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Fab friendship or just here for the fun ….
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do others here hope to make friends and lasting friendships with other fab members or is it all just about the fun element ? This might sound a little sad to admit but building new friendships is a huge reason I’m here and part of what I’m searching for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would like friendships but it never seems to work out that way. A lot of guys say they’re looking for a regular thing with a social aspect but in reality they’re just after another notch on their bedpost….. in my experience anyway.  |
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When I started out many years ago I didn't expect to meet and form the friendships that I now have! My group of closest friends I met here. I consider them family and love them as much. It's what keeps me here more than the sex... mostly   |
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I joined Fab looking for casual sex only. I had no desire to connect with anyone beyond that. 3 years on some of my closest friends are people I’ve met through Fab. We have completely vanilla friendships which are nothing to do with the scene. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s really reassuring to see I’m not alone thinking this way, obviously I’d love to find both friendships and fun, personally I’d need some type of friendship before I’d feel like things progressed naturally to the fun stage. |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
I've made one really good friend on here and others are definitely blossoming as well, friendship definitely makes for a better all round experience for me, and I've been lucky to find the ones I have x |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
The friends I've made on here have proven to be the most loyal, beautiful people I know.
They've saved my life.
They've dropped everything to help me.
They've been there in the darkest of times.
They've made me feel safe.
They've shown me I'm worth something.
And they've given me pure joy and so very much fun.
I never expected them and I have so much love for them. |
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I’ve made some good friends on here that I talk to regularly even if we don’t always get a chance to meet. It’s a shame that some men view the ‘friendship’ as waiting for the next opportunity for a shag and drop you when they realise it isn’t forthcoming |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
"The friends I've made on here have proven to be the most loyal, beautiful people I know.
They've saved my life.
They've dropped everything to help me.
They've been there in the darkest of times.
They've made me feel safe.
They've shown me I'm worth something.
And they've given me pure joy and so very much fun.
I never expected them and I have so much love for them."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have met some amazing people during my time on Fab. People I would not have crossed paths with
Some were lovers and now solid friends
Some are and always have been friends.
It is exciting seeing where it all leads too |
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By *lourobMan
over a year ago
Gloucester |
We have all had 1 night stands in the past, but for me it’s about letting go more, opening up about fantasies and maybe finding someone to enact them with, and to do this there has to be trust, the sort that can only come from a honest friendship.
I’m here to make friends 1st with no expectations, if nothing comes other than friendship then I’ll take that as a bonus to have another friend that won’t judge me for being me. |
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Before we dipped our toes, we couldn't imagine our swinging partners becoming friends, we always thought those 2 world's would stay completely separate. As it turned out, we now play with people who have become genuinely good friends. Funny how it works out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both. I found Fab because of a search for the fun, but forged better friendships along the way. They are as important to me now than the rest of it. In my position, that can be tough and I've lost out/been hurt in the past because of it, but it's my choice, once a friend is a friend, they're always a friend... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm looking for someone with a van that'll help me take some old furniture to the dump. Nothing offered in return."
Next time I'm driving through Glasgow... I've got you covered  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I’m here for both, but mostly the long term friendships (with and without sex). Offline the friendship bit is much harder, especially finding people of the opposite sex who love sex and are really into talking about sex. |
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I met two lovely ladies last year on here. Days out to the coast, walking in the Dales, comedy gigs and meals out to name but a few of the the things we’ve done.
The surprising thing we’ve never as much as held hands or kissed. Completely friend zoned from the start. More to life than sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix "
Think you've been reading a different thread!!
I get it. Many swingers don't want to mix fab friends with their real life as we don't like to announce to everyone what we do. In my circle of friends I could never announce friends I've met from here. They would want to know too much and I'm not into shouting my sex life to everyone or making up lies about how I know people. It's much easier to keep it separate. I think many forget that it isn't a hook up / dating site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix
Think you've been reading a different thread!!
