Off the back of another thread, what's your definition of intimacy?
We all know people have differing views on kissing and how some can't understand why kissing to some is more intimate than sex, but that's not the question here.
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over a year ago
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"Vulnerability. I believe you have to show your vulnerable side for true intimacy to happen."
Yes. I was about to type that.
If you share your weakness with someone.. you trust them they won't hurt you. That's intimate gift. Baring your precious soul into hands of someone. |
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Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.
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"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.
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In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego. |
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"Off the back of another thread, what's your definition of intimacy?
We all know people have differing views on kissing and how some can't understand why kissing to some is more intimate than sex, but that's not the question here.
What does intimacy mean to you? "
I don’t find sex or kissing intimate - I find them fun 
Intimacy, for me, means a proper relationship. |
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"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.
In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego. "
I personally don't think it is intimate peach. I see it more as an experience or an itch to scratch. Intimacy of the mind to me is true intimacy. Seeing my cunt may seem like an intimate thing, but to me it's just a part of my body no different to my elbow. |
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"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.
In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego.
I personally don't think it is intimate peach. I see it more as an experience or an itch to scratch. Intimacy of the mind to me is true intimacy. Seeing my cunt may seem like an intimate thing, but to me it's just a part of my body no different to my elbow. "
So those looking for intimacy in the form of a meet are pretty much predetermined to be let down, purely by the nature of real intimacy?. And what may feel intimate to one half of the meet is no more than an itch to the other half.
I do think that's a huge factor in where I was heading on the other thread with people using sex as a temporary plaster for unaddressed wounds or healing. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I think there are different levels and types of intimacy.
Getting close physically is different to telling people intimate details of your life.
Physically, the intimacy can be from kissing and cuddling to exclamations of affections. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I think there are different levels and types of intimacy.
Getting close physically is different to telling people intimate details of your life.
Physically, the intimacy can be from kissing and cuddling to exclamations of affections."
People can become closer the more times they meet, which can lead to a more intimate relationship.
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I can't give you a brief definition. I think Victoria Wood summed it up nicely when one of her characters said
'its having some to say "did you' when you say "damn I left the tomatoes on the back seat of the car""
It's knowing that they know exactly how that impacts your life |
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"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.
In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego. "
I say it can’t. You can experience a closeness at the time, but allowing true intimacy (fir me) will only come over time as you get to know each other better and allow those masks / barriers to drop. |
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"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.
In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego.
I personally don't think it is intimate peach. I see it more as an experience or an itch to scratch. Intimacy of the mind to me is true intimacy. Seeing my cunt may seem like an intimate thing, but to me it's just a part of my body no different to my elbow.
So those looking for intimacy in the form of a meet are pretty much predetermined to be let down, purely by the nature of real intimacy?. And what may feel intimate to one half of the meet is no more than an itch to the other half.
I do think that's a huge factor in where I was heading on the other thread with people using sex as a temporary plaster for unaddressed wounds or healing."
I think tempory plasters are fine as long as you acknowledge the fact that they are indeed just tempory. If they are a means to get through the healing process then they have their place.
I think intimacy is thought to be this exclusive thing between couples or involve sex. I don't believe it is to be honest, and once we don't think of it as such we feel happier. |
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"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.
In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego.
I say it can’t. You can experience a closeness at the time, but allowing true intimacy (fir me) will only come over time as you get to know each other better and allow those masks / barriers to drop. "
Yep intimacy for us is completely different from having a meet. Although we do tend to be ourselves more and relax at meets |
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"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.
In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego.
I personally don't think it is intimate peach. I see it more as an experience or an itch to scratch. Intimacy of the mind to me is true intimacy. Seeing my cunt may seem like an intimate thing, but to me it's just a part of my body no different to my elbow.
So those looking for intimacy in the form of a meet are pretty much predetermined to be let down, purely by the nature of real intimacy?. And what may feel intimate to one half of the meet is no more than an itch to the other half.
I do think that's a huge factor in where I was heading on the other thread with people using sex as a temporary plaster for unaddressed wounds or healing.
I think tempory plasters are fine as long as you acknowledge the fact that they are indeed just tempory. If they are a means to get through the healing process then they have their place.
I think intimacy is thought to be this exclusive thing between couples or involve sex. I don't believe it is to be honest, and once we don't think of it as such we feel happier. "
I agree it isn't exclusive to couples. I have friends who I'm intimate with and my kids |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I think intimacy is thought to be this exclusive thing between couples or involve sex. I don't believe it is to be honest, and once we don't think of it as such we feel happier. "
 100% yes. I think intimacy can take many forms, it's as unique as the dynamic/relationship between two people and it doesn't have to involve sex or love. |
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"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.
In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego.
I personally don't think it is intimate peach. I see it more as an experience or an itch to scratch. Intimacy of the mind to me is true intimacy. Seeing my cunt may seem like an intimate thing, but to me it's just a part of my body no different to my elbow.
So those looking for intimacy in the form of a meet are pretty much predetermined to be let down, purely by the nature of real intimacy?. And what may feel intimate to one half of the meet is no more than an itch to the other half.
I do think that's a huge factor in where I was heading on the other thread with people using sex as a temporary plaster for unaddressed wounds or healing.
I think tempory plasters are fine as long as you acknowledge the fact that they are indeed just tempory. If they are a means to get through the healing process then they have their place.
I think intimacy is thought to be this exclusive thing between couples or involve sex. I don't believe it is to be honest, and once we don't think of it as such we feel happier. "
Agree intimacy isn’t about sex, I’m more intimate with a couple of friends than I’ve ever been with a sexual partner (bar one) it is more about trust & honesty to let them in and see / understand who you are & why and vice versa. |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"Vulnerability. I believe you have to show your vulnerable side for true intimacy to happen."
This, this is what it means to me. I don’t think I’ve ever really been intimate with someone. I have never fully 100% given in an shown my vulnerable side to another. I’m too afraid of getting hurt. |
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