 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Did anyone see it last night and have any thoughts? Would you disclose an interest in BDSM on a first date? How would you react if a first date disclosed it to you? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
That's the confusing part. If you are very much into kink and cannot imagine a relationship without it, would it make sense to be open about it right from the beginning? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
privately i'd be sceptical that they actually had any more than just a modicum of experience in bdsm, but would give them the benefit of the doubt as it would only be fair to give them the chance to prove that scepticism as unfounded. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
never had anyone disclose to me on a first date but in messages on various dating sites i have....mainly from sissy men or subs which dont interest me.
i have disclosed fairly early on that i swing and all that does is make them just want sex and nothing else.
i want a relationship with kink and swinging involved in someway but seem to be destined to be a swinging spinster forever lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"God I'd be delirious with glee
Can you record a video rubbing your hands together and mwahahahahaing please! "
I'd dramatically swipe my arm across the pub table, pushing everything off, and then pull my pants down as I draped myself across the now empty table  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"As kink is what I'm looking for etc etc I always open with that  saves everyone's time "
Open with that in a real life date or when messaging online? Curious to know how vanilla people react to these things normally. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"God I'd be delirious with glee
Can you record a video rubbing your hands together and mwahahahahaing please!
I'd dramatically swipe my arm across the pub table, pushing everything off, and then pull my pants down as I draped myself across the now empty table "
Hang on, let me get my crisps first  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
I would disclose it in messages or social conversation first before meeting for a date.
BDSM is part of who I am so I couldn’t give it up.
That being said, there are always ways of bringing it up in conversation without scaring people away. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Didn’t see it
But my normal is vanilla for the first couple off meets
Then a evening off vanilla fun with chat and go over kinks and stuff and see they want to movie forward
Always tell them if it’s not for you just say so don’t bs me with saying ooo yip yip yip bla bla bla get home and message sorry just not that in to it
Just be straight forward with me not going to change the outcome off that night we still have vanilla play regardless if you are in to it or not
Only thing that it will offect is repet meets not saying I will not meet you again as if I am horny and need a vanilla night then you can be a booty call so to speak but as far as regular probably not |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It’s an interesting conversation. We got pregnant before I had the opportunity to disclose my kink to my wife..it’s always been a bit of a niggle between us. She enjoys it but I think she’d probably have thought twice if she knew from the outset. I was trying to suppress my feelings when I met her which I suppose was never going to end well |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"As kink is what I'm looking for etc etc I always open with that saves everyone's time
Open with that in a real life date or when messaging online? Curious to know how vanilla people react to these things normally."
I'd open with it in real life too, I'm kink focused so if they aren't, no point in moving it forward better we just move on |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"As kink is what I'm looking for etc etc I always open with that saves everyone's time
Open with that in a real life date or when messaging online? Curious to know how vanilla people react to these things normally.
I'd open with it in real life too, I'm kink focused so if they aren't, no point in moving it forward better we just move on "
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
