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I'm so sick of been alone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You dont just moan and its perfectly OK to say how you're feeling.
Its really difficult when you get stuck in a rut of negative thinking and not easy to get out of.
I guess the only advice I can give is dont give up and trying get out and about now that things have opened up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about."
i know how you feel its hard being on your own but never let it get you down talk to your friends
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about."
May I recommend this link and the philosophies from Arthur Schopenhauer ? Number 1 and 2 may be of particular interest.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0cyq02jZV0g
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about."
Sorry to be blunt, but if you’re sick of being alone why the big NO MEETS on your profile and Cannot accom or travel or no single males. What are you looking for or are you putting up walls? |
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about.
Sorry to be blunt, but if you’re sick of being alone why the big NO MEETS on your profile and Cannot accom or travel or no single males. What are you looking for or are you putting up walls? "
Maybe what she needs isn't just a shag? Not saying that's all you can find here, but if your feeling lonely or depressed then feeling like people only want to know you for sex can make you feel 10 times worse.
OP, it's hard but it won't always be this way.
It's so easy for us to focus on the negative things, rather than the positive and our brains get tuned into seeing them.
Try thinking of the little things that bring you joy during the day and make a note of them before you go to bed. A cup of coffee in the morning. The sound of kids laughing. The red glow of a sunset. Small things, but the more we recognise them, the more we'll see the other things that make us happy too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fabs is a place that can make you feel very alone, I know I've been there.
Posting on the forums is all well and good but it's only virtual company.
Why not give Fabs a break and go and do something else with your life beyond this.
You may just meet the person of your dreams and not be alone anymore. |
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Sorry to say it but if you're here to find a potential mate or meet fun people then a change of attitude is needed. No one wants to meet a moaner. Remember we all have our problems. Best advice: find a hobby or interest. Go to your main branch library and join one of the social groups mentioned on the notice board.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with getting a pet.. And if it's a dog - lots of opportunities to meet a potential other at training classes, or walking in the park or even crufts 
Sorry you are feeling low OP
What about renting a room out? Maybe to a student or airb+b so its every now and then? |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about.
Sorry to be blunt, but if you’re sick of being alone why the big NO MEETS on your profile and Cannot accom or travel or no single males. What are you looking for or are you putting up walls? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about."
Moaning/talking is bloody good for you  and the air in your lungs and the day ahead of you is more than enough to be happy about  keep moving up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stop putting pressure on yourself to be happy you’ll never be happy if your always searching, you got a roof, warmth, food on the table, you probably have a lot of things in your life to be happy for.
The mr |
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about.
Sorry to be blunt, but if you’re sick of being alone why the big NO MEETS on your profile and Cannot accom or travel or no single males. What are you looking for or are you putting up walls?
Maybe what she needs isn't just a shag? Not saying that's all you can find here, but if your feeling lonely or depressed then feeling like people only want to know you for sex can make you feel 10 times worse.
OP, it's hard but it won't always be this way.
It's so easy for us to focus on the negative things, rather than the positive and our brains get tuned into seeing them.
Try thinking of the little things that bring you joy during the day and make a note of them before you go to bed. A cup of coffee in the morning. The sound of kids laughing. The red glow of a sunset. Small things, but the more we recognise them, the more we'll see the other things that make us happy too.
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What a lovely comment, and agree totally |
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about.
Sorry to be blunt, but if you’re sick of being alone why the big NO MEETS on your profile and Cannot accom or travel or no single males. What are you looking for or are you putting up walls?
Maybe what she needs isn't just a shag? Not saying that's all you can find here, but if your feeling lonely or depressed then feeling like people only want to know you for sex can make you feel 10 times worse.
OP, it's hard but it won't always be this way.
It's so easy for us to focus on the negative things, rather than the positive and our brains get tuned into seeing them.
Try thinking of the little things that bring you joy during the day and make a note of them before you go to bed. A cup of coffee in the morning. The sound of kids laughing. The red glow of a sunset. Small things, but the more we recognise them, the more we'll see the other things that make us happy too.
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So so true. |
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Hey lovely.
I understand fully what you are saying and at times I do find myself thinking ‘what if I’ve missed my chance of long lasting relationship’ Especially now, at this age and, with a kinky lifestyle.
Having someone in your life shouldn’t be the bee all and end all, try and focus on the positive things you have going for you.
Happiness does come from within. (I don’t mean that to sound in any way patronising)
For me, I Make sure I keep in contact with my friends and family. It sounds cliche, but exercise can lighten how I’m feeling. Eating well also big factors. May also be beneficial, chatting to you GP. It might be those dreaded hormones playing havoc on your body and mind.
You’re certainly not alone honey.
Look after yourself x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about."
You've got a hot body. I fabbed your pics last time you were here. I think you're awesome. X
Also moaning clears the cobwebs out. Moan then go out for a walk and let the breeze blow through your hair and make you feel good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about.
You've got a hot body. I fabbed your pics last time you were here. I think you're awesome. X
Also moaning clears the cobwebs out. Moan then go out for a walk and let the breeze blow through your hair and make you feel good. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about.
