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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe not necessarily a time waster, she could’ve just had stuff going on outside of fab? Or just lost interest in you? Could be anything, just move on really… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether  "
Not taking the piss I’ve heard someone say this before
Where you getting 200 from ?
They disappear after a few no ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe not necessarily a time waster, she could’ve just had stuff going on outside of fab? Or just lost interest in you? Could be anything, just move on really…"
Don’t listen to this women she broke my heart !
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say she's a time wastedr, I'd class a time waster as someone who arranges a meet and then doesn't turn up. Or cancels last minute more than once.
Maybe life got in the way or the conversation came to a natural end.
It happens here quite a lot. |
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"I wouldn't say she's a time wastedr, I'd class a time waster as someone who arranges a meet and then doesn't turn up. Or cancels last minute more than once.
Maybe life got in the way or the conversation came to a natural end.
It happens here quite a lot. "
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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Firstly ask yourself how old you are and are you able to act like a mature adult just because said person was chatting with you be grateful she made time for you don't expect anything else from this unless she wants... |
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"Sounds like you wasted her time by sending too many messages and not getting on with it."
I'm guilty of that sometimes. Messages back & forth, flirting, exchanging recipes & too scared to ask if she FAF   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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We was talking about meeting i said im free some day times and most evenings she said the same. So i said lets make plans then that was it no more messages back ????? |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"We was talking about meeting i said im free some day times and most evenings she said the same. So i said lets make plans then that was it no more messages back ????? "
You know people have a life beyond this site rather than jumping to conclusions ever wondered if she's ok  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We was talking about meeting i said im free some day times and most evenings she said the same. So i said lets make plans then that was it no more messages back ?????
You know people have a life beyond this site rather than jumping to conclusions ever wondered if she's ok "
Of course i know that ive asked if everything is ok she reads my messages but dont reply. I understand if she has lost interest or whatever just be nice to say so |
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Jesus 200 messages I lose interest after half a dozen
My conversations usually go something like this
'Hi take a look at my profile if your interested in meeting let me know'
Them 'yes' or the message gets ignored
Me 'Great, when are your free'
Them 'tomorrow'
Me 'see you at 8 my address is ..........'
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Jesus 200 messages I lose interest after half a dozen
My conversations usually go something like this
'Hi take a look at my profile if your interested in meeting let me know'
Them 'yes' or the message gets ignored
Me 'Great, when are your free'
Them 'tomorrow'
Me 'see you at 8 my address is ..........'
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She likes the flirting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jesus 200 messages I lose interest after half a dozen
My conversations usually go something like this
'Hi take a look at my profile if your interested in meeting let me know'
Them 'yes' or the message gets ignored
Me 'Great, when are your free'
Them 'tomorrow'
Me 'see you at 8 my address is ..........'
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I know ?
Your getting a 12am txt “ where are you “!!???
No chat let’s keep it simple !!!
No offense I don’t want a pen pal |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"We was talking about meeting i said im free some day times and most evenings she said the same. So i said lets make plans then that was it no more messages back ?????
You know people have a life beyond this site rather than jumping to conclusions ever wondered if she's ok
Of course i know that ive asked if everything is ok she reads my messages but dont reply. I understand if she has lost interest or whatever just be nice to say so "
Then she has saw your concerns so just leave it at that if she gets back to you,it's not nice to keep repeating if she doesn't reply be patient. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps she was looking to actually meet rather than be penpals or a wankchat line.
Or maybe she didn't fancy you, or someone else took priority. Or real life got in the way.
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"Jesus 200 messages I lose interest after half a dozen
My conversations usually go something like this
'Hi take a look at my profile if your interested in meeting let me know'
Them 'yes' or the message gets ignored
Me 'Great, when are your free'
Them 'tomorrow'
Me 'see you at 8 my address is ..........'
She likes the flirting "
She could have been a bloke pretending to be a woman fit the wank fodder, it happens a lot |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We was talking about meeting i said im free some day times and most evenings she said the same. So i said lets make plans then that was it no more messages back ?????
You know people have a life beyond this site rather than jumping to conclusions ever wondered if she's ok
Of course i know that ive asked if everything is ok she reads my messages but dont reply. I understand if she has lost interest or whatever just be nice to say so
Then she has saw your concerns so just leave it at that if she gets back to you,it's not nice to keep repeating if she doesn't reply be patient."
Ye i have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP. You won't get any sympathy on the forums I'm afraid. It's pretty brutal on here at the best of times.
