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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Not the ones I picked up from the bottom of the pit. It never works out that way. But usually someone unexpected. And I try to pass that on. "
It’s often the way. Help from unexpected quarters is one of life’s gifts |
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over a year ago
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"Not the ones I picked up from the bottom of the pit. It never works out that way. But usually someone unexpected. And I try to pass that on.
It’s often the way. Help from unexpected quarters is one of life’s gifts"
I have a post in mind about this. Thanks for inspiration |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Also are we talking financially or emotionally? Emotionally Def no one, financially as I said cousin"
Either or both.
My original thought was if everything fell down and you were destitute and emotional broken. That’s what I considered by it |
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"For those people that say just them, is that a personal choice or a matter of physical necessity?
Is it just you because you do so owing to being alone or because it’s a matter of pride? "
A bit of both, whenever I fall I go through a range of motions that I need to tackle first, I couldn't burden someone with that. |
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I learnt a long time ago that the only one who really cares about you, is you!!
Has to be said you have to look out for yourself.
Anyone from here I’d question their motives.
Self love is where it all begins! |
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That’s both inspiring and slightly sad at the same time. I’d hope that not just you"
When you've been shat upon at a great height by your parents as a kid. It comes from necessity. As I've gotten older I'm able to talk my problems through with others, but I use them as a sounding board more than anything. I don't expect anyone to fix me. I understand my triggers and weaknesses more than anyone else. I know how to get myself back on track. And that's all that matters to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also are we talking financially or emotionally? Emotionally Def no one, financially as I said cousin
Either or both.
My original thought was if everything fell down and you were destitute and emotional broken. That’s what I considered by it"
Never had anyone emotionally support me my entire life. No one has ever cared enough to notice. Even in the darkest times. Most recently when I separated and had to sell the house I had no where to live until the last minute and my cousin offered me a room. I was all set to live in my car for a bit. I will be eternally grateful to him for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also are we talking financially or emotionally? Emotionally Def no one, financially as I said cousin
Either or both.
My original thought was if everything fell down and you were destitute and emotional broken. That’s what I considered by it
Never had anyone emotionally support me my entire life. No one has ever cared enough to notice. Even in the darkest times. Most recently when I separated and had to sell the house I had no where to live until the last minute and my cousin offered me a room. I was all set to live in my car for a bit. I will be eternally grateful to him for that."
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I think ultimately the only person you can save is yourself. I say this having come from the darkest of places more than once.
That being said, no (wo)man is an island - from the way we were shaped and nurtured in childhood, the resources we've gathered being part of society, the safety nets we take for granted. Friends, family, random inspiration.
It's a team effort in many ways. It takes a whole village to raise us all up, to adapt a phrase. |
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Can't think of anyone left in ordinary life that would do that much when I'm at rock bottom. That said, there are a few on here who have helped me enormously at times with a kind word or a little gift, enough to let me know that I'm not on my own. You know who you are xxx. I hope that I have managed to do the same for others when they need it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me, because if I didn't there would be a dozen or more friends wanting to help and I hate being a burden to people I love.
It's enough to be among them to blow my problems away anyway. Even if only for a short while. |
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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago
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Providing I'm not "Non compos mentis" (of unsound mind), me! I solve my solutions the best.
So it will be the police cuffing me in my underpants & me getting sectioned? I don't think so cos I'm a very tuff mental scrapper! But you never know what will be the trigger or push you?
Most people will be too wrapped up in their lives until it happens to them or someone they love dearly....
One close friend I can think of perhaps if he is aware?
Can't see my family doing much. So me & a chocolate fireguard & teapot then? LOL.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very used to having to pick myself back up.
It feels very odd when someone is supportive and it's taken a while to get used to it.
If you pick yourself back and don't lean on anyone else you can stick two fingers up at whatever made you fall with a greater sense of satisfaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My best friend of nearly 30yrs, we’ve supported each other through many difficult times, my parents & my kids. I feel blessed in that respect.
However, it’s always been ultimately me who drags my ass up from the floor, puts that positive head on even when I don’t feel like it and just gets on with it the best I can.. |
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If I wasn't able to hide my 'falling down' then though I only ever expect myself to pick me up, I know I'm lucky to be surrounded by friends and family, colleagues and neighbours who would be there. The problem I have is that I'm incredibly stubborn and feel enormous guilt if my problems impact others, so my retort is usually 'Oh I'm fine!,Don't worry!'   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have my Mum and Dad to help me if I was down financially. But luckily I've never really been down, probably through a mixture of luck and safe life choices. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Myself.
People will always claim to be there but they aren't.
I've helped many a friend when they needed it, even when they didn't deserve it."
Sadly a similar story..
Never thought I’d think this way but you learn who really real friends are when the phone does or doesn’t ring |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Myself.
People will always claim to be there but they aren't.
I've helped many a friend when they needed it, even when they didn't deserve it.
Sadly a similar story..
Never thought I’d think this way but you learn who really real friends are when the phone does or doesn’t ring "
Oh 100%
Tbh, im very good at taking care of myself and cutting people out my life so the whole, them not being there for me or not being a good friend, ends swiftly  |
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"Recently when I fell, there was no one. I had to drag myself up."
Even so, it has made me stronger and it has made me realise how others may need help. So whether they are friends or not and despite anything that may have happened in the past, I'll always try to offer a hand and to be there if or when they need it. |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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Me. Ultimately I could have a whole world of people around me for support but I’m the only one who can get myself out of my own head.
Unless you mean physically fall in which case still me because my best mate just stood there and asked why I was lying on the pavement & the dog was just flapping about like a loony |
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"Me, because if I didn't there would be a dozen or more friends wanting to help and I hate being a burden to people I love.
It's enough to be among them to blow my problems away anyway. Even if only for a short while."
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Me. Rightly so. Only I can get myself up. I have some dear friends and family who will always come to support but there is only so much others can do. Ultimately, I want to be my own saviour.
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