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over a year ago
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"Really? 
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?"
Obviously think they are gods gift op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people just cannot accept rejection gracefully.
I had an interesting one earlier. Exchanged a few messages, was asked for a face pic. I sent one and asked for the same but instead I was asked if I have a video "ucking" someone and I said no.i get blocked... Lmao. Some time wasters on here. |
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It's said all the time on here though. When a woman says she's been blocked or stood up "it's their loss".
I don't really understand what people have lost by not meeting someone they didn't want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?"
'your loss' is a catchphrase on (fab) lol.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was told the other day, when I said no thank you to an empty profile, that I was going to need luck with that attitude.
I don’t think he was aware how many decent profiles there are on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's said all the time on here though. When a woman says she's been blocked or stood up "it's their loss".
I don't really understand what people have lost by not meeting someone they didn't want to."
This is my point.
I guess they have a high opinion of themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence. |
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I've had that. I was messaged by a guy who wanted to meet and politely said no thanks. My reasons? Only two not very flattering face pics in public, uninspiring profile text and he was straight (so why was he messaging me anyway?).
He not only told me it was 'my loss' but also that i'd be lucky to get a better offer looking the way i do. Worse though was that i was immediately blocked before i could send a stinging reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love those comments my normal reply back to it is a screen shot off xxx amount off unread messages and go not really if I want cock I just read one off xxx messages |
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"I love those comments my normal reply back to it is a screen shot off xxx amount off unread messages and go not really if I want cock I just read one off xxx messages "
It was definitely his loss.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love those comments my normal reply back to it is a screen shot off xxx amount off unread messages and go not really if I want cock I just read one off xxx messages
It was definitely his loss. "
Thank you so much x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I love those comments my normal reply back to it is a screen shot off xxx amount off unread messages and go not really if I want cock I just read one off xxx messages "
I’ve sent a screen shot like that a few times when I’ve had a shitty message telling me I’m ignorant for not replying. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?
Rachaelx Clear your ears out. They said You're Lush!"
Aw, thank you Granny xxx |
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?
Rachaelx Clear your ears out. They said You're Lush!"
Good one Granny. But please don't use cotton bud tips to do so. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?
Rachaelx Clear your ears out. They said You're Lush!
Good one Granny. But please don't use cotton bud tips to do so."
Jet wash? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think they must be saying it to themselves as from your profile pictures I don’t think I’ve seen anyone smile as much and you look fab !!
Yes they got it right it is they’re massive loss  "
Thank you.
The smile is caused by trapped wind. I’m pescatarian so have a serious methane problem  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love those comments my normal reply back to it is a screen shot off xxx amount off unread messages and go not really if I want cock I just read one off xxx messages
I’ve sent a screen shot like that a few times when I’ve had a shitty message telling me I’m ignorant for not replying. "
Quite right definitely a good feeling when you give them nothing to reply back to like that ha ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just got that a short while ago when I said no thanks to a bi guy. He replied saying "you're missing out". I told him no I'm not as it says in my profile that I don't meet bi men x |
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"The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence. "
What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do. |
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"I just got that a short while ago when I said no thanks to a bi guy. He replied saying "you're missing out". I told him no I'm not as it says in my profile that I don't meet bi men x"
No excuse for not reading your profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence.
What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do. "
To be honest, we don’t often get the chance to reply as they usually follow up with a block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do. "
We have all faced rejection in some form, whether it be dating, sex, work, friendship.
Some of us are very capable of taking rejection in our stride and not needing to make snide comments or get abusive. All that does is make the person look bitter.
Plenty of decent lovely guys on here who take rejection on the chin every single day and still manage to be polite because it’s within their nature. I don’t think rejection hurting is an excuse for poor behaviour. Often a “Your loss” message leads to abuse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In a literal way they are right.
You are missing out on an experience. It might have been magic, life changing. It is your loss.
But on a practical level it's a loss you are OK with having.
We have had times where we could have included more people to a moment we were having with others and while we were missing out on potential fun, we didn't think it was worth the gamble, when we already had good chemistry going with the others.