I think we've all had something shit happen on Fab but best just to write it off and move on. You'll get more grief than support or constructive criticism for rasing it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether "
You know the real reason don't you? She was most probably a he.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether
You know the real reason don't you? She was most probably a he.
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i guess thats possible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether "
It's a disappointment, but not a waste of time. You placed a bet, it didn't work out. Move on to the next one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether
You know the real reason don't you? She was most probably a he.
i guess thats possible "
After 200 messages you should of been applying for a mortgage |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether
You know the real reason don't you? She was most probably a he.
i guess thats possible
After 200 messages you should of been applying for a mortgage"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether "
These people are horrific cowards! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether "
She's had what she wanted from you and now moved on to the next person....
Surely you had some fun out of it too OP  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We was talking about meeting i said im free some day times and most evenings she said the same. So i said lets make plans then that was it no more messages back ????? "
Yeah, that sounds more like someone wanting to string you along rather than aftee no strings fun. It's not unique to women, I've had it loads from guys especially over the lockdown. Sent messages 24/7 then Vanished when we were free to meet. Problem you have with this post is that you're male. If it was a female she would have scores of messages from well wishers reassuring her that "he was not worthy of her, he was probably married or some sad, lonely loser"
Might be a cliche but don't let it get you down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether
You know the real reason don't you? She was most probably a he.
i guess thats possible
After 200 messages you should of been applying for a mortgage
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Whenever I see these kind of threads, I turn into Brian Conley where he would be screaming "IT'S A PUPPET!" at the screen.... except I'm screaming, "IT'S A BLOKE!" |
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By *an4funMan
over a year ago
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"We was talking about meeting i said im free some day times and most evenings she said the same. So i said lets make plans then that was it no more messages back ?????
Yeah, that sounds more like someone wanting to string you along rather than aftee no strings fun. It's not unique to women, I've had it loads from guys especially over the lockdown. Sent messages 24/7 then Vanished when we were free to meet. Problem you have with this post is that you're male. If it was a female she would have scores of messages from well wishers reassuring her that "he was not worthy of her, he was probably married or some sad, lonely loser"
Might be a cliche but don't let it get you down."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether
You know the real reason don't you? She was most probably a he.
i guess thats possible
After 200 messages you should of been applying for a mortgage
Whenever I see these kind of threads, I turn into Brian Conley where he would be screaming "IT'S A PUPPET!" at the screen.... except I'm screaming, "IT'S A BLOKE!" "
he's bisexual so that shouldn't bother him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there are women on here who like some men just like the thrill of the chase once conquered they move on ... it happens alot male or female ...
i find if i dont click say after 10 messafes i just stop and move on i owe nobody anything just as they owe me nothing to..
timewaster to me is someone who does not turn up for an arranged meet ...
200 message's wow did you not feel at anypoint that this was going nowhere ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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200 messages is definitely too much. People here are not into long term, long distance platonic friendships. With the very first messages you make her to be interested, then a few more to make her to want to see you, then a few more to arrange a meeting. Whatever exceeds a certain point, it will become routine, predictable and boring. Women don't like that, it will not get them wet for you.
I have the same problem, being away for long periods of time, with work. Conversation dries up. I cannot blame them for that.
200 messages... she was really into you, until she couldn't be bothered anymore. Try to use the momentum, when the other one is excited about the idea of getting closer to you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We was talking about meeting i said im free some day times and most evenings she said the same. So i said lets make plans then that was it no more messages back ?????
Yeah, that sounds more like someone wanting to string you along rather than aftee no strings fun. It's not unique to women, I've had it loads from guys especially over the lockdown. Sent messages 24/7 then Vanished when we were free to meet. Problem you have with this post is that you're male. If it was a female she would have scores of messages from well wishers reassuring her that "he was not worthy of her, he was probably married or some sad, lonely loser"
Might be a cliche but don't let it get you down."
Its all good i guess this kind of thing happens alot |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether
She's had what she wanted from you and now moved on to the next person....
Surely you had some fun out of it too OP "
Yes was some very hot chat and few sexy pics swapped |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like you wasted her time by sending too many messages and not getting on with it."
totally agree.i hate endless messages too. I want meets not chit chat and more chat chit.no way
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether
She's had what she wanted from you and now moved on to the next person....
Surely you had some fun out of it too OP
Yes was some very hot chat and few sexy pics swapped "
There you go, so positives.....
That's what you think about, on sites like this!
