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Is interested in maybe meeting a member of the same sex but either hasn’t tried it or only tried it a few times. Or likes some aspects of it, like oral only, but not all things bi.
That’s my interpretation anyway. I’ve not long changed mine from curious. |
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"Is interested in maybe meeting a member of the same sex but either hasn’t tried it or only tried it a few times. Or likes some aspects of it, like oral only, but not all things bi.
That’s my interpretation anyway. I’ve not long changed mine from curious. "
Pretty much this is how i see it |
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I have found that Bi curious men just want me to suck their dick and aren’t interested in fucking me where as gay men will mostly want to fuck me as well.
Slightly off topic but it’s amazing how many messages I get off men who say on their profile they’re straight. I understand why they want to be discreet but it just shows how many men out there are into men but keep it secret. |
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Its in the wording....curious.
Youre curious to try something so once youve tried it you've satisfied that curiosity.
Its then up to you, did you like it and want to do it again? If so then you're bi.
If you didn't like it and don't want to do it again then you're not.
Only doing some things with a person of the same gender is still bi, its not curious otherwise opposite genders would have to say they're hetero-curious as say she didn't like sucking his dick or he didn't like fucking her and only like licking her.
Its like people are ashamed of something quite natural...its a label, get over it as its just a descriptor for what you are.
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"Its in the wording....curious.
Youre curious to try something so once youve tried it you've satisfied that curiosity.
Its then up to you, did you like it and want to do it again? If so then you're bi.
If you didn't like it and don't want to do it again then you're not.
Only doing some things with a person of the same gender is still bi, its not curious otherwise opposite genders would have to say they're hetero-curious as say she didn't like sucking his dick or he didn't like fucking her and only like licking her.
Its like people are ashamed of something quite natural...its a label, get over it as its just a descriptor for what you are.
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Should I say I'm not a crossdresser even though I've worn clothes designed for women more than once but I won't wear a wedding dress or a feather boa? 
I'm not crossdressing-curious, I'm a cossdresser, end of story. |
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I interpret it as someone who has a taste for being with men and sometimes is attracted to a man, maybe they’re only attracted to a certain type of man, but has a much stronger and less selective attraction towards women. I’m attracted to both men and women equally and I like everything about each but I can understand that some men might not think about being with a man for ages and then see one man that they’re attracted to one day and I’d consider someone like that to be Bi-curious.
I don’t think using the word ‘curious’ helps as it kind of demeans it and makes it sound like a bit of fun. |
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"I interpret it as someone who has a taste for being with men and sometimes is attracted to a man, maybe they’re only attracted to a certain type of man, but has a much stronger and less selective attraction towards women. I’m attracted to both men and women equally and I like everything about each but I can understand that some men might not think about being with a man for ages and then see one man that they’re attracted to one day and I’d consider someone like that to be Bi-curious.
I don’t think using the word ‘curious’ helps as it kind of demeans it and makes it sound like a bit of fun. "
Maybe look up the definition of the word curious.
To be bi-curious is a normally accepted state to be in and to say that it demeans anything is pissing on someone's fire.
If you only like a very specific type of man or woman instead of all of them, that doesn't make you less of anything, it means your selection parameters are more defined but you're no less bi.
The same for someone fully straight where they only like certain types of the opposite gender, are they by your definition less straight somehow?
What is this hatred of labels about and why is it OK to say labels don't matter yet when someone labels you as something you're not you wouldn't be happy at all?
It can't be both ways just because it doesn't suit your momentary narrative. |
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"I interpret it as someone who has a taste for being with men and sometimes is attracted to a man, maybe they’re only attracted to a certain type of man, but has a much stronger and less selective attraction towards women. I’m attracted to both men and women equally and I like everything about each but I can understand that some men might not think about being with a man for ages and then see one man that they’re attracted to one day and I’d consider someone like that to be Bi-curious.
I don’t think using the word ‘curious’ helps as it kind of demeans it and makes it sound like a bit of fun.
Maybe look up the definition of the word curious.