People will always have to rationalise their rejections to make themselves feel better. Some of us internalise it, others feel the need to lash out and "share" their pain |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence.
What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do.
To be honest, we don’t often get the chance to reply as they usually follow up with a block. "
That's why if I reply I always block first, then I won't get another message from them x |
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"The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence.
What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do.
To be honest, we don’t often get the chance to reply as they usually follow up with a block. "
Would that be a cock block? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence.
What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do.
To be honest, we don’t often get the chance to reply as they usually follow up with a block.
That's why if I reply I always block first, then I won't get another message from them x"
Perhaps that’s the sequence. I don’t know. By the time I read it I’m already blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence.
What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do.
To be honest, we don’t often get the chance to reply as they usually follow up with a block.
That's why if I reply I always block first, then I won't get another message from them x
Perhaps that’s the sequence. I don’t know. By the time I read it I’m already blocked. "
Makes no sense as you'd think they'd wait on a response first and see what happens then x |
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What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do.
We have all faced rejection in some form, whether it be dating, sex, work, friendship.
Some of us are very capable of taking rejection in our stride and not needing to make snide comments or get abusive. All that does is make the person look bitter.
Plenty of decent lovely guys on here who take rejection on the chin every single day and still manage to be polite because it’s within their nature. I don’t think rejection hurting is an excuse for poor behaviour. Often a “Your loss” message leads to abuse. "
Of the post rejection comments "Your loss", on its own, must be one of the mildest.
There will always be a variety of guys on here. Those who take rejection and walk away and those who respond spitefully. You will not get the latter to stop so it is best to ignore it I suggest. |
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"The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence.
What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do.
To be honest, we don’t often get the chance to reply as they usually follow up with a block.
That's why if I reply I always block first, then I won't get another message from them x"
I shudder to think how long your block list is!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence.
What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do.
To be honest, we don’t often get the chance to reply as they usually follow up with a block.
That's why if I reply I always block first, then I won't get another message from them x
I shudder to think how long your block list is! "
At the last count a few weeks back, well over 300. It's probably more now x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do.
We have all faced rejection in some form, whether it be dating, sex, work, friendship.
Some of us are very capable of taking rejection in our stride and not needing to make snide comments or get abusive. All that does is make the person look bitter.
Plenty of decent lovely guys on here who take rejection on the chin every single day and still manage to be polite because it’s within their nature. I don’t think rejection hurting is an excuse for poor behaviour. Often a “Your loss” message leads to abuse.
Of the post rejection comments "Your loss", on its own, must be one of the mildest.
There will always be a variety of guys on here. Those who take rejection and walk away and those who respond spitefully. You will not get the latter to stop so it is best to ignore it I suggest. "
It’s often couples rather than the men tbh. The men tend to be grateful that I even replied. That’s so sad when they say that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?"
We’ve got a collection of dummies over here that people have spat out  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do.
We have all faced rejection in some form, whether it be dating, sex, work, friendship.
Some of us are very capable of taking rejection in our stride and not needing to make snide comments or get abusive. All that does is make the person look bitter.
Plenty of decent lovely guys on here who take rejection on the chin every single day and still manage to be polite because it’s within their nature. I don’t think rejection hurting is an excuse for poor behaviour. Often a “Your loss” message leads to abuse. "
Oh I totally agree. There are ways to handle rejection with more dignity of course. But not everyone has the strength to do it. Every behaviour communicates a need. And some people haven't had the secure, loving, nurturing upbringings which result in an inner confidence to know that a rejection isn't a personal attack, but just a lack of compatibility. Some people have had lives where they've been told/shown they aren't worth love, over and over, and those people don't have the inner strength needed to display the behaviours we might like to see when we reject them. So I agree with the poster above who said it's best to just ignore when you get a reply that's abusive, because the route cause of that rudeness is actually a deep inner pain within that person. If we could see the pain, we'd understand the reaction better. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?