I get it. Many swingers don't want to mix fab friends with their real life as we don't like to announce to everyone what we do. In my circle of friends I could never announce friends I've met from here. They would want to know too much and I'm not into shouting my sex life to everyone or making up lies about how I know people. It's much easier to keep it separate. I think many forget that it isn't a hook up / dating site. "
Nail hit on head. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ideally for me it’s striking up a friendship on here that develops into conversations away from here before meeting in the flesh for drinks and a laugh and seeing how things progress naturally. I’m sure I’ll become friends with people who live miles away and might never meet or maybe one day our paths will cross, any friendship is special and you can’t have enough friends, I’ll be straight up and honest I certainly don’t have enough hence me reaching out x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ideally for me it’s striking up a friendship on here that develops into conversations away from here before meeting in the flesh for drinks and a laugh and seeing how things progress naturally. I’m sure I’ll become friends with people who live miles away and might never meet or maybe one day our paths will cross, any friendship is special and you can’t have enough friends, I’ll be straight up and honest I certainly don’t have enough hence me reaching out x"
Are you looking for friendship with men too? |
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"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix
Think you've been reading a different thread!!
I get it. Many swingers don't want to mix fab friends with their real life as we don't like to announce to everyone what we do. In my circle of friends I could never announce friends I've met from here. They would want to know too much and I'm not into shouting my sex life to everyone or making up lies about how I know people. It's much easier to keep it separate. I think many forget that it isn't a hook up / dating site. "
My mates would just ask how I met her, and I'd simply say "online", and that would be the end of it. They wouldn't delve deeper.
Maybe that's just guys though?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix
Think you've been reading a different thread!!
I get it. Many swingers don't want to mix fab friends with their real life as we don't like to announce to everyone what we do. In my circle of friends I could never announce friends I've met from here. They would want to know too much and I'm not into shouting my sex life to everyone or making up lies about how I know people. It's much easier to keep it separate. I think many forget that it isn't a hook up / dating site.
My mates would just ask how I met her, and I'd simply say "online", and that would be the end of it. They wouldn't delve deeper.
Maybe that's just guys though?
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When you're a married woman telling your work friends / other friends you met someone online would raise eyebrows. That isn't generally what married women do. We don't do out to make friends with sexy hot guys! |
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"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix
Think you've been reading a different thread!!
I get it. Many swingers don't want to mix fab friends with their real life as we don't like to announce to everyone what we do. In my circle of friends I could never announce friends I've met from here. They would want to know too much and I'm not into shouting my sex life to everyone or making up lies about how I know people. It's much easier to keep it separate. I think many forget that it isn't a hook up / dating site.
My mates would just ask how I met her, and I'd simply say "online", and that would be the end of it. They wouldn't delve deeper.
Maybe that's just guys though?
When you're a married woman telling your work friends / other friends you met someone online would raise eyebrows. That isn't generally what married women do. We don't do out to make friends with sexy hot guys!"
That's definitely true.
Everyone's situation is different.
I think if I were in a situation like that, I'd still class my fab friends as real friends though, I just wouldn't mix them all up.
Like my quiet geeky friends 'usually' don't mingle with my rock gig going friends. |
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"Ideally for me it’s striking up a friendship on here that develops into conversations away from here before meeting in the flesh for drinks and a laugh and seeing how things progress naturally. I’m sure I’ll become friends with people who live miles away and might never meet or maybe one day our paths will cross, any friendship is special and you can’t have enough friends, I’ll be straight up and honest I certainly don’t have enough hence me reaching out x"
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"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix
Think you've been reading a different thread!!
I get it. Many swingers don't want to mix fab friends with their real life as we don't like to announce to everyone what we do. In my circle of friends I could never announce friends I've met from here. They would want to know too much and I'm not into shouting my sex life to everyone or making up lies about how I know people. It's much easier to keep it separate. I think many forget that it isn't a hook up / dating site. "
I was referring to the comment above of ‘it’s all an act, real mates count’ - as though to suggest friendships on here are fake. |
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I agree with _ockosaurus. If anyone asked me how I met someone I’d say online and that would be it, it’s no one else business.