To be bi-curious is a normally accepted state to be in and to say that it demeans anything is pissing on someone's fire.
If you only like a very specific type of man or woman instead of all of them, that doesn't make you less of anything, it means your selection parameters are more defined but you're no less bi.
The same for someone fully straight where they only like certain types of the opposite gender, are they by your definition less straight somehow?
What is this hatred of labels about and why is it OK to say labels don't matter yet when someone labels you as something you're not you wouldn't be happy at all?
It can't be both ways just because it doesn't suit your momentary narrative."
I was just saying how I interpret it and to be honest you’ve completely misunderstood what I said so I’m sorry if I wasn’t very clear, I’ll try and explain better.
I wasn’t saying that being Bi-curious demeans anything, I meant that the word curious demeans the people who it’s referring to as it trivialises their feelings and sexuality. I don’t judge anyone and think everyone should be free to be exactly who and how they want to be without fear of prejudice or judgment.
I wasn’t saying someone is less gay if they only like a certain type of man, I meant that for instance if a man only likes men like me who like to dress in women’s clothes and like to suck dick and be fucked as they don’t want to suck dick or be fucked themselves then maybe they wouldn’t consider themselves Bi but they’re not fully straight either.
It’s like there are some people who describe themselves as dog lovers and they love every breed of dog whereas there are some breeds of dogs I love and some I don’t care for and some I hate so I would never call myself a dog lover.
I’m sorry if my post sounded like I was being critical of anyone in anyway because that wasn’t my intention at all. My relatives in the past have faced a lot of discrimination just because of who they are and I have ancestors who’ve been killed for no other reason than someone doesn’t like who they are so I never discriminate or judge anyone and I’m very much a live and let live person. |
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"I interpret it as someone who has a taste for being with men and sometimes is attracted to a man, maybe they’re only attracted to a certain type of man, but has a much stronger and less selective attraction towards women. I’m attracted to both men and women equally and I like everything about each but I can understand that some men might not think about being with a man for ages and then see one man that they’re attracted to one day and I’d consider someone like that to be Bi-curious.
I don’t think using the word ‘curious’ helps as it kind of demeans it and makes it sound like a bit of fun.
Maybe look up the definition of the word curious.
To be bi-curious is a normally accepted state to be in and to say that it demeans anything is pissing on someone's fire.
If you only like a very specific type of man or woman instead of all of them, that doesn't make you less of anything, it means your selection parameters are more defined but you're no less bi.
The same for someone fully straight where they only like certain types of the opposite gender, are they by your definition less straight somehow?
What is this hatred of labels about and why is it OK to say labels don't matter yet when someone labels you as something you're not you wouldn't be happy at all?
It can't be both ways just because it doesn't suit your momentary narrative.
I was just saying how I interpret it and to be honest you’ve completely misunderstood what I said so I’m sorry if I wasn’t very clear, I’ll try and explain better.
I wasn’t saying that being Bi-curious demeans anything, I meant that the word curious demeans the people who it’s referring to as it trivialises their feelings and sexuality. I don’t judge anyone and think everyone should be free to be exactly who and how they want to be without fear of prejudice or judgment.
I wasn’t saying someone is less gay if they only like a certain type of man, I meant that for instance if a man only likes men like me who like to dress in women’s clothes and like to suck dick and be fucked as they don’t want to suck dick or be fucked themselves then maybe they wouldn’t consider themselves Bi but they’re not fully straight either.
It’s like there are some people who describe themselves as dog lovers and they love every breed of dog whereas there are some breeds of dogs I love and some I don’t care for and some I hate so I would never call myself a dog lover.
I’m sorry if my post sounded like I was being critical of anyone in anyway because that wasn’t my intention at all. My relatives in the past have faced a lot of discrimination just because of who they are and I have ancestors who’ve been killed for no other reason than someone doesn’t like who they are so I never discriminate or judge anyone and I’m very much a live and let live person. "
Please understand this, I very much understood what you said and your clarification of it has helped in no way at all as you're completely missing the point of what being curious means.