They might have been really good... you'll never know  "
Well if they wrote a profile. Took a few pics. Then I might be inclined to chat and find out |
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"The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence. "
Beautifully put. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oh I totally agree. There are ways to handle rejection with more dignity of course. But not everyone has the strength to do it. Every behaviour communicates a need. And some people haven't had the secure, loving, nurturing upbringings which result in an inner confidence to know that a rejection isn't a personal attack, but just a lack of compatibility. Some people have had lives where they've been told/shown they aren't worth love, over and over, and those people don't have the inner strength needed to display the behaviours we might like to see when we reject them. So I agree with the poster above who said it's best to just ignore when you get a reply that's abusive, because the route cause of that rudeness is actually a deep inner pain within that person. If we could see the pain, we'd understand the reaction better."
That is beautifully expressed. |
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"The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence. "
This. |
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?"
Sorry...I only asked for more up skirt pics lol |
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I've had an introductory message from a couple instructing me to shave my beard off and they might consider meeting me.
I've had another from a couple telling me that the fact I was straight was a deterrent and if I wanted to meet them I would either have to play bi or bring a sexy lady with me before they would consider me.
Another couple asked for my phone number and a facepic in their opening message.
I asked all three if these type of approaches ever work and they said yes every time.
When I said not this time I was told it was my loss and I would come running back when nobody else would meet me.
These were all well verified profiles and one had 100+ verifications but they were used to getting their own way and having men dance to their tune so their response was arrogant and entitled rather than from any genuine sense of rejection. |
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?"
Is being confident a bad thing? Should he just assume that because you said no he is instantly a loser?
What makes you all that, to say that he’s not? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?
Is being confident a bad thing? Should he just assume that because you said no he is instantly a loser?
What makes you all that, to say that he’s not? "
The thread was triggered by two messages.
First was from a couple who didn’t have a single pic of the fella except for a closeup of his dick. My profile says what I seek regarding couples and they clearly weren’t it.
Their message was three words.
The other was a guy with no pictures and a ‘fill in later’ profile. Who knows if he was the potential love of my life… he didn’t give a chance to find out.
I like confidence. It’s a really attractive thing for me…. And big arms. I love big arms  but the messages I received were far from giving me the impression of confidence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do.
We have all faced rejection in some form, whether it be dating, sex, work, friendship.
Some of us are very capable of taking rejection in our stride and not needing to make snide comments or get abusive. All that does is make the person look bitter.
Plenty of decent lovely guys on here who take rejection on the chin every single day and still manage to be polite because it’s within their nature. I don’t think rejection hurting is an excuse for poor behaviour. Often a “Your loss” message leads to abuse.
Of the post rejection comments "Your loss", on its own, must be one of the mildest.
There will always be a variety of guys on here. Those who take rejection and walk away and those who respond spitefully. You will not get the latter to stop so it is best to ignore it I suggest. "
I do ignore it. In fact I block because anyone who feels the need to come up with a petulant response like that isn’t someone I’d like to meet anyway. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?"
Just an ego thing I'd let them enjoy the moment while it lasts because further down the line will be someone else like a revolving door |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What a truly excellent empathetic thing to say. Coming from a woman who's beauty probably gets her all the attention she ever wants in life it shows she is beautiful on the inside too.
Few women actually have to approach men they really fancy and risk rejection. It takes guts and as Kitty says rejection after rejection hurts and dents confidence. If you get a "Your Loss" from a rejected person just let it wash off. It's the least you can do.
We have all faced rejection in some form, whether it be dating, sex, work, friendship.
Some of us are very capable of taking rejection in our stride and not needing to make snide comments or get abusive. All that does is make the person look bitter.
Plenty of decent lovely guys on here who take rejection on the chin every single day and still manage to be polite because it’s within their nature. I don’t think rejection hurting is an excuse for poor behaviour. Often a “Your loss” message leads to abuse.
Oh I totally agree. There are ways to handle rejection with more dignity of course. But not everyone has the strength to do it. Every behaviour communicates a need. And some people haven't had the secure, loving, nurturing upbringings which result in an inner confidence to know that a rejection isn't a personal attack, but just a lack of compatibility. Some people have had lives where they've been told/shown they aren't worth love, over and over, and those people don't have the inner strength needed to display the behaviours we might like to see when we reject them. So I agree with the poster above who said it's best to just ignore when you get a reply that's abusive, because the route cause of that rudeness is actually a deep inner pain within that person. If we could see the pain, we'd understand the reaction better."
