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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When do you add someone?
Does it matter to you if they have private photos to share, or if you know they just want to see yours?
Do they have to be someone you plan to meet, or actually consider a friend? Or will you add pretty much anyone? Do you cull the list periodically? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only add people after a few conversations of decent length to see if we have things in common. It could be people from the forum based on the banter we have exchanged. All my pics have been public at one stage or another so that doesn't fuss me. I rarely request people to be friends and if i do i send a quick message to ask if its ok to do so.
If i like a person and take an interest in their posts then i might just hotlist them first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a few categories!
1. People I've met! They've seen me in the flesh - so letting them view private pics is no issue!
2. People I'm looking to meet! But only after things have progressed following a few messages and chats. And if things tail off and a social/play meet looks unlikely - they may well get the chop!
3. Forumites. Those I enjoy flanter with. They may also fall into the previous categories or they may sadly be just too far away to make a physical meet likely!!
4. No one else really!!
I get endless random requests with no prior message. Those won't get added. I also very rarely send invites - I prefer to be invited or asked. I've no interest in just perving others private pics. If they want to share - they can easily send in a message!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually accept after I've chatted a bit either on the forums or pm's but doesn't necessarily mean I want to meet them"
thank god you said that cos i dont want to meet you either lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I usually accept after I've chatted a bit either on the forums or pm's but doesn't necessarily mean I want to meet them
thank god you said that cos i dont want to meet you either lol "
See that's why we are friends we can be truthful with each other |
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"To clarify, I mean people who have messaged you, and who you haven't immediately said 'no thanks' to.
How soon would you add them?"
Once I've met them, and only if interested in meeting them again. |
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We have face pics in private gallery and accept an invite on the basis that they have too. It kinda makes it a level playing field .
If there is a likelyhood that you may play with them you would at least want to know what they look like, and even if its never going to happen simply because of geography say, its still nice to know who you are talking too !! |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"When do you add someone?
Does it matter to you if they have private photos to share, or if you know they just want to see yours?
Do they have to be someone you plan to meet, or actually consider a friend? Or will you add pretty much anyone? Do you cull the list periodically?"
Only generally add those that we have already met in person and who we would be happy to meet again.
The only exceptions are a couple of people from the forums where I enjoy their posts and hope to meet in person one day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I usually accept after I've chatted a bit either on the forums or pm's but doesn't necessarily mean I want to meet them
thank god you said that cos i dont want to meet you either lol
See that's why we are friends we can be truthful with each other "
thought after a recent realization i now feel its inappropriate to make jibes because of your nationality... my daughter is 5/8ths welsh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I usually accept after I've chatted a bit either on the forums or pm's but doesn't necessarily mean I want to meet them
thank god you said that cos i dont want to meet you either lol
See that's why we are friends we can be truthful with each other :-
thought after a recent realization i now feel its inappropriate to make jibes because of your nationality... my daughter is 5/8ths welsh "
You kept that quiet!! she will go far .. A girl by chance welsh by the grace of god!! |
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I dont use the friends thing really prefering the Hotlist to find people.
Men seem to be both needy and LAZY wanting you on the friends list so they dont NEED to search for you.. they also want to perve friends pics.
Quite a few people I have chatted too seem to expect it as a right ! I add for a week and if I get no messages I remove.. I have earnt myself abusive texts and blocking just for removing one guy.. makes me even more stubborn about adding anyone now.
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