To be curious is to be interested and intrigued by something which you have not yet done.
When you have done that thing you then have knowledge so your curiosity has been laid to rest, at which point you can make an informed decision about whether you liked it or not.
You are no longer bi curious at that point, you either decide you are bi or you are not.
The degree to which you carry on being bi in the future is entirely up to you but you are not bi-curious if you carry on, you are simply bi and make a decision on the things you like or don't like to engage in being bi.
Youre bi if you only suck another man's penis, you're bi if you have intercooler with another man whether you give or receive, curious is not the gauge point to determine your amount of bi.
You can choose to interpret something all you like but that is not how wording works, try telling a judge that you're not a murderer when you have killed someone by slitting their throat as they were still breathing after you had done it and all you like to do is slit the throat and not kill them.
You're still a murderer.
If you repeatedly have sex with people of 2 genders then you're bi, its that simple and come the time when people stand up proud and admit this then thats when the stigma around it will die off. Why live a bloody lie about what you are and deny others the choice of whether they engage in sex with people who they wouldn't if they were honest about it.
I know quite a few women who will only go for bi men so it's not serving those who claim they're straight when they're not.
Honesty and integrity count for more then the label for a hell of a lot of people. |
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"I interpret it as someone who has a taste for being with men and sometimes is attracted to a man, maybe they’re only attracted to a certain type of man, but has a much stronger and less selective attraction towards women. I’m attracted to both men and women equally and I like everything about each but I can understand that some men might not think about being with a man for ages and then see one man that they’re attracted to one day and I’d consider someone like that to be Bi-curious.
I don’t think using the word ‘curious’ helps as it kind of demeans it and makes it sound like a bit of fun.
Maybe look up the definition of the word curious.
To be bi-curious is a normally accepted state to be in and to say that it demeans anything is pissing on someone's fire.
If you only like a very specific type of man or woman instead of all of them, that doesn't make you less of anything, it means your selection parameters are more defined but you're no less bi.
The same for someone fully straight where they only like certain types of the opposite gender, are they by your definition less straight somehow?
What is this hatred of labels about and why is it OK to say labels don't matter yet when someone labels you as something you're not you wouldn't be happy at all?
It can't be both ways just because it doesn't suit your momentary narrative."
Yes I never understand it, there are worse things in the world than being bi, if I wasn't straight I'd wear my label with pride whether I was a man or woman. |
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Someone who wants to explore sexual intimacy with a person of the same gender.
I think you can be bi curious for a while as you choose the boundaries you are comfortable with, but bisexual is the end label if you so deem to wear one.
However I have heard a new one which made me smile that is Wine BI (perfectly straight until alcohol is involved)  |
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"Stuff Google.
Explain exactly what you think it is please in your own head when you see it on a profile of either a
male?
Or
Female?
This could be interesting.
Thanx T.
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They like the idea of bisexuality, but haven’t done anything practical yet. |
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I was bi curious as I'd never been with a guy and was curious to know what it would be like . Mainly because I was into anal play myself I wanted to feel what a real cock felt like so curious. Now I've met a few guys I now class myself as bisexual because I enjoy men's company . Simple |
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"Is interested in maybe meeting a member of the same sex but either hasn’t tried it or only tried it a few times. Or likes some aspects of it, like oral only, but not all things bi.
That’s my interpretation anyway. I’ve not long changed mine from curious. "
This is it for me. |
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"I avoid profiles that say this as it feels like they are looking to explore and I don't want to be someone's experiment."
Interestingly The Boy is the same, but Kitty doesn’t mind being an experiment! |
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"I interpret it as someone who has a taste for being with men and sometimes is attracted to a man, maybe they’re only attracted to a certain type of man, but has a much stronger and less selective attraction towards women. I’m attracted to both men and women equally and I like everything about each but I can understand that some men might not think about being with a man for ages and then see one man that they’re attracted to one day and I’d consider someone like that to be Bi-curious.
