
My Mum takes this one step further
Heaven forbid his eyelids close for 30 seconds
"Can you just....?"
"Oh sorry, were you asleep?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same
My Mum takes this one step further
Heaven forbid his eyelids close for 30 seconds
"Can you just....?"
"Oh sorry, were you asleep?"
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" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same
Oh ffs "
I pointed out that I was working at the time and came home to a clean house, laundry up to date, a hot cup of coffee and dinner in the oven. I didn't point out that her husband waits until ten minutes before she gets home to start on her list  |
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" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same
My Mum takes this one step further
Heaven forbid his eyelids close for 30 seconds
"Can you just....?"
"Oh sorry, were you asleep?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Their ability to do housework. Most men I know can, and do. "
Not just the ability but to actually enjoy doing the house work, cooking, cleaning and ironing.
Mr HH |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Their kindness.
I'm fortunate enough to have had a lot of good, strong, reliable men in my family. They may not be the most open emotionally but they were kind and could be very selfless in their actions. |
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What is one thing that men are underestimated about?
Being intelligent..... harsh ... but honest ...
The amount of stupidity in the male species is beyond belief!
We are great, we are always right, I have gun, grr, I am man, we fight, grr.....
If women ran the world we would actually look after the planet, the animals, the people and the child....
It is the distinct lack of empathy that man has for others and the world that astounds me....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Their ability to do housework. Most men I know can, and do.
Not just the ability but to actually enjoy doing the house work, cooking, cleaning and ironing.
Mr HH"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Their kindness.
I'm fortunate enough to have had a lot of good, strong, reliable men in my family. They may not be the most open emotionally but they were kind and could be very selfless in their actions."
Being open emotionally is unfortunately often due to conditioning. But as you’ve pointed out the signs are often there is you look and they just need to be reciprocated |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"Their kindness.
I'm fortunate enough to have had a lot of good, strong, reliable men in my family. They may not be the most open emotionally but they were kind and could be very selfless in their actions."
Are we related? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Their kindness.
I'm fortunate enough to have had a lot of good, strong, reliable men in my family. They may not be the most open emotionally but they were kind and could be very selfless in their actions.
Are we related? "
Maybe. My lot are like rabbits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is one thing that men are underestimated about?
Being intelligent..... harsh ... but honest ...
The amount of stupidity in the male species is beyond belief!
We are great, we are always right, I have gun, grr, I am man, we fight, grr.....
If women ran the world we would actually look after the planet, the animals, the people and the child....
It is the distinct lack of empathy that man has for others and the world that astounds me....
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If women ran the world? Maybe...there would be far more bitching though....so we might not get much done |
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I think men are underestimated in many areas. I'm often surprised by the casual way my friends suggest their husbands just aren't up to scratch, when any fool can see their husbands are just living down to their wife's low expectations. They're perfectly capable but have no need to be because their wife doesn't expect it of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Their kindness.
I'm fortunate enough to have had a lot of good, strong, reliable men in my family. They may not be the most open emotionally but they were kind and could be very selfless in their actions.
Being open emotionally is unfortunately often due to conditioning. But as you’ve pointed out the signs are often there is you look and they just need to be reciprocated "
Yes, this is my partner. He had a very difficult upbringing. When he became a Dad it was like watching a new person evolve though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Their kindness.
I'm fortunate enough to have had a lot of good, strong, reliable men in my family. They may not be the most open emotionally but they were kind and could be very selfless in their actions.
Being open emotionally is unfortunately often due to conditioning. But as you’ve pointed out the signs are often there is you look and they just need to be reciprocated "
....and nice thighs btw... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same "
If left unattended, men play xbox or wank. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Their kindness.
I'm fortunate enough to have had a lot of good, strong, reliable men in my family. They may not be the most open emotionally but they were kind and could be very selfless in their actions.
Being open emotionally is unfortunately often due to conditioning. But as you’ve pointed out the signs are often there is you look and they just need to be reciprocated
....and nice thighs btw... "
Haha have you underestimated them? |
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" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same
If left unattended, men play xbox or wank. "
I thought women did that too, or if just me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Their kindness.
I'm fortunate enough to have had a lot of good, strong, reliable men in my family. They may not be the most open emotionally but they were kind and could be very selfless in their actions.
Being open emotionally is unfortunately often due to conditioning. But as you’ve pointed out the signs are often there is you look and they just need to be reciprocated
Yes, this is my partner. He had a very difficult upbringing. When he became a Dad it was like watching a new person evolve though."