Plus it can be a dating site if people want it to be, plenty of relationships have come from fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree with _ockosaurus. If anyone asked me how I met someone I’d say online and that would be it, it’s no one else business.
Plus it can be a dating site if people want it to be, plenty of relationships have come from fab "
Yes but the whole dating site thing doesn't work when you are a couple that only works for singles. |
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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago
Kettering |
I'm mainly here to make friends. I'm not the best person at keeping in touch so this maybe the reason I'm Billy no mates. Over time I have lost the art of conversation as I spend so much time on my own  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would like friendships but it never seems to work out that way. A lot of guys say they’re looking for a regular thing with a social aspect but in reality they’re just after another notch on their bedpost….. in my experience anyway. "
Yes it’s the way things are going on Fab recently.
That’s why I tend to chat for quite a few weeks with men before a first meet which is always social only. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've made some fantastic friends on here, some I also have sex with and others I don't.
Our paths would never have crossed if it wasn't for this site, and for that I'm very grateful.
Mrs"
Absolutely this…  Some have gone on to have exclusive relationships with others and we’re now ‘just’ friends. Some I still have sex with. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think there's anything sad about it in the slightest OP, everyone does things differently and as long as it's not causing harm to others, it's not a bad thing.
I'm definitely one who prefers, scratch that, wants friendship. The other "stuff" can follow after but I don't find myself wanting sex/sexual interactions with someone without it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s genuinely been a great few days getting to know some of you even though we haven’t spoke 1 on 1 x
I can definitely see me spending most of my fab time around the forums with you lovely lot x |
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"It’s genuinely been a great few days getting to know some of you even though we haven’t spoke 1 on 1 x
I can definitely see me spending most of my fab time around the forums with you lovely lot x "
It's a little bit addictive isn't it |
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I wanna make friends with people who are like minded and want to go to clubs and group nights etc. Separate from my real world friends. If there is an attraction then that is a bonus, but like minded fuck friends on the same journey as me is more important. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would like friendships but it never seems to work out that way. A lot of guys say they’re looking for a regular thing with a social aspect but in reality they’re just after another notch on their bedpost….. in my experience anyway. "
I've had some social meets, they said they were looking for the same as me but... They weren't.
One said... Yeah, what I'm after is a threesome with two women'
I just shook my head n asked.. mmm why disappoint one woman when you can disappoint two kinda thing?
He'd fibbed saying he wanted a friendship/fun thing, as did the others but... I live in hope lol |
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"I would like friendships but it never seems to work out that way. A lot of guys say they’re looking for a regular thing with a social aspect but in reality they’re just after another notch on their bedpost….. in my experience anyway.
I've had some social meets, they said they were looking for the same as me but... They weren't.
One said... Yeah, what I'm after is a threesome with two women'
I just shook my head n asked.. mmm why disappoint one woman when you can disappoint two kinda thing?
He'd fibbed saying he wanted a friendship/fun thing, as did the others but... I live in hope lol"
I get this a lot too, sadly. I now try to drag out meeting for a social so I get a better feel for them. I mean, if they can't be arsed to message for a short while, they're not likely to want to put effort into a fab friendship!
Luckily, I've got some wonderful fab friends. Just wish I could find one close by.....x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would like friendships but it never seems to work out that way. A lot of guys say they’re looking for a regular thing with a social aspect but in reality they’re just after another notch on their bedpost….. in my experience anyway.
I've had some social meets, they said they were looking for the same as me but... They weren't.
One said... Yeah, what I'm after is a threesome with two women'
I just shook my head n asked.. mmm why disappoint one woman when you can disappoint two kinda thing?
He'd fibbed saying he wanted a friendship/fun thing, as did the others but... I live in hope lol
I get this a lot too, sadly. I now try to drag out meeting for a social so I get a better feel for them. I mean, if they can't be arsed to message for a short while, they're not likely to want to put effort into a fab friendship!