You are a lucky one who found a connection ....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate the term time waster as it’s used to describe people who simply aren’t interested far too often. No reply means no interest. Take it on the chin and move on |
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So many people who think they know exactly what’s going on in every situation! I have anxiety that comes and goes so some days I’ll feel brave enough to arrange a meet and other days I won’t. I like to get to know people so often spend a lot of time messaging, but if I don’t feel brave enough to meet but they’re asking several times and I still like them I might leave them on read while I have a little panic about how I deal with it. I’m then also likely to feel awkward about how I handled it!
I’m not suggesting this is what has happened with you OP, I’m just pointing out that all situations are different and nobody can tell what’s happened in each one apart from the person involved. She might have been a time waster but she equally might have had good intentions. You’ve done all you can though, I’m sure she’ll be back in touch if she wants to |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So many people who think they know exactly what’s going on in every situation! I have anxiety that comes and goes so some days I’ll feel brave enough to arrange a meet and other days I won’t. I like to get to know people so often spend a lot of time messaging, but if I don’t feel brave enough to meet but they’re asking several times and I still like them I might leave them on read while I have a little panic about how I deal with it. I’m then also likely to feel awkward about how I handled it!
I’m not suggesting this is what has happened with you OP, I’m just pointing out that all situations are different and nobody can tell what’s happened in each one apart from the person involved. She might have been a time waster but she equally might have had good intentions. You’ve done all you can though, I’m sure she’ll be back in touch if she wants to "
Very good point well as they say ball is in her court lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So many people who think they know exactly what’s going on in every situation! I have anxiety that comes and goes so some days I’ll feel brave enough to arrange a meet and other days I won’t. I like to get to know people so often spend a lot of time messaging, but if I don’t feel brave enough to meet but they’re asking several times and I still like them I might leave them on read while I have a little panic about how I deal with it. I’m then also likely to feel awkward about how I handled it!
I’m not suggesting this is what has happened with you OP, I’m just pointing out that all situations are different and nobody can tell what’s happened in each one apart from the person involved. She might have been a time waster but she equally might have had good intentions. You’ve done all you can though, I’m sure she’ll be back in touch if she wants to
Very good point well as they say ball is in her court lol"
Don’t think she’s interested in playing !
Anyway Rock on mate
It’s fab your not stuck for options |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So many people who think they know exactly what’s going on in every situation! I have anxiety that comes and goes so some days I’ll feel brave enough to arrange a meet and other days I won’t. I like to get to know people so often spend a lot of time messaging, but if I don’t feel brave enough to meet but they’re asking several times and I still like them I might leave them on read while I have a little panic about how I deal with it. I’m then also likely to feel awkward about how I handled it!
I’m not suggesting this is what has happened with you OP, I’m just pointing out that all situations are different and nobody can tell what’s happened in each one apart from the person involved. She might have been a time waster but she equally might have had good intentions. You’ve done all you can though, I’m sure she’ll be back in touch if she wants to
Very good point well as they say ball is in her court lol
Don’t think she’s interested in playing !
Anyway Rock on mate
It’s fab your not stuck for options "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you are planning the meet stage then don’t you speak on the phone at least…. If he sounds like a bloke called Brian then it’s probably a bloke called Brian "
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"I wouldn't say she's a time wastedr, I'd class a time waster as someone who arranges a meet and then doesn't turn up. Or cancels last minute more than once.
Maybe life got in the way or the conversation came to a natural end.
It happens here quite a lot. "
This |
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether "
Must b very disheartening for u but put it down to experience! All part of fabs tbh x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether
You know the real reason don't you? She was most probably a he.
i guess thats possible
After 200 messages you should of been applying for a mortgage
Whenever I see these kind of threads, I turn into Brian Conley where he would be screaming "IT'S A PUPPET!" at the screen.... except I'm screaming, "IT'S A BLOKE!" "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether
You know the real reason don't you? She was most probably a he.
i guess thats possible
After 200 messages you should of been applying for a mortgage
Whenever I see these kind of threads, I turn into Brian Conley where he would be screaming "IT'S A PUPPET!" at the screen.... except I'm screaming, "IT'S A BLOKE!"
he's bisexual so that shouldn't bother him "
Aye, but on this occasion he believed he was speaking to a woman. And in most instances, when I read this kind of thread it's almost, always a guy claiming to have been duped by a "woman". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This drives me crazy was chatting to a very hot woman over 200 messages then all of a sudden she stop replying altogether
You know the real reason don't you? She was most probably a he.
i guess thats possible
After 200 messages you should of been applying for a mortgage
Whenever I see these kind of threads, I turn into Brian Conley where he would be screaming "IT'S A PUPPET!" at the screen.... except I'm screaming, "IT'S A BLOKE!"
he's bisexual so that shouldn't bother him
Aye, but on this occasion he believed he was speaking to a woman. And in most instances, when I read this kind of thread it's almost, always a guy claiming to have been duped by a "woman"."