That is awesome to hear |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same
If left unattended, men play xbox or wank.
I thought women did that too, or if just me "
It may be something to do with a joystick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same
If left unattended, men play xbox or wank.
I thought women did that too, or if just me "
Just you. 
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"Man are men, right?
*insert stereotypes here
Yes men are greatly underestimated in certain aspects of life like how emotionally enable they can be for the right person that goes out of their way to reassure them that they have value.
What other things are men underestimated for? "
The same things that women are underestimated for.
We are all humans with needs. |
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" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same
If left unattended, men play xbox or wank.
I thought women did that too, or if just me
It may be something to do with a joystick. "
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"What is one thing that men are underestimated about?
Being intelligent..... harsh ... but honest ...
The amount of stupidity in the male species is beyond belief!
We are great, we are always right, I have gun, grr, I am man, we fight, grr.....
If women ran the world we would actually look after the planet, the animals, the people and the child....
It is the distinct lack of empathy that man has for others and the world that astounds me....
If women ran the world? Maybe...there would be far more bitching though....so we might not get much done "
More likely intense negotiations every 28 days... but still getting everything sorted and settled  |
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" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same
If left unattended, men play xbox or wank.
I thought women did that too, or if just me
Just you.
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Damn! Everyone else has a PlayStation don't they  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Man are men, right?
*insert stereotypes here
Yes men are greatly underestimated in certain aspects of life like how emotionally enable they can be for the right person that goes out of their way to reassure them that they have value.
What other things are men underestimated for?
The same things that women are underestimated for.
We are all humans with needs."
Often men aren’t treated the same way and that those needs aren’t meet.
No equivalent saying to ‘happy wife, happy life’ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Men are underestimated for the emotional support and care they can give. And listening not just "solving the problem"."
Yes, knowing that even as men we don’t have to solve or fix every single issue even when we feel the need to protect. Support is often the greatest form of protection |
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"Man are men, right?
*insert stereotypes here
Yes men are greatly underestimated in certain aspects of life like how emotionally enable they can be for the right person that goes out of their way to reassure them that they have value.
What other things are men underestimated for?
The same things that women are underestimated for.
We are all humans with needs.
Often men aren’t treated the same way and that those needs aren’t meet.
No equivalent saying to ‘happy wife, happy life’ "
But I can equally direct your first sentence in the direction of women.
Your last sentence is sexist trope not a truism. So you can own that one, I don't want it.  |
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"Their ability to look after a child
That’s a great one. The amount of comments I’ve had about being a ‘good dad and taking an interest in my child’ is ridiculous. It’s like I’m going out of my way to do it and it’s unexpected"
I agree. It's a throwback from the label given to women as being natural caregivers and home makers and men being brawny cash earnters.
It takes a long time for attitudes to change. Minds take more time than laws. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Man are men, right?
*insert stereotypes here
Yes men are greatly underestimated in certain aspects of life like how emotionally enable they can be for the right person that goes out of their way to reassure them that they have value.
What other things are men underestimated for?
The same things that women are underestimated for.
We are all humans with needs.
Often men aren’t treated the same way and that those needs aren’t meet.
No equivalent saying to ‘happy wife, happy life’
But I can equally direct your first sentence in the direction of women.
Your last sentence is sexist trope not a truism. So you can own that one, I don't want it. "
I may of been playing devils advocate |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men are underestimated for the emotional support and care they can give. And listening not just "solving the problem".
(Blows raspberry) "
Didn't you mean to blow me a kiss, CG?  |
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"Man are men, right?
*insert stereotypes here
Yes men are greatly underestimated in certain aspects of life like how emotionally enable they can be for the right person that goes out of their way to reassure them that they have value.
What other things are men underestimated for?
The same things that women are underestimated for.
We are all humans with needs.
Often men aren’t treated the same way and that those needs aren’t meet.
No equivalent saying to ‘happy wife, happy life’
But I can equally direct your first sentence in the direction of women.
Your last sentence is sexist trope not a truism. So you can own that one, I don't want it.
I may of been playing devils advocate "
Ahhhhhhhh then I underestimated your ability to do so  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Men are underestimated for the emotional support and care they can give. And listening not just "solving the problem".
(Blows raspberry)
Didn't you mean to blow me a kiss, CG? "
Maybe later - I can't do 2 things at once. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Underestimated in the range and intensity of emotions we feel...