I’m sure some are as your say no doubt and they don’t intentionally mean their malice.
However there are plenty who mean their malice and continue it on by making new profiles and it turns into harassment because a woman dared to politely reject them.
I don’t know what has given the impression this i don’t ignore it, but I do, I never response, I block and move on because a reply only leads to more trouble.
Infact if I’m not interested I don’t reply at all to save the abuse that usually comes after sending a polite “No thank you, but good luck”. |
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?
Is being confident a bad thing? Should he just assume that because you said no he is instantly a loser?
What makes you all that, to say that he’s not?
The thread was triggered by two messages.
First was from a couple who didn’t have a single pic of the fella except for a closeup of his dick. My profile says what I seek regarding couples and they clearly weren’t it.
Their message was three words.
The other was a guy with no pictures and a ‘fill in later’ profile. Who knows if he was the potential love of my life… he didn’t give a chance to find out.
I like confidence. It’s a really attractive thing for me…. And big arms. I love big arms but the messages I received were far from giving me the impression of confidence. "
This.
Confidence is very attractive, arrogance isn’t.
And saying “Your loss” is pretty arrogant. If they knew how full some of our inboxes get they’d realise how much of a “loss” they really are… not. |
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?
Is being confident a bad thing? Should he just assume that because you said no he is instantly a loser?
What makes you all that, to say that he’s not?
The thread was triggered by two messages.
First was from a couple who didn’t have a single pic of the fella except for a closeup of his dick. My profile says what I seek regarding couples and they clearly weren’t it.
Their message was three words.
The other was a guy with no pictures and a ‘fill in later’ profile. Who knows if he was the potential love of my life… he didn’t give a chance to find out.
I like confidence. It’s a really attractive thing for me…. And big arms. I love big arms but the messages I received were far from giving me the impression of confidence.
This.
Confidence is very attractive, arrogance isn’t.
And saying “Your loss” is pretty arrogant. If they knew how full some of our inboxes get they’d realise how much of a “loss” they really are… not. "
The irony here hurts
Arrogance certainly isn’t sexy, you’re right |
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?
Is being confident a bad thing? Should he just assume that because you said no he is instantly a loser?
What makes you all that, to say that he’s not?
The thread was triggered by two messages.
First was from a couple who didn’t have a single pic of the fella except for a closeup of his dick. My profile says what I seek regarding couples and they clearly weren’t it.
Their message was three words.
The other was a guy with no pictures and a ‘fill in later’ profile. Who knows if he was the potential love of my life… he didn’t give a chance to find out.
I like confidence. It’s a really attractive thing for me…. And big arms. I love big arms but the messages I received were far from giving me the impression of confidence. "
2 messages rattled you enough to make a forum post?
When you probably get 100s of messages from perfectly polite, lovely guys/couples
Priorities |
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I get the “your loss” regularly but I did get a “you’re delusional and need your head tested” recently in reply to a very polite thank you but no thank you
As others have mentioned , not everyone can handle rejection gracefully, which in turn explains why many chose not to reply at all and even block to avoid any animosity.
And that leads to threads “ I’ve been blocked after sending a polite message”.
And although I don’t use that method personally, I do wonder at time if I should. Seems like time efficient, I’m not interested, the likelihood of me changing my mind is remote so there’s little point in appearing in each other’s searches/updates blah blah blah and vice versa.
Half my mail comes from people that have previously written and been answered to as a no thank you ….
Happy Fabbing lovelies
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?
Is being confident a bad thing? Should he just assume that because you said no he is instantly a loser?
What makes you all that, to say that he’s not?
The thread was triggered by two messages.
First was from a couple who didn’t have a single pic of the fella except for a closeup of his dick. My profile says what I seek regarding couples and they clearly weren’t it.
Their message was three words.