Yeah a dip shit !!
We ain’t all dumb ye know |
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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe not necessarily a time waster, she could’ve just had stuff going on outside of fab? Or just lost interest in you? Could be anything, just move on really…"
I agree if you haven't fucked her after 200 messages she's probably bored |
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"We was talking about meeting i said im free some day times and most evenings she said the same. So i said lets make plans then that was it no more messages back ????? "
Some folks could never meet, 200 or 2000 messages.
Problem is, they'd be caught out.
That beauty you see on the photo, isn't her.
That drop dead gorgeous guy who is showing you so much interest, 14 year old lad in his bedroom, wanking in front of the screen while mum prepares his tea downstairs.
Some people forget what they have written, happened to us.
His recent photos showed him with dark hair, it seemed to have gone grey overnight.
One lady seemed to have put on 10 dress sizes in a week.
It happens, it's the nature of the beast in this scene.
Most liars and fantasists will never show.
We meet for a drink and chat after a couple of messages, if it starts to go into prolonged messaging, probably won't happen.
Our way of thinking, if someone won't show up at a pub one evening for a few drinks, a chat and a giggle, forget it.
Same for couples and singles alike. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jesus 200 messages I lose interest after half a dozen
My conversations usually go something like this
'Hi take a look at my profile if your interested in meeting let me know'
Them 'yes' or the message gets ignored
Me 'Great, when are your free'
Them 'tomorrow'
Me 'see you at 8 my address is ..........'
She likes the flirting "
Apparently not !  |
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OT - The simple way to avoid wasting so much time is to ask for a chat or to see eachother on cam early on. No need for faces, just to make sure she's a female, not just another sad bloke getting his kicks at your expense. If the 'woman' you're chatting to won't do that find someone who will, because most of the time it'll be a real timewaster you're actually dealing with - a man posing as a female or couple.
If she was real, bear in mind that her situation may have changed or you might have said something indavertently which put her off. It happens and you just have to move on. |
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"I wouldn't say she's a time wastedr, I'd class a time waster as someone who arranges a meet and then doesn't turn up. Or cancels last minute more than once.
Maybe life got in the way or the conversation came to a natural end.
It happens here quite a lot. "
Totally agree x |
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"Jesus 200 messages I lose interest after half a dozen
My conversations usually go something like this
'Hi take a look at my profile if your interested in meeting let me know'
Them 'yes' or the message gets ignored
Me 'Great, when are your free'
Them 'tomorrow'
Me 'see you at 8 my address is ..........'
She likes the flirting
She could have been a bloke pretending to be a woman fit the wank fodder, it happens a lot "
That's exactly what I thought if it took 200 messages and no exchange of phone number. I get closet gay or bi guy's posing as women and couples messaging me regularly. That's why I won't even send out cock pics till after a phone call, and hearing the ladies voice. Understandably single women and couples have to be cautious when giving out phone numbers, so when I say that they can have mine, but they can withhold their number till they are comfortable with me, and they then vanish into cyberspace, that always tells my that I have connected with a bloke looking for inspiration as he beats his meat on the toilet seat. |
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"Perhaps she was looking to actually meet rather than be penpals or a wankchat line.
Or maybe she didn't fancy you, or someone else took priority. Or real life got in the way.
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Wankchat line! love it x |
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Timewasters can be different things to different people.
I’d say that having a 200 message chat could be considered time wasting if one party was only going along with it to get laid.
Otherwise it was human interaction rather that time wasting.
People who don’t read profiles but message are wasters of the message recipients’ time.
OP if you think chatting for longer guarantees sex then you’re going to be disappointed a lot |
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"OT - The simple way to avoid wasting so much time is to ask for a chat or to see eachother on cam early on. No need for faces, just to make sure she's a female, not just another sad bloke getting his kicks at your expense. If the 'woman' you're chatting to won't do that find someone who will, because most of the time it'll be a real timewaster you're actually dealing with - a man posing as a female or couple.
If she was real, bear in mind that her situation may have changed or you might have said something indavertently which put her off. It happens and you just have to move on."
I agree 100% but unfortunately I've found a lot of people on here don't like chatting on cam (or on other more convenient apps where you can get a decent conversation going). And as a guy you don't often get to pick and choose who you speak to so you kinda have to just take what you're given when it comes to conversation.
Not a moan... just an honest opinion (before I get turn apart for saying it! ). |
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