(We hide them from our OH as we often believe that having a cry or admitting we are struggling will undermine our attraction, despite reassurances otherwise) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men are underestimated for the emotional support and care they can give. And listening not just "solving the problem".
(Blows raspberry)
Didn't you mean to blow me a kiss, CG?
Maybe later - I can't do 2 things at once. "
 not posting the towel then! |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Men are underestimated for the emotional support and care they can give. And listening not just "solving the problem".
(Blows raspberry)
Didn't you mean to blow me a kiss, CG?
Maybe later - I can't do 2 things at once.
not posting the towel then! "
Are you going to make me come and get it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Underestimated in the range and intensity of emotions we feel...
(We hide them from our OH as we often believe that having a cry or admitting we are struggling will undermine our attraction, despite reassurances otherwise)"
By hiding it are you then adding to the underestimation? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Underestimated in the range and intensity of emotions we feel...
(We hide them from our OH as we often believe that having a cry or admitting we are struggling will undermine our attraction, despite reassurances otherwise)
By hiding it are you then adding to the underestimation? "
absolutely. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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"Underestimated in the range and intensity of emotions we feel...
(We hide them from our OH as we often believe that having a cry or admitting we are struggling will undermine our attraction, despite reassurances otherwise)"
This! And as said previously it's down to conditioning and up bringing, men are meant to be and seen as the stronger sex when it comes to that and it's a sign of weakness to talk about how they are feeling and let emotions show |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Underestimated in the range and intensity of emotions we feel...
(We hide them from our OH as we often believe that having a cry or admitting we are struggling will undermine our attraction, despite reassurances otherwise)
This! And as said previously it's down to conditioning and up bringing, men are meant to be and seen as the stronger sex when it comes to that and it's a sign of weakness to talk about how they are feeling and let emotions show "
It’s easy to be both and balanced with the right person and with honesty all the way through. I think it comes down to having a deep level of trust with the other person to not walk all over you at your most vulnerable moments but to just sit and hold your hands through them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Their ability to look after a child
That’s a great one. The amount of comments I’ve had about being a ‘good dad and taking an interest in my child’ is ridiculous. It’s like I’m going out of my way to do it and it’s unexpected"
I don’t mind it, I guess it’s the same as I say to people including friends, “you’re a great dad” or “you’re a great mum”
People comment on here because I talk about my girl in conversation. I don’t think I’m amazing I’m just a dad. But fir others to say it makes me feel I’m doing something right.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Their ability to look after a child
That’s a great one. The amount of comments I’ve had about being a ‘good dad and taking an interest in my child’ is ridiculous. It’s like I’m going out of my way to do it and it’s unexpected
I don’t mind it, I guess it’s the same as I say to people including friends, “you’re a great dad” or “you’re a great mum”
People comment on here because I talk about my girl in conversation. I don’t think I’m amazing I’m just a dad. But fir others to say it makes me feel I’m doing something right.
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There is a slight difference between a compliment and astonishment |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"Their ability to do housework. Most men I know can, and do. "
And cook and wash and iron and sew.
Been single for years and women find it astonishing that I an do all the stuff I as a man am supposed to be useless at |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"Man are men, right?
*insert stereotypes here
Yes men are greatly underestimated in certain aspects of life like how emotionally enable they can be for the right person that goes out of their way to reassure them that they have value.
What other things are men underestimated for? "
The ability at multitasking.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That looks and tattoos don’t convey their true personality of being a person.
People change but tattoos are permanent. Think is often frowned upon in life as it portrays being a bad person.
I have average looks and tattoos from long ago but I’m a kind helpful person and have the respect of my friends because im trustworthy and dependable.
People who can’t look past this boil my piss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Their ability to look after a child
That’s a great one. The amount of comments I’ve had about being a ‘good dad and taking an interest in my child’ is ridiculous. It’s like I’m going out of my way to do it and it’s unexpected"
Absolutely this.
I feel this is by far the biggest underestimation of men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Underestimated in the range and intensity of emotions we feel...
(We hide them from our OH as we often believe that having a cry or admitting we are struggling will undermine our attraction, despite reassurances otherwise)"
I still feel tho the way you feel empathy as much as a man can be sensitive, can’t truly have a sensibility or pick up sensations as we do…
But I do recognise some of you are way better than others |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Our neighbour believes that left unattended her husband won't know how to fill his time so she leaves him a list. She thinks all men are like this and once advised me to do the same
Oh ffs "
Well well what have we here. Feminism at its finest.. |
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