The other was a guy with no pictures and a ‘fill in later’ profile. Who knows if he was the potential love of my life… he didn’t give a chance to find out.
I like confidence. It’s a really attractive thing for me…. And big arms. I love big arms but the messages I received were far from giving me the impression of confidence.
2 messages rattled you enough to make a forum post?
When you probably get 100s of messages from perfectly polite, lovely guys/couples
Priorities "
As a wild guess , it is likely that prior to those 2 messages , the OP received hundreds of messages in the same vain |
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?
Is being confident a bad thing? Should he just assume that because you said no he is instantly a loser?
What makes you all that, to say that he’s not?
The thread was triggered by two messages.
First was from a couple who didn’t have a single pic of the fella except for a closeup of his dick. My profile says what I seek regarding couples and they clearly weren’t it.
Their message was three words.
The other was a guy with no pictures and a ‘fill in later’ profile. Who knows if he was the potential love of my life… he didn’t give a chance to find out.
I like confidence. It’s a really attractive thing for me…. And big arms. I love big arms but the messages I received were far from giving me the impression of confidence.
2 messages rattled you enough to make a forum post?
When you probably get 100s of messages from perfectly polite, lovely guys/couples
Priorities "
Have you heard the adage about the camel and the straw?
If my posts bother you pass them by.
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It's classic projection. Many people aren't very self aware and project their insecurities and emotions, for example, onto others. But never quite realise what they are upto.
The block button feature at least lets them have to deal with their discomfort from rejection in a different way. |
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?
Is being confident a bad thing? Should he just assume that because you said no he is instantly a loser?
What makes you all that, to say that he’s not?
The thread was triggered by two messages.
First was from a couple who didn’t have a single pic of the fella except for a closeup of his dick. My profile says what I seek regarding couples and they clearly weren’t it.
Their message was three words.
The other was a guy with no pictures and a ‘fill in later’ profile. Who knows if he was the potential love of my life… he didn’t give a chance to find out.
I like confidence. It’s a really attractive thing for me…. And big arms. I love big arms but the messages I received were far from giving me the impression of confidence.
This.
Confidence is very attractive, arrogance isn’t.
And saying “Your loss” is pretty arrogant. If they knew how full some of our inboxes get they’d realise how much of a “loss” they really are… not.
The irony here hurts
Arrogance certainly isn’t sexy, you’re right "
Where is the irony?
Me stating that women get hundreds of messages every single day so a random saying “Your loss” isn’t really a loss? Hardly arrogant it’s a fact. This isn’t a brag, I’d much prefer to get 10 messages a day that were decent than 250.
The point is those who send messages such as “Your loss” think they have something that sets them apart from the others when in actual fact they’re no different with all due respect.
Try again.
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I see it exactly the same as me turning down sprouts.
I don't want sprouts.
Plenty of other people fucking love sprouts, but really, me not putting something I don't like in my mouth is nothing like a loss at all. |
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"Really?
Why do so many think they’re so amazing that I suffer some sort of loss if I don’t jump at their lame offer?"
Because they’re absolutely blinded by the facts that they aren’t actually gods gift and can’t accept rejection  meh fuck um, not literally obvs  |
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"The reality is that each person in here is a unique and special individual, and they deserve to have confidence and believe they have something worth sharing with the world and others. When we reject a connection with someone, it is our loss, because connections are special. We obviously can't form connections with everyone and nor do we want to, but that doesn't make their offer less valuable. I think for people who experience rejection after rejection in here, believing it's the other person's loss is probably a way of protecting their confidence from being utterly ripped apart. Perhaps they could be politer about receiving the rejection at times, but it must be quite hard to always hear "no" or just the vacuum of silence. "
That's an insightfull explanation of most guys situation on here Kitty and from me most welcome too.
I have never been rude to folks or spiteful myself but I must admit I've certainly felt like being.
Especially when you get nasty or sometimes cruel replies.... |
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"I see it exactly the same as me turning down sprouts.
I don't want sprouts.
Plenty of other people fucking love sprouts, but really, me not putting something I don't like in my mouth is nothing like a loss at all. "
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