Sorry to be blunt, but if you’re sick of being alone why the big NO MEETS on your profile and Cannot accom or travel or no single males. What are you looking for or are you putting up walls?
Maybe what she needs isn't just a shag? Not saying that's all you can find here, but if your feeling lonely or depressed then feeling like people only want to know you for sex can make you feel 10 times worse.
OP, it's hard but it won't always be this way.
It's so easy for us to focus on the negative things, rather than the positive and our brains get tuned into seeing them.
Try thinking of the little things that bring you joy during the day and make a note of them before you go to bed. A cup of coffee in the morning. The sound of kids laughing. The red glow of a sunset. Small things, but the more we recognise them, the more we'll see the other things that make us happy too.
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love this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some of the best points in my life was as a single. The freedom you have to do what you want when you want is great and also became my most independent and confident.
Someone once said don't scared by the unknown be excited by it. It helped me, you never know what is around the corner. Anything could happen. Do what makes you happy and the rest will happen when it happens. I get it though. I had phases where I wanted company and someone to go out with etc. It sucks at times. And it's not moaning. Its perfectly fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop putting pressure on yourself to be happy you’ll never be happy if your always searching, you got a roof, warmth, food on the table, you probably have a lot of things in your life to be happy for.
The mr "
This is very true - dwelling on what you dont have can make you forget what is good xx
take care hope you find something to feel a little happier about ? even if its just people on here care!! |
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Guess it depends on what you are looking for. I agree with bluebell above, the most lonely I ever felt was when I was with my ex husband.
I recognised it and decided to start dance classes against his wishes. I remember being sat outside the class full of nerves not wanting to go in. But in I did and that was the start of me changing my life for the better. I made new friends and a new found confidence, because I was doing something I enjoyed.
It can be hard on here, thinking everyone is more popular than you, get more fabs on their pictures, spoken to more on the forum. I know at my most alone I couldn't have dealt with being on here. Maybe starting with a smaller group size may help? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think about all that you want from life. Pick one and start a road to achieve it. Don’t set any targets for yourself, just see where it leads for now. Also, get exercising. You need the rush of endorphins to lighten your mood. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Regardless of what’s on her profile - doesn’t mean she doesn’t feel lonely.
Fab can just be used for forums.
So the sarcastic comments of her not meeting really won’t help. |
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I hear you, and I’m sure there’s a lot of folk on here who can associate with the loneliness and feeling unhappy! For me, my loneliest times were when I was stuck in past relationships!
Is loneliness the main cause or are there other aspects of your life that impact your mood? Also is your lonely just about being single (if you are) or does it also cover friends, family, contact within your community etc? What realistic small step can you do to help lift your mood? Could you break your current cycle and do something different? Sometimes a tiny tweak can bring a big change, and that’s all in your control!
I don’t believe others should be the ones to make us feel happy, that should come from within firstly! All the best to you lovely  Miss pc |
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about."
Being on your own can make anyone feel lonely. I'm also from west Midlands so if you'd like to meet for a cuppa by you somewhere public, I'm happy to oblige and I'm a good listener. John x |
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Being alone isn’t an issue x loneliness is a massive issue and I used to confuse the two - having a network of close friends or people that you can interact with helps massively - but it’s still not the same as a soulmate - seems on here that the cples have found their soulmates - no secrets or deception. Completely open with each other - I’ve always found i met someone when I wasn’t looking. Out of the blue normally x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry you feel this way OP. It can be very difficult, especially as summer turns into autumn and the weather changes.
Being lonely is awful but I'd say to focus on the good things in life to begin with and try to write down at least one thing that has been positive each day. Sometimes it can be as simple as "got out of bed and had a shower". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lots of good advice on here OP. Try and look for the little positive things in each day. Appreciate what you have got, don’t think about what you haven’t got.
Go for a walk with happy upbeat music blasting, appreciate the beauty of nature around you. Partake in a random act of kindness.. chat to someone in the queue at the supermarket, tell a random stranger you love their bag/hairstyle/shoes etc.
Make someone else smile & spread positivity (even if you don’t feel it yourself)
You will find that positive vibe comes back to you.
More importantly stop searching for the person who you think will fill that void. Once you are content in yourself they will find you!
Remember you are awesome.. tell yourself that each day  |
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Have a listen to a guy on you tube named Matthew Hussey I think it is. He talks about relationships and even though its the last thing I want, I've found it really insightful and makes a lot of sense.
One thing he mentions is we seond so much time clinging onto the idea of what we want that we neglect to appreciate the here and now. Whether we're in a relationship that's not healthy or not in one at all we hold on to the fantasy of what could be and waste time instead of living in the present. |
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"I know that all I ever do is moan. But I can't find anything to be happy about."
If you fancy a night out with another sexy lady . I take you up hurst street and if you fancy coming back for coffee afterwards even better . |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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Try doing something else to keep your mind busy feeling lonely is never nice but when you do meet someone they will like you for you
You might meet some one whilst out
When your busy xxx
Xxx |
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"Regardless of what’s on her profile - doesn’t mean she doesn’t feel lonely.
Fab can just be used for forums.
So the sarcastic comments of her not meeting really won’t help. "
Clapping at this comment! |
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