Luckily, I've got some wonderful fab friends. Just wish I could find one close by.....x"
Id chatted, talked on phone too in fact Mr I want a 3some was allegedly pleased he'd found someone looking for same as him lol
I wondered if he thought I'd have said well.... My bestie is in the car, I always bring her just in case haha |
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"I would like friendships but it never seems to work out that way. A lot of guys say they’re looking for a regular thing with a social aspect but in reality they’re just after another notch on their bedpost….. in my experience anyway.
I've had some social meets, they said they were looking for the same as me but... They weren't.
One said... Yeah, what I'm after is a threesome with two women'
I just shook my head n asked.. mmm why disappoint one woman when you can disappoint two kinda thing?
He'd fibbed saying he wanted a friendship/fun thing, as did the others but... I live in hope lol
I get this a lot too, sadly. I now try to drag out meeting for a social so I get a better feel for them. I mean, if they can't be arsed to message for a short while, they're not likely to want to put effort into a fab friendship!
Luckily, I've got some wonderful fab friends. Just wish I could find one close by.....x
Id chatted, talked on phone too in fact Mr I want a 3some was allegedly pleased he'd found someone looking for same as him lol
I wondered if he thought I'd have said well.... My bestie is in the car, I always bring her just in case haha"
I know! Telling us what they think we want to hear, just to get a shag. Bit bloody sad, isn't it? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would like friendships but it never seems to work out that way. A lot of guys say they’re looking for a regular thing with a social aspect but in reality they’re just after another notch on their bedpost….. in my experience anyway.
I've had some social meets, they said they were looking for the same as me but... They weren't.
One said... Yeah, what I'm after is a threesome with two women'
I just shook my head n asked.. mmm why disappoint one woman when you can disappoint two kinda thing?
He'd fibbed saying he wanted a friendship/fun thing, as did the others but... I live in hope lol
I get this a lot too, sadly. I now try to drag out meeting for a social so I get a better feel for them. I mean, if they can't be arsed to message for a short while, they're not likely to want to put effort into a fab friendship!
Luckily, I've got some wonderful fab friends. Just wish I could find one close by.....x
Id chatted, talked on phone too in fact Mr I want a 3some was allegedly pleased he'd found someone looking for same as him lol
I wondered if he thought I'd have said well.... My bestie is in the car, I always bring her just in case haha
I know! Telling us what they think we want to hear, just to get a shag. Bit bloody sad, isn't it? X"
A wee bit yeah, I get its what some want n that's great but just be upfront with us |
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"I would like friendships but it never seems to work out that way. A lot of guys say they’re looking for a regular thing with a social aspect but in reality they’re just after another notch on their bedpost….. in my experience anyway.
I've had some social meets, they said they were looking for the same as me but... They weren't.
One said... Yeah, what I'm after is a threesome with two women'
I just shook my head n asked.. mmm why disappoint one woman when you can disappoint two kinda thing?
He'd fibbed saying he wanted a friendship/fun thing, as did the others but... I live in hope lol
I get this a lot too, sadly. I now try to drag out meeting for a social so I get a better feel for them. I mean, if they can't be arsed to message for a short while, they're not likely to want to put effort into a fab friendship!
Luckily, I've got some wonderful fab friends. Just wish I could find one close by.....x
Id chatted, talked on phone too in fact Mr I want a 3some was allegedly pleased he'd found someone looking for same as him lol
I wondered if he thought I'd have said well.... My bestie is in the car, I always bring her just in case haha
I know! Telling us what they think we want to hear, just to get a shag. Bit bloody sad, isn't it? X
A wee bit yeah, I get its what some want n that's great but just be upfront with us "
Indeed! Or look for people that are wanting the same thing x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have made some real life friends on here.
For me it's wonderful having friends you can fuck if a night out one way and who you can have a great laugh with if the night turns out another. |
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