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By *riki OP Woman
over a year ago
Glasgow |
Anyone ever met someone single they liked off here to find out the other person struggled with non monogamy but wanted to continue the relationship with you? If so, how did you manage the situation?
(I am polyamorous and been open from the start) |
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I'm not sure the situation can be managed in all honesty. One person either "changes" (which generally is more suffering than changing, as even those who want to be cook with it can't necessarily BE cool with it if it's not in their core makeup) or it's a case of admitting to yourselves and each other that yes, you're great together but sadly not compatible in a relationship sense and the kindest thing to do is let each other grow elsewhere |
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By *ibonacciMan
over a year ago
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You're both programmed a different way. Whether through nature or nurture, you both want things at opposite ends of the spectrum.
I have never some across two people who successfully bridged that gap - either had to compromise and inevitably down the line it came crashing down.
Sorry - don't mean to be negative... I hope you can find a way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure the situation can be managed in all honesty. One person either "changes" (which generally is more suffering than changing, as even those who want to be cook with it can't necessarily BE cool with it if it's not in their core makeup) or it's a case of admitting to yourselves and each other that yes, you're great together but sadly not compatible in a relationship sense and the kindest thing to do is let each other grow elsewhere "
This makes total sense!!
God humans are so complex |
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"I'm not sure the situation can be managed in all honesty. One person either "changes" (which generally is more suffering than changing, as even those who want to be cook with it can't necessarily BE cool with it if it's not in their core makeup) or it's a case of admitting to yourselves and each other that yes, you're great together but sadly not compatible in a relationship sense and the kindest thing to do is let each other grow elsewhere "
this about sums it up x
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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago
Cheltenham |
I think if you meet someone here they are probably of a more open mindset to non conventional relationships.
I'm poly too. And unfortunately my best friend and I couldn't make it work. She didn't want to hear, see or know anything about my long term partner. While telling me all about her love life. And she couldn't commit to me or allow herself to as she kept repeating that I was attached. I walked away Friday from it as it was too hard.
OP I really wish you the best. It's hard. |
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"I'm not sure the situation can be managed in all honesty. One person either "changes" (which generally is more suffering than changing, as even those who want to be cook with it can't necessarily BE cool with it if it's not in their core makeup) or it's a case of admitting to yourselves and each other that yes, you're great together but sadly not compatible in a relationship sense and the kindest thing to do is let each other grow elsewhere "
Yep! |
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