I don’t think using the word ‘curious’ helps as it kind of demeans it and makes it sound like a bit of fun. "
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"Is interested in maybe meeting a member of the same sex but either hasn’t tried it or only tried it a few times. Or likes some aspects of it, like oral only, but not all things bi.
That’s my interpretation anyway. I’ve not long changed mine from curious. "
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"I have found that Bi curious men just want me to suck their dick and aren’t interested in fucking me where as gay men will mostly want to fuck me as well.
Slightly off topic but it’s amazing how many messages I get off men who say on their profile they’re straight. I understand why they want to be discreet but it just shows how many men out there are into men but keep it secret. "
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Reason is.
Lots of sexy ladies block bi males. |
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"Its in the wording....curious.
Youre curious to try something so once youve tried it you've satisfied that curiosity.
Its then up to you, did you like it and want to do it again? If so then you're bi.
If you didn't like it and don't want to do it again then you're not.
Only doing some things with a person of the same gender is still bi, its not curious otherwise opposite genders would have to say they're hetero-curious as say she didn't like sucking his dick or he didn't like fucking her and only like licking her.
Its like people are ashamed of something quite natural...its a label, get over it as its just a descriptor for what you are.
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Done the straight thing, now wanna try the gay thing to see if it's the right thing for them. If not they'll go back to the straight thing until which time they feel like trying the gay thing again.
It's just a thing. |
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"I interpret it as someone who has a taste for being with men and sometimes is attracted to a man, maybe they’re only attracted to a certain type of man, but has a much stronger and less selective attraction towards women. I’m attracted to both men and women equally and I like everything about each but I can understand that some men might not think about being with a man for ages and then see one man that they’re attracted to one day and I’d consider someone like that to be Bi-curious.
I don’t think using the word ‘curious’ helps as it kind of demeans it and makes it sound like a bit of fun. "
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Interesting points |
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"Someone who wants to explore sexual intimacy with a person of the same gender.
I think you can be bi curious for a while as you choose the boundaries you are comfortable with, but bisexual is the end label if you so deem to wear one.
However I have heard a new one which made me smile that is Wine BI (perfectly straight until alcohol is involved) "
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Wine or beer? BI love it.
But im happy to experience alcohol free and enjoy |
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"Stuff Google.
Explain exactly what you think it is please in your own head when you see it on a profile of either a
male?
Or
Female?
This could be interesting.
Thanx T.
They like the idea of bisexuality, but haven’t done anything practical yet. "
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I think they tried it like it but unsure and wish to be WOWED by it |
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"I was bi curious as I'd never been with a guy and was curious to know what it would be like . Mainly because I was into anal play myself I wanted to feel what a real cock felt like so curious. Now I've met a few guys I now class myself as bisexual because I enjoy men's company . Simple "
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Great explanation re yourself
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"Done the straight thing, now wanna try the gay thing to see if it's the right thing for them. If not they'll go back to the straight thing until which time they feel like trying the gay thing again.
It's just a thing."
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r me, bisexual is everything from 'I'm going to give his cock a bit of a rub/lick before I help it into my partner's cunt' to 'I might fancy licking a cunt while my boyfriend buggers me'
It you fantasise or act on multi-gender play, that's bi.
That said, there's a sliding scale from hetexible under the right circumstances to 'I don't care what your genitals look like, you're sexy AF.'
Bi-curious? For me that's at the occasionally, with the right person end of the scale.
Here's the important bit though. You define it for yourself.
You want to call yourself straight, but you occasionally like a cock in your mouth? That's cool.
Lesbian, but fantasise about DP with your gf and some donkey-dicked beef? Crack on.
For all that were more tolerant of not-straightness these days, people have a self-image that not-straightness might not fit.
I'm not about to demand that the achieve enlightenment before they start sucking my cock... |
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"I have found that Bi curious men just want me to suck their dick and aren’t interested in fucking me where as gay men will mostly want to fuck me as well.
Slightly off topic but it’s amazing how many messages I get off men who say on their profile they’re straight. I understand why they want to be discreet but it just shows how many men out there are into men but keep it secret. "
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