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Spontaneous vs Planned
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It depends on who,where,when.
With Mr spontaneous can be the best, we need to often grab the opportunity whilst we can when the kids are out of the house.
With other people planned is good, the build up, planning and anticipation can be exciting. |
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"So what’s better? Spontaneous heat of the Moment or planned in advance and eagerly anticipated? "
We prefer to plan in advance. With limited time available to meet, planning in advance is less likely to result in us being all ready to play but having no one to play with. That said, we are not averse to pulling someone direct rom the chatroom if we are available nd they are local. |
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For me it depends if you already know them. If it is a new couple with specific needs, e.g. cuckold, voyeur etc. then planned is best to give the best experience. If you know them then spontaneous can work.
The trouble with 1st time spontaneous is some people think one size fits all and it usually does not. |
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over a year ago
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I like both. The anticipation when you've planned a meet and being able to get to know each other better over the course of a few weeks than a few hours is great. Although if we're out and in the moment then I'll take what I can get  |
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over a year ago
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Prefer planned and I love the anticipation of something HOT planned… unless it’s spontaneous in an organic way. Like, you are both out, u meet at a club and it happens that you go home together.
But going out like that u are automatically open to the possibility.. or so I think.. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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We need to plan, so we can ensure all the bits n bobs are cleaned, prepared, everyone knows whats likely to happen, any risk assessments are done, we are aware of any physical or mental health issues, triggers, limits, safe words etc.
Spontaneous only happens with people we